Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
Angie
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I have a habit of biting my nails. I hate it because I really want pretty nails. I see all these other girls with long, pretty nail, but I just can't do it! I gotten my nails semi-long but then they break and I will just bite the others off. I have decided I don't want nails longer than the end of my finger because I think that is what would work best for me but right now they are for sure shorter than that. Does anyone have any ideas for how to quit biting my nails? I usually do it when I'm bored and don't even realized it until I have started tearing them. Also when I put nail polish on I usually won't bite them because of the taste and looks but I usually don't wear polish because doesn't it look bad to put polish on short nails? I don't want to attract attention to my ugly nails but if people don't really care than I could keep doing that. (link)
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Hey!
Well I have the same thing, except my nails just break, whether I bite them or not. :P so heres what I do, I put on light coloured polish like a light light pink or sometimes even clear with sparkles, that will not draw attention to your nails and it will keep you from biting them. Paint them regularly, and learn to take care of your nails. make consequenses, if you find yourself biting them, like you have to donate a dollar to a charity every time you catch yourself biting them, that might help. Other techniques that might work are putting tape over your nails, because they wont break, but that draw more attention than paint lmao.
You know, I painted little flowers on my nails last week with a toothpick, (I dont remember biting them since then but thats besides the point) and you know maybe four or five people have mentioned them, I dont know how many have noticed, but it doesnt matter, remember that its your nails and you can do what you want with them, but if the habit is bothering you then you need to stop. Its a hibit if its a slight annoyance, its an adiction if it bothers you or others. So you need to find something else to do when you're bored. Just try and pick something thats not too annoying, like pen clicking or teeth grinding lol. Habits are natural so dont feel bad.
Also, short nails arent horrible, its fine to have short nails, not as much fun, but if they're painted then you're taking care of them, make them something to take pride in. And let me know if you need more ideas on cute ways to paint them. Some people have long nails, and some people have short. Its like hair. Everyones style is differnt. Hope you kick your bad habit and I hope I helped, Love ya,
Angie91
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whats that? (link)
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super senior a college student who takes more than four years to graduate
Google. try it sometime
oh urban dictionary also said its a name for a guys dick.
Www.google.ca
www.urban dictionary.com
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okay i have a boyfriend and i like him and he REALLY likes me, but my problem is that I like this other boy. And I really dont want to break up with my boyfriend for the guy i like. so what could i do ? and this boy likes me to . but could me and this boy be friends with benifits or what? I have tryed to stop likeing the boy so i can concentrate on my boyfriend. so please i really need help . and thank you all who help me!! (link)
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hey!
I definitely dont think you should be friends with benifits, that is an accident waiting to happen. Tell the other boy that you have a boyfriend and that you have to be faithful to your boyfriend. And everytime you feel like you want to go talk to the boy or flirt with him or whatever, go and find your boyfriend. If you find yourself thinkijng about the other guy, think of how much you would hurt your boyfriend if he knew you were thinking of someone else. If you cant do that anymore, break up with your boyfriend. Its not fair to anyone to like them both and want more with the other guy. you already have an awesome guy, so why risk hurting him and losing everything for a guy who could date you for a week and break up with you for another girl. weight the pros and the cons and see what you think is best, but its all up to you girl. Good luck, adn I hope I helped. Love ya,
Angie91
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So my birthday is in two months and I already have my dress and crown the only thing I still need to get is the function hall in which the party will be held ,the dj who will provide music,the food, the church,my shoes,the little party favors which people will take home as sortve a memory of the party, the hairsalon, as you can see I stilll have a looooong way to go and on top of this I'm planning on having the 7 girls and the 7 boys traditional waltz dance .
My problem is I only have two months to get all of this bookd and plannd out well and I'm slaking A LOT I do have a job but every pay check I receive I can't save it up I always end up spending it on something stupid and pointless and money is the biggest issue right now for me I'm trying really hard to save up but its too hard.
How can I get all of this to work before two months ? How can I learn to save my pay checks? (link)
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Hey!
Well you need to get to work on the plans today. First write down everything you want in detail right now, turn off the computer and go do it, (:P) and then start looking around for the things and plan what you need to pay for and make a budget that is reasonable. Then look at how much you make in a month and how much you spend in a regular month (lunchs, at the mall, other expenses) and cut everything you can out. Limit yourself to a five$ a week budget (or less if possible) and find ways to cut back. If your frieds say they want to go shopping, tell them you have to go home and plan your party. Bring bag lunchs!!
