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My Brother is 36 and is supper nice guy He would do anything for anyone. He is hard worker. But He is not the most good looking and is very shy and has a hard time talking with others. But he is also the type of guy that once you know him you will most likly like him. As do the people that work with him. He was Sped-Ed student in school so he really does not have friends his own age and never dated anyone. But i know he like to be married so how can i help him. (link)
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If he's not able or into meeting girls he can get along with in real life, why not try it online? There are so many options these days.
Www.match.com
www.eharmony.com
Places like that,and many many others will be found if youre interested.
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I'm 18 years old and 35 weeks pregnant. I've been trying to quit smoking my whole pregnancy but i throw up for days everytime i try and winde up starting again. I love my baby girl and im so scared she's going to have asthma or need to be on a machine after she's born. I'm so ashamed of myself but i have no idea what to do. Any advice on how to quit? And any info on what can happen since ive been smoking? (link)
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I have a friend that smoked her entire first pregnancy, but thank god the little girl was born without any complications. Not all babies are so lucky. Talk to your doctor about any ways that can help you since you're pregnant.
Maybe if you can't stop cold turkey,try cutting out one cigarette a day. That's a good place to start. Keep yourself busy with other things with the urge comes up. If you can go a couple days without one cigarette a day, try to cut down one more... and so forth.
http://www.marchofdimes.com/pregnancy/alcohol_smoking.html
Check out that website,and consider if those side effects are worth your habit.
Best of luck.
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my boyfriend just found out that hes a dad but hes only 13.
i dont know how to fell about this he says he had sex with his ex way before we even like each other i belive him but im not sure not to think. he wants me to go to the irth and he will only go if i do. i dont think i want to though i want to be supprotive.
can you give me some adive on what i shoukd do please. (link)
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If he's telling the truth, you should convince him he should go to the birth of his child. This is a life changing experience that he may need to have to make him more responsible.
If I were you, at thirteen, I would walk away from the situation. That's a lot more than you should have to handle at thirteen. But of course, if you don't want to feel that way, you don't have to walk away.
I will say again that it is important that he goes to his child's birth. Maybe he's scared and that's why he wants you to go. You could be a supportive friend,if nothing else, to him during this time.
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I have a friend that needs help with tellin her mom that she is having sex again. My friend is 16 years old and her boyfriend now is 19. My friend used to have sex before and her mom fount out, she promise her mom that she was not goin to have sex again. Now that this new boy have came around she has had sex with him twice in a week. The first day the had sex he broke all her condoms and they have been using the pull out method since then. Now she wants to get on birth control. How can she tell her mom she is having sex again and wants to get on birth control. Please help me to help my friend (link)
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I'm going to put this bluntly. Your friend can either tell her mom she needs birth control or she can tell her mom she's pregnant. I would assume telling her she needs birth control would be easier. Just tell her, "mom, I know this isn't something you'd like,but I want to go about this responsibly. "
Also, tell your friend to stop trusting the pull out method. She's going to get pregnant (haven't you seen that episode of sixteen and pregnant?) If she continues to use it, because like a lot of other birth control methods, it's not fool proof.
But until then, tell your friend to stick a condom on that boy. It doesn't matter if he doesn't like wearing them. He could get her pregnant, yeah, but they could also trade sexually transmitted illnesses. Then, after that, go tell your friend to get the gardasil shot from her doctor. (You should get it too if you haven't.) Every girl between the ages of nine and twenty six needs and should get that shot. It saves a ridiculous amount of lives. If your or she have questions about it, you can google it or just go to gardasil.com.
tell your friend to show her mother how responsible she can be, because she's taking care of herself by getting the shot.
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my step-dad is going back to mexico because he
thinks my mom doesnt love him anymore. but thats not true. he just thinks that because he has depression and he thinks no one loves him anymore. but i do and so does my mom. he left today and im crying. i BEGGED my to stay like literally on my knees,but his depression got a hold of him and he left.
he was like my REAL DAD to me. he took me to the father-daughter dance,takes me to school,feeds me, gives me advice ALL the things a dad does that MY REAL DAD NEVER DID.i only get to see my real dad on wednesdays and every other weekend. but my step-dad I ALWAYS SAW HIM.
before he left he told me, "dont cry. one day life will reunite us, when you least expect it."
im soo mad at god right now. i PRAYED that he wouldnt go. but i guess i wasnt meant to have a father that stays around.my step-dad isnt coming back because he's not legal.
i just wanna know if i will ever see him again....
