I smile,laugh,love,and live in the moment. I don't think lifes worth wasteing on a boring day. I am happy and with who I am. lifes about friends who hold on to you,the people who you love and return it. I don't believe in changing for anyone, i can say that everything happens for a reason and if its not a good ending,then its not over. I Love music, and interested in anything to do with style,makeup,and fashion. I also love heroes, south park, and family guy :]. I'm done with the fake people,i've basically dropped all who never cared. and i'm actually happy,i feel so much better ! I've been through it,the friends,family,and the whole finding yourself. And i think Marylous Coffee is bomb.I have the most amazing friends; and i'm so lucky to have those crazy bitches >:}.I'm obbsessed with Harry Potter
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My boyfriend of 3 years, "Dave" and I have recently moved into an apartment with his friend, "Bob" and Bob's girlfriend, "April".
Bob has to go to basic training for 4 months so it is only Dave and I plus April.
I have to house sit for my grandparents for a week while they are on vacation and am over an hour away from the apartment so I'm nervous leaving Dave and April alone.
I trust him, but I came over to visit yesterday and walked in the room and he was on the computer in our room (he had no shirt on and pj bottoms) while she was on the bed watching him.
I don't know her that well and it freaked me out that a stranger is in our room with my personal stuff and on my bed with my boyfriend, alone.
What I want to know is am I over reacting and should I ask him not to have her in there alone or is that too controlling?
What would you think about this?
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first of all i agree with everyone who's posted on here, i just wanted to add a little thing ,
If your intuition is telling out somethings not right, then listen to it, because you're probably right. And if she was on his bed already, it probably means they have been talking,because i doubt a guy would very much feel comfortable with a girl on his bed while he's half naked unless they've already been doing some kind of talking. i don't know,just seems really fishy. or maybe they're just close friends, but it's just- you can never trust girls your not fimiliar with! so what i would do, and this isn't just for the week you'll be away,but for the remainding four months and so on- is to become her really good friend. most friends know their limits with each others men, and if you get on her good side she'll actually care about your feelings and probably open up to you. it could work to your advantage, just make sure she's not being sneaky by playing the fake friend card to try to trick you into thinking she wouldn't do anything with your boy.ugh, that's always just dandy right?
anyways,
why can't your boyfriend house sit with you ?
i agree, you could go there at night- maybe the second night you house sit. if it were me i'd show up unexpectedly. i know you trust your boyfriend, but its mainly this girl.
you have every right to be suspicious! i think your boyfriend should know his boundries enough to not even allow another girl on his bed aside from you (unless you were in the room with them before).
all in all if you're suspicious i wouldn't take any chances, make sure they stay away from eachother but not in a controlling way. good luck and i hope things work out for you
xkisakissx
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What are your top 5 favorite songs? I'm looking for new music to try :) (link)
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sidenote:*i put a LOT more than 5 incase you didn't like a citain type of music,and they're all awesome songs :P.as you can see im pretty much all over the place when it comes to music, but who wants to limit themselves to one genre anyways?! hope you like~*!
+Anthem for the Underdog- 12 stones :D !(so inspiring ahah)
+Take a picture - Filter
+Disco Stick - Lady Gaga(you probably already know this one ~*)
+Life Styles Of The Rich And The Famous - Good Charlotte
+These Walls - Teddy Geiger
+Blue - Eifel 65 ;)
+Cupid Shuffle- Cupid
+Just The Girl - Click 5
+Something like that - Tim Mcgraw
+Sirens - Angels and Airwaves
+You make my dreams come true- Halls and Oats
+Switch- Will Smith
+All Star- Smashmouth
+School of Hard Knocks - P.O.D
+Hotel California - The Eagles
+Call on me - Eric Prydz
+Where is the love - BEP
+I'm Still Fly - Page ft. Drake
+I love you - Tila Tequila
+My life - Lil wayne
+Long Time - Boston
+Don't Stop - Fleetwood Mac
+Best I Ever Had - Drake
+Love Like This - Natasha Beddingfeild
+Theres Nothin' - Sean Kingston
+Stop Drop Roll - LAX
+Pimpin all over the world - Ludacris
+Can't Hold Us Down - Christina Aguilera
+Grind On Me - Pretty Ricky
+Dota - Basshunter
+All I Ever Wanted - Basshunter
+Savior- Rise Against
+Sweetness - Jimmy Eat World
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I have dreams, like, every night, and ones that i quite like (or remember well) are sort of coming true. Like for example, a month or two ago, i had a dream that i saw this really fit guy from my school at the local swimming pool, and then about a week later i actually did see him in the pool.
