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I have always attracted the wrong guy. I can never seem to get the guy that I want, and anyone who DOES want to go out with me just isn't what I want. At all. My friends have told me that I'm skinny and I always get compliments on my hair or skin or smile. If anyone suggests a guy for me, they either don't like me like that or they just aren't my type. I just can't figure out why I can't find a boyfriend. I know bunch of people who just aren't that nice/good-looking/etc. and have a boyfriend all the time. What's wrong with me?

Not to be rude but your 14, and you have a type ? Im almost 16 and I don't even have a "type". You should give those guys like that you, but don't seem your "type" a chance. They could end up being the best boyfriends ever. When young (yeah I'm young too) you should take chances. Don't worry if the guy doesn't like the same music as you or isn't the hottest guy around, thats not whats important in a relationship. You don't have to be pretty to have a boyfriend, you just have to find someone that likes you for you, and those guys that do like you, proablly like you for just that. So don't be picky and say " he's not my type ". Take a chance give him a try, not saying be his girlfind, but maybe go to the movies with him and some friends talk to him get to know him a little more, and you might find you are attracted to him. So don't worry about find a soul make right now, just look around go out with guys your "type" and not your "type" there's to many good guys out there waiting that just arnt the right "type". Hope that helped and made any sense.

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how do you put real hearts on aim not the

Take this symbol © (the copy right symbol) & then follow these directions. (I'll break it down & make it super easy).


1] High light the copy right symbol
2] right click
3] go to TEXT & click on it
4] click on FONT...
5] Seacrch for the font named SYMBOL


There you are, a heart =]

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do all my friends get boyfriends and i never do. is there something wrong with me? i mean guys tell me im hott & cute but i can never get one to be my boyfriend.

f/15

No, theres nothing wrong with you. Everyone gets boyfriends at different times, nothing to worrry about. You'll start getting boyfreinds soon enough. So don't think there's something wrong, you're fine, and all guys are looking for at 15 is arm candy, so consider yourself lucky. So again, don't sweat, you'll get a boyfriend soon enough, just have fun and be yourself.. someone will fall for you ;]

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I wear a bra size 30A and I wear it on the very first hook and it makes marks right under my breasts, does this mean that I need a bigger size bra? Or is that normal..? If I don't need a bigger size, when do I know I need a bigger size? Please and thanks for answering these questions.

It sounds like your bra is to small. Try a 32A instead of a 30A. Also, you know you are ready for a new size when : it starts to leave red marks & the bra is unable to be ajusted. If you hang out of the bottom of the bra or the sides and/or top to much. If it becomes uncomfortable. Even if you're not really sure if you need a bigger one, you could always try on say a 32B and if it fits better then the 32A then that should be a big hint that you're ready for a bigger one. Good luck =]

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what's the difference between hives, poison oak, and poison ivy?? how do you get hives and what do they look like? what does poison oak & ivy look like?

Hives are a reaction to an allergie. Many things can cause hives, such as : Foods, Medication, different fabric, or even bug bites. Heres a picture of hives [ http://images.healthcentersonline.com/skin/images/article/Urticaria.jpg ].


Poison oak and poison ivy are caused by plants. Some people have different reactions to them. Some people can touch a poison ivy leaf and be okay while another has a reaction instantly. Its basicly jsut a reaction you get from touching the plant. Pictures of poison ivy & poison oak. POISON IVY [ http://www.poison-sumac.org/rash.jpg ] & POISON OAK [ http://justinsomnia.org/images/poison-oak-leg-rash.jpg ]


Yeah.. ew.. lol.

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im scared. how do people spend their summers?

Nothing to be scared about. Usually people spend summer : haning with friends, going to the mall or the movies. Staying up extra late, waking up at noon. Sneeking out, going swimming, having bbq's. Also they ride bikes, travel places, get jobs, play sports, pick up on new hobbies. Hm, have parties, walking around. Things like that. Summer shouldn't be scary. Just chill out and do what you want its summer, time away from school and teachers and homework.. summers ment to be enjoyed not worried about =]

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Me and my boyfriend are looking for " our song ". We can't think of any.. what's you and your boyfriends ?