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I'm going to try to answer this with as much sensitivity as possible, because I can tell you're really hurting. Did your step father leave any kind of contact information? If he did, just take advantage of that. You could write him lefts, emails, whatever to keep him up to date with your life.
If he didn't leave any contact information, it may help you to heal if you keep some kind of journal so if he comes back, he wont feel like he's missed out on a chunk of your life.
As hard as it may sound to do this, don't hold your breath for him to come back. Be open,willing to taking him back if he does, but not putting much hope into it. This way if he does come back, you're not overwhelmed, but if he doesn't, you're not crushed.
I'm sorry,there's no way I can tell you if he's coming back. Just worry about healing yourself and helping your mother heal.
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how can i improve my breast size naturally (link)
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Naturally? You could exercise, but that's about it. And that wont even help your actual breasts,it could help strengthen the muscle behind your breasts. Google 'chest exercises to see which ones you'd be comfortable doing.
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Okay..
So i just got the contraceptive pill called Levlen..
I just want to clarify that when i'm taking the pill my periods will be still there but i can have sex with out protection and not get pregnant. Also my doctor said that if i want to miss my period that i stop taking the sugar pills.What ones are those? Are they the ones in the little red box thing or the other ones?
Thanks xx :) (link)
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There should be a weeks worth of pills that are a different color, or they're marked differently than the other pills. Those should be your sugar pills.
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I"ve got a big knot on my hip and it hurts real bad i went to the doctor and they can't find what it is
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Sorry, but if your doctors can't figure out what's wrong with you, why do you think a bunch of strangers on the internet will know?
If you're concerned check www.webmd.com. other than that,just keep in contact with your doctor. Sorry we can't be of much help.
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Is it possible for me to 'put off' having my period for a couple of days. I'm suppose to meet my boyfriend and well i think you understand my predicament. :)
Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you. (link)
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Unfortunately no- but especially not in the short amount of time you're looking for. Birth control pills kind of give you more control in the way that you can kind of pick when you have your period.
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why do guys like to go in deep? (link)
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It feels good.
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does oral and anal sex on both guys and girls taste discusting? what does it taste like? (link)
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Let's put it this way: if it takes disgusting, something is wrong. If you're clean and healthy, you should be fine, but everyone is different.
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Hi, I just wanted to ask a question about my bf's brandma whom I'm going to meet very soon. We both love eachother very much so he is going to be in town and asked me if I wanted to go to his grandmas with him. I said I would love to this Friday (its Tuesday ) so he is hoing to ride my bus home and we are going to walk there (which is about 5 miles away from my house) so I wanted to know if I should bring anything with me for his grandma plus my mom said I he was going to spend the night that I could too. So should I bring anything special?? (link)
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If you're going to be going by your house, you could make a plate of cookies or brownies. Dress appropriately for the occasion. Not dressy, but not cut off shorts and a halter top. (You get what I mean.) And just smile!
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hi my name tikesha and was abused by my husbend mentaly & financialy aswell as being allmost beat to death by him. i think the same things are happening to my children and no one hears me. please help me.befour my children forget about me i was a good mother to them. (link)
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Call the police- the nonemergency line. Call child protective services and report that you think there could be an issue. Speak to an attorney. Go to your local court house and file a petition for a hearing.
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My boy friend and i are getting married and we want to adopt a baby.Ever since we talked about it he stared going crazy and storming out of the house.What should I do? (link)
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several things could be happening here (all of which can be helped by talking to him).
There's a possibility he's not ready for a child. He could be scared because it's a lot of responsibility. He could be anxious because the days of his" freedom" are counting down. He could be angry because he can't/won't express his thought. He could be cautious because he doesn't know how he's going to afford everything he wants at once.
Ask him. Communicate with him. Slow down the pace of this relationship and regroup with him. Be open and understanding with him. Remember that his feelings are valid, regardless of what they are.
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So tomorrow is my friends 18th birthday. She is my best friend since we were little. I was wondering if somebody can tell me something really cute i can post on her facebook wall? Thanks in advance:)xoxo
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Maybe something like, "this is your birthday song, it doesn't last too long HEY! Lol love you bestie!" Or maybe find a cute video on youtube of someone she likes singing a version of happy birthday?
