Being a teenager is the toughest thing any of you will go through..well except for a divorce or death of a loved one.
Adults just do not remember how hard this time of life is for you.
They forget how important all of these things that you ask questions about are.
Parent do not have all the answers either..they just muddle through life..just like you.
I am as old as dirt..and still have some of the things that happen to you..happen to me.
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I just moved to a new school and I'm finding it really hard to make some friends (i'm in 9th). and it just gets really lonley on the weekends because I don't like do anything. And my friends from my old school, I don't talk to them anymore. I don't know if there is any advice you can give me (besides that whole join a sport because I am doing a sport in the spring) and join a club because I am already in some and they arent very helpful with meeting people. Any advice?? (link)
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ok so the club did not work..any sports teams you can join?/How about church activities...
There has to be ONE person there that likes the same stuff you do.
can you go to any parties..maybe the person giving the party is lame..but somone there might be interesting.
I moved several times as a teen..it usally took 3 months to get inot things..and event hen..i really had to wait till the next year...9th is tough..it is the hardest year as you are the rookie...
Anyonline communities that are in your town where you can meet anyone??
How about a part time job on the weekends?
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ok. the other day my one friend went and sent me a link that said xanga and a couple other links that said buddy4uprofile and all so i thought they were all her info stuff. so i clicked on them alll and it came up that they were a bunch of porno sites and 3 of em i think were lesbian sites. I clicked outta them as soon as i realized wut they were and yelled at her for it. Well, today my mom woke up and yelled at me for them becuz she gets emails telling her what i go on. Well, now she thinks i am a lesbian even tho she says she believe me i kno neither of my parents do becuz my dad always. and i mean always says he loves me when he leaves to take her to work and he didnt until i said i love you too. I know they think im a lesbian and that they hate me even tho im not. i hate this and i dont want them thinking this. I told them a hundred times what happened and theyre like, "wut did the advicenato people tell u to say that." what do i do to make them believe me? (link)
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show your mom this..you know..you are not a lesbian..just because YOUR loser friend thought that was funny..does not make you one..maybe she is one..and was just fishing around for her.
So..show your mom this..MOM she is not a lesbian...ok..it was her friend...and do you think she would be that stupid to do that when you can see where she goes on your privacy report??
Duh!!!
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there's this guy in my school who seems to dislike me . maybe i'm just being sensitive , but sometimes he repeats what i say in a funny/mocking way .he teases everyone , but i have this feeling he doesn't like me . maybe i'm too sensitive , cuz i don't like it when people tease me or make fun of me . how should i respond to such things ? ( ps : i don't know him that well ) (link)
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I think he does like you..why would he mock you..but it wounds like he does this to everyone..wiseazz....
I am sensitive too..in the end who cares what others think about you...it only mATTER what you think of YOURSELF!!!
Tune him out..he sounds like a real bleck...anyway
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In school, I always feel like people are judging me. Only the popular ones though (because I'm not popular, I'm just average). I always watch what I do, to make sure it's something the popular kids would "agree" with (I guess?). It's not that I want to be popular (because, believe me, I really don't), but I just want to feel comfortable around them. It's kind of a weird topic, but I want to get it off my mind. I hate not being myself and I want to stop, but it's hard. I want to know your opinion on this. Thank you so much (link)
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Guess what..after school..most of the popular kids become huge losers..either marry early or do drugs..most of them...nada...in life.
See the just averages or geeks..strive to be better..and they are...most become rich at the very least..they always better themselves.
So..who the heck cares what they think of you. In HS..it ENDS after graduation...college..there are NO popular people..just everyone..equal.
So..do WHAT you like...in the end..theses people fade away..trust me...
I know this is ahrd..HS is the TOUGHEST time you will go through in your life...
Be a vanguard..start you own trends..in the end..maybe the POPS won't like you..but in the end..you won't really like them either....
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My friend and I hatw this teacher and as a joke we made this odd screen name and sent him e-mails. It was the worst dissoin of my life. I sent one that was like "I hate your class I am so glad I am in highschool now". But my friend HATES that teacher so she sent and e-mail like" teacher you hurt me so the hammer is coming down...have fun in hell" I didn't mean for it to go this far. Now the police are in his room for a long time like every day. Thankfully I deleted that screen name! They made an anousement on the intercom about it and ever since I have been shaking and I am so scared/screwd. If I get caught it wont be for the one I sent, it will be for the one my friend sent. I was thinking of sending an e-mail to my teach saying like sorry it was only a joke but I'm not sure... help! I am so scared but I know for sure I am not going to tell any one but I need to know what to do! (link)
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lay low for a few days..if they knew who did this ..they would have kicked your butt out of school.
Now this has to do with you...this will eat away at you...so you can either confess..and say ti was just a stupid joke(yeah joke..put that spin on it) or not.
