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does age matter cause im 13 almost 14 n i like a 17 year old n a 18 year old n my friend is bout ready to get me n the 18 year old out..plz help me

When girls are your age they always like older boys, because they can drive and stuff, the truth is that the older boys most of the time really arent wantin a relationship if you know what i mean, so let him know where you stand on that part of the relationship and as far as your question age doesnt matter, its about how you feel when your with that person that makes a diference! Good Luck! :*:SaRa:*:

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ok well I have my hair maybe a little above my shoulders and my hair when it dries it dries in like screwed up wavys one side all nice the on f**ked up and I need help school start september 7th and I'm going to my first year of high school I need a look that will make me look great and I'm a lil chubby in the face so I don't know what I can do ne suggestions?? plz help I really need it...I usually don't blow dry but I tried it once and my hair was poofy...lol..help me..

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Ok i have totally been in this situation, i have naturally curly hair and when i was littler my mom would always make me cut it and so it was really thick and short and my face was chubby lol so heres the thing, what to do: Blow dry your hair with a round brush and use some straightening gel..i like Vo5 straightening gel, it works really good..like on my pic on my page at Advicenators...its really str8 and it looks like its suppost to be but in reality my hair is spiral curlz like a mother! Ok anyways so take my advice and also you can use a straightening iron! Good luck in High School...Its not that bad! :*:SaRa:*:

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AHH my dad treats me like I'm 5!! I mean I can't do alot of things by my self..I can't wear tank-tops in front of him...He thinks I can't take care of the dog because I'm too young? HELLLO I'm 13!! I'm a freshmen..at this age it's really hard to keep high grades..yet I still have to keep my grades above 95? Plus I'm alot more mature then a 13 year old..because like ALL my friends are 14-15..and he expects me to do alllll this work and stuff..and when I get hurt he thinks it doesn't hurt at all..but he still treats me like Im SO little!!! I swear he talks to me like Im 5...gR I've tried talking to him...but it doesn't work? What should I do?

Why dont you prove to him that your responsible, you cant really hold down a job at 13, you have to be 15 or 16 before you can start working, Take care of the dog, You are still kinda young but you need to let your dad know that you can be mature and just talk to him about it, tell him hes bein to hard on you, but you know if you were so grown up maybe you could realize that he just cares about you, and you are growin up! Thats hard on parents! Good Luck! :*:SaRa:*:

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I'm 13/f with long blonde hair. I'm getting my hair highlighted (a lighter blonde) in a few days and i was just wondering is it really really bad for your hair? Can highlighting it do permenant damage? I'm not sure if i still want it highlighted if it's gunna ruin my hair.

Well ive gotten my hair highlighted before and its the same as dying your hair/perming/bleaching and my aunt is a hair dresser and do you know that "brushing" instead of using a pick/comb isint good for your hair,the shampoo you use may not be good either, there are so many thing that you dont think about, i dont think that its gonna ruin your hair unless the beautician doesnt know what the heck shes doin, ppl get it done everyday, im sure youll be fine! no worries and happy highlighting! :*:SaRa:*:

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hi ppl . ok well heres my problem . im not bragging or nethng but i think im pretty & hav a good personality but my one thing is , i hav NEVER had a boyfriend . and im 14 . its bothering me b/c all of my friends can get them , and i cant . i talk to guys all the time and im being myself , but it isnt working . nothing is working . i dono what to do nemore . any tips

Well your 14...its not really time for a boyfriend...Dont worry about it, i believe that there is someone for everyone and when your time comes it will be well worth the wait! :*:SaRa:*:

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me and my ex boyfriend were one of those couples where we were exact opposites. he was kind of "Wigger-ish" and i was moare "Skater". he would even call me a skater .. and then he'd say how much he hates them. it always affended me so he would add "Except for you" but it didnt make much of a difference. when he found out my favorite color was orange, he got all weird like "Holy fuck, you're only supposed to like black". who the hell tells their girlfriend, let alone anyone .. what colors they can like? it really pissed me off, and we broke up later that night for other reasons, and he just moved here over the summer (thats how i met him). now hes going to my school where no one knows him, and he's going to be in most of my classes. i really liked him even though we were different. and im shy around guys so i probably wont talk to him. what should i do if i want to be with him again, but keep him from treating me like shit?