Before you buy anything for your party write it down and make sure you can pay for it and still have room for other things later.
I have a little question, why do you need a church and a dj and a hall for 14 people? Maybe you should look at cutting the guest list, or if you really need the church and the hall andthe DJ, invite MORE.
Also, search the internet for hair styles and find one that you can do yourself that will look awesome (that cuts out the hair salon). Then, for party favours, what you can do, is buy decorations for the tables (say where you're putting the food and stuff) and let the guests that them home. If you go to google, and search like center peices you can probably find ones that are super cute. My cousin made chocolate candy flowers, they looked adorable and everyone took them home to eat later. It was awesome. Something like that would work well.
Well I hope I answered your question, let me know if there are any other things i can help you with, just leave a message in my inbox. Good luck, and happy birthday!
Love ya,
Angie91
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Okay. Im 15/f and im not what people would consider a hottie. im a big girl. lol. im cute though at least thats what ive been told. but i just cant get a single guy to like me and/or the guys i like allways say no to me and go for my best friends. I dont like to say that my confidence is low but it is. I need to know how to expand my friendship cirle and find a guy! please help! (link)
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Hey!
Thats a good question, but I think that before you find a boyfriend, you need to bring up your confidence level. Guys hurt. And you've already been hurt. what you need to do is give it time and work up to getting a boyfriend.
Start by joining a drama or acting club, feel free to stand out. That REALLY brought up my confidence levels.
Then start making friends with guys. In the process you may find one who wants to go out with you, or you may not. finding a boyfriend takes time and effort. if you work hard to find guys who are your friends, you'll start to meet their friends and eventually find a guy who likes you for who you are, not just what you look like (etc). Also, remember, you're fifteen, you dont NEED a boyfriend. It's just a nice thing to have. I'm 16 and I've never had one. so dont worry about getting one right now, because guys our age are really stupid. They dont look for a soul mate, they look for someone whose hot. And if you arent up to their standards, well that sucks. But there are a fwe exceptions, and if you take the time and look for them you will find one. An awesome one.
Remember, size doesnt matter, its whats inside that counts, it just might take a little while for everyone else to realize.
Hope I helped,
Love ya babe,
Angie91
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basically.. my boyfriend has no friends. Like he talks to people and everything and nobody doesnt like him, but he doesnt call anyone up and hangs out with them. He says that its because theyre not his childhood friends but i think thats bull because new kids make friends too. His parents have told him this and i did too jokingly.. until i found out he realizes it too and feels bad i told him its not a big deal but i just wish he could have people to hang out with like i do. What should i do? Thanks. (link)
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hey!
First of all, its awesome that you care about him, but its his life, he needs to be the one to make new friends and he will,if you get in the middle of it, he may feel that he needs to get friends in order to look like a good person and in turn a good boyfriend.
Don't pressure him, and dont tell him why he needs new friends, if he doesnt think he needs them, then he doesnt, if he thinks he does, then he'll come to you for help, keep yourself open to talk, but dont push yourself on him.
If he asks you for advice, tell him how you met your friends, tell him to join clubs (etc) and talk to people on MSn (or whatever you use for IM).
But remember, to each his own. You may really enjoy hanging out with people on friday nights, but he may rather staying home watching movies, or going on the internet or something. If he really wants to change, and make new friends, he will, just give hima change to do it himself before you do something okay? Hope I helped, let me know if you need anything else.
Love ya,
Angie91
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i dont know what shes doing but this friend of mine has many crushes and wants me to go out with them/one of them and its weird. another friend said she probably wants to jump in on it sometime or something. im not sure whats going on.. (link)
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Hey!
It's hard to say why she's doing it, it is probably a lot more than trying to cause drama (or as your friend said "She probably wants to jump in on it") But it could be. In order to protect yourself, I'd just say, I dont have the same taste in guys or something and tell her that if she wants to go out with them then she sould do it herself, not ask you to do it for her. If your firm with her, hopefulyl she wont do it again, but if she does, let me know and maybe we can figure something, but dont over think this until you've tried telling her no and stuff. If you tell her you dont want to then she should listen, if not then there is something more going on and if you go into more detail maybe I can help more!