Another example, that happened i dreamt last week, was that i was sat on my crush's (a different guy) lap. Just yesturday (Mon) i had the perfect opportunity to sit on his lap (although i didn't because it would just be too freaky - it was even the same chair!).
What could it mean? This isn't the only time this has happened, but i can't be bothered to list everything. These are just certain examples.
13/F, Thanks (link)
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you know, call me crazy, but i do believe if you visualize things they can come true(just look at any olympic gold medalist, i'm sure they visualized themselves winning before they even did the event). because if you think about it,where does a dream even come from?(yeah the concience((sp?)) but what causes the concience to think of it in the first place?) in my opinion, dreams are all the possible cirumstances in your life that could be happening-or have already happend,or even will happen.what i mean is,wether in some other alternate universe,some time in the future, i think dreams are all the possible outcomes that could happen in your life. you know, every desition no matter how small effects you. but what happens to the choice you dont make? it still goes on,just in the alternate universe. and thers so many possibilities that its impossible to even imagine!(okay thats my take on the science of it,haha)
anyways, you say you distinctly remember these dreams, you like them- so it could be possible you thinking about them and visualizing them is causing them to come true.and to me, coincidences aren't really coincidences, they happen when you're absentmindedly thinking of something. because if the event wasn't being thought about before in some way, then it wouldn't be a coincidence in the first place. its true,you create your universe. if you focus on something long enough it can happen. you seem to have good focus, which is very good-if you put it to getting what you want! so these dreams probably came true because you focused on them and drew them into your universe.
of course, this could all be mumbo jumbo, maybe they are all just strange moments, but really, theres so many things we don't know in this world that anything is possible.ahh i hope i made some sence,good question! i love answering these! hopefully more good fortune will come your way (=
xkisakissx
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15/f
ive had acne since 5th grade, and trust me it lot to be a hell of a lot worse. finally around last summer it began to clear up a lot, but i still get a good break out here and there.
ive tried proactiv, the 3 piece clean and clear kit, the 3 piece neutrogena kit, and now im usin oxy. but nothin seems to make it go away.
im a really picky eater, not on purpose, but a lot of food makes me near throw up (i try everythin). i usually eat italian food.
what im askin is:
1. what can get rid of redness, a house hold item, really quickly ?
2. whats a reallly good brand of acne wash/medicine that will clear up my face ?
3. whats somethin i can change in my diet or habits that will help it go away ? (link)
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oh man, trust me have i had this problem! see, but with me, i have to change the thing i use on my skin every month. yeah,proactive didn't work well for me either. if you go to your doctor, they could presribe 5-10% benzoyl peroxide for free, usually.i've tried every product at the drugstore, trust me with this hah. the few i've found to work really good for my skin-though yours may be different, everyone's is.-but if you have combination skin((oily t-zone,normal cheeks)) then maybe these will help.
Clearisel Ultra (best stuff i've ever used!)
Noxema (for those days you get sunburns,it cools them down and is good for your skin)
and finaly, Cetaphil (spelling?) -regular cleanser
1.for redness, i use lemon juice. hah, weird but it works for me
2.^up there :D!
