Gender: Female
Location: United Kingdom
Occupation: Student
Age: 21
Member Since: February 22, 2004
Answers: 152
Last Update: November 20, 2004
Visitors: 7792
|
| |
|
my boyfriend is not exactly cheatin on me but he likes 2 girls.He always tells HER that he likes HER more than me.And he always tells me that he likes me more.Iknow that is messed up.But,i don't want to be mad at him becuz the last time I was mad at him he was pissed off the whole day and he (Kinda)cried.Even if I do get mad at him I know that there is a chance that he might dump me and go with HER.And I don't want that to happen.What do i do?? (link)
| |
What in the world are you DOING with a guy who is messing you around like this?? You deserve better than being messed around, and being guilted into being with him isn't right either. If I were you, I'd ask him what he really wants. Sit him down and talk to him, ask him what's going on in his head. Remember, you don't deserve to be messed around.
|
|
I've always been curious about this. If anyone had ever talked to a ghost, or almost died, and came back to tell about it, I'd like to hear your story. I never have done either, and I wonder what it is like, and if this is for real. (link)
| |
I work in a supposedly haunted hotel, and it is very creepy. It was built in 1896, and I've heard many of the horror stories about people dying and haunting the corridors. I do feel presence around me sometimes - and I've experienced my throat going totally dry and having a really tough time breathing, which only occurs down one corridor. I can look up into a mirror and THINK i see someone or something pass by it, and then turn and nothing's there. I've worked there for almost 3 years now though, so I'm pretty much used to it. Whatver it is; my mind playing tricks, or that there's actually something there, i couldn't tell you. I've never talked to a ghost though, so i wouldn't know what that was like.
|
|
I'm hungry. What should I eat? (link)
| |
Something filling like rice or pasta.
|
|
Im on this site as in advice giver but obviously i cant take my own advice, im just not good at it.. i just need to know how to deal with my sexual life. Im a bisexual, and it is out to most people (i only tell people i trust) i feel that i cant tell anyone else because some people already hate me and think that just because im a girl i have to like guys, but thats not what i choose, i like both sexes. And i dont want anyone else to hate me forever because of what i choose to do with my life. Most of my real friends except that im bi and dont mind bein around me, but others who dont except it, make sure other dont either, or they make dirty looks, or say and do terrible things to me. I try to say that im not bi anymore so that i dont have to be humilliated by my peers. I just dont know what to do anymore, but i dont want people to hate me for my sexual life, it doesnt seem right, is there anyone who can help me? (link)
|
Firstly, NEVER be ashamed of who you are. Being bisexual is NOTHING to be ashamed of, and the people who tell you otherwise only do so because they don't understand it- that's how it goes with kids, if you don't get it you have to attack it. You said that most of your real friends accept that you're bi - then who the hell else matters? If you're happy liking both sexes, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
As for being bullied, that's not acceptable in any shape or form. Tell someone you trust (a teacher, a parent), and get that sorted out. If you don't want to go to a teacher, just hold your head up high and ignore them. *Hug* I hope everything works out for you, and these ignoramuses stop annoying you :)
|
|
There is this guy who REALLY likes me and he is REALLY cute but he acts tooo preverted. Whenever I get around him and then leave he acts all depressed. How can I tell him nicely that I dont want to go out with him? ( without hurting his feelings) (link)
| |
Just tell him that you value his friendship but you don't have any other feelings for him. That way he'll know that you still care about him without being harsh :)
|
|
how do i get a girl to like me (link)
| |
Be yourself. You can't "get" a girl to like you. If someone likes you it'll be for who you are not what you are, what grades you get, what clothes you wear etc.
|
|
I'm 24 and have been married for 6 years.My husband is 32.My husband has sex with me when I'm asleep.When he sees that I'm waking up he stops.When I ask him about it he tries to denie it.I've told him that it upsets me but he keeps doing it.I don't know what to do.He also watches porn alot and masterbates.He tries to hide that from me.I've tried to join him but he won't let me.Then when I say something he just denies it.I feel very hurt by this and I don't know what to do.Please help. (link)
|
Hey,
Your husband having sex with you when you are asleep is quite disturbing and, in my opinion, wrong. You need to talk to him about this, and if he keeps denying it, tell him that you KNOW what you saw, you KNOW what he was doing and that you're not stupid enough to take his denial. You've told him that it upsets you and he still does it, which is inconsiderate, selfish and down right cruel. If he doesn't stop something that you ask him to, you have every right to take a break from him. Go to your family's house (mum and dad, siblings you could stay with, relatives you could stay with, a friend etc) for a few weeks and let him decide if you're worth stopping this weird thing for.