Hope I helped a little, love ya,
Angie91
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the name of the ac/dc song from the verizon commercial?thank you (link)
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hey!
kay, I tried SUPPPER hard to find this for you. I googled it and then I went to youtube. I'm almost positive it's "you shook me all night long". or aka "All night long". Just so you know, for future refrences, going to google and putting in certain words from the lyrics is easier than asking me to do it.. I went to you tube and found it, then I went to google and typed in all night long and it popped up. So if in the future the same thing happens, do that and you'll probably get better results than Dun Dun Dun or whatever that other person said lol.
Love ya.
Angie91
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i shaved my legs for the first time yesterday using venus breeze. is that a good thing to use? i hear some people can get bumps and all that stuff. i was taking a shower then just shaved off the hair.. im black, and my mom says the razors affect black people differently than whites so im hoping nothing bad happens to my legs... and is it weird to shave your arms? like can i use the venus breeze erazor to shave my arms and armpits? and will it look weird? cause its kinda embarassing that i'm a girl with the hair on my arm.. its darker than my skin and sticks out to anyone who's near enough to me to see. so help? (link)
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Well I'm white, but I think that it's pretty standard, my friend is balck though and she does get bumps, however she started shaving with just soap and water, so she kind of screwwed herself over. If you take precautions you should be fine.
Yeah. it is weird to shave your arms. Just dont do it. You're screwing yourself over in the long run. my friend shaved her arms because she didnt like the amount of hair on them, and now she has dark black hairs (shes white) and bumps, and its just not a good idea. It is okay to shave your armpits though.
I think everyone has hair on their arms, but if you dont like it, when you get older you can get lazer hair removal and get it taken away for good, but dont be embarrassed by it. My friend was always laughed at for shaving her arms. My arm hair sticks out too, and its really blonde (like visible) but you just have to get use to it.
I dont know what the venus breeze is. But I think no matter what the package says, use shaving cream or gel. I recommend gillette. The purple one is super nice. It helps you to get a closer shave and prevents the chance of getting bumps and ingrown hairs. As far as razors go they're pretty much all the same. as long as it has three blades it should be fine. I hope that helps let me know if you need anything else. Love ya,
Angie91
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you know that ashlee simpson song? i sadly can actually relate to it. my big sister is pretty much perfect-straight a's, varsity captain for soccer, charity work, sca president-you name it-she does it. i reallly try to make myself better but im just not that atheletic and math is just so hard for me. i feel like i cant do anythingright compared with her. how do i get out of this? i cant keep living like im a second class citizen. (link)
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HEy!
We all have our own special talents, and you're not going to be good at everything you do. Your sister has her faults too I'm sure. you probably just dont see them.
Heres my advice, make a list of like 10-20 things that are totally awesome about you and tape it to your mirror and then everyday before you go to bed and/or when you get up in the morning, read them off to yourself. Also make a goals list. Try and sign up for somethings. you say she does all of these things well you dont have to do them all but try and do a few other things like charity work, you dont have to do the same thing as she did, just try and do a few of your own good things. If you make yourself feel awesome then thats all that matters. Make your goals achieveable and set a deadline. If you do them all by that time then you can reward yourself.
Tell yourself everytime that your sister brings home a report card with straight a's that you have awesome talents too, and maybe you put more effort in you your grades because they are harder for you to achieve. Take pride in what you do well, and dont complain that you arent as good as her, until you have as many things going on as she does. Because shes probably putting a lot of work into that stuff and if you put in that much work too, then you wont feel like a second class citizen, you'll feel just as good as her and you'll end up being a well rounded person. Good luck, and I hope I helped. Reach for the stars!
Love ya,
Angie91
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ok im a 14 year old girl and i havent started my peroid yet. i ride horses does that effect any thing ?? (link)
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Hey!
It's probably no big deal. we all start at different times, and if you arent ready yet then your body wont start. If it gets to be a point where you dont have any friends who dont have their periods, talk to your doctor and tell him that you ride horses alot. But it'll probably start any time now. If once you get it, it's really irregular that might be part of the horse thing. But I really doubt that it could do anything serious.