3.just for the summer time, since its getting nice out try to eat as much fruit as you can. just think of it as a refreshing snack-try to drink a lot of water. also moisturize your face after being in the sun.
ps: i know most people hate the taste-but if you have any Apple Cider Vinegar in your house, drink a small teaspoon of that a day. it's really strong and tastes horrible,but its so good for you-it cleans EVERYTHING out of your system and has helped me with my acne. I also get hair skin and nail vitamins that work really good, if you have a gnc near your house you can find them there.
hope i helped,good luck :D!
xkisakissx
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i use dove shampoo and conditioner and i wash my hair really well every night and i wake up with greasy hair... is there any type of hair product i can use to make my hair not greasy?? thanks! (link)
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you most likely need a clarifying (sp?) shampoo, alls this really does is just really clean your hair. if you want a salon brand thats really worth buying,you could try paul mitchell. the bottle should say "clarifying" on it. also, washing your hair every night strips it of its natural oils- making it produce twice as much to compensate for the lack of oils in your hair. this makes the roots greasy faster(it also drys your hair further from the roots out more) ,but you can easily regulate this by washing your hair every other day and eventually it wont feel so greasy. i've used dove before and have to agree,my hair was a little greasier than usual as well. maybe this brand is too moisturizing for our heads?! also if your in a hurry and need to get rid of greasy hair- try putting some baby powder in your hands and then moving the little amount into your hair. its not exactly the best thing to do,but it does suck up the grease and make it look nice :).
hope i helped!
xkisakissx
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is there anyway that i can loose some of the fat off my fingers?
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http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070718043124AAvMIOt
hope that has what your looking for,
remember though, if its genetic and you're not over weight they probably won't change anytime soon,sadly. the excersize on that page might be worth a try though! =]good luck
xkisakissx
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16/f
Some guy clicked on me on the 'Are You Interested' app on FB and added me. nbd, its happened before. I'm not really into that type of stuff but I really didn't think much of it. But we started talking and we have a bunch of mutual friends (he lives a town or two over). We've only been talking for a few days but he keeps calling me "beautiful," saying "we're perfect for each other," etc etc. I think he wants to start a relationship & start seeing each other in 'real life' (for lack of a better term) but online dating just seems really weird to me. Like I never use that application and when guys talk to me, I reply but only as a friend, not really flirtatiously. idk I just really don't feel comfortable dating someone I met online, even if I do know that he's a normal kid and not some psychopath. Plus I barely know him - I take relationships really seriously and I'm not going to start dating someone I've had a few conversations with. i might be willing to date him if i got to know him more, but that would probably mean meeting in person, so i'm pretty much contradicting myself, haha.
Should I tell him im not interested in him in that way, or give it a chance?
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i agree with the people below me that it's a little red flag when you don't know someone and they say "your perfect for eachother" Simply,because he'd basing things on looks- he might just be attracted but not care about things like personality- which is deffinatly a factor for people like you and i who would rather have serious relationships than just flings. It could also signal he's clingy. If you know of the person,or the people you know, know him then it's not like he's a fake person who's really a creepy 40 year old. He could just not know how to ask a girl out :p! But to be safe i'd ask around to see who this guy is, what he's all about. If you do end up hanging out make sure you bring friends,of course ! Just make sure you talk to people who know him. As for online dating- well, i personally know people who've met from online and they were friends of friends just like this. It may be weird, but once you hang out it wont feel so weird.Just keep in mind (like the person below me said) if you really do feel uncomfortable don't force your feelings to change. If you're interested, just talk to him. i'm just worried about the "we're perfect for eachother" nonsence.
Bottom line: Once you talk more, get to know eachother,do your research on him and are still interested- then hang out with him and your mutual friends and see where it goes from there :D
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can anyone tell me when you know when you're in love...like the feelings that you feel, as opposed to DEEP infatuation and lust?
im 16 years old and i really think that im in love but i also have strong feelings on that word, and i just want to know when id know that im truly in love.
what kind of feelings am i supposed to feel if i am? (link)
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we can't exactly tell you the feelings you're supposed to feel, because in my opinion,love is different for everyone. See, lust is just attraction-you like the physical things about them,but you don't really know who they are or love the little things about them. When your in love-you'll know you can trust the person, you can be goofy and yourself with them and also imagine growing old with them,sometimes. it could be love at first sight-like you've been missing something for awhile but when you're eyes meet you've suddenly found it. Or,it could grow from a friendship, where you trust and know eachother so well;and you can't imagine life with out them. Its really an intence emotion and only you can decide if you want to let your guard down and feel it or not. If you love someone,you care for them,think about them all the time,like the little things they do and accept they're flaws. Before loving someone, you have to be able to love yourself. I would wait on saying the 4 letter word if you haven't known them long or don't see sparks everytime they're around you(or have instant chemistry). You can be in like with them ( :D ), and over time grow to love them. Theres many kinds of love. Most people say, when you love someone, you know for sure. Try talking to them more and hanging out with them to see all sides of this person. If you feel out of control of your emotions then it'll be hard to tell what your feeling is real or not. But hay, why not give it a try once you're ready? You never know what could happen :D! good luck and hope i helped some,
xkisakissx
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what does it really mean to "open up" to someone? is it just telling them your secret? why does some people someone open up to someone even though they havent known eachother for long?
