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SEX AND BIRTH CONTROL
Okay well I am a 15 year old girl. I have always been taught to wait until marriage to have sex but I feel like I am always having to masturbate and watch "porn" I really want to have sex(with my boyfriend and i know he wants to also) but I am afraid that my mom will be ashamed if I try to explain that I want to have sex and I want birth control to prevent any unwanted pregnancy! and I dont think vaginal sex will hirt to bad but does anal sex hurt? HELP PLEASE!
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Yes, anal sex will hurt and more than when you get your cherry popped.
Just keep in mind that your 15 year old boyfriend is unlikely to be psychologically and experientially equipped to make your first time that pleasant. I respect that you love him and he may indeed truly love you, but at this point, I think you should wait at least another year just to see if you guys will still be together since high school relationships are usually shortlived. You guys can have oral sex (believe me, at that age he will gratefully take a bj in lieu of sex--and btw, if he cums in your mouth, let it drip out if you don't like the taste, don't spit it out) and masturbate in front of each other or you can give him a handjob and he licks your clit.
As for your masturbation habit, no worries there. Carry on. Totally normal.
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You're going to have to either wait until you're of legal age or talk to your mother about this. Anal sex is not the answer at all. If it hurts when you do it, you're doing it wrong. You should be in a loving, committed relationship before you lose your virginity, because it only happens once.
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Although you might not want to hear this but you are kind of young to want to have sex. But since you have decided to i will help you with some advice.
Tell you're mom you're decision about wanting to have sex. If you have another adult that you love and trust bring them along to help break the news. You're mom might be devastated and upset from hearing the news, but she should appreciate that you told her and in control of your sexual life. I'm glad you understand the safeness of having sex which is condemns and birth control. Just have a talk with you're mom and let her know that you have thought about having sex and you want her to be their and support you rather then be angry. Good Luck!
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Your mother will be disappointed, but relieved that you're gong to be smart about it instead of sneaking around and hiding it from her. That was my parents' reaction when I asked to go on birth control.
Don't have sex because of hormones and being frisky. Friskiness is something that can be taken care of much better by your hand. Seriously. You're going to learn that nobody can please you more consistently than yourself.
Have sex because you're in love with each other. If you aren't, then sex is surprisingly disappointing. It doesn't feel all that fantastic the first few times until you get the hang of it. He might only last a few seconds, or he might not finish. He'll be surprised that you didn't orgasm like a porn star, and he'll keep going, expecting you to start writhing and screaming. You probably won't orgasm. It will be awkward and clumsy. It's a very sweet thing to share with someone you care deeply about. It's a pretty unfulfilling thing to share with someone you're not 100% in love with and comfortable with.
And whoa there on the anal sex. That's something that you should wait quite a while for until you're totally comfortable with him. It will hurt if you're not used to each other and haven't built up a good system for communicating during sex. It will also hurt if you don't have some good lubricant. There are special anal lubricants you can get that are thicker and better for that purpose. It's an incredibly intimate thing to do, so not something you jump to right after having sex. It's something you wait for the right moment to do.
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Your mom will probably be ashamed and try to talk you out of doing it but she'll thank you for being honest and being careful. If you really can't do that, maybe you can go to an aunt or an older cousin that might be able to help out. If you've played with any type of toy when you masturbate, then vaginal sex won't hurt to much. If you decide to try anal, you'll have to do some preparation before he enters you. Have him finger your ass with one finger and then 2. While he's doing that you should be rubbing your clit. When you've gotten comfortable with that, you can let him slowly put his penis in. The slower he goes, the easier it will be and far less painful. When he gets in, keep rubbing your clit as this will increase the pleasure. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Unless you wait until the legal age to have sex in order to go on a prescription contraceptive, you're going to have to talk to your mother about this.
Should you decide to approach your mum the best thing for you to do is handle the situation in a mature manner. If you have completely made the decision to start a sexual relationship with your partner then your mum has to know that you ARE intending on becoming sexually active, you'd like her to acknowledge the responsibility of you coming to her beforehand and that you'd much rather her take you to get birth control pills to stay safe than doing it with minimal preventative measures.
If you choose to start becoming sexually active as well as not approaching your mum then the only option you have is a condom. Before starting any sexual activity you must be informed on all contraceptives and the physical processes of sex.
Its completely your choice whether you want to consent to anal sex as well as vaginal penetrative sex. Personally I think vaginal penetration is more painful. But it depends on each girl. Everyone is different.
Some find it completely painful, others not at all; some girls bleed a teeny bit or quite a bit or even not at all; some people cant even have proper penetrative sex first time.
Bear in mind you'll be stretching your hymen so it may be painful or uncomfortable and it may take a few tries. Not to mention you''re used to your colon being occupied your entire life and your vagina hardly at all.
So take everything into account when making your decisions. The more responsible and mature you are in approaching the situation the better you are overall in the long run.
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