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I'm just some girl. I don't really stand out much unless I'm on a stage. I'm not loud unless I get angry. And I don't love unless its proven to me first. I've been hurt almost beyond repair by people I've loved and trusted. But I can only grow from that. I live my life by my own accord. I love my parents more than anything, they have given me an amazing home to grow up in, someplace I want to come back to. I have a boyfriend who has been my best friend for a long time, he's helped me get through a lot. We've been each other's rock when times got hard.

I have my dreams and aspirations, and while some may not come true... the most important things is to know I've tried my hardest. I trust my intuition more than I trust any living person. My gut has never failed me, but unfortunately, I have failed it.

Someone once told me that I don't live in the "real world", that I live in a box - fortunately for that person, they never lived my life. My life is real to me, and me alone. I've been through a lot... I've been hurt, I've laughed.. I've seen life, and death... tears of sadness and tears of joy. I've felt every emotion known to man. Hatred, Love, Sadness, Joy, Ultimate Bliss, Anger.. So don't judge me until you actually get to know me. There's more to me than just about anyone knows. Even my closest of friends.

I'm the "Dear Abby" of all of my friends.

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im 14 years old i havent had my first kiss yet or a b/f yet and im starting to fell like im to fat and ugly and ill never find anyone what should i do about this?

I didn't get my first kiss until I was 15 years old and a freshman in high school. Believe me, the wait is worth it.

I am a 15 yr old who plays sports but i got injured (i fractured a vertebra in my lower back) ne ways i had to sit out for over a month i could not work out... Just a simple yes or no is 5'9" and 140 fat or not ?

No

Well me and my friends are going out tommrow in hte woods to drink i drink alot but not so often so that isnt the big deal i guess but see im only in middle school and theyre bring chronic so they can try it and I REEEEELLYYY I WANNA TRY IT TO jsut to see what it is like you know?but trust me i do not think im going to get addicted to it what should i do tho?

Why would you even WANT to know what that feels like? Can't you get that high off of normal life? Drinking underage (especially in middle school) is not a good thing and its nothing to brag about either. I don't see why you would want to potentially screw up your body in order to try something that will only hurt you. And what if you LIKE IT? Then what will you do? This is not the best decision in the world, and my advice to you is, don't do it...

does anyone know some good stores for back to school shopping??????!!!!

Filenes, Rave, Hot Topic, American Eagle, Wet Seal, Rampage... etc.

ok so my one friend (lets call him shawn) had just broke up wit my friend (lets call her lucy). and lucy was realli upset. well one night i was on the phone with shawn for hours and i asked him who he liked now that he dumped lucy. he told me clues that led up to me! i was kinda excited but i needed to talk to lucy about it before ne thing happened. well i did and she said it was all good. then that same night shawn and i 3 wayed lucy on the phone. we were talking but once i got off i guess shawn asked lucy out again. now i am jelous of lucy and i have feelings for shawn. what should i do? i dont wanna tell lucy because i dont want her to get mad at me. PLEASE HELP! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!

You have EVERY right to tell *Lucy how you feel. She went against what she told you. It may not have been malicious, but as a friend, she should be able to listen to you talk to her about it. I say talk to them BOTH about it. It will help.

do you consider ppl with dirty blonde hair as blondes or brunettes?? cuz ppl joke that i'm blonde when i say dumb things, but i really don't think i'm blonde!!!! lol

I consider them dirty blonde... hehe. Always expect a blonde joke if you even have the tiniest hint of blonde in your hair. I get them all the time, and I am a brunette with a TINY bit of blonde.

hey im 13 nd me nd my boy friend recently spilt but i still like him nd i just found out that he still likes me to but i dont no wat to do cuz my best (guy) friend likes me now nd my ex nd him are really great friends nd they both asked me out tonite nd i said i have to think about it to both of them wat do i do!! thanks in advance!

My advice is since you said you RECENTLY broke up, I think you should stay single for a while and enjoy life that way. And you can also figure out for yourself (without any rush) which boy you want to be with more and who makes you happier.
I hope this helped. Send me one if you need anything else.

hey i have these new black adn pink sneakers theyre mainly black but i was jus wonderin wut could i wear wit it cuz like i personally think it looks weird if im wearing shorts with it or a skirt with it i feel like i should b wearing pants with it all the tym... wut do u guys think?

