My names Amanda im 17 years old! I live in a real small town--bracey,va. i live in an even smaller neighborhood type thing so its just me and my friends. Im single but im basically in LOVE with one of my best friends, yeahh that sucks. Ive been through it all..bad relationships, asshole boyfriends, backstabbing best friends you've been friends with all your life, alotttt of stuff. I can't exactly explain me in a paragraph but i can promise if you ask me anything i will do everything i can get give you the answer or the best advice that im capable of.
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I am turning 18 next sunday and I was planning on going out all night on saturday. What are some ways I can celebrate my birthday? Im single :) (link)
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Go out to dinner with a few of your close friends, then hit up the live(partyish) part of town and have fun.Go to a club or something, but if your planning on doing thigns with friends make sure its something you all can do because if their not 18 its harder for them.Do whatever you want honestly Your 18 have fun with it!
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i don't get it.
my friends..like, when i talk to guys, they flip & get mad at me & wont talk to me & stuff. & its not like im flirting with someone they like or anything i walk over to them & be like.. can i borrow a pencil? & then i walk back over to them & they give me this dirty look, & ignore me the rest of class. & like.. whenever they say like who do you guys think is the prettiest girl in the grade? they always say, some girl that is yeah sure.. pretty, but.. [this is going to sound conceited] i think im prettier. like, hear me out for a second, all the guys in my school & like even at other schools, always say how pretty i am. & im not a slut or anything. trust me. so i know that there not just trying to get inside my pants or whatever. but like, my friends keep ditching me & stuff.. & saying like.. "go hang out with ... " & stuff like that.
i dont get it? whats wrong with them? (link)
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Jealousy is such a nasty thing lol. Sounds like they could be jealous because you get alot of attention or they may think your acting too cocky. They are definitely mad that you can go up and talk to guys without problems and they cant? but hey whos fault is that, definitely not yours they just need to me more confident in themselves and their actions. Maybe you could start including them when you talk to guys that way it doesn't seem to be as if you are pushing them out in a way. Their not very good friends if they get jealous/mad over tiny things like that. Whenever the issue of a girl is brought up about being pretty dont automatically say oh i think im prettier just be like yeahh shes pretty but ive seen cuter or somethin like that. THey just feel like your shutting them out hope i helped!
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Oh dear here it goes. When i was younger my Dad tried to commit suicide (when i was in the room) I had to call an ambulance and he was in hospital for 6 months after that but i wasnt allowed to see him. Since then he has been an alcoholic. My two half-brothers used to inappropriately touch me when i was younger. In a way in which they could pretend they didnt. Just a bit of background history for ya there.
I have recently recovered from alcoholism. One of my many attempts to numb lifes many attrocities. I managed to recover after realising that it had connections with my Dad. I miss him all the time and i dont see him that often. Im ok now though, ive made some attempts to repair my relationship with my dad which fills one of the voids alcohol used to. I can even drink occasionally now without going over board. I have previously tried LSD but i came to my senses when i had a bad trip. I tried green but i got way to fixated on it and quit. I used to self-harm. But then i met a guy who made me quit. I love him, i think. I think about how i loved my brothers and i love my dad and then it makes me wonder what the fuck love is. I mean seriously what the hell does love mean. It seems to jsut mean letting people hurt you.
I was in a relationship years ago. The guy made me sleep with him when i told him i didnt want to because i wasnt ready. He made me try heroin despite my refusal. He hit me all the time. No one ever noticed.
I had this relationship. The guy i mentioned who made me quit cutting my self. Lets call him Tom. We were together for a year and a half. But when he turned 18 he changed. He got very drunk on his birthday and called me fat and he hated me and told me i deserved everything i got. He broke up with me. I was heart broken. I tried calling him after his birthday. I kept telling my self how drunk he was. No answer. So i tried to get over it. Until one day he rang me. He told me he didnt rememeber anything but his friends told him i was pathetic and got all moody because he was drunk. So he was scared to call me afraid that i was upset. I finally forgave him, i mean, it wasnt his fault was it? But then he told me he didnt think he wanted to be with me. I think we were both going through a lot and we both needed a break. I was trying to understand a lot of my past. Self-help and that. And he got kicked out of college and was scared of going out and getting a job, not wanting to grow up. I tried to be sympathetic but i couldnt help feel he was being pathetic. We broke up.
