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sex or just bf/gf relationship?
My bf loves me so much and he says he wont make me have sex with him, but he says it all the time. Is it just me or should I feel like I'm a bad girlfriend for not haveing sex with him... I mean Hes saying I dont have to but in his mind i know hes saying 'i want sex, i mean we've been together for 3 month,.. havent you kept me waiting'. I guess my question is, what should i do,.. should i do what my heart says and not have sex with him because i'll be breaking my religous promise, or have sex with him so I can keep him? I know I'm making it sound like hes a bad guy bad hes not hes a sweet heart....
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tell him look you talking about sex all the time bugs me, YOU ARE NOT GETTEN NE! If hre leaves you don't feel bad, he was a a$$ hole. Dont give up youer self just because he seems like a sweet heart, cuz hun hes seems like he thinking with the little head, not the big one. and trust me you don't need A BF with a little head.
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Ok first of all, if your boyfriend truly loves you then this whole sex thing will not be a problem at all. So, if he breaks up with you just because you won't have sex with him, there are bigger issues that need to be dealt with and from the sounds of it, he seems like he doesn't really care. Sure, guys like sex, but the good guys will wait until they have meet someone who they truly want to share this with. Second of all, sex, especially for the first time is quite a big deal. If you are not comfortable with each other and don't truly want to have sex, it's going to be absolutely horrible and could cause more problems then actually solving them. So do what you feel is best for you and if your boyfriend is truly special he will be there for you no matter what.
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NO! NO! NO! A true boyrfriend would never keep bringing up the sex thing. Never in your life should you do anything that your pressured into doing the best advice that I can give you and hope you will use in life is: IF HE LOVES YOU HE WILL WAIT UNTIL YOUR READY.
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if he respects you enough, he wouldn't have sex with you. or force you into doing it. but a lot of men do that these days...women should learn to say "no." like when bitches grrr at the males (talking about dogs).
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Wait. If you don't want to do it, don't. If he breaks up with you because of it then he's an asshole and you're better off without him.
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If this guy is the sweetheart you say he is, then he'll wait for you. He'll respect the fact that you aren't ready yet. You should NEVER have sex with someone just to "keep them" - A relationship isn't about the sex. He probably says it all the time because he's trying to reassure you. Three months still isn't a long time, and I think you're smart to wait.
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If he really loves you, he won't push you into doing anything you don't want to do. You are not a bad girlfriend, and don't let him make you feel that way.
As for the what he's saying in his mind thing, all guys think that way. Plus, three months really isn't too long a time. Give it awhile.
Do what your heart/intuition says. They are usually right. Women have naturally strong intuition. Plus, intuition comes from the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is altogether more powerful and always knows things before the conscious mind does.
Never do anything just to keep a guy. I'm glad you found a sweetheart, but you need to follow your instincts on this one. Again, if he really loves you, he'll wait. Good luck. =)
-Siren
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Don't let your bf persuade you into doing ANYTHING that you don't want to do. If he wants sex then he can wait. It's one of those things that you just do when you're ready. If you're not ready then don't worry about it. Three months isn't very long anyways so it will probably be smart to not rush into anything because you may regret it. Don't tell him deliberately that you "do not want sex" because he has never actually said that he wants it. However, you may want to consider hinting it the next time he brings up the subject.
-Joce
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Following youre heart is MUCH more important that doing something just to please your man. If he can't respect your religious beliefs and what you want then he isn't worth it. Anyways, once you do feel like it is OK to have sex with him won't you be so much more happy thta you know that you waited?
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