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please help me
my boyfriend has erectile disfunction. i know this as we have only had sex once in four yrs .
he wont go to a dr, i have tried everything to stay faithful to him including masturbation . it is not working that great. my question is how patient am i to be i do love him we have been together for 4 yrs so this is no passing teenage thing. we are well past our teen yrs anyhow he says he is trying. we have talked about it. but he can prove it by me.that he is trying. well please someone tell me what to do short of leaving him i have done everything i can think of,i do not know what else to do
sincerly, going insane. i know everybody thinks this is not a big deal but i have a very high sex drive.
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it must be really hard to not be able to have sex
i have a few tips
1)Try renting porno videos and masturbating while watching them
2)When i masturbate, i try making sex noises like "Oh yes!! Baby" ...catch my drift, and it makes me feel like im really having sex
3) if you like porno, try www.welivetogether.com
(if you like lesbian stuff)
the reason i gave you masturbation advice is because i know you can't cheat on your boyfriend and there isnt really another option
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Dude,
That's totally a big deal. Four years? Sex once? For one thing- masturbate more! Get good at it and buy the toys. Here's why: 1) you don't want to leave him or cheat but have a sex drive (intercourse with better regularity than long Februaries doesn't imply an unusually high drive)2) Instead of telling the guy who clearly has issues to Try, give him some inspiration to Want.
But, really, PHM ... Likely as not, you're screwed out of being screwed. No one but your fella can tell you what's going on but I'll give you a 99% that it's Him, not You. Four years is a while, utilize the friendship you've built to get him to open up. Both of your lives will improve.
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i really want to know what he does in replacement for sex, he probably feels embarresd to go to the doctors, as its his manhood, a very precious part of him.he probably is just scared of people examining and proding his bits, wouldn't you be? try talking to him about how you feel about all this, and for the love between you, he may gain the confidence to go to the doc and find a solution.
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I have to say, I don't really see what good his "trying" is going to do if he doesn't see a doctor. If he thinks he can fix this problem by his own strength of will, he's wrong.
Why doesn't he want to see a doctor? Is it because he's embarrassed? If so, then there are things you can do to help him get over that. Do some research on erectile dysfunction on medical websites (there are a lot of them devoted to it). Better yet, encourage *him* to do it. Then you'll both have a much better idea of what's going on, physically. This is a mechanical problem more than anything else, and he has to learn to see it that way. It could, perhaps, also be a sign of other medical issues, and it would be too bad if he ignored it.
If the problem is something else -- like, he doesn't have health insurance -- then I'm not sure what to tell you. I can only say that there's a lot he can do to satisfy your sex drive even without actual intercourse. :)
If, ultimately, you don't think he is really motivated to solve the problem, then maybe you should leave him -- not even necessarily because sex is so essential, but because you might prefer to be with someone who listens to you and takes your concerns about *your* needs and *his* health seriously.
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Well, if you really DO love him, you should wait for him. Sex isn't a big deal in a relationship - it should be about you and him and how you feel about each other, not how much you have sex. He has to go and see a doctor if he wants this problem fixed. They're the best people who will know what to do. If you sincerely love this guy, help him. Don't leave him just because you only had sex once in four years. And if you ARE going to leave him, DO NOT cheat on him. Break it off first.
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