3 months later, were friends. Im feeling a lot better about things now. But nothings ever good enough. People at school seem to think im a whore. Im really not at all. I have tried to hard to improve myself. As far as im concerned, ive ony had sex Tom. Thats not 100% true but you can understand. I no longer smoke or take drugs or cut my self. But its just not good enough. Nothings ever good enough.
I used to think i love Tom. But does that mean he can walk all over me like every other guy in my life always has? If so, its better to end things now. Because, when you love someone, you let them hurt you dont you. When they treat you bad it hurts you more than if you didnt care. Im so used to having this thick outer shell. How do i let me be me and love someone without turning into a pathetic self-sympathising mess with no backbone?
Never asked for help before. but, please
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Sorry to say but the sayin goes "a drunken mind speaks a sober heart" so everything he said he could have meant, just like when you argue with someone they tell you to pay attention because thats when the truth comes out.Like the person below me said you need to get therapy and talk to someone who can help you through this. You will never have a successful relationship not until you can accept yourself and realize that you are so much better then what you make yourself out to be. NEVER let a guy walkover you, because he see's that he can do it once he'll keep doing it because he knows you'll never do anything about it and that will only lead to an abusive relationship, physically and mentally and it was also cause big heartache. Get rid of the guy and get a therapist, start a new outlook on your life, its not too late! Inbox is open if you ever need anything!
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Hey I just found out my perfect type of swimsuit, tankini swimsuit! I don't like to reveal anything so when I found out about the tankini swimsuit I was like oh my god it was made for me!
One problem is that you gotta wear the underwear...like can a tankini swimsuit come with shorts instead or an underwear thing?
Last year, I worse capris and a tank top to go swimming and I couldn't even swim because I was so heavy from the clothing! Plus it took me forever to take the capris off after!
Or, for a tankini swimsuit, can I just wear a top and some shorts? and wear can I get the shorts because the shorts I see are like really tight stuff and people would see my camel toe from that! thanks in advance! (link)
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I've seen tankini suits with the shorts bottoms but their rare to find these days. You could do the whole mix and match thing. Get your tankini top and then find a pair of shorts that match it. Also you could just wer the bottoms and get the shorts they wear when their surfing. You can get cute ones at places like pac-sun or anywhere that sells stuff like that.
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I got my bellybutton pierced almost 2 months ago (i got the banana barbell!) and i was wondering how long after you get it done can you change it?
after how long did you change it?
thanks in advanced =) (link)
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I'd say around the 4th month, the longer you wait the better. But ive seen people take them out towards the 3rd month.
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I recently went to an inverview at a university thing, and the interviewer ws gorgeous. He's not THAT much older than me, but is clearly an authority figure. Should i still persue him or not? (link)
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that probably wouldn't be in your best interest. That could just cause alot of problems and maybe even make him lose his job or get you kicked out of school. Authority figures are not supposed to have close relationships outside of school with their students. but i mean do what your heart tells you, nobody can tell you whats best for you.
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well i told my boyfriend that i have had sex before but i havent. if we do have sex, is there any way he could tell that i am still a virgin?
oh and what does it mean when somebody "pops your cherry". lol (link)
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Theres really no way he can tell unless you tell him. but theres no point in lieing to him, so just tell him the truth. Some guys actually like when girls are virgin it gives them some manly feeling of some sort i guess you could say. but popping your cherry is the hymen, it'll bleed but if you do sports and work out or anything of that sort it can pop that way too. Like they said below most girls bleed their firs time, thats true but some girls bleed their first couple times of having sex just because its stretching out, so even if you bleed he cant accuse you of it because some people bleed their first couple times. hope i helped!