Our song is " I caught fire (In your eyes) " by the used.

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so my very best friend has been dating my cousin for nearly 6 months, but my cousin flirts with other girls like crazy and my best friend treats him like shit all the time and they are just a bad couple, my whole family and all our friends hate them as a couple, so finally my cousin meets this new girl named taylor and we were all happy for him , so he broke up with my best friend on her birthday and asked taylor out that same day , but now my best friend wants him back and he's thinking about it, but he told another one of his girl 'friends' that hes afraid to go back out with my best friend because everyone would hate him and i dont know what to do because when they are together they both come to me with there problems and i know they both deserve some one else, not necesarilly better hah, but i dont know. so my cousin tried to get me to lie and say that i cheated on my bf and she should do it to just to see if she would, but now i feel bad cuz i dont like lieing to people or being sneaky like that... soo , im kinda stuck in the middle of all this as much as i hate that, and... i dont know though, what should i do ? i wish i could just bury my head in the sand and tell them to figure it out themselves but it sucks because they are both so close to me that it is impossible to avoid them =[ any advice ?

oh ps, yu nd ryan are adorable im glad yu guys are still together despite all the rumors! yu goo girl x33 - ahem, if yur wonderin who this is, lets just say that english freshman year- my yoohoos taste good again ;] if that doesnt tell yu then girl yu are one some drUGss !! lol

With your cousin and your bff together it seems like it's pulling you apart. The best thing to do is, talk to each of them.. when they ask for advice, tell them they need to see other people, that you don't feel they "work" together. You may think your situation is bad, but infact its not.. you get to see how the person treats the other and how it affects them. You know they don't work out, you love both of them alot and you care about them alot, so you should try everything you can to not get them hurt. (Confusing.. haha) But, like.. talk to them, explain to them again and again that they dont work out. Tell your cousion to go with the new girl, and tell your bff.. that she needs to move on, and find someone else, it's not like she can't. If you need more help.. send another to the inbox, ill be happy to help =]


Haha, yeah I know who this is. I miss ya girl, that yoohoo stuff was funny =] & thanks =] Someone else just told me a BIG lie to end us, but we're still together, almost another month comming up =] love ya

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can you pop your cherry from masterbating ??

Short sweet & to the point.. Yup!

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How do you get a person that hurt you really bad off your mind. Because I just can't handle being used.

It hard to keep people off your mind. Just do stuff thats to keep yourself busy. Call a friend, read a book watch a good movie, go shopping, listen to music or even draw pictures. It's hard not to think about someone that hurts you, and sometimes its better not too. Talking about it helps also. Talk to a friend about how you feel or write down everything your feeling. You won't think about it so much because you expressed it, and sometimes voiceing your feelings help make them easier to handle. If you need someone to talk to about it, you can put on in the inbox or IM (informations in the profile), but dont worry soon enough you mind wont think about it as much.

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when does the average female lose her virginity?

There is no set age. Every female is different. I say google [average females lose virginity] & see what it comes up with. Other then that, they lose it when they are ready.

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ok i have this boyfriend.. he is really great. but my ex boyfriend is back in my life.. i cant chose who i want to be with. one has a problem....a bad illegal problem and the other is weird.. wat do i do!?

An illegal problem ? Sounds as if you're talking about drugs, maybe not but I'll go with that. Drugs are a choice, and therefor that guy doesn't make good choices, and if one is werid.. he can grow out of that, or you could maybe change him ? I wouldn't go with the illegal problem guy. He sounds like trouble. Also, if they both have searious quilties that you don't like.. then maybe you shouldn't go with eather. There are alot of fish in the sea, I'm sure you'll find some with a problem or a personality issue.

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i recently had a sleep over and i asked my friend b4 bed if she was gunna take her bra off and she said no, she wears it to bed, and its bad not too. then my other friend said you shouldnt wear one to bed cuz its bad for you or something. should you? will it change anything if you dont?
thanks xx

It's a personal choice. I myself, don't wear one to bed.. my bestfriend.. she does. It all just depends on the girl, and what she finds comfortable. Do want makes you feel comfortable.. it doesn't change anything, so don't worry.