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opening up means to show your true self, and to trust people. Not only with secrets;with the fact you can be youself around them,happy;sad;or any emotion you feel your not afraid to show them. You trust them to help you with any dilemma, make you laugh and have fun together. Your comfortable around them. Some people are simply just more open with they're business than others. You may feel like you can trust someone early in a friendship if you've gotten close fast. though with time comes stronger trust, it doesn't nessecarly mean that the new friends you make,you can't trust and open up to. it more so depends on the person and depending how long it takes them to trust another-rather than time deciding it for them,yah dig? hahah,thats my take on it. hope i helped :D !
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I can't seem to be able to let anyone in. As soon as anyone gets close to knowing me, or in anyway just close to me, I push them away. How do I stop shutting people out. I don't talk the person I consider my bestfriend really. I'm a listener not a talker. Theres no use in complaining about my problems, it doesnt do anything. I just want to be able to get close to someone, anyone. How do I do this? (link)
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Normally i would write out everything that i've learned in my life about this,i was exactly like you! but i'm running out of time on my labtop so sadly i cant (besides, it'd be lots to read and i usually repeat myself =P) but i've found a great website of tips that'll help you and give you a start-
http://www.wikihow.com/Not-Care-What-People-Think
^you must learn to do this before you can break the barriers of letting people in! side notes : use the "fake it 'till you make it" method- confidence wise. Meaning if you're insecure, ACT confident and secure-you'll soon feel that way. "find the funny" - meaning laugh in every bad or embarissing situtaion! Dont let humiluating things get to you - just think "whoops :p!" and laugh it off-it'll help loads ;D.
Don't over think. If you catch yourself planning out what you're gunna say- STOP. Stop in your tracks and think up of any random thing,sing a song in your head or just say "BLAH BLAH balhlaalhlablah" in your head till you think of something else. You can't plan things-it never works out. Being insecure and caring what people think is a state of mind and is only in the mind. Change your thinking to "I am confident and independent!" Don't get down if you say something stupid, it happens- remember to laugh it off-it'll all work out later. besides, embarissing stories are fun to tell and break the ice in many conversations ;D! Your strong, and trust is hard for you. Your not alone! Set a goal each day like "I'm going to smile at someone in the hall today" or "I have to meet at least 3 new people today!" Start small,work your way up :D! I'm sorry i couldn't give more advice, i'm already in a hurry right now XP! Type in google thinks like "How to be more trusting" or "How to be confident" and you'll get some really good things! Its a common thing to feel this way-everyone does at least once in their life time! You must love yourself before people can love you!