(they sound like a pair of Converse I saw at the mall yesterday) Well, if they are a cute pair of shoes, you can probably wear them with anything. A cute and casual skirt, or capris, or jeans. Or whatever. Whatever looks best to you.

OKay my ex boyfriend n i were in love for a total of 8 months we talked about our kids n how we wanted to get married n stuff.. but now he dumped me and after 2 weeks he has a new girlfriend [[my bestfriend]] she promised me that she would not go out with him and now she backstabbed me n went out with him! Im totally not over him and i dont know what to do.. i still love him so much.. but he doesn't care about me.. [[if u have advice]] tell me cause i rate high!He also tells me he hates me n doesn't care about me.. idk what to do!
-In love-

This is a really hard thing to give advice to because its a horrible thing to go through. Your ex-boyfriend was very insensitive to get a new girlfriend 2 weeks after your breakup, NOT TO MENTION, it being your best friend. Maybe if you had been broken up a few months or something, it would have been easier to deal with them both as a couple. But right now, it probably hurts like hell. You've unfortunately gotten the raw end of this deal, and you can't really do anything to change it. I wish I could tell you that there was a miracle cure to this heart break, however, my only advice is to hang in there, and decide for yourself how true your best friend really is to you. Talk to her about it. Her motives probably weren't malicious, however, she had really bad timing. I think you should turn to your other friends for moral support and just get out of your house and get your mind off of things. Go to the park, the mall, or the movies and keep yourself busy for a little while.
As for your ex telling you how much he hates you... think of this as a blessing in disguise (if possible) he's treating you like crap right now, thankfully after you broke up. Imagine how hard it would have been for him to say these horrible things to you if you were going out with him. He isn't worth your time. Don't forget the good times you had with him, however, try to remember that you CAN have good times WITHOUT him.
Hang in there, sweetheart. You have me rooting for you to pull through. Send me a message if you need anything else.

ok im 13, 5'4, and 97 lbs and a high matabalizm. my friends say im skinny, and i agree but sometimes i think im too skinny.. when im at school people make fun of me bcuz they think im anorexic but im not. i try to gain a few pounds but the more i try to gain, the more i lose. can you help me please! thx *Marielle*

You and I are unfortunately in the same situation. My weight goes throughout 95-100 off and on. I dance and my metabolism is extremely high. What I do to help me keep my weight on is I drink Ensure. This drink is high in protein and it keeps your body from losing a lot of needed nutrients for the day. It works (AND it tastes good.) Other than that, I haven't found any "cure" but if you find one let me know. =) Hope this helped.

Ok, well i have this friend who always tells rumers about me! i hate it and i always tell her how i feel, but everytime i tell her she goes and tells another rumer! what should i do?! help me please!
signed.
Losing a friend?

A friend isn't someone who is one way to your face, and then another way when you aren't looking. Friends don't talk s*** about each other (sorry to be so... blunt about it.) She is NOT a true friend if she makes you feel so badly about yourself. She should be the one who stands up for you when OTHER PEOPLE tell rumours, not the person who STARTS them... The way this supposed friend is treating you is the way my ex-best female friend treated me a while back. She was the best friend I could ask for and then suddenly out of the blue she started saying horrible things to me to another one of our mutual friends. But I gave her a second chance, and then she started it all up again and hurt me. You don't deserve to hurt like this. Take this from someone who KNOWS what it feels like.

Hang in there and keep your head held high. You deserve a friend who will treat you like gold and be honest WITH YOU and not about you to other people.
If you have any more questions, leave them in my inbox hun.

me and my boyfriend have been going on out for 9 months now, and we recently broke it off for about 2 weeks and i had the time of my life..but we got back together because i know i love him and dont want to be without him..but the fun i was having was gone..now hes been gone for 2 weeks and once again ive been back to having tons of fun..idk what does this mean? what should i do..

