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I would like to help my older brother find a soul mate
My Brother is 36 and is supper nice guy He would do anything for anyone. He is hard worker. But He is not the most good looking and is very shy and has a hard time talking with others. But he is also the type of guy that once you know him you will most likly like him. As do the people that work with him. He was Sped-Ed student in school so he really does not have friends his own age and never dated anyone. But i know he like to be married so how can i help him.
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Unfortunately, by doing that you are putting pressure on him to lead a certain lifestyle and are perhaps inadvertently reminding him of his lack of social skills.
So first need to ask him what he wants because it is his individual life and not yours or anyone else's. Then ask him if he wants you to help him find a mate. If not, back off. Often times people who are used to being alone adapt to it and find their own way of leading life and so when a more "conventional" mindset is imposed from without then that can upset their personal psychological apple cart somewhat.
So this is tricky. I understand what your motivation is and can't really criticize it, but try not to force things and perhaps attempt, instead, to put him in comfortable situations where he can stumble across someone in a more organic way. That advice is unfortunately vague and I'm sorry for that. But just be careful in how you approach this issue.
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You should take him out more. And introduce him to people so he can be more outgoing
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I always think its 10x harder when you're a shy person to find someone. Check out this website:
www.shyunited.com
its pretty great as its people admitting there shy. So by chatting to other self confessed shy people online who are also looking for love, your brother should become more confident. Theres alot of people out there just like you're brother, so make him know that. Hope this helped :)
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If he's not able or into meeting girls he can get along with in real life, why not try it online? There are so many options these days.
Www.match.com
www.eharmony.com
Places like that,and many many others will be found if youre interested.
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