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Ok so im 15 (f) and i havent ever had a boyfriend .. i mean i talk to a few guys but none of them seem interseted ... and we never really hang out .. i really want a boyfriend ...so there is this guy that i talk to and whenever he talked to me everyone would say ooo you like her ask her out blah blah blah .. but i dont think he does like me ... so now he refuses to talk to me, since people made a big deal out of it ... i want him to know thati just want to be friends and talk to him .. HELP im loosing guys by the minutes and thats the last thing i need! (link)
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Ok first off, everyone gets boyfriends at different times. And the guys you do talk to probably see you as too much of a friend to take it any further. Find a guy you don't talk to/hang out with that much and start talking to him and flirt with him, let him know your interested. As for the guy refusing to talk to you, he may actually have feelings for you and doesnt like how everyone is making such a big deal out of it. But that may not be true at all. Since he refuses to talk to you face to face write him an email or IM him and let him know that you just want to be friends and what everyone else says doesn't matter. Or you could write him a note and give it to him at school. But your best bet would be to get him alone at school and tell him, exactly how you feel and where you want to be with him relationship wise (i.e friends, bf/gf, not friends)
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okay,here is the scenario
i met this gal on the net,so what happens is that it is a chatroom,right,and we chat and soon find that we share the same interest and all that.we did not have cyber sex and it was just pure talk,later she sent me her photo and her msn.we soon had a great chat,but she has never seen me before.she then confessed her feelings to me on one night so here's my question:
1)does it count as love when a gal says she loves you when she has never seen you before,but loves your personality,chatting with you and everything else.
don't ask why i did not sent her my pic yet,i'm working on it,but i just wanna ask if it counts as love or not till this point where she doesn't know how i look like but likes my personality and other stuff. (link)
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Yes, it could very well be love. what some people dont understand is its not all about looks. Personality plays a big role in your feelings towards someone.
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Okay so when i was younger i used to be very overweight and fat, from about kindergarten to the end of 5th grade, then in 6th grade i stood about 5'3 and 112 pounds, which was amazing for someone coming from about 5'1 144 pounds.
When i was at that weight, i wasnt too self confident but everyone would tell me how pretty i was or that i lost so much weight.
I figured I wanted to loose even more weight, so i began to eat only cereal for a longgggg time.
I gained 90% of the weight back.
I didnt even realize it until I went to the doctor, I was shocked.
After that I decided to go back to my old diet and exercise plan to see if it would work.
It didnt, I just stay at about the same weight and the only way I can loose weight is if I eat barely anything at all.
If I eat as much As i was to eat, then I either stay the same or gain a pound and cry about it.
What makes me the most sad is, I dont think I look really really fat, but the guys at my school make it seem like I am, and its not like I'm a nerd , Im really popular.
I just dont know what to beleieve.
One person will tell me Im not fat , im just big boned.
Then more people will call me fat.
Then someone might say Im just the right size.
As of now I'm 5'5'-5'6 and about 145 pounds.
Dont send me those calculators, i just want an opionion
thanks
and if you have any tips on binge eating (link)
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Well for your height your in healthy weight range. I dont think thats fat at all. Its nice to have some meat on your bones, if your really skinny then you just look sick and tired no guys like that. Also keep in mind, you said your working out then you probably have muscle. Muscle weighs more than fat. I dont think thats fat at all, but if you think it is then nobody can change your mind. If your worried about your weight then others will see it and take advantage of it. If your confident then nobody sees your "flaws". Everytime you want to eat grab an apple or something healthy and just stay away from the kitchen. As long as your happy with who you are then dont listen to what others have to say.
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I just lost my grandma and im looking for goos songs.
Sad or happy.
Just something.
thanks (link)
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First of all i want to say sorry about your grandma, i know how that feels! Holes in the floor of heaven by Steve Wariner.. i listened to that alot after my grandma died.