Six years is a long time, so you must value your marriage, but (i'm sorry to be so blunt, but this is my opinion) it doesn't sound like this guy loves you. I can understand how you'd think he was seeing someone else, and you don't DESERVE to be treated like that. If he won't talk to you, or stop having sex with you when you're asleep, like i said, maybe you need to take a break from each other.
It could, of course, be something more deep rooted than that. Maybe he has some psychological problem from his past, a past girlfriend who treated him badly when it came to sex and so he won't let you in. You really need to talk to him about it, you don't deserve any of the hurt that you're feeling. I hope you feel better honey, and remember, don't take any crap from this guy, whether he's your husband or not x
|
|
I think my big toe is interesting. I know that's weird, but I can't help staring at it. What should I do?! (link)
| |
Well, staring at your toe isn't hurting anyone -- maybe you should just keep on staring.
|
please will any girl that is 13 or less call me
p.s you must be hott (link)
| |
Don't be a moron.
|
my boyfriend has erectile disfunction. i know this as we have only had sex once in four yrs .
he wont go to a dr, i have tried everything to stay faithful to him including masturbation . it is not working that great. my question is how patient am i to be i do love him we have been together for 4 yrs so this is no passing teenage thing. we are well past our teen yrs anyhow he says he is trying. we have talked about it. but he can prove it by me.that he is trying. well please someone tell me what to do short of leaving him i have done everything i can think of,i do not know what else to do
sincerly, going insane. i know everybody thinks this is not a big deal but i have a very high sex drive. (link)
| |
Well, if you really DO love him, you should wait for him. Sex isn't a big deal in a relationship - it should be about you and him and how you feel about each other, not how much you have sex. He has to go and see a doctor if he wants this problem fixed. They're the best people who will know what to do. If you sincerely love this guy, help him. Don't leave him just because you only had sex once in four years. And if you ARE going to leave him, DO NOT cheat on him. Break it off first.
|
|
Hi my friend katie is a little over weight... but the thing is i dont think she realizes it and its not a big deal that she has a few extra pounds but its the clothes she wears. She wears really tiny mini skirts and tight shirts that do not flatter her at all. Everyone makes fun of her behind her back for it and she doesn't realize it how can i confront her about this without hurting her feelings, she is a really sensitive girl and she cares about what she looks like more than anything.. very superficial so i don't want to hurt her feelings, I think that it would hurt her ore if she heard what people said about her.. please help (link)
|
Suggest going on a shopping spree with her. Tell her what she looks good in and what she doesn't look good in; even if you don't buy anything, she might adapt to what you say from her own wardrobe.
If that isn't a convenient option, be honest with her. Don't be mean or harsh, just open and honest. I'm sure she'd rather hear it from you than hear it from some nasty kid who only tells her to torment her.
You sound like an awesome friend-Just be honest.
|
|
Anyone care to explain why so many dumb***es insist on having sex before they turn 18!!!!!!!!! It's bad enough they don't wait until after marriage, that I can live with easily, but COME ON PEOPLE, it's illegal. SOMEONE TELL ME WHY!! (link)
|
I think you just answered your own question.
But I'll elaborate.
Teenagers can have sex for many reasons. I feel the biggest one, however, is the media and peer pressure to be "cool". Having sex is recognised as being grown-up and popular and cool among teenagers, and the messages in the media of Britney Spears and other such people wearing hardly nothing and telling kids it's sexy and cool doesn't help.
They can also believe they are in "love", whether they are or not is another matter. Hormones rage a LONG time before you get to eighteen, so lust is a big part of it too.
Of course, they could just be dumb***es.
|
|
if u r younger and hav a friend who is only few yrs old, not too much of difference but can it bond more than a friendship and become somthing more? (link)
|
That depends on how old you are and if you're mature enough for something to develop. For example, if you're twelve or thirteen and the friend is seventeen or eighteen, the friend will want entirely different things to what you want because you're not as ready for it.
People who are a few years apart DO form relationships though; My aunt is 50 and her boyfriend is 42. My parents are 5 years apart. So it DOES work, so long as you're ready for it.
|
Yeah, so I don't usually ask questions, but I'm curious as to what you all think I should do.