ps; new situation? tackel it with excitement instead of nervousness. instead of being like "I'm so nervous to talk to those people" think "I can't wait to lean more about them :}" change your thinking to positive and people will catch your vibes
hahah sorry this is scattered but i know how you feel,i can relate so much! as long as you feel good and happy, dont worry about anything else-so start with that :D hope i helped! good luck,you'll soon be more confident and happy =]
xkisakissx
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I'm completely depressed. I'm a 21 year old female college student at an out of state college though at the end of the current semester I will be moving back home to finish school at a university near my home. I have a great boyfriend but for some reason I just feel like I'm a walking zombie. I miss him and I miss home even though my family at home is basically in an all out war started by my younger brother's dabbling in pot. I haven't seen a psychiatrist or any other doctor because I don't have the time being in school constantly and working and living somewhere where I basically know zero people and zero about the city. I wake up wishing I could just sleep forever. I don't know how to communicate how I feel to my boyfriend and now he's just getting frustrated with me. I have a problem with anger here too but it's mostly because I can't express what I'm feeling and what the problem is because I don't know it. If anyone has any advice that is helpful and isn't a criticism I'd be thankful for it. I just need help right now, not judgment. (link)
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It sounds like your under a lot of stress and exhausted from constantly working,school or just constantly doing something.Your depression could've built up over time, or it could've sprang up on you with out a reason. If theres no reason for you to be depressed-(plenty of sleep, no reasons of sadness)- if you have a feeling of being lost and not knowing who you are-i know how that feels! Its hard to get out of that kind depression. It feels like your in the deepest whole that's impossible to get out of. But you can! I used to feel empty,like i had no reason to keep living, it was really bad. If you feel this way,it may feel impossible to ever feel happy again. Depression is just a state of mind. If you think you are depressed,you will be. You must switch your thinking to "things are getting better,i'm fine,i can do this". Then,evidently things will start getting better. You're boyfriends probably just frustrated that you're not telling him how you feel-he cares for you-but he wishes you'd let him in.Write him a letter of your feelings,tell him your depressed from everything thats going on,he'll be there for you. Do you have any hobbies you haven't done in awhile? The absence of doing something you once loved can make you feel sort of incomplete as well. Whatever it was,it'd be good to start it up again. It'll make you feel good and take your mind off of things. The family situtaion is hard;it's your brothers life. No matter how hard your family would try to convince him- it's still his disition,sadly. As long as you let him know you'll be there to talk to him if he needs it,thats all you can really do. Your parents will hopefully help him further.Think of this new city as a good thing! You get to meet new people, start a new identity! Nothings holding you back from going out and having fun in this new city! Maybe find a club,bring your boyfriend, friends?!Try to meet new people everywhere you go,nothing's stopping you. This could be a chance to re-invent yourself,a new,happier you :]. Don't think of it as a negative what so ever! Also try to get more sleep, always a good thing :]. this probably doesn't help, but dont eat to much fast food-it makes you depressed also. just though i'd share :p. good luck and i hope i helped,and you can deffinatly get through this, if you believe you can :]!
xkisakissx
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(Im 17 senior and he is 17 too) Well i have a friend and i like her brother.
One night while i was talking to her on yahoo, she said that her brother wanted to add me.
So then an hour later he ims me saying its nice to meet me and we talk for about an hour..Then the next day on the bus..(we ride same bus to school)...his sister says that she guesses that he likes me. So when I get home and sign in, he is already talking to me. I ask him why he wasnted to add me and he said just beacuse he wanted to. His sister said that he doesnt talk to ppl he doesnt like so I guess I feel kinda special because he wanted to talk to me. His mom and grandma also think im really pretty...Idk if hes shy....Sometimes it seems af if he is not showing interest at all and sometimes alot of intrest..its like a rollercoaster with him...and weve only been talking 4 days!..SO anything to say about that? (link)
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i think this guy might have a crush on you! He probably know's you know he likes you(woah confusing?)-seeing as your friends with his sister,and his sister sees how he acts 24/7! He may be shy about that, he may be shy that your really pretty as well-or that his whole family pretty much knows and that might feel weird for him if he doesn't usually share things! What i would do to make this guy come out of his shell is act more confident,it'll bring him out-try to make him feel comfortable. Sometimes guys worry too much about what to say to a girl they like with out acting stupid :p. The rolloercoaster stuff is probably just him wanting to be himself,then thinking you might not like him,then being himself again. he's just nervous. I'd also hangout with him outside school;more than once to get him out of his shell of course :]. Since its only 4 days-you both don't really know who eachother are! Talk to him more,then you can both see if your interested in eachother :D. good luck,hope i helped!
xkisakissx
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Okay here is the thing my ex and I broke up over a month ago. I had this guy friend Tony who invited me over to watch a movie and talk about things. He kissed me a cried and so he stopped. we ended up having sex some point that night. well it ended up he just wanted sex so i quit talking to him all together.
