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I'm a fourteen year old girl. How can I get my boyfriend to give me a hickey? Should I give him one first? What would be the best place to give/receive a hickey? (link)
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Couldn't agree more with Zane. Your parents wouldn't like it either.
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does getting braces out of your mouth hurt? (link)
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I've had braces twice and getting them pulled out do not hurt. You may feel a little tug but that's it, you have nothing to worry about. Your orthadontist wouldn't do anything that hurts to much :)
Good luck, hope I helped
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well, every since last week he trys to sit with me on the bus or at least sits close evough so that we can talk to each other. No he never teases me or anything like that normally he just trys to make me laugh, and it works every time..... but today my friend said that we should go out and he shock his head no and so did i but i didnt mean it i was just scared do u think he was just nervous to. (link)
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Yes most kids are shy around a person they like. I Think he does like you at least a little and if he trys to make you laugh that means he's also trying to impress you which is another sign. Try asking one of his friends who he likes. If you think he likes you by now he may so just go for the shot and ask him out, whatdo you have to lose? Think of it this way, you only live once so ask him out! :) if you're not comfortable with it yet just wait alittle time but not to long. How old did you say you were?
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why iam alive (link)
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Because some where out there someone needs you, someone loves you and would die for you. You are living because you made a difference to everybody in ths world (becuase if none of us had been born we would all not be here), someone gave birth to you because they wanted to care and see your face everyday. You are living because you are a good person and the reason I know that is because your on this planet. everyone could ask this question and at least 1 person on this planet needs you. We live to get exeriences. Be happy with your life plz! How would your Mom feel if she saw you asked this? Be happy with what your Mama gave ya.
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I don't tan, all I do is burn. I NEVER tan because my body just doesn't do it lol. So I was wondering if there was something I could do to help it besides spray tan or burn. Are there like herbs or something that could help? Also do guys like pale girls? Becuase ir seems like every guy I know doesn't like it...Thanks! :D (link)
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Just as Zane said, Put on sunscreen and go walk in the sun. But make sure not to lay in the sun for to long as it could cause harm to your skin. If this doesn't work for you though, remember that all skin color whether your pale, dark, light, tan is you and special and we all come in different shades
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I have a big crush on this guy I have not met. My friends tell me we have similar interests. He's not in any of my classes and I tend to visit my friend a lot during passing period just to see him. I really want to meet him and capture his attention and maybe even get him to like me. What should I do? (link)
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Try to start a conversation such as "Hi I'm (you name) do you have to do that same (some type of project thing too)."
Here I'll give yu steps on 'how to talk to a guy you like for the first time'
1.) Introduce your self.
2.) Ask a question or make a reason to why your coming over to talk to him so he doesn't feel awkward
3.) As him his interests as you were saying your friends and you have a lot of the same interests so use that to start a conversation
4.) Talk for a while.
5.) Laugh so he knows ur human haha no so he knows your a fun person to be around.
6.) Enjoy you self
7.) Dont be to weird (trust me I've tried it...lets just say it wasnn't a good idea)
8.) Dont force a conversation. When there's no more 'interesting' or important topics to talk about the conversation is over.
9.) Tell him you enjoyed talking to him
The reason I give you this list is because this is the best way to capture someones attention by showing them your personality. Be ypur self most importantly and don't let anything hold you back.
Good luck and I hope everything works out alright :)
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I like this guy and I have a feeling he may like me but I'm not sure. I feel like he has a hard time expressing feelings like that. I know I'm awkward at admitting when I am attracted to a person. I believe he's been sending very subtle hints. How do I do about showing him that I am attracted to him without really saying it? Oh and I'm an 18 year old female. (link)
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I know how you feel it is hard telling someone you have feelings or are attracted to that person for everyone really. With out telling him you need to drop lots of hints if you don't plan to tell him you're attracted to him for example:
-Making eye contact with him for 2-5 seconds in class or when you see him
-Joke with him in a friendly way
- Get to know him
-Be flirty and flirt with him
Just keep in mind though that you will not know for sure whether he likes you or not unless you ask. If he knows you like him then you have a better chance of him liking you too.
Also a little fact is that a guys best friend will no everything about him so use that to your advantage :)
Good luck hope you score the goal
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thanks for the advise :) alot of the girls in my grade have allready had there first kiss.lol. oh well.. the boy that i think likes me likes to play around with my hair and he tells me suff he wouldnt tell anyone else is that a sign he likes me or no? (link)
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No problem, thanks for choosing to ask me for advice :)
These are 2 signs he likes you but you may not know, does he do more stuff? Does he tease you, stare at you a lot, do anything to end up standing next to you?
-Touching your hair is a sign because he's touching you which is common when a guy likes you
-Telling you stuff, he doesn't tell anyone else means that he trusts you and that's a good thing.
