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hey,i'm Nicole. I'm 23 years young. I'm from New York...i do the best i can on giving advice on this site.drop one in my inbox n i'll get to it as soon as i can.i like spending time with friends, shopping,and playing soccer. my interests are music, singing and dancing.

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when you get your belly button pierced does it hurt alot? and how long will it be sore? do they do it with a gun or a needle? any info would be great because i want to get mine done but i dont know anything about it ;; Thanks :]

when i got my belly button pierced, it hurts for like a milisecond when the needle goes through. it's doesnt really get sore unless it gets infected, or unless someone hits it like my brother did when i first got it[and i wanted to choke him]. after the first week, it won't hurt anymore, even if someone does hit it. they pierce it with a needle. it's a hollow needle, so the ring is in one end and they clamp the skin, put the needle through, pull the needle through, then the ring is left in there, and then they screw the ball in. let me tell you, it's not at all scary as some people make it seem. i got it done and all the "pain" and such is just hype.

mine costed $45, and then $10 for the purified salt water spray. and believe me, you want the spray because it keeps it clean and it keeps out infection. oh--and you can't go in chlorinated water(pools, hottubs,etc.) for a month.

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my best friends birthday is tomorrow [8/11] and shes having a pool party. im going, but theres going to be a lot of people there [boys too] and im embarrassed of going in the pool since im 14&wear a one piece. im just not comfortable in a 2 piece. I tried asking my friend to not make me go in the pool but she says I have to. Plus on top of that i look absolutley HIDEOUS in a bathing suit. My thighs are just...awful. Im a very shy person and i know ill be embarrassed beyond what i could imagine, since im not exactly skinny. what should I do?
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well. i think that you should wear a 2 piece, but wear a tank top with it. it'll look cute and no one is going to say anything. plus, you can always go into the pool for a while to please your friend, and then get out and talk to people that arent in the pool and just wear your normal clothes. that way you can please your friend and not have to be in the pool all day.

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im 20 ilbs over weight. whats the best diet for me to eat everday. like the fastest way to loose this weight? i meen i have school soo i was thinking

breakfast- rice crispys with skim milk.
lunch-ramen noodles & a banana. [i have school]
dinner-baked fish. [not fattning]

run for 10 mins everyday?
200 crunches?

for 2 snacks during the day.. maybe gronoliaa bars?THANKS

i'm going to suggest somethings....

i say that the breakfast is fine.

for lunch, maybe make some chicken on the grill in the beginning of the week so that you have one piece for each day of the week in the fridge. then every day, you can get some lettuce, cut up a piece of grilled chicken, mix it in with the lettuce and get your favorite dressing in non fat for the side and pour it on when you're ready to eat, and you're ready to go!
it's really good and super easy to make. and you can bring it to school. just put it in a tuperware container in a grocery bag with an ice pack.

granola bars are alright for a snack, but there are these quaker oats rice cakes that are really good and they come in different flavors. you can buy them at a grocery store and they're really good, too.

your workout plan is fine. maybe add something like just dancing around to music or jumproping or jumping jacks to get some cardio which should work and help your core muscles.

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My friend and I were talking the other day and the subject of food and weight came up. She says one way she looses weightand keeps it off and still gets to 'taste' whatever she wants is by chewing up the food and then spitting it out. Now, she doesnt do this for everything, just like chocolate and candy ect. Not like apples and everything healthy...but I was wondering if this really works, or does the fatty stuff still get in your body. Thanks.

she might get some of the stuff that is in the food, considering the fact that her saliva is breaking down some of the food and then carrying it down her throat when she swallows after spitting the food out. so basically, yes the fatty stuff still gets in your body.

but doing that for everything you eat is really unhealthy. it's gross, but if she's actually eating healthy foods, then i guess it's okay.

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does anyone no some remidies to relieve the pain of a period, she has pretty severe ones, she is 13 if that helps. so yea, if anyone knows some home remidies to relieve some pain and make her feel a bit better plz tell me. much apreciated

midol, a chocolate bar, a heating pad, and milk.

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I really like this boy...and when ever i talk to him i dont know what to talk about it always ends up in an akward silence. i need help on things to talk about cause i really like this guy. thankss a lot.

i'd say to talk about music first. because everyone loves music. and then ask him questions about him. such as if he's into sports and if he has a favorite team. then remember these things so that he knows that you're actually listening to what he's saying. and maybe if a relationship develops, you can remember these ideas and they will help you with gift ideas if the time comes.

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Alright basically i was diagnosed with anorexia two years ago. Now my question isnt about me being it cuz i know im not ive been keepin an average menstration cycle. My question is should i go on a diet or do you think that would be stupide becuase if i restrict i might become anorexic again. Im weighing at 115 im size 2 and small - medium in shirts..so im not huge but im not very very thin..im 5'3" if that helps you get a vision of my boy type im fit but i wonder if itd be okay to limit my foods. Im supposed to be at 124 but 115 is okay to..id like to be down to 112 im 16 years old. alright now that ive rambled on what do you think?

i'm the same weight, height, and size in clothes as you, but i'm 15. my doctor says i'm right where i'm supposed to be. you're perfectly fine at 115 lbs. there's no need to go on a diet. you're exactly where you're supposed to be right now.

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I been dancing for about 7 or 8 years. But im scared to try out for dance company, because the fact not making it, it kills me! Should i try out? Or should i not try out so it doesnt hurt mee

i would say to try out. if you make it, it'll probably be amazing. if you don't, you can always ask the people who choose if you make it or not what your weaknesses were and for some pointers so that maybe you can try out again next year.

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Is a SeDu hair straightner a great flat iron? I'm getting a new flat iron for my birthday, and I want quality.