Aww i feel really bad for you! I would hate for my EX to go to my school, especially when i still liked him, tell him how you feel, tell him that he hurts your feelings when he tried to stereotype you and maybe all this can be resolved! Keep my updated :*:SaRa:*:

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Whats like the maximum age difference thats considered normal??

Well i dont think it has anything to do with age, its about love and butterflies and all that grand stuff! :*:SaRa:*:

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Me n my bfz 1 year iz in october but so iz his birthday so im tryna start to save up sum money to get him sumtin but i dont only wanna get him sumtin i wanna like make him sumtin really nice and cute n e ideas?!?!?!?!??!



hmmm....

What about a picture frame? Or maybe like a scrapbook! Hmm guys are alot different from girls and they dont want stuff like us girls do, they dont care that were thinkin about them 24/7 so my advice, buy him something but make him a card just so hell know your heart was in the right place! Tell him happy B~day for me! :*:SaRa:*:

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I just got a curling iron with a spiral around it and i dont know how to use it! can someone help me? whenever i try to get my hair around it it goes over the spiral not like between it! help me please!

omg i feel ya on this one! i hate those the ones with the spiral thing! i dont use one bc my hair is naturally curly but my friend had a mary kate n ashley one like that and it doesnt curl...it makes waves you know like their hair, so forget that the thing is there and curl it like you normally would...
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hey yall i need some help (16/f/single) well i was with my bff yesterday..and we invited over her bf and his friend who i kinda like!..well my friend and her bf were makign out...and i was talking too the other guy and well he put his hand on my leg no big deal then he was rubbing it you know it was comfortable..well i told him i liked him and he said he liked me! it was great lol then he fingered me...while we were making out...then he asked me out i said ya...then i ono what came over me i took his hand and wa\lked upstairs and we had sex..greaaaat sex...i was on the pill anyways and we used a condom...but am i a slut and was that a bad thing?? im not pregnant or anything...sry that was long..please tell me! PLEASE DONT DELETE THIS IS IMPORTANT TOO ME!!!

Ok here it goes from my point of view!First of all 16? and not in a relationship? Im not gonna judge you but since you asked, im not your mom or anything but its not something i would have done. How long do you think youll stay with this guy? Did it mean anything?to him? Well im glad your on the pill...thats prob a good thing! Its your life....:*:SaRa:*:

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hello..im working on my profile and i need a good website that has scroll bars...cursers...the lines thru the page...pop ups...music codes...welcome sign...and n e thing else wuld help! thanx send as many websites as u can i will rate high!thanx

Yeah im your gurl! Here are some of my personal favorites! http://www.coloryourprofyle.com/webpage/coolpage.html
http://www.thuggndivazdollz.com/
http://clix.to/enchantedillusions
Hope I helped if you need more lemme know!
:*:SaRa:*:

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ok! last night my friend had a sleepover nd' there were guys and we all slept in the tent outside and i we were all like smushed together with not alot of room and this one really cute guy was layin next to me and when i went inside with *c* whos sleepover it was to change...everyone that was outside told that guy i was layin next to to do stuff with me like they even told him step by step n shit. and i didnt know that till later and then all of a suden he was up my shirt and we were layin closer and huggin and stuff. i didnt do nething with/to him tho. I really do like him but im 14 and hes 16 gunna be 17 in 6 months so idk if thats ok and should i be mad at my friends for setting that all up or not?

Well first of all i think you need to find new friends! Joke or not, yea id be a little upset! You should talk to him about it and see if the only reason he was tryin to mess with you is because he thought you were "willing", or find out if he really likes you! keep my updated :*:SaRa:*:

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What do you do when you are in love with a guy but your parents forbid you to see him. im almost 18 and im having to sneek around at my best friends house just to see him. i cant even talk to him at school without getting in trouble. we have been together before and we want to be back together for good. we were together for 10 months. what do i do.