Try and get more into this observe his behavior and find out more look for him staring and smiling and trying to get close to you. Hope I helped and let me know what you find ;)
By the way I haven't had my first kiss yet either but don't force it. It should be more romantic and with the person you like more than a forced kiss with some random guy. But you got time :)
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Ive been in love with this guy for 4 years now we've been in a on and off relationship for 3. I still love him but it just feels like we arent going any where so i think its time to say goodbye. He never shows that he actually likes me, he says he loves me but i just dont feel like he really means it. I decided that its time for me to move on does any one have any good ways to break it to him? please and thank you
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The best way so tell him your moving on is to tell nothing but the truth like you could say "I really do like you but I don't feel likewe're going anywhere and I think we should both move on and go our won ways" Then tell him why you feel this way. Tell him you want to be friends but not in a realationship.
Good luck and I hope i helped
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So a little backround info first...When I was 4 I joined gymnastics and loved it SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much, and I still do, but when I turned 9, I decided to quit because I forgot how to trust my body to do things and was too scared to learn new things. Specificaly the back walkover on the beam. I thought for sure my hands would miss the bean and I would crack my head open! So I quit.:( There have been many nights since then that I cry myself to sleep about quitting it. I helped keep my grades up, kept my focused. I went there 24 hrs a week! I got pretty attached. After I quit I joined soccer and that hepled me focus a little too. But now I do ballet and horse back riding each once a week and my grades are horrid and I can't focus on anything to save my life! I am scared of so many things and have to plan out everything!?
My questions are Why do I feel the need to plan everything out? Why did I lose trust in my body? Nothing tramatic happened! Also, how do I gain back that focus? I exercise 2 hours or more a day and can't focus and can't replace gymnastics. I am hungry for competition! But I am not good enough in any of my current sports to compete. An dI con't quit them either. Please help! Thanks! :D (link)
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What I hear you saying is that you can't focus anymore and you think the sport your doing has an affect on it. As you grow up we all change, you quit gymnastics because your were uncomforatable doing it and if you felt that way then, then possibly if you go back to that sport you will feel the same way. If you feel you want to do gymnastics then do it! My friend is 13 and she just started doing gymnastics. All it requires it practice. When I quit gymnastics at like 8 or 9 years old I started softball and then swimming and swimming is the best thing ever! You have to find something you really enjoy but that doesn't mean you have to 'stick with it.' As we exersice to get in shape so we don't collapse. If you like soccer? Do it. If you like horse back riding? do it. If you want to do gymnastic and enjoy it. go for it. As you need to work for all 3 of these sports or which ever one you chose to be good it doesn't just come naturally :) So good luck and I hope I helped you out a little bit
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do they give shots for a soccer physical? (link)
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Not usually unless you need it.
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I can be pretty emotional, and it gets irritating. I hate when people yell at me or get on to me. Little things can get me upset or cry. I would love some tips on being emotionally stronger. Im not sure if its cause my parents sheltered me quite a bit or what it could be. i just want to be stronger and not get upset over tiny things and cry or something. i understand everyones emotional, but i feel over emotional. i need a stronger backbone, and not let people get to me, and i can speak my mind and not hold back on so many things. Thank you! (link)
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We feel weak because out thoughts may be negative orsomething may scare you. When ever you feel like crying think of god thoughs that made or make you happy. If you have someone to talk to around you like a good friend or even a therapist you can talk to them as you will feel better expressing your angers/worries. Dont hide your emotions hide as they are what makes up us at the time. Spread your winds and stay positive let your mind express its self. :)
Hope I helped and good luck!
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So I have had glasses the past like 5 or more years but I never really wore them. All of a sudden my eye sight started getting blurry today every once in a while. I had a hard time typing the begginning of this becaue of the blurriness. Could it be because I am not wearing glasses? I look so stupid in glasses and I really hate wearing them. I have gone without them all these years! And I eat my fare share of carrots....
Thanks! :D (link)
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You may have been affected by being banged into something, getting hit in the head or something like that could've caused a fast change. If you are not comfortable with glasses try contacts. I say yu fo see and Eye doctor and make sure everything's ok. Vision is important.
sorry and good luck
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I have a question about another guy possibly likeing me but this guy is different...
Every day at my locker he comes over JUST to kick (lightly) or poke me. He doesn't stay for long but it's weird! And he does it at least once every day. At lunch he used to come to my table every day and steal some of my food but he mostly stopped that. Now it is every other day. At Valentine's day he told me and my group of friends at lunch that he was going to ask out this girl to a dance. He told us who it was but he never asked her out. He doesnt treat my friends like he treats me so do you think he likes me? Thanks! :D (link)
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It's very possible he may as he showed 3 actions to liking you
1. Teasing you
2. treating you different from others
3. touching you
Teasing is a very big factor that he likes you too so experiment a little and ask him if he likes you becausebhe may :D
Good luck, hope i helped
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I need some guys to help me on this one or girls if you have proven info. Thanks.