I think that this means you should take a break from your boyfriend. If you feel like you are happier and having more fun when he ISN'T around, then MAYBE, just maybe the relationship thing isn't working for you right now. Do what makes you happy. I don't know what you meant by you "had the time of your life." But if you can't still have that "happy time" while you are with your boyfriend, then you shouldn't push yourself to hold a relationship. You MAY love him, however, some things you have to do for yourself. Trust me on this (the part about doing things for yourself.) I know from experience that you should act on your instincts and your brain, not JUST with your heart. Try to figure out a way to have both the happiness and your boyfriend, because it seems to me like you care about him a lot, its just that you aren't too sure of things right now. Think about what YOU need first, not what everyone else's reaction might be.

I hope this helped. If you have anymore questions, please feel free to ask them, because I am always here to help. Let me know how things turn out.

hi im a cheerleader and i havent had a bf i wunt 1 how do i get 1 to lyk me and wut do bf and gf do in the muvies??/

I'm gonna ask a quick question first... What does being a cheerleader have to do with not having a boyfriend? Moving on, I don't think you should have to DO anything to get someone to like you. If you're yourself and not pushing yourself to change in order to impress someone, then things should work out well. And finally, a boyfriend and girlfriend don't have a set agenda when they go to the movies. When I got to the movies with any of my previous boyfriends, we watched the movie and kissed here and there. A movie theater isn't the right place to do anything else (at least in my opinion).

i've been going out with a guy for over five months, and i think he wants to but he hasnt tried to kiss me... how do i let him noe im ready?

I say, just go right in for the "kill" and lay one on him. That will surprise everything out of him. =)

Should i have sex wid my bf for like our 1 year anniversary i mean it would be a nice present!! and i dunno ppl say im to young (i will be 14) but i kno pplz who r younger than me and have already done it i mean its not like he iz juss some guy he iz the love of my life and he means the world to me and i feel that im comfortable to have sex wid him but should i wait till im like 16 or juss do wat i feel iz right?!?!? thanx

-x- unknown -x-

I think that if you need to ask other people if you should have sex with someone as a gift, then I don't believe that you are ready. My advice is to wait until YOU feel you're ready.

I started a LiveJournal, but I need a cool layout for it. Where can I find some or how can I make my own? And once I have one, how do I put it into my livejournal?

It all depends on what style you have. I have an S1 style (which is easier to do overrides and such on because it just makes things quicker). Once you make sure you have the S1 style, you can pick whatever layout you want (I have generator.) After that, you get to go to the personal touches, which are called Overrides. you will see at the bottom of your Modify Page a box to put the override codes, to find these codes, search all throughout livejournal to find the ones that fit what you want your journal to look like. The user I got most of my codes from is HOWTO (that is the persons username). That journal is FILLED (and I mean stock-piled high) with overrides.) I hope this helped. Good luck!!!!

Ok i am 5'9" tall got brown hair and brown eyes and i aint fat but i aint like realli skinny. anyways i am 13 yrs old (almost 14) and i get alot of attention from guys when i am in a confident mood. but even when i look realli cute sometimes but i am not confident it seems like they dont pay attention to me. Do guys like when girls are confident in themselfs? Are guys more attracted to girls when they are confident? PLEASE HELP!

Guys LOVE a girl who is confident with herself and can carry herself well. Guys don't want to be with a girl who they have to constantly tell they are beautiful or perfect or whatever (as girls don't want to be with a guy that way.) But keep in mind, confident and conceited are two different things that have a very thin crossing line between them. Be careful when treading into that territory.

I hope this helped. Please feel free to leave me any questions in my inbox if you need to.

i just moved to newton, MA, and i found out that a girl my age lives next door(im a guy). i havent seen her or met, and how could i go about doing so?

I would go over and introduce myself and say "Hello, my name is (insert name here) and I just moved here from (insert place here)." and then maybe you could ask her to introduce you to people your age or something and you could get to know her that way.

I just started peasants quest from homestarrunner.com... and all ive gotten is going to the lady with the baby's house and the archers place. only 2 points out of 150. does anyone know what to do?
THaNKS!
ps-I RATE....wELL!

you can eat the womans food, or take the bag (its the same thing)

how far should you go with a guy at age 13...and don't say "however far you wanna go"--thanks

I think at thirteen, the most you should be doing is kissing. There is plenty of time to do that other stuff when you are older, believe me. At thirteen, I don't believe you should have a serious/sexual relationship.

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