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okay so i know this isnt about cumputers but theres no fone catagory!! so my plan, i have 300 minz a month, and free weekends and nights after 7 and tmobile to tmobile. and you know how wen u dial #646# it tells u how many minz are used? well, wenevr i call during weekends or nights, it adds to that! and so im just wondering, is that the simple version, and when they bill me it dosent count? because if it does count im way over my minutes, but i never call anyone until after 8. also, when you go out of the country and you change the time on your fone, does the billing time change to? or do i have to wait until its 7 at the place were i bought it. and, sorry this is so long, but when somone calls me, and i dont pick up, it STILL takes my minutes. any help would serously rock!!! thank you (link)
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First off i have tmobile and ive never heard of the free minutes starting after 7 its actually after 9. And when you look on the weekends i think its just adding minutes from when you used the during the week mine does that too. As for when your out of the country do you have free roaming and stuff? because if not that will take your minutes too. Call the 611 and talk to a Rep and tell them exactly what you told us, they could tell you more about your plan than any of us could. Hope i helped!
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So I go to a hookah bar everyfriday night, but last friday i went and like two days later i got this like, kind of like a cold sore on the side of my mouth like a little off the corner of my mouth. And I was wondering like what is it? Does it have to do with the hookah? like could somebody have had an std and givin it to me by the hookah head? (link)
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It could very well be a cold sore. But to be on the safe side i think you should go to the doctor it will only get worse if you leave it untreated. It could be from the hookah but you never know. Your best bet would be to go to the doctor.
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how come everyones attracted to blonde boys?? (link)
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Well i guess it would be the same thing as to why guys are attracted to blonde girls. Everyone has their preferences though. Its kind of like having your own opinion about something. I personally dont care what hair color a boy has.
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if a boy bothers you a lot but in a fun way does that mean he likes you as a gf or just a friend (link)
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It depends on what hes doing, if he messes with your hair and touches you nd stuff then id say yeah. like the person before said ask yourself is he like that with everyone? But im gonna say he does because guys tend to bother you in a playful way and sometimes even rudely when they like you. good luck!
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i have not smoked pot scine december 28th. from now till january 20, if i just drink lots of water and nothing else. will it be out of my system? (link)
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If its for a test or something then yeah drink lots and lots of water and cranberry juice. As long as you drink lots of water you should be good to go
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(Sorry, I'm not sure if I put this in the right category)
Can someone please tell me the title and singer of the theme song for Full House? Thanks much =] (link)
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Everywhere You Look" by Jesse Frederick
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I get made fun of a lot because I have red hair so people call me firecrotch AND Im not very pretty. I look like a fish. Anyway, guys on my bus are always making fun of me..and I want to know what I say to them. Swearing isnt working - they just mock me and it just gives them a reaction. (link)
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Everyone has beauty whether it be on the inside or out. Ignore them losers they only make fun of other people because they have nothing better to do or theres something wrong in their lives so they pick on other people. If you ignore them and act like it doesnt bother you they will give up on it. Your cute so idk what their talking about. Like the person said before me the 2 choices. dont make fun of yourself because then that will just give them something else to pick on you about. Agree, be like yeah im not the prettiest person in the world, but neither are you! and this whole calling me ugly thing is getting old, do you not have anything better to say? Then ignore them. Their just being really immature and they need to grow up their in HS now. Being immature and picking on people aint gonna help them in the real world. hope i helped!
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I am 17 and I met this guy at a bar. He is 21 and I just wonder if other people think that is too old for me. Should I go out with him again? We exchanged phone numbers and we have talked on the phone. Any and all responses are appreciated. (link)
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By law hes to old for you, because you are not yet 18 but it may be different where you live. But age is nothing but a number, if yall hit it off and are interested in eachother then go for it.
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Is there a way on AIM to make a persons screen name appear as something else? Like if their screen name was 2jkgLJ and I wanted to make it, "Laura Johnson", can I do this? If so, how? (link)
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If you have aim triton you can do this. YOu click on the persons screename, right click and go to edit buddy. and the it will pop up the screename above it, it will say First Name ______ Last Name___ and then you can put it as whatever you want it doesnt necissarily have to be a name
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