But..listen to me..you are going to have teachers you do not like all your education life. that is a fact..and guess waht..you will have people you do not like either. So you are gonna have to swallow those feelsing and just fake bieng nice.
I am osrry you are going through this..but you either fess up..or eat it...
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I am 16 years old and I have been through hell and back! My mom was with a guy for nine years and I was molested by him. Now every year she is with a new guy. In February I was raped by my brother in-law and my mom didn't believe me at first, I was called a liar and I was told that I asked for it, the cops didn't even believe me until I took a polygraph test! I eventually got away from my mom because she hit me one day. I was living with one of her friends which kicked me out of her house for smoking cigs (She knew before I moved in that I was a smoker and I NEVER smoked in her house or even on her property!) I tried to kill myself because I didnt want to go back to my mom, i was placed in a mental institution for 4 months and now I am living with my mom again! She of course is with another guy. In the last few weeks my mom has had two strokes because of her boyfriend yelling and threatning her! I can't take it! I have enough problems of my own and the other night I tried to kill myself again! I dont want to end up back in the hospital and my moms new boyfriend is cool as long as they aren't fighting. I am scared that my mom is going to get hurt and I am going to end up dead because the slightest things make me want to cut, burn, or die! I still don't feel close to my mom, but I spent so long fighting her and finally gave in. I have no where to go but back to the hospital and I dont want that! WHAT DO I DO! (link)
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YOur mom is a HUGE loser..first of all..why would a child make this up??
Man..honey you have to get away from her..all she cares about is herself...can you go live with your father?
i know you care about her..but she is MAKING the most HORRIBLE choices ever. She needs some help from a doctor.
if she keep dating these LOSERS she will end up dead.you are going to end up in a foster home..
SHOW her this
i am a mother..my first thing i must do is PROTECT my children. Tell her..YOU NEED TO live your DAM* life w/o ANY men as you have not only hurt and scarred your child for life..you might be dead too.
If no other realtive are safe you might have to go to Foster care...oh man..i wish I could do something..why can't your MOM dump these MOLESTORS and just live with YOU alone???
MOM if you are reading this..not only have you RUINED your life..but you LET a SCUMBAG touch your child...you should NEVER ever be allowed to date again..period...
I am sorry..your two choices are to live with another relative..or go to a foster home.
I am so sorry..please print this OUT show your mom...tell her she needs to give YOU a chance at life..even if she has thrown HERS away....
Children are GIFTS..miracles that are given to us only if we treat them as precious beings....
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I just recently moved out of my house and into my uncles house and he is a hardcore Christian man and believes that anything not christian is "of the devil", I myself am a follower of the old pagan type religions and he kind of found out and alwayz makes little jabs at me for not believing in god and tells me im going to hell and i dont know how to deal with it..if i tell him that i dont believe in god, he might kick me out of his house....what should i do...pretend not to believe what i do or tell him to stop? (link)
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again..religion conversations..guaranteed to start an argument. My sister beame a born again..oh man..the fights we had..now I never say anything..just believe what id do. If he is a fanatical..be careful...ok..they are truly hard to lvie wiht..so keep it sipped they mouth...you know what is right or wrong..ok
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my parents get mad at me whenever i say something about religion that doesnt agree with their views. they tell me im to young to have an opinion about that kind of stuff. and i do. and im not that good at communicating. so should i just tell them that i believe in god? even though i have doubts?
thanks. (link)
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woah..religion and politics..guaranteed to start an argument..if they are fanantical..i would just keep my mouth shut and do my own thing. When you live on your own then you can do what you want. But my advice..just do not say anything..beleive what you believe..but around them..keep it on the down low..
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Alright, i'm looking for a religion. I'm not christian, i know that. It doesn't feel right.
I'm kind of thinking about being a wiccan, my friend said it would be perfect for me. She was looking for a religion for a while like i am, but she found wicca, and she really likes it.
Does anyone out there know what its all about, or have any good sites about it? (link)
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do a search on the net..type in the word..and look up a bunch of site..usally you can find one that will give you soem of the answers you are looking for.
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My boyfriend and I have been seeing eachother for a little over 2 years. I know he really loves me, and I really love him too. The thing is, is that he has always had a fantasy of having a 3-some with me and another girl. He said it's only going to be a one time thing, and that the other girl isn't going to mean anything to him- it's just his fantasy. I understand what he is saying and I want to do this for him, but I know I would feel REALLY uncomfortable doing it and I'm not quite sure I could go through with it. I keep telling him I don't really know if I want to- but he keeps bringing it up every now and then. It makes me feel bad when I tell him no. What am I supposed to do, or what should I say to him? (link)
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no way..to me..this is the ultimate betrayal..ok..sex is the same for a while now..lets' DO my (BF) fantasy and get another girl..Nope no way...i admit i am a prude but to me..he might as well just fool around with someone else...sex is between two people...not a party..ok..