I started my period when I was fourteen and a half so dont worry we all start at different times. Hope I helped, Love ya,
Angie91
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My best friend Carrie introduced me to this guy named Ben and we started texting and eventually he asked me out. I couldn't be happier with him! But I haven't exactly met him in person yet and I'm kinda nervous about it. Of course I want to meet the guy that I like so much but I'm scared that he won't like me or won't think I'm skinny enough. If Ben and me do break up because he doesn't like me, should I stay friends with him or not? I wouldn't want to lose his friendship but then again, I don't know if I would want to be friends with someone who dumped me because I wasn't skinny enough. Please help me! Much appreciation!
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Hey!
you're thinking really far ahead, but sometimes thats an okay thing to do. Remember you havnt met him either, something could be different with him than you would expect. I think that you should just take everything slowly. If he does dump you, then that sucks, but that was a risk you took when you started going out with him. As far as whether or not to be friends with him later, I would let him control it. If he texts you then text him back, but if he doesnt do anything, then maybe thats the way he wants it to be.
Good luck, and I'm sure you're plenty skinny :P. If you're not then you're right, he's a jerk whos super superficial. Hope I helped gurl,
Love ya,
Angie91
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My sister is a hypochondriac. She goes on the internet and then she suddenly has all these
disease symptoms. She is driving me insane with it!
She is a homemaker with nothing better to do I
guess. She doesn't bother her husband about it
so he doesn't see the problem.
I hate not answering her calls, but that is
what it is coming to. I have tried talking to
her about it and telling her to stay off those medical sites. It works for a couple of days and then she is right back at it again.
Has anyone out there dealt with this problem before? Please help!
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Hey,
Well I'm kind of a hypochondriac as well. For anyone who doesnt have it, they dont understand. Its serious. It's not like we have the power to not do it. I get a headache and I have to go and search it because I could have a tumor. And you think well its just a headache, but to a hypochondriac, thats not the case. Your sister has a serious problem, and she confides in you, and sure its annoying for you, but just think how she feels. You think she wants to think that that cough she just had could possibly be a syptom of whooping cough or that pain in her ring finger means that she might have arthritus? No. She doesnt want to be this way, but she is and as her sister, you should try and be understanding. Sure, its annoying as hell for you. But she trusts you. She trusts you more than her husband, and maybe its a bother to you, but it's A HUGE bother to her. If you're that sick of your sister that you cant help her anymore, tell her to go to a therapist or to find a site to help hypochondriacs, but if you want to be the loving sister I know you are then listen to her, and let her know that its not her fault she is this way and that shes not going to die from one stomach ache. Support her anyway possible and you cant go wrong. But leave her, or push her out of your life and she will get worse! Another thing, is she probably wants your attention "She is a homemaker with nothing better to do I
guess." so maybe you need to give her more to do and instead of avoiding her issues, help her through them and talk to her even when she hasnt had time to look at the site. Give her other things to do,like joining a club or something. She probably misses her sister.
Just like any psychiatric disorder she needs someone to talk to about it. I confide in my mom, and I'm sure she gets sick of it sometimes, but she loves me and knows thats who I am. And thats who your sister is.
I Didnt give awesome advice about how to deal with your sister, because your sister doesnt need to be dealt with. I gave you an insiders look on hypocondria, and I hope it helpped alittle.
Good luck with your sister, love ya,
Angie91
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okay well you probably hear this type of question a lot..
but anyways about a week ago me and my boyfriend broke up and we were going out for about half a year and i really loved him a lot, but i found out he cheated on me with my cousin, it wasnt like a big deal to me though but my cousin made up some stuff and said i was sneaking around with this other guy when i truthfully wasnt she just said that to him so he would brake up with me so she could have him, we wernt going to brake up when i found out he cheated on me, we toked it over and they only kissed so it didnt bother me really, but my cousin lives right down the road from him and she got him to brake up with me and go out with her. its only been a week since we broke up and shes been going out with him for like 3 days and is acting like she has fallen in love already and stuff and i know my ex very well and i know he doesnt like that type of girl i think he might be using her for sex.. and yah i dont know what i should do like i have tried so many things to try to getr my mind off him .. i went out with friends and done all diffrent types of things but everyday i have cried on and off and last night i reallt broke down crying, it was really bad i dont know what i should do to try to get over him because it hurts really bad and i cant take feeling like this anymore but i cant help it.. also i know i could get him back and i really want him back.. but everyone is telling me to move on.. should i move on? or wait untill he uses my cousin? ah im so confused and also my friends told me to try rebounding like into another relationship, theres this guy who i think is cute and he likes me .. is rebounding healthy?
any advice is appreciated.
