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Sup, my name's Aaron, i'm a band freak, health freak, grammar freak, perfectionist, and I just love to watch people do stupid things even if it includes me, because heck there's no point in being uptight about life when in the end it all ends... hahah gotta love my type right? There's not much about me that you probably haven't heard that you can't compare to other people, I mean i'm a friendly person who once you get to know me, tends to grow on you like mold on bread. I'm smart, courageous, a leader, fun, loving, honest, brutally honest, sadistic, idiotic at times, ignorant to certain topics, indifferent in some controversial issues, unconcerned about what you think about me, happy, sad, depressed, angry, and basically any other attribute you can give to a 16 year old teenager. I'm an ex-swimmer, meaning that I quit... just because of band, and no i'm not that big a band freak, I'd just rather be playing my instrument and feeling the soothing sensation that music has to bring as opposed to getting stressed about being beat by other people! But no, haha I love swimming and if my school allowed me to take both at the same time without sacrificing my grades I probably would. I'm not the kind of person that sits and watches something, for instance, I hate watching football but I love playing it just because of the adrenaline rush. Blah, haha not sure what else to say, I mean I suppose I can tell you that i'm chinese, and uhh that's about it I think... I like to philosophize haha if that makes any sense, I feel that although philosophy is basically the "DUH" of life, sometimes you just need to be told, DUH. There's nothing better than discovering the obvious... Anyways, life's so much easier for probably you and me if we chatted on AOL, my screen name is An3mu5c0r9u5 yup yup =D hehe

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I was cleaning out my closet that I havn't cleaned for like a year and a half and I found the $125 gold necklace that my ex-boyfriend gave me last year. I remember throwing it in the closet when i broke up with him-----but now I found it. I don't have any jewelery that fine and I was thinking about wearing the necklace. Who's gonna know? My ex lives in N.Y.C. anyway and i'm like 2 hours north of the city, so I wont see him. Do you think its ok to wear it???

yeah it's okay to wear it... though if it makes you feel guilty... then you probably shouldn't... it all depends on you

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My best friend and I like the same guy. The thing is, he is dating my best friend. But she and he both know that he likes me also. He wants to be with both of us, but I don't want to hurt my best friend so I think I should back off. What should I do?? Thanks!

well talk to her... and make sure that she understands that her boyfriend likes you... and that you like him... if that is, you do... and tell her that you don't want this to breakup your friendship because friendship is a strong bond and you don't want a guy to get between your friendship... and tell her and this will also have to be your decision is... if you don't want me to go out with him then I won't

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I've been talking to this guy for like 6 months, He never asked me out or nothing but we go to the movies and i go chill at his house to. A couple weeks ago he said he wanted to start seeing me more, does that mean he wants to date me or what? I know he said he wanted to take things slow but this is beyond slow 4 me. He never gives me any clues that he really likes me like i do him. He will invite me over and kiss me goodnite when i leave but that's it. {no kissing other than when i leave..lol thought that bared repeating} What should i say to him? Thanx 2 all who answer. I'll rate HIGHHH

well you should say, i'm getting a little confused... but do you want to go out or what because i'm getting mixed signals... but if yu want to go out i'm fine with it because i like you too... and then you'll be good to go with him

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A guy named Kiel, who works at the same place I do, started giving me notes, asking me if I had a boyfriend and kept telling me how nice I looked. Then we started talking on the phone. He kept asking me if I wanted to date him. At work, a lot of girls flirted with him, but he didn't flirt back. He basically only talked to me. He seemed very interested in me. Today, Kiel called me. We talked for about three minutes. Then, all of a sudden, some very angry girl in the background yelled, "HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND!!!!!!" (The chick DID NOT mean that I was his gilfriend, she meant that someone else was.) There was silence for a couple of seconds and Kiel said madly to the girl, "NO I DON'T!!!" Then the girl sounded even madder and told him, "F**k you!" Then some other background noise went on. After that, Kiel said, "Can I call you back?" I said, "Yeah," in a what-the-hell-is going on tone. Then I told him bye (a little nicer) and hung up. Then, a few minutes ago, my phone rang once, then stopped. Maybe he accidentally hit redial.

Then the SAME girl that was yelling at Kiel called me from a different phone number. Here's our conversation:
Me: Hello?
The Mystery Girl: Who is this?
Me: Sarah.
The Mystery Girl: Don't call Kiel. He has a girlfriend.
Me: He does?
The Mystery Girl: Yeah. Do you know him from work or what?
Me: Yeah.
The Mystery Girl: Don't call him. He's f**king stupid. He has a girlfriend.
Me: Ok. Bye.