So there is this guy in my school that sits across from me and today I saw him looking at me a couple of times. Also, whenever he is talking for the whole table, he always looks directly at me. But when he needs advice or answers he asks the other other two people at the table, never me. I know I don't have much evidence that he could like me but I just cac't stop thinking about him. I am on the lower end of the popularity scale and he is pretty high up on it so why would he like me? If you have any tips on finding out if he likes me that would be nice! I'm not usually so demanding with my questions but seriously! I can't get him out of my head!!! Thanks! :D (link)
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Firt off popularity doesnt matter so forget that. The reason I believe you cant stop thinking about him is becase you like him and have feeling for him so get to know him and talk to him. He may look at you when he's talking because he realizes your listening and everyone wants someone to listen to them. For he may also be asking the other kid questions because he's to afraid to ask you because
A. He's shy or B. Doesn't think you know or care so show him you do if that's the case.
Hope I helped
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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We are so great together, but like all couples, we have minor issues. My boyfriend has a best friend(who i DO NOT like at all), and he seems to convince my boyfriend to do anything and everything. He pretty much is a BIG influence over him. Well his best friend moved somewhat far away, and everytime he comes and visits, my boyfriend ends up smoking weed with him. I dont preferably like that, i understand weed is not a big deal, but i dont prefer it in my house, or the one i love to do it or be around my family with it. Anyway, he does it everytime he comes and visits, and he always lies to me about it. i have to pry it out of him if he did anything. and one time he pinky promised me e would not but he did because his friends wouldnt leave him alone unless he did it. he hasnt done it in a long time, but when he mentioned his best friend is coming down in a week, i get mad, and scared and worried. he has such a big influence over him/ he reassures me he wont do it, but it happens everytime his friend is around. do you think im just being irrational and crazy over something so small? or should he just respect what i want? im confused, cause it bothers him when i act like this, but i cant help it. i just dont want it in our lives. should i just relax and get over this minor thing or talk and be more firm with him on the subject? any advice would be great! thank you! (link)
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It's not your decission on what he should do as i sggest you talk to him and let him know why and what bothers you about it. If yu don't like him doing it in your house tell him that your not going to let him do it in your house and that he should go somewhere else to do it. Let him know wat your thiking and want as you cant stop him but you can try ;)
Good luck
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okay so my nipples reeally started hurting about 2 days ago. usually this happens before i start my period but its still 2 weeks until then. me and my boyfriend had sex but we used a condom and it never ripped or anything o: but im still scared that i might be pregnant cause i think he forgot to wash his hands before he fingered me once or twice after touching his penis after he came :s
i put lotion on them yesterday and it started burning so i think that they also might just be irritated but im not sure. what else might it be? and are there high chances of me being pregnant? ._. (link)
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Your not pregnant unless you had sexual contact between the vagina and penis as it is very possible to get pregnant even with protection if yu were together as if you are really concerned see a doctor or wait for missin periods. As for your sore nipples they may be sore from squeezing them or having them touched if that happened. My recomindation is you go asee a doctor and they will no best.
Good luck
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i am a 14 female and my friend liam has been flurting with me alot. like to day he put his arm around me and asks if ill go out with him in a sarcastic way how do i know if he means it . i also have some problems in relationships i haven't had my first kiss yet and every time i have a BF i get super nervous and don't act like myself plz help. :) (link)
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There are 2 signs in this behavior you showed that he likes you
1.) Touching you (when he put his arm around you)
2.) joking about going out with you
These 2 signs are assumptions he likes you but we do not have enough enough imformation on what's going on with him to know for sure if he likes you. As for your first kiss you're only 14 yuu got time girl! Just take deep breaths and pretend like your with your friends :) Really, they're just a boy FRIEND so treat him like crowned friend.
Good luck and I hoped I helped!
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I'm a 16 year old girl and I recently decided to start shaving my pubic hair and now I have a red rash(I've had for about 2 weeks now but it goes away when I stop shaving)and when I shave it every night it hurts and gets more red? and I can never get it perfectly smooth either it looks gross...what can I do to get it smooth and make the rash go away because I don't want hair down there and I don't want it all red and disgusting? (I've never had sex or anything like that) (link)
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This rash is shaved by erritation. Somethings causing this may be
1. you are not shaving right
2. Your type of razor does not work for your skin.
3. you are being to ruff
As I experienced this sort of rash thing too and I tried shaving a different way and now the rash doesn't appear anymore. Make sure you wet the razor or but water down there so it makes it easier to slide and that may help.
Good luck and I hoped I helped :)
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how old do you have to be to work at mcdonalds in boone iowa (link)
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In some parts of Iowa there ar 14 year olds working at Mc. Donalds but the age is 15 or older in most parts as I am not sure specifically for Boone
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