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Hey,
Well you're right this is a very common question, but it's awesome because I've answered it so many times I have a great answer.
First of all, you're right, rebounding isnt healthy. Because you can get stuck in a relationship you dont want to be in and your exboyfriend can come back and want you and then you're hurting people (ie yourself and the new guy) so my suggestion is first of all to take this very slow. Work at your own pace, and yeah concentrate on another guy, but dont go after him just yet.
There are several steps to getting over a guy. And you have to take it one step at a time otherwise you fall down. Usually first thing I suggest is to do something new. Schools starting up again, find a new club and try and focus all of your energy on that. Learn new things and make new friends. (Its also an awesome opportunity to find new guys)
The next thing to work on, is yourself, you may be thinking about things like oh its my fault or because he chose her over me I'm not as good, but its not true and even if those feelings arent really obvious right now, they be lowlying feelings and once you recognize them you have to fight them because it isnt your fault and he lost someone really awesome.
Now guys, you like one already, thats awesome, but take it slowly. Dont jump into anything. Dont use the excuse that you are waiting for your boyfriend to come back or anything, just tell him you are still getting over him if anything starts up.
Remember, it's okay to cry. You will deal with this in your own way, and you will find strength, you just need to take it at your own pace. I always suggest writing down your feelings in a journal. It will help you remember for the future how crappy you feel.
If your cousin does use your boyfriend and he wants you back, tell him how crappy you felt and how stupid he was for leaving you.
REmember to follow your heart and do what feels right, if it feels too soon to date a new guy, then wait a bit. Your friends gave some awesome advice and I'm sure they are trying to be there for you, but only you can decide when you're ready.
Good luck babe, Hope I helped, and let me know if you need anything else.
Love ya,
Angie91
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I was dating my boyfriend for about a year and half when he cheated on me. He didn't just kiss another girl or hang out with her but he had sex with her at a party after we had had a fight. He didn't even tell me and i had to find out from the girl herself. She didn't even know i was hius girlfriend and she asked me to give him his ring back.( the ring was a promise ring we gave to eachother awhile ago) up until this happened i thought i could spend the rest of my life with him. I haven't talked to him since but he is always with my brothers. I just don't know if he went so far that i should throw away everything we had. Where is the line of going to far to be forgiven? Do i just give up and say let's be friends? (link)
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Hey!
Heres the thing. There is a line, but its very faint, and it is inside you. you are the only one who can see. What you have to do is think back to the day it happened and think of how crappy you felt. Then think about it happening again. Because chances are, if he did it once, he may do it again. and if he does then it's YOUR fault, because you knew the consequences and you went for it again anyway.
He hurt you. If its something you can get over, then you know it. But if you keep setting yourself up to get hurt then you wont see the millions of guys out there who wont cheat on you.
I'm not telling you to move on and find someone else, but I'm also not telling you not to. This is your decision, and if you wanna be with him again, then go for it. But dont think of it as throwing away everything you had, because he already threw it away. If you go back to him you're just gathering up all the old peices and trying to glue them back together.
You do need to do something to get over this. And that would probably consist of talking to him. But first you need to figure out your own question.
I'm sorry I couldnt answer it for you, but its one of those things you have to figure out on your own. Good luck, and I hope i helped.
Love ya,
Angie91
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Okay, well as a lot of kids now schools starting in like a week in a half ( for me) And I donno I had a great summer wicked memorable! Well I asked a question about this before, like I went on a road trip basicly, with my friend(kinda) and ex-boyfriend Eric and a couple other people. Well we kinda like forgot about our history and became really close again and I asked if I should ask him about *us*. Did.. and well that was a like a month ago and we kinda agreed on seeing where it took us. Well its been forever since Ive seen him and i think it'll be akward between us.. I think I still like him but I donnno what to do??? (link)
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Hey!
Well sometimes things liek this take time. If you agreed to just let things happen, then you have to let them happen and you cant try and change the future.