This will not end..he will NOT want to just do it wiht two after this..ok..
NO ..tell him no...ok..if he breaks up with you over this..he totally wanted to screw around with somoneelse.
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hey um.....i tried to use a tampon b4 and it hurt....BAD. I need help am i doing it right??? HELP!! (link)
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try another type..the first few times..it does hurt...make sure that you are follwoing the position to put it in..ok..try another brand...
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Hi,
I don't know where to begin. At the moment I am in a state of flux, I seem to be either terribly depressed and generally fed up, or just downright angry. I've been with my partner for approx 8.5years, and like most we've had our ups and downs. He's a good deal older than me, however i've never saw that as an issue, apart from when his kids have tried to split us up. All his kids are now over 16, however he has one adult son, who's now 30, who for want of a better phrase is just a bad lot. He is periodically in and out of jail and until a few months ago, his father had little if no contact with him. However his girlfriend has just had a baby and it's all changed, again i seem to have been pushed aside and I resent it like hell, particularly when the baby has now been taken into care and the son has been proven to be up to his old tricks again. I can't cope with this, I just feel so unloved and miserable and constantly seem to be picking fights with my partner. It's stressing him out, it's stressing me out and I think I'm turning into an alcoholic to boot. I hate him (the son), it's irrational and nasty but i can't help it. He tried to split us up years ago and I just can't understand why his father can't see through him and understand how I feel. I try to tell him but just end up losing the plot, going off on one and then berate him (my partner) for even breathing. I think if he would just take me away for a few days and just get us out of this enviroment it might help, but it's like talking to a brick wall trying to get through to him. We don't even get 5mins alone at home as his 16 year old has moved in after getting into bother whilst living with his mum. I'm just sick of it all and realise I'm pushing my partner away but don't know what to do to stop myself from doing it. we've just had a noher fight and I've said some terrible things and to be honest I think this might actually be the last straw for him.
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You knw..no matter what about kids...the couple has to be first. Ok..now as this is a grandchild..that he is pushing you asdie for...no way..give me a break..seems to em..that you ahve put up wiht a TON of crap
Is he a dgood provider??good in bed..nice guy??
You come first..not the son..see the son is totally pulling the father's strings..but//and this is a big but..when paresnt split up...the kids sometimes never accept it.
You ahve to talk to your partner..tell him that you accept certain things if he puts you first. Which if he did..you would not care what he did wiht his son.
He may choose his son over you...a parent will never see their children thought anything but rose glasses...
You have to decide today..what YOu really want..him..wiht teh son..which will be forever..or not..but if you do..you are going to have to swallow a lot.
it might help if you two went to couples therapy ..the person might get him to see what he is doing to you..
good luck!!!
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Is it possible to change certain characteristics that you don't like about yourself? Recently there have been things that I've done that I normally wouldn't do that have made me and my bf get into fights. They're little fights, and we always end up resolving them, but in the end I feel like a complete idiot for making such a big deal out of certain things. I want to change the way I react to things, and the way I think about certain things. Do you think that's possible?? Any suggestions? (link)
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this is so me..it take a lot of hard work..you have to chaange how you think about things first..and then make an effort NOT to do them...
I real books about bad behavior and Dr. Phil has been really good. Take one thing at a time. I decided not to talk badly about people..and let me tell you..this has been hard..as everyone wants to do that.
About the fights..count to 50 girl..no way you can yell at someone if you count it off..or walk away..
remember when you yell..you actually are LOSING the argument..
I do the same thing about a big deal..now..i just keep my mouth shut..it is working..people are like..what has happened to you..takes a HUGE effort to keep it shut..but..it is worth it.
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my relationship of 5 years is going down the drain. we have a one and a half year old. today he got upset because he could not find me. he was at work and i went to school to do some papers. when he got off of work he called me a bitch and a whore and he did not believe me that i was at school. i was about to go back to school for class so he hid my makeup, messed up my hair, and threw laundry around the house. then he followed me to school with his bright head lights on. my son was crying and i told my boyfriend to change his diaper and put him to sleep while i go to school cuz he was fussy. his reply was he was not going to do shit. i am stuck as what to do. i do not work much cuz i am a college student. is it ever ok to tolerate this kind of behavior. it is becoming regular. what should i do and how can i do it? i am bad at making decisions, especially the right ones. thanks for listening. (link)
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You are not bad at making decisions..you have a child and are wondering how you will support it and whether you should leave him..for how he treat you.
Thsi guy si bad news...what happens whne he stops being nice..i mean he is stalking you and does nto trust you...he does not take care of HIS child too..and treats you like dirt.
can you move in with your parents until you either get a job or get child support.