Well your parents must have good reasons for sayin this but should i remind you that when your 18 your life is finally yours and you can do whatever you want! Ive never had this problem before but follow your heart and talk your parents and make then understand how you feel, ill bet they listen! Wish you the best! :*:SaRa:*:

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well i was dating this guy for a while...then things kind of fell apart between us. nothing bad really...he was really busy with work and we kind of just drifted. anyway we just started talking again and he explained everything he was thinking and all that. but while we talked i never really got to say everything i wanted or ask him what the deal is with us. i talked to him online tonight and i had to leave but i thought we would talk when i got back. but he hasn't come back online, and i know he's really busy so i dont want to bug him on the phone. so my question is, should i email him...say what i have to and ask him where things stand, or should i just wait until i talk to him again? i'd appreciate any advice...i really dont know what i should do!

If i were you, i would write him! The worst thing that could happen is him not reply and then at least you can say you tried! :*:SaRa:*:

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ok, i really like this guy. he is always at the pool and we always flirt. i started to really like him, alot. and i thought 4 sure he liked me. my friend always goes to the pool wit me. so 2day when i was doin a lap, my bro's friend came up to my BF and said, Chris wants to no if youll accompony him at the movies. chris is the boy i like. my friend said no. it turns out chris has been likin my friend 4 a while. i still like him but did my friend say no cuz she nos i like him? how can i steal him back?

Thats a really good friend you have there! Obviously your friendship means enough to her that she wouldnt do that to you, so you dont have to steal him back bc she doesnt want him, and you know what this goes for you and him, you cant make someone like you that dont, it doesnt happen that way, just be yourself, talk to him and if hes flirtin then theres still a chance! happy hunting! :*:SaRa:*:

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My Friend Recently Got Dumped By "The Love OF Her Life" She Thinks That It's Her Fault. And If She Can't Have Him Then Her Lifes Worthless. And She Refuses To Eat. She Hasn't Ate In 4 Days. Does Anyone Know A Way I Can Try To Get Her To Eat Again? It's Killing Me. I Really Really Need Your Help Really Soon.

Sincerely,
A Concerned Person...Aka Steph

~Steph~
I was in a 4 year relationship with the so called love of my life and it didnt work out, but listen very closely to what im gonna say, everyone falls in love once but not everyone falls in love twice! I did, i went out there and met new ppl, and i found the person that i know im suppost to be with...Tell your friend that if it dont work out, it wasnt meant to be, i know its hard, ive been there and believe me it gets easier! They might even get back together! :*:SaRa:*:

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MY AUNT married this boys DAD so I guess you could say we are cousins? But not full blood? Well its the weirdest thing because I sorta do like him, and it's just a different feeling, and I know or like can tell that he sorta likes me too, but its sorta weird so we haven't said anything to each other, but does that make us cousins? If his dad married my aunt ??/ thanks!!!

Well step cousins technically, but not by blood so i mean your kids wouldnt have like 3 feet or anything, but family reunions might be weird, If you like him tell him, talk about it, maybe theres something there, as long as hes in the family make him family lol! i prob wouldnt do it but why not? go for it! :*:SaRa:*:

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i am looking for a curly wet look or something else that looks cool with out using any products and i have dirty blonde hair if that helps thankz

Theres no way to give your curly hair the "wet look" without using styling products! Believe me ive had naturally curly hair all my life and at the age of 16 im just now gettin control of it! I suggest to PICK not COMB through your hair when your in the shower, always use conditioner and then towl dry! Hope everything works out! :*:SaRa:*:

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does any one no how to get rid of acne and pimples FAST like about . in one day or two lol

Ok i have this one under control! I used to have really bad pimples like major! I still have like one or two occasionally but wash your face with DOVE soap, then dry your face and use plain ole alchohol! and Clearasil Vanishing Cream works too! :*:SaRa:*:

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I'm in love with a guy I never even met but I talk to him on MSN and he's so sweet and everything he lives like 10 hours away and I don't know I live in Ontario he lives in Calgary and I'm so in love I can't help my self he's sweet and like yeah feels like I know him it's been 2 years almost since I first met him on Chat Rooms...ne suggestions?...and why do I always fall for the guys I never met and never will?

Ok well im not gonna slam you for this because my aunt met this guy on the net and it turns out her wasnt a killer, he was a 1/2 way ok man and they were married and still goin strong! It depends on how old you are whether you can see him or not! After 2 years im sure you know him and if youve been honest with him about everything mostly your age, then it sounds like you could have a good thing goin! Im not sure why you fall for guys youve never met, guess youll have to figure that one out on your own! :*:SaRa:*:

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