As far as things being awkward, awkwardness only happens when you make it happen. If you try and act like theres nothing awkward happening between you, and make sure that the awkwardness doesnt get inbetween you and him possibly getting back together, then everything should be okay. But you have to figure out if you do still like him. Think about why you broke up and see if that reason is still valid to you. And then go through school the same way as you would normally, and then try and talk to him sometime about it. see how he feels. If you feel the same then go for it!
I know it seems alittle easier than it really is, but dont look at the situation as a huge block in your way, think of it as an imaginary wall that you can push through. Good luck, and I hope I helpped, Love ya,
Angie91
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15/f
Guys always flirt with and tease my friends.
It's the very rare one that does so with me. Instead, most are polite to me. Ex: if a guy accidentally bumps against me (softly), they apologize: "Sorry".
They make fun of my friends but do stuff like open my doors.
Why don't they flirt with me and instead act so polite?
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Hey!
WEll maybe they dont see you the same way as they see your friends. Maybe they like your friends or in reverse like you. Guys are weird. They act differently around different girls. Also, maybe they know your friends better than they know you and feel more comfortable with them than you.
If you are just friends with the guy and you dont want anything more, then just leave it at this, sure they treat you differently, but you have a different and unique relationship with them. That can be a good thing.
However if you want something more, get out there and start flirting. Once they notice that you are different they might stop being so poliet. And if they dont then a) nothings changed for them and they like you the same as they did before you started or b) theyre just poliet guys. Which might be a nice thing
Without knowing the guys I cant tell you why they do that. but next time they do it, try and make a joke, see if that helps them to be a little different. If nothing happens then find some new guys to focus your attention on, and know that they think of you a certain way and always will.
I couldnt answer your question and it sucks, but if you wanna be a little mroe specfic let me know, I might be ablke to help alittle more :). Hope I helpped alittle though. Love ya lots,
Angie91
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Things have happened to me and everything sucks. People hate me and I feel like everyone else fits in and I really lack that. I don't know anymore but I've never been happy and its starting to make me want to end everything and not have to deal with guys that don't like me and girls that hate me and yeah guys that hate me. I really need help I think. (link)
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Hey!
In our life, we go through weeks or months sometimes even years where we feel like life is just this evil thing where everyone on the other side of the glass window is living this awesome life, but all we get is this horrible unfair treatment. The only way to get out of the funk is to push past it and not let every little thing bother you.
First, I want to talk about how you said you dont fit in. there are a lot of different places in your life where you wont fit in with everyone else, but sometimes people go out of their way to be their own person, and end up scaring people who want to befriend them, away. So heres my suggestion, now in no way am I telling you to change yourself in order to be liked. But I think that you should just try and fit in. smile and be nice to everyone. Think about what you do to make people hate you, and if you can figure it out, try and tone it down a bit. DOnt change yourself, just try and do it alittle less obviously.
There will always be people who hate you in your life. What you have to do is push past them and find people who do like you. If you're being bullied then its different, but if they just hate you, who cares they're one person, you're this amazing person who even I can tell not having ever met you, but these people are mean to you and dont like you, but they dont see who you are deep down inside. You dont need them in your life. So go out and find some one you do need.
I think you should focus your intrests on things like clubs and get to know more people with the same intrests as you. You'll make mroe friends.
Look I dont know what you mean by "starting to make me want to end everything" so I'm not going to assume. but if you mean what I first thought you meant, then look, you're this caring person who will be missed and you cant just let this stuff drop. you are important, and maybe you're not fitting in, but one day you will find these amazing people and you will touch their lives. You were put here to do something with your life and beating the odds is so much better than giving up. Life can be hell. but if you ever and I mean EVER need someone to talk to let me know. Because you're this special person who is in a funk that you will get out of, you just need alittle help. If you need help, then seek it, but dont end everything. Because you'll regret it. lifes tough but you can do it you're strong, and with others help this will get better I promise okay?
I hope I helpped and good luck. Remember I'm there for you.