But..please PLESE listen to me..do NOT tell him what you are planing..he will FLIP out..ok..make your decision..leave...w/o even giving him a clue...
Ok..i am very worried about you...
you spent 5 years..please give your child a better chance..ok...but BE CAREFUL!!!
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This is for the girls.. okay.. well i'm on Ortho tricyclen Lo.. and if any of you are i have a question!!.. okay well when will i start my period.. will i start it on my normal day.. or when i start taking the inactive pills? Thanks! (link)
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for your first month it could start early..but it should start on the 7 day green pills
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I know I've seen a question similar to this before, but I haven't been able to find it. So, I'll just ask it again. I'm usually have my period anywhere in between 21 and 28 days. Well, I'm a bad, stupid little girl and I forgot to mark my last one down on a calendar. I'm pretty sure the last time I had mine was on November 2, but I'm not sure. That would make today Day 27 if I'm right about the last one ending on November 2. I'm still kind of nervous about it though. I've never -- well, I have once -- missed a period. I'm a 13 (nearly 14) year old virgin female. Is this normal? I've had my period for about two years. (link)
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yes...yes..see every month your cycle could be so amny day long or short. Stress..anything..or hormones change them. So since you are not active..you have nothing to worry about...
Unles..of course you have either lost a LOT of wwight or gained a lot. That is when the period stops..so give some more time..ok.
if it does not come next month..tell your Mom and she will take you to a gyno..
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So, i've been thinking about but not really knowing if... I mean it's not that I want to commit suicide... I guess i'm just depressed and no I don't want to go on medication cause it's not like my brain is screwed up... it's just that I dunno I feel ugly I feel bad and whenever I tell anyone it doesn't seem to be relevant to them... and yes I know by posting this there will be people (stupid) saying that "YA U SHOULD U WORTHLESS PEICE OF ****" and I really don't care cause I probably should... I know that you guys probably don't care whether I live or not cause I mean it'll just mean one less mouth to feed and one more room to fill...
Basically the reason why I am depressed is that cause I'm gay and i've told people but not everyone... and I just want to have someone to be able to love me back and someone to be able to cuddle with on winter's cold... I've tried online chatting (no not AIM) but actual sites that are serious and no respons... I guess it's cause I'm ugly... but I just feel... *sigh* (link)
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first of all..here there are some really JUVENILE people that think it is funny to write truly stupid stuff down. So why pay attention to them..they are MORONS..not YOU!!
why have you not told everyone?/ Are you a teenager??
It might be that you will have to wait until you get out of the stupid atmosphere of HS anget to college or to a job.
Be honest with everyone..until you are 100 wiht everyone..you are going to be depressed.
And until you feel good about yourself..well you will not attract people to you.
Don't give up. Life is worth it..everyone wants to be loved..ok..everyone..and thier are lots of good websites..not icky one for gay people..maybe you can at least correspond wiht other people and find out way out of this!!Ps..you do not have to show yourself at these sites...just learn how to talk and flirt with people...
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I've been tring to use a Neutrogena deep pore cleanser when I take a shower to keep my skin looking good. When I put it on my face, it feels normal. After maybe 20-30 seconds it begins to burn to the point where I have to wash it off. I don't know if it's because I'm doing something wrong, or if that is supposed to happen because it's cleaning out my pores. Does anyone know why this is happening? Thanks alot! (link)
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have you been using it a lot?? Could be that your skin is sensitive. Wait a week then try it again..those things are for 1-2 times a week if you have skin that is not sensitive..ok...Or do not use it in the showere when your skin is more sensitive due to the heat. Try it later or in the am wiht cold water.
Switch to something else in the meantime. Sometimes too much rpoduct casues sensitivityI use all thier products...and i really like them
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OMG! i dont knoe why..but my teeth are yellow!! i brush 3 times a day..and i dont smoke!!..whats wrong?! (link)
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Have you been on any anitbiotics??or drinking dark cola or soda? those things can turn your teeth a darker color.
Try an over the counter bleach toothpast..then a whitner..if that does not work..go see your dentist.
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When ever i babysit for this one family, they never pay me until weeks later. Im kinda shy to ask for it..but what should i do? (link)
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STOP babysitting..see whne they go get GAS for their car..the cannot tell them I will pay you later..or if they get FOOD they do not say..oh later..
so..DO NOT babysit for them untell you say..i need the money BEFORE now due to late payment..ok.
I am sorry but they are totally using you..and they are the CRUMMY adults who should be made to babys sit for minimum wage.
Ps if they object say see YA..unless you really like the children..but then get your paresnts to talk to them.
Grr..sorry but they have totally takne advantage of YOU!!!
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