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How exactly do the orthodontists take OFF your braces..?? im getting mine off in july.. and im kinda freaking out... THANKS

Well it doesn't hurt so don't worry abou that. It's just a bunch of pressure. They will take the rubber bands off and the wires out, and use this tool like plyers (spelling) and pop off the brackets and the rings around your molers. Then they will take (the tool the dentist uses to scrap your teeth clean of plack) and scrap off the cement. That part was different, you can hear them scraping and some times the parts of cement fall into your mouth, but you wash your mouth out with water so you don't have to worry about that. They will have you run your tounge over your teeth, and if you feel any cement you tell them & they get the rest off. It feels different for a while, you teeth feel slimy & you can't help but run your tounge over them, because of they way you feel. Retainers take a little while to get use to also, they make you talk a little funny at first, but that goes away after a while too. After I had mine off (not while they were taking them off) my teeth hurt. They didn't have the constant pressure on them like they did before, so it hurt. I took advil & I was fine. Don't worry though, it's a good day when you get your braces off =]

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ok i moved the last 2 month of school and at my old school i was popular and could have any guy i wanted i play sports and was the president of the student counicl but at my new school i have no friends and no boyfriend and the other girls said i couldent play sports and her dad is the head of that stuff how do i get friends PLEAZE help

Start talking to people. Everyone and anyone. Eventually you'll find people who talk back and who eventually become your friend. Don't worry about not having a boyfriend. As time goes on you'll get on, and as for sports.. don't worry. Just try out like every other girl, and do your best. Its not that girls choice if you play or not, and if your good at your sport there's no reason why the dad wouldn't let you play. It's his choice, and most adults are not immature like teenagers and he'll probally let you play. So relax you'll make friends in no time. Just get out there, have fun and talk to people.

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ok well this guy constantly flirts with me. does he like me?

No not always. Guys are flirts. Thats what they do. Its like in their DNA. He could just be being exta friendly. If you really want to know if he likes you, ask him. Nothing bad could happen from the "do you like me, becuse thats what someone told me" line =]

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OK so i have this friend and she seems to like any guy she hangs out with or even talk to and i mena i dont know if i'm jealous or something but i really like this guy and i havent added him on myspace but she has and she said that they have been talking and the way she said it was like she likes him or something and well she's really pretty and skinny and i'm the total opposite so if she likes him it kinda ruins my chances and idk someone help please

Add him & talk to him. Don't make him a challenge between you and your friend. Talk to him as if he was a friend, don't try and make yourself seem better then her. Just be yourself, if he doesn't like you and he likes her,.. his choice. You'll find someone else. Don't worry and if your friend knows you like him, then she shouldn't try and "take" him from you, if she did.. she's not really a friend, now is she ?

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i'm a teenage girl.
So there's someone who I want to hook up with, and he can drive, i can't yet... I just don't know where is a good location to do it.

We might not go all the way, but definately at least to 3rd. (it depends on how it goes and how i feel then)

So please don't say anything like "oh don't do it".

I just need to know where. And it couldn't be in either of our houses b/c my parents would find out.

There are alot of places. The car, a park, a dark street, a friends house, back of a building? (not to sure about that last one). Just make sure you don't do anything you're not comfortable with and if things do get heated, be safe, use a condom =]

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hey how can you tell someones an l2 moderator??

also can l2 moderators see who asks the question?

The list can be found here [ http://www.advicenators.com/mod.php?mode=list ] tells you all the moderators, L1 +. And yes L2+ can see who asks the questions.

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I like this boy called jordan he is lovely but i have neva talked 2 him properly my friends are like look hes looking at you im like your lying i really want a chance with this boy hes really nice but what shall i do ? incase he dont like me ? help me please !!? thanks :D!

Best thing to do, just talk to him =] If he's nice, then I'm sure he wouldn't mind you talking to him. Don't tell him you like him, just talk to him as if he is a friend. Keep talking to him, the more you talk to him the more you guys will become friends, and when you guys are friends.. thats when you can try flirting, and telling him he likes you. You'll never know how things will turn out between you guys if you don't take a risk & talk to him =] Good luck, and have fun.

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