Love ya,
angie91
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I need some help. I am a 13 year-old guy who has never had a girlfreind. It seems that none of the girls in my grade like me. I found this one girl who i have liked for two years that i got so attached to
that i actualy found her parents names and phone numbers and was basicly a stalker. I am way past that girl and am worried if because of that my rep is ruined for ever. I realy like some other girls, but they don't seem to like me back. I am so scared of rejection that i ask them to the movies by passing a note so i don't have to deal with the rejection by mouth. PLEASE HELP (link)
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Hey!
You seem like a really awesome guy, and sometimes, for us girls, those guys are really hard to come by.
Heres my advice, first of all CHILL! you're thirteen. I'm sixteen and I've never had a boyfriend, and I'm okay with it. Sure its tough because everything about numbers; when you had your first kiss, when you had your first date, but the more you chill out and not let it bother you, the sooner it will happen. So focus on other things in your life most of the time and find a girlfriend, some of the time.
second, rejection will happen. Theres such a big chance of it in every situation, the only way you can get through life without facing it, is to live in a house all alone for your entire life with six hundred cats and a pet snake. ;P I'm kidding obviously, but seriously, it's going to happen and if you get practice being rejected when you're thirteen, if you get rejected when you're older, you'll totally be cool with it. Rejection hurts, but its good for you. It tells you, k this girl doesnt like me that way, meh, maybe that chick over there likes me I'll go check her out.
Thirdly, you're thirteen, sure your rep is a big deal now, but one insident wont scar you for life. I had this crush when I was thirteen and the whole school found out. I was soooo embarassed. But after like a month I realized that people had something better to think about, and other guys like me so I dont think it's really that big of a deal, as long as you dont make a big deal of it, no one else will.
Fourthly, this is the tip you really want to hear, to get girls:
start out by building a small relationship with them. Ask them for help on your homework or ask them to im you the notes from english that day. But dont get too far into the friend zone, because then you'll just be friends and nothing more. be nice to them, and after a while, if you notice them flirting, ask them out. But dont come on too strong. Guys ALWAYS do that, and it pisses te hell out of me. Be nice, but dont be too nice, and be flirty and tell me whats going on in your head, but dont say it twenty times, its not cool.
thats the golden rule. Be slow about it. take it one day at a time. Then eventually maybe you'll get the girl of your dreams.
Let me know if theres anything I didnt explain very well, or if you need something else, I'm always here, Hope I helpped a bit,
Love ya,
Angie91
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Okay so today I lost ALL of my friends. We were in this big group/clique. They hung out today so I asked them why I wasn't included. They said I was boring and I don't talk much and they don't have any inside jokes with me so they said I can't be friends with them anymore. I can't let this happen with any other people because at home I'm not boring but then when I'm around people from school I'm shy and boring. How do I NOT become boring?! I never seem to make inside jokes with people and it annoys me! Please help. I don't wana be boring or shy because it made me lose ALL my friends. (link)
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Hey!
Well first of all, in my opinion your friends are jerks if they ditched you because you're not perfect! I'm sure you're a totally awesome person, so dont let them get you down.
It's great to try and improve yourself every once in a while, but dont do it for the wrong reasons. Dont tell yourself that you're boring, so you should change so people will like you. Tell yourself, you're shy and you need to be more outgoing so that it will benifit yourself. Sure maybe being less shy will make more people like you, but that shouldnt be your ultimate goal.
The next thing i, inside jokes are awesome, but dont let it get to you, inside jokes arent something you can plits something that just happens, so my advice would probably be to go out and find friendswho love you for who you are as you are, and then try and make the best of their friendship. Try and be outgoing by joining new things and learning to spread your wings and fly aittle. Plus joining new things will help you tmake new friends. Sometimes, you'll make friends with people that you would never expect to be friends with, but that can turn into the best friendship you will ever experience.
And lastly, boring? I'm sure you arent boring, but if you find that you are bored, yourself, attimes, then maybe you should try and get some new hobbies. People cant call you boring wheyou went skydiving last week!
The fact that you care enough to ask us how to change yourself for your friends, isa huge deal. You love your friends so much and thats one amazing quality about you, and whether or not you become the most popular girl at school or not, keep that inside always, because being a great friend is the most important thing.
Good luck, and always remember, the day I have to chane myself for someone else, is the day I lose alittle peice of my own self, but the day that I change something abot self to make myself better, will ultimately turn out one of the happiest days of your life :).
Hope I helped babe,
Love ya,
Angie91
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