What should I do? I want to find out the truth. I really like Kiel, but of course I don't want to be with him if he has a girlfriend. What would you do in this situation?

well ask him and be like.. if you have a girlfriend then don't talk to me the way that you have been because I don't like cheating liers .... and if he says that he really doesn't have a girlfriend then still be suspicious... but be a little easier on him

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my arm has been hurting for the past week like by the socket...idk what i should do... it hurts sometimes but not all the time... i told my mom and she wont do anything about it. anyone know what might be the cause?

well there are many different things, you could have pulled a muscle, dislocated it, broke your shoulder bone... lol you should go get a look at it

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First off, I am a girl, and I am dating another girl. Now on to the problem. Ive been dating Molly almost 11 months now. A few months ago, things got really rocky between us, so we took a short break, and things got alot better, and we didnt fight or anything. Now, about 2-3 weeks ago, she, just out of the blue, says she wants a break, a longer one, and when I asked why, she said she didn't know how she felt anymore. She says she is starting to fall out of love with me, and that she needed space so she could work it out. It was really hard for me, at first, but now I am getting better. Now the thing is, she is sending mixed signals. Sometimes it seems like things may be getting better, others, not so much. She even tells me that I can 'do stuff' with other girls, should I choose to (I dont want to) and then when I hang out with someone that something could potentialy happen with, I think she gets kinda jelouse (but I'm not sure if I am reading signals wrong). Now I have 2 questions: The whole doing stuff with other people. Is she testing me? Or possibly she wants to not feel so guilty if things dont work? And my second question is, How long should I wait for her? Our one year is January 20th. Im only 17, I have invested a year of my life into our relationship, I am not ready to give up yet. What can I do?

well talk to her one on one explaining your feelings to her so that she understands that you still want to be with her...

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me and my boyfriend have been together for quite some time ((3 months)) and we have known each other since he was 15! he is 19 now & im 15... my parents think he is 16 and i hate lying to them but i love him and i want to be with him... how bad does this make me??

well... I think that it is kind of wrong just because... 4 years is a big difference when you're during ur adolescence years...

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hello! me and my boyfriend have dated for 3 months and then we broke up. But know we started dating again. And know he is different, he wont touch me i always have to grab him. like grab his hand if i want to hold it. what should i do?

tell him that you want to have the same experience as you did last time in your relationship..

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hey I need help. I'm 13 and my friend likes this guy I like and we were best buds now I hate her. She thinks she should be the only one to have a boyfriend and she thinks i'm to shy to talk to him. HELP!!! ps i'm a girl LOL

... well talk to her and talk to him... I mean there isn't much of anything else you can do...

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16/f.... this may be a stupid question, but what are those people called that you talk to about your problems and you tell them everything and then they give you advice and everything is confidential. They do it for a living. Nothing SERIOUS is going on in my life (ex. I'm not pregnant, I don't go drugs, I'm not a lesbian, etc.), but I feel like I can't talk to my parents (about guys or whatever) I never have and I probably never will. I'm an only child and I've been the center of their lives for 16 years and I hate it. I always have...I wish I can share the spotlight with someone, but thats not going to happen. Sometimes I wish they didn't care about me AS MUCH as they do. I feel like I need to go see one of those people because I've kept so much inside of me all my life and now I think I need to deal with a professional who can help me. And I'm afraid of a lot of things (I always have visions of disturbing things in my head, but thats a different story). How can I tell my parents I need one of those people without hurting them?

well, just explain to them that you don't always like being the center of attention and that you think that you need to see a shrink to get your feelings out..

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me and my boyfriend of 5 months dont go to the same school but we see eachother ALOT i love him to death and everything is perfect with him except that im always the one who has to go to see him...i go over there every wednesday and mostly on the wekeends....SOMETIMES he comes to the mall which is close 2 my house....he never has a ride and stuff...but my mom is like oh he has to come over here before i let you go back to his house because he never comes over here and i always hav to take you over there.....what can i do? he cant take the bus or drive or nothing but its not fair to me...

well maybe you can go and pick him up and then come back?? lol i dunno.. maybe you could just ask him to ask his friends to give him a ride back to your house

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Hi. OK, Some nights i get these staining feelings in my calf (i think it might be called a 'charly-horse' but im not sure) anyway i get them every once in a while like if i work out that day and i didnt stretch enough...but i havent worked out in like a week and i have been getting them a lot more than usual...i dont know why...they hurt so but, it feels like someone is trying to pull my muscle out, like i have to get up and stand on it or sqeeze it really hard for it to stop and there is still an after feeling and it even goes on till the next day....does anyone know what this is, and how i can stop them and how to make them feel better when they come....thanks!

