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gossip
today i realized all the jealousy and cattiness involved with the girls i hang out with. we all gossip constantly about one another. we ditch each other for other people. we have cliques within cliques. it's ridiculous. i don't want to be a part of it anymore. i still want to hang out with my friends, and i'm not going to deny that i love hearing the gossip. but i need to stop talking shit. it's really hard for me; i've tried before. i really need help stopping, because it's so high school and so ridiculous that it just makes me feel like a shitty person. how do i STOP TALKING SHIT about my friends?
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That sounds like me and my friends. But its going to happen. If you talk shit about people they will eventually find out and get mad at you. You should just keep trying to stop. If your friends do it, tell them to stop and that you dont want them to talk about other people in front of you. I hope i helped. :].
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Thats how girls are in high school. It will NEVER go away no matter how hard you try. Just keep remembering that you don't want to be apart of it. It might not stop you from doing it completely but it'll help some. Its kind of a stage. Once you leave high school, the little things won't even matter anymore. Like who went out with who, who cheated on who, who's hooking up with who. I just graduated last year and all that stuff isn't really important to me in the real world. Every once in awhile I'll go home and [ its sad, but ] the majority of the people I was friends with/graduated with are still stuck in my small town... so when I go home I go back into my old mode and we'll end up talking and gossiping but... for the most part its just a high school thing. You'll grow out of it. I'd be more worried if you were still like that once you were out of high school.
But for now just watch what you say more often and try not to do it.
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well let me just tell you this sounds exactly like me and my friends. i dont like gossip and talking shit about people either, i really dont blame you. if i were you i would either talk to them and tell them how its not right to be talking about people, or you really need to look for friends who arent so clique-y and gossipy. theyre not worth it. if you dont feel comfortable within your group of friends i think you should deff find some new ones.
hope i helped :)
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That's how girls are,try now having only a select few of girls that you can really trust. It's better to have a few good friends than ALOT of fake ones. Hang out with guys, if that helps any, guys are not really about gossip, they're fun to be around and you don't have to put up with much of that gossip shit. Gossip, is basically a part of what being a girl is all about, but it's also wrong, and immature. I do it , but I make sure I say it to their face. This is the best I can tell you, hope this helps.
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thats a hard one but maybe you should start trying to make new friends that dont gossip as much because you never know if your friends in this "clique" talk about you non stop and its not fun having friends like that. i mean you can still be friends w/ them and all but maybe you should lay off a lil ya know like take a break from them and meet up with a fun group of girls that are more like you!! hope our advice helps! C&L =)
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omg SAME exact thing has happened with me.
i got soo sick of it i just stopped going on AIM / going out of my way to talk to them. i made friends with people from other schools that i met at family parties, etc. and they are now my best friends.
when they say hi to you in the hallway, say hi, but if they start talking shit about someone else, just bring something else up or say you gotta run to class so youre not late. do your best to ignore the talking as much as possible.
for the next few weeks, they might keep emailing you or texting you wondering why you are never on aim or why you stopped talking to them... just say you've been busy but don't tell them that they keep talking shit and backstabbing. that will only put you in the center of the web.
if you don't talk to them as much, you won't talk ABOUT them as much. start a diary. let all your thoughts out there. or tell them to people who don't go to your school.. that's what i do :]
i hope i helped, and just let time figure things out. but sometimes it doesn't. that's why you have to.
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