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My friend has a problem: she doesn't know what to say to her mom about brith control and having sex
I have a friend that needs help with tellin her mom that she is having sex again. My friend is 16 years old and her boyfriend now is 19. My friend used to have sex before and her mom fount out, she promise her mom that she was not goin to have sex again. Now that this new boy have came around she has had sex with him twice in a week. The first day the had sex he broke all her condoms and they have been using the pull out method since then. Now she wants to get on birth control. How can she tell her mom she is having sex again and wants to get on birth control. Please help me to help my friend
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I'm going to put this bluntly. Your friend can either tell her mom she needs birth control or she can tell her mom she's pregnant. I would assume telling her she needs birth control would be easier. Just tell her, "mom, I know this isn't something you'd like,but I want to go about this responsibly. "
Also, tell your friend to stop trusting the pull out method. She's going to get pregnant (haven't you seen that episode of sixteen and pregnant?) If she continues to use it, because like a lot of other birth control methods, it's not fool proof.
But until then, tell your friend to stick a condom on that boy. It doesn't matter if he doesn't like wearing them. He could get her pregnant, yeah, but they could also trade sexually transmitted illnesses. Then, after that, go tell your friend to get the gardasil shot from her doctor. (You should get it too if you haven't.) Every girl between the ages of nine and twenty six needs and should get that shot. It saves a ridiculous amount of lives. If your or she have questions about it, you can google it or just go to gardasil.com.
tell your friend to show her mother how responsible she can be, because she's taking care of herself by getting the shot.
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather. I hope the wisdom that comes with age and life experience will be helpful to you.
While I don't cone the fact that your friend is breaking a promise she has made to her mom; neither do I want her getting pregnant or getting an STD from unprotected sex.
At 16 years of age, by law, she has medical confidentiality. Meaning she can go to her doctor or some place like planned parenthood and receive birth control. The fact that her boyfriend has broken all of her condoms I would suggest the two of them visit a planned parent hood clinic together.
The law allows for her to visit a doctor or clinic in total confidentiality, meaning no one, not the doctors or the nurses can tell her mother the reason for her visit without your friends written release of information. The law is called HIPPA, Health Information Personal Act Privacy. This law was passed for a number of reasons one of which was to ensure that women such as your friend could seek proper medical care. Anyone over the age of 13 is covered by this act.
At a Planned Parenthood clinic or any other women's health clinic, they will exam your friend, make sure she is not already pregnant and prescribe a proper form of birth control for her. They will also show her and her boyfriend the proper type of condoms to use and how to put them on without breaking them.
The clinics that offer these services are Planned Parenthood clinics and any clinic that offers abortions. Clinics that do not offer abortions often are anti-abortion rights clinics many of which also do not believe in birth control as well. So tell your friend to make sure she chooses the right clinic.
As I said I don't support her breaking her promise to her mother. I also do not support unprotected sex. I would hope she and her boyfriend would refrain from having sex until she is properly protected.
I also hope your friend is actually 16 and not 15 approaching 16 for depending on the age of consent in your state; the fact that she is having sex with a 19 year old male could lend itself to her boyfriend being in deep trouble with the law. Some how I feel this is the real reason she may not want to tell her mom.
The short answer to your questions is; Telling the truth straight out is always the best way to resolve this type of question.
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