hmmm well it's possible that your muscle could be unaligned... and so it's trying to reconfigure itself... it could also mean that you are growing.. maybe you should start stretching every morning also... if this goes on for a long time you should go see a doctor

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Hello everyone! My class is writing letters to men and women over seas who will not be coming home for Christmas. Except in your letter you cannot talk in offense to President Bush or opposing the war. I really do not see a reason why war should be mentioned in the letter. I'm anti-war but it does not matter. The fact is that these men and women will not be home for Christmas and that is depressing. I am an okay writter and I write decent letters. I really thought it would be eassier but I found myself making a million drafts, not being sure what to write in the letter. I will not know who will receive the letter... it is in general. If anybody has any ideas on what would be something to write in the letter please, please help me. Besides wishing them a Happy Christmas and Merry New Year. Thank you very much for your time and consideration!

well, just basically say that Thank you for serving our country, and I hope that your family is just as proud of you as I am. ( even though you oppose war you should just mention things besides the war) for instance you can be like Merry Christmas, you are the reason why we in America can have christmas because without you we wouldn't be here... or some kind of cheezy thing like that.. hope it helped =D

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ok im a girl who is a junior in high school and i have this friend who is a guy whos a freshmen in college....we'll call him mark...and we are really close, like almost like we're brother/sister...and like we talk about like people we like and everything like that and sometimes i seem to get annoyed because hes in college about 600 miles from where i live(he lives in the same city as me when hes not in college) and the girl he likes is in the city that im in right now. the reason i am getting annoyed is cuz he doesnt want to get over this girl even though there are girls at his college that he says he can see himself dating but he doesnt want to get over the other girl. what should i do?

well... just let him go out with that girl.. if he likes her and she likes him then what's wrong with that?

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What do you do when your best friend is kind of blowing you off and when you aren't hanging out anymore. I miss her and don't want to let go.

well... then try and corner her and talk to her so that you can work things out..

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wht do you do when you go to a school dance and your frined gets asked out but you dont. I just have a question because on the same night of the dance i see my ex-boyfriend slow dancing with this really mean girl lets call her marissa and he deserves so much better.I still have huge feeling for my ex and i just felt so depressed after that. i will rate a 5 for anyone who gives me good advice.,

well for the first question.. i'd say there's nothing wrong with your friend getting asked out and you don't... and as for your ex well.. since you broke up with him let him experience a bad gf... maybe then he'll want to get back with you

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well every year i have a choice if i want to go to tennessee for christmas to visit my family. its my one chance to go 2 states away.... to get away from all my problems and to really just think. but i would be gone for 2 weeks, including christmas and new years. the problem is.... i dont want to leave my boyfriend. i love him and i have never spent new years eve with a guy and i want to spend it with him. i want to start out the new year with him. hes having a new years eve party too...and his family is having a christmas eve party and everyone brings their gfs and bfs and he wants me to go, but i cant if im in tennessee. i cant choose to go or stay. he is telling me to go so i can think and have time to myself and get away from all my problems for a while. but i would miss him SOOOO much and i dont know if i should go or stay.... what should i do?

well why don't you ask him if he can go to your christmas party instead of you having to go to his?

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if you had the opportunity to have sex with someone you weren't dating but have hooked up with a lot over the past few months would you? i guess im just wondering because everyone says sex is supposed to be a "special" thing you share with someone you love. I think i'm ready but i'm not even dating the guy let alone love him-so if i think he is the right guy to have sex with is he worth the risk? My friend told me, "if you like him don't do it, if you don't like him then go for it"

also on a side note-if you were my friend would you lose respect for me if i made the decision to have sex?

thanks a lot yall :)

lol wow... your friend obviously... has that wrong... you want to have sex with someone that you like because it means that you guys share a special bond that no one else has... and yeah I probably would considering your age... i mean you think you're ready but you're not... because a lot of things can go wrong.. such as STDS and pregnancy... you definitly won't be able to handle that if it happens...

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ok i am an awesome bball player but i get nervous when boys come and watch me play.. im afraid they will laugh if i miss a sot or somthin....what should i do...help me and FAST

well just ignore them... I mean there isn't really much I can say... maybe look for one person that you like in the crowd and make sure that he's always looking at you.. or maybe get your friends to go to the games so that they can cheer u on!

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my friend and i both like the asme guy (my ex bf) and i know i could get him but she'd be devastated.. but i really miss him and i want to be with him but i dont want her to be hurt.. :-/ advice would be nice

let her go out with him... and apparently there is a reason why you broke up with him... so keep that in mind and probably try and go for someone else

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