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My mom has been my bestfriend, the person who i could run to if or when i'm feeling down, i told her everything, we talk about everything, i always thought she was honest with me because she is a christian... My dad died when i was 12, we were sooo close and since then i 've never been the same, about 3yrs after i learnt that he wasn't my dad, from her mouth, for a month straight i couldn't look in the mirror straight because it was like i never recognize myself, my reflection....i didn't know who i was, now i don't even know how to trust her anymore. (link)
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You are who you are because of the things that you've become. You are not the flaws or mistakes or your mother or father. Communicate with your mother about this. Figure out why this idea of your biological father is so important to you. You had a dad,and he was wonderful. Do you want to explore the possibility that you could have another father,if not another dad? the two (father and dad) are different. Talk to your mom. I'm sure she was only trying to protect you and make you feel regular.
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Ive been with my boyfriend for 4yrs already we have 2 kids together. He treats me like im a piece of garbage and i dont understand why I put up with it.
Im a smart person i got my AA and now im working on my teaching degree. Im the one that works and takes care of our kids while his lazy ass sits around and does nothing yet he has the nerve to call me nasty names to tell me im ugly, fat, and worthless... I know i deserve better i just had my son 2 months ago and im not fat i have a pouch but that will go away with some exercise im 5'4" and i weigh 155. I think im a beautiful person inside and outside. I just cant understand why he treats me the way he does I do everything for him. I go out of my way to try and keep him happy I even go to the extent of taking my kids in the mornings on my days off out to visit my mother or run errans just so he can sleep and not start insulting me.
I come from a great family my parents always helped eachother out and they would do anything for me. Its sad that even after all the things that he has said and done to me I still love him and Im trying to make it work between us. I love myself too I know im not ugly im a good person i just dont understand why he is such a nasty person and why i put up with it? (link)
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You put up with him for what he's "done for you". No, he hasn't helped you financially or emotionally, but he still gave you two beautiful kids. You're clinging to the idea that your kids need a two parent household to survive. When in reality, yes your kids need two stable parents, but when they don't have that, they learn to cope and survive without the missing parent. Your kids don't need to be forced into a household where their father abuses their mother. That will only expose them to the abuse and make them prone to either be an abuser or be abused when they're grown,because they think its okay or normal.
Go to therapy. Talk this out to someone. Take your kids and start fresh without this man.
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Hi! A follow up question to my previous queries (under the same subject title). The guy didn't call (after my "umbrella msg"). I sent a text asking him to go to a movie since I had to be in his town for another reason and indicated if he were most comfortable making it a platonic outing, I would be ok with that as well. He never responded in any way and I have not heard from him in the ensuing question. Although a lack of response seems a bit rude, I still have positive interest in this guy. I am hearing loud and clear he's not that into me. Would it be ok to check in with him in a 2 or 3
of months and either 1) explore what went wrong or 2) ask him out again.
Perhaps I should mention that I had gained ALOT of weight between our initial aquaintenceship and the "reunion" meeting and I wonder if that is part of what went wrong ( I have been losing weight over past 8 weeks and expect to continue losing 10-13 lbs per month. Also I am considering contacting him again in the future because I am interested/attracted to him in a way that is quite uncommon for me. It's happened 2 times in past 11 years. (link)
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Just let it go, there are more fish in the sea. You don't owe it to him to mention that you were once fat and now getting skinny or vice versa. He's blown you off. Teach yourself not to be interested after this happens.
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I took my friend to walmart to get something on the way back i had an accident and he went with me to take pictures of the car and he showed people we both know, but then he was also showing random people the car. then i got mad and cursed him out and talked shit about him on facebook. Was that as awfulas it seems. i think i have some validity i felt he was going to far to get attention and having my business out there all at once. (link)
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You overreacted. If you had a problem with him, you should have said something. Its not to late, though. If you suck up your pride and tell him you're sorry you went the facebook route because that's not mature, you might can save your friendship. You should be apologizing for not communicating better about your feelings. He should be apologizing for spreading your business. Compromise if all else fails.
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Okay well I am a 15 year old girl. I have always been taught to wait until marriage to have sex but I feel like I am always having to masturbate and watch "porn" I really want to have sex(with my boyfriend and i know he wants to also) but I am afraid that my mom will be ashamed if I try to explain that I want to have sex and I want birth control to prevent any unwanted pregnancy! and I dont think vaginal sex will hirt to bad but does anal sex hurt? HELP PLEASE! (link)
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You're going to have to either wait until you're of legal age or talk to your mother about this. Anal sex is not the answer at all. If it hurts when you do it, you're doing it wrong. You should be in a loving, committed relationship before you lose your virginity, because it only happens once.
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