I've been thinking about, er...going all the way with my boyfriend. I'm sixteen. He's seventeen, turning eighteen in late May. I know I'm young, but...eh. He hasn't been pressuring me at all, so that's not an issue. He loves me, I love him, we're planning, if all goes well, to live together when we graduate. I trust him and everything, but I'm concerned about the risks involved. I could get pregnant...I'm not worried about STDs because no one in either of our families has ever had one. Oh, and we're both virgins, in case you couldn't tell...Lol. I'm also just thinking...my mom has always told me "if you ever want to become sexually active, you should come to me so we can get you birth control. I wouldn't be happy with you, but I'd get you protection. If you ever got pregnant, I'd make you have an abortion." I can't imagine actually talking to her about it. It would be so horridly awkward, and she'd be so unhappy with me...My mom and I are fairly close. I'm also not sure if I'm ready. I mean, we've come close a few times, and I sorta panicked. I've just been thinking about it more lately and it's starting not to freak me out so much. What should I do? (link)
| |
It sounds to me like you're a very mature sixteen year old who is 'Ready' for sex. You're considering the risks and thinking logically about it. If you love each other, having sex is one of the most intimate ways of expressing that love, and you seem to realise that. If you don't want to tell your mother, though, ask your boyfriend if he'll go to the GP with you, or go alone if you feel comfortable. You can get the birth control pill on prescription (or at family planning clinics), and condoms are a good idea too. Good luck :)
|
|
My bf loves me so much and he says he wont make me have sex with him, but he says it all the time. Is it just me or should I feel like I'm a bad girlfriend for not haveing sex with him... I mean Hes saying I dont have to but in his mind i know hes saying 'i want sex, i mean we've been together for 3 month,.. havent you kept me waiting'. I guess my question is, what should i do,.. should i do what my heart says and not have sex with him because i'll be breaking my religous promise, or have sex with him so I can keep him? I know I'm making it sound like hes a bad guy bad hes not hes a sweet heart.... (link)
| |
If this guy is the sweetheart you say he is, then he'll wait for you. He'll respect the fact that you aren't ready yet. You should NEVER have sex with someone just to "keep them" - A relationship isn't about the sex. He probably says it all the time because he's trying to reassure you. Three months still isn't a long time, and I think you're smart to wait.
|
|
I Was cast as puck in act five for the school play. I really hate that part. I really want to be in the school play but I really don't want to be puck, especially in act five. I don't understand why they cast me as puck since I'm a girl and auditioned for Titania and the lovers. What should I do? (link)
|
Hey,
I understand your predicament, because I was in it once too. I auditioned for Romeo and Juliet and was cast as the Prince of Verona (I'm female, and was fifteen at the time, and HATED the thought of it), but I spoke to my teacher and we talked about how we could develop it to suit me more. When the show was finished, about five people who I didn't know told me how awesome my acting was and how I really stole the show. I guess what I'm trying to say is, ENJOY it. Acting is an amazing creative experience, particularly on stage in front of an audience (rather than in front of a camera).
|
|
My friend and I have been "friends" for about 4 years now but ever since the beginning, I've wanted to become more than just friends. Last summer I told him that I did like him in that way and I wished that we could become more than just friends and see what happens but he said that he didn't know me well enough. I've been trying to go everywhere I can with him and see him as often as possible because I DO want to get to know him better... last weekend (for the first time) he started hitting on me which kinda made me happy... ^^;; but after the weekend was over, he called me and said to forget the whole thing because he was just fooling around. I was totally crushed because he KNEW that i liked him... I don't know what to do any more. Should I move on? Four years is a pretty long time and we're both going to college in 2 years... is it too late to try and start a relationship? (link)
| |
Honey, it doesn't sound like this guy likes you in "that" sense, or he's not ready for any sort of relationship. If I were you I'd move on; it'll be hard at first because 4 years is a long time, but you deserve someone who's gonna give you as much love as you have to give them. Good luck x
|
|
i have a crush on a girl and i dont know if she likes me i need help :/ (link)
| |
Well, the most honest answer you're gonna get is if you sit down and talk to her about how you feel. Otherwise, I'm gonna need a little more information. Does she flirt with you? Does she look over at you when she thinks you aren't looking her way? Does she like spending time with you? These are usually good indicators that someone likes you, but like i said, the best way is to sit her down and talk to her.
|
|
I have ran away and im typing this on a computer in a cafe in Oregon. (im from california) Im pretty fucked up right now, im 13, and ive been gone for 2 weeks. What the hell should i do? I was mad at the time i ran away and if i go back im fucked. I'm trying to reach canada... what should i do... should i go back or keep moving? (link)
| |
You're thirteen, go home. What are you gonna do whan you get to Canada? Where are you gonna live? how are you gonna survive? you may be in trouble when you get home, but it can't be worse than what you're dealing with now.
|
i want a lion 4 a pet
how do i get it without joinin the circus (link)
| |
Sponser one at the zoo.
|
|