(Please don't say I should get a CHI, I've had two, both caught on fire and the company wouldn't replace them. Plus, they worked just as good as my 40$ straightner, there a big waste of money)

i have a Revlon instant heat straightner. it heats up in under 30 seconds, it's got different heat settings, and it works amazingly, considering i have long, super thick hair. and it's only $20. it's got quality and it's a good investment.

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there's this "game" people play. i dunno what its called though which is what i wanna know. its where there are two people. one person puts their hand on the person's knee and moves it the other persons leg until that person says stop. and then they switch roles and sees who endured more. and the person who endured more ist he winner

its weird. do you have any weird games you play with your friends

it's called "the nervous game"

person number one starts with their hand on the persons knee and then says "are you nervous yet?" and then etc,etc. you know how it goes.

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15/f

Hey I'm having a sleepover at my house and we are planning to watch tons of movies.

What are some good ones? (so far we have Thirteen, Mean Girls and She's the Man)

Thankss! :)

hmm i have to say

-Freaky Friday
-Tristan and Isolde
-10 Things I Hate About You
-Jawbreaker
-13 Going on 30
-Save the Last Dance


have fun!!

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Okay so I like this guy. He likes me too. But then a really good friend of mine likes him too. And he likes her too. Ughh what do I do?

he seems a bit indecisive...as if one of you wont go out with him, he'll use the other as a back up. i'd say to talk to your friend, tell her that since he likes you both, that you want to make a pact that neither of you will go out with him while the other still likes him. that way no one will get hurt.

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What do they say about assuming?
People always say " You know what they say about assuming" What do they say!?

it makes an ass out of u and me =)

ass+u+me=assume


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I have a friend she does nothing but drag me down and talk about my other friends. How do I tell her I don't won't to be her friend anymore?

tell her that when she talks about your friends,that they're your REAL friends and that you DON'T want to hear her bashing them constantly. and that a real friend wouldnt put you in that kind of situation. and on top of that, that she always brings you down and puts you in a sticky situation and that you don't want to be friends with someone like that.

hope i helped & good luck!!

[[p.s. i have a friend like this, and the only reason this girl is like this is bc she's most likely VERY insecure and does this to try and hide it}}

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is there any way to relieve menstrual cramps?
i've taken advil, and i'm home alone so i can't go and get midol or anything else.
but the advil doesn'thelp.
and... i know everyone says those rice heating bags and putting them on your stomach, but i don't have one.
anyone have ideas??
thankss

i'd say to use a hot water bottle/heating pad.

and i heard that drinking milk helps also. it worked for me...

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would it be wrong to date a guy a year younger than me. the thing is he lives in my neighborhood and me and his sister and others all hang out. would that be wrong.

nope, it's not wrong to date a guy a year younger than you. people do it all the time...i mean...look at demi moore over there lol!

and i would think that his sister would be cool about it. i mean...if you're friends and you hang out, then she should be happy for you!

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ok does it hurt gettin your belly button pierced? ive heard some ppl say it does & some say it doesnt.. im kinda average when it comes to pain tolerance & ive had my ears pierced 6 times one of which i did myself but does it hurt like reallyyy bad ? and when you change the ring tha 1st time is it hard to do or does that hurt? & will they instruct you on how to? thx so much!

i had it done, and they do it really quick, so it only hurts for the split second when the needle goes through.

and when you change the ring for the first time, it doesnt hurt at all. and when you change the ring, you just unscrew the top ball, pull the ring out, unscrew the top ball on the ring that you want to put in, put the ring in, feeding it through the bottom hole, and when it comes out through the top, just screw the top ball back on.

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I am a 17 year old female & I work at a candy store. I really like working there, the only trouble is they let us eat whatever we want. I am not big, but I do wind up eating TONS of candy & I want to stop! I try to tell my self I can't (or just to have a little bit) but when I see everyone else I work with eating too, I cave in and wind up over eating most of the time. How can I stop eating so much? How do I get more will power and not eat the candy (or at least cut down on the amount I eat)? any advice (besides quitting my job) would be great! Thank you!

i would suggest a sugar free gum. during school, i live on that stuff[[eclipse sugarfree gum in polar ice flavor]] and there's also other flavors too, of course.

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do guys only find skinny girls with absolutely no fat on them attractive? is just a little bit of fat okay do you think? what else do they find attractive personality and looks?

i decided to go on a quest for this...
i asked all of my guy friends that were online. and all of them said that they don't find skinny girls with absolutely no fat on them attractive. and this is 48 guys we're talking about. yes, i counted.

they like sense of humor, sense of adventure, they like girls who'll try new things, girls who arent obsessed with self image, girls that they can talk to about pjretty much anything, and girls that don't complain about everything.

as for looks, they said that looks do count somewhat. every guy might prefer a different looking girl, but personality should overcome physical features for the most part, unless the guy is a complete jerk and totally shallow and relies on looks.

well, i hope i helped!!

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My mom told my sister and I a few days ago that if she tells us to do something, we have to do it within 5 minutes or we "lose our privileges". She isn't patient at all. When she tells us to do the dishes, and we say "I will", then she looks at her watch casually to time us 5 minutes to do it. She constantly has to have us doing chores, too. Whether its vacuuming, yard work, dishes, emptying the trash, or putting something up, she can't wait and we have to do it NOW. If we aren't cleaning in some way, we're wasting time (according to my mom). What do we do?

my mom is the SAME exact way!! so i totally know how you're feeling right now. try to just get up and to it right away and get it done really fast so that she can't say anything else about it. and after you're done, ask if there's anything else you need to do. that way, she won't be able to get on your case after that either.

good luck & hope i helped!!

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