David.. I meet him talking to him online. we hung out a few times. he keep grabbing my face because i keep pulling away to kiss me and he kissed me for like 30 minutes well we ended up having sex. he really likes me a guess but im not attracted to him and i get annoyed easy with him
Dustin.. My best friends brother and my ex's cousin. my ex doesnt talk to any of them. We all drank at his sisters house one time but i was dating my ex at the time. I seen him and his sisters baby shower for a minute on saturday. and we talked for just a minute. I texted him that he and i should go drink sometime but he didnt get it because he doesnt have service where he lives. I called him yesterday (sunday). i went out to his house we went dirt roading and ended up having sex but he didnt force me i told him i wanted to. and he didnt even kiss me until i was positive. we talked for hours before that. im attracted to him just hearing his voice gives me butterflies. he asked me if i was wanting to date someone and i said i wasnt sure. which i am sure. he had running around to do in town today and asked if i wanted to come and of course i said yes i wanted to see him.
i dont want to be judged on what i did with having sex. im just looking for advice. i dont know if im pregnant or not. i doubt it. i havent got my period but i dont know what day i started last month.. thank you for taking the time to read. (link)
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well, i can't really find a question in this! could you please post it in "additional information" and add it so we all know what advice your looking for ? :].
Anyways,if your asking if you could be pregnant,its possible if you didn't use protection,always is. Maybe take a pregnancy test? if its been awhile since you had sex,and you haven't got your period yet, then i'd deffinatly get one or go to the doctors.
If your asking which guy to choose? I would deffinatly say Dustin, he seems the nicest. I would get to know him more though, because everyone puts on there best faces when you first meet them. If you've known eachother for awhile i don't see the problem in going out =]. for future reference though, i'd slow things down! Sex should be a big part of a relationship, a connection between two people who love eachother.I'm not saying you have to slow things down,but it'll cirtainly separate the players and the people who really care about you. i just wouldn't want you to get hurt or played from jerks like Tony who try to manipulate girls. it sounds like your really falling for Dustin, and as long as he doesn't just want sex then why not? go for it ! good luck and hope i helped!
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K so I'm 15/f frshman and HS and I've never had a bf, and only 1 guy that I know that's actualy ever liked me. All my friends have had/have bf's and I haven't, I've never kissed anyone either, and my bestfriend just told me that she had sex for the first time, and I just feel like I'm a total freak because I've never had a bf. Is that normal?? (link)
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It is completely normal! don't let anyone tell you otherwise (=. I know plenty of people who've never had a boyfriend. there perfectly fine,good people. You're only 15-and being so you don't have as much ability to go out and do things to meet people. it's probably good too- i mean,my first kiss was horrible! It's better to wait and find someone you'll be with for awhile then go through boyfriends. Don't worry about trying to catch up with your friends what so ever, go at your own pace.Its hard to see all this love and relationship going on around you,while your alone,i know the feeling!But when you find someone it'll be worth it.besides,most 15 year old boys are immature and only want sex. not all,but most. all in time, and don't loose confidence over this! you're indipendent, and you dont NEED a man to be happy, (hahah,such an over used quote,but true!) Do the things you want now,eventually someone will come around :]. Maybe boost your confidence with a new hairstyle or makeup,anything. if your happy with your self and confident,guys will take interest. trust me,you're no freak! hope i helped!
xkisakissx
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there's alot of girls at school that dont like me and think im a slut . and i barely have any friends that are girls, should i care? or should i just keep living my life the way i do? people tell me its just because their jealous, cause i dont really give them reasons to think that way of me . (link)
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honestly; ignore all the bull people say. you know what i do when someone doesn't like me? i have even MORE fun-because i know they're missing out. if they just want to talk about people,why do you want friends like that anyways? you can just be like "yuhp,i'm SUUUCHH a slut!" instead of getting mad,laugh it off. that prooves they can't break you. if your around them and they're talking about you-honestly-just laugh. it'll get them SO mad, because they can't do anything about you NOT caring what they think.don't even think about them,or even hate them.hayytin's such a waste of time :D. people who try to ruin someone are horrible,they just want to make you feel bad. so if you don't feel bad,they can't break you and they'll move on. just shrug it off and stay with people who you have fun with. eventually people will realize you're actually a chill girl and other people will start getting to know you. the most importent thing to do is to act like it doesn't affect you-you just gotta laugh it off-seriously. just think of how ridiculous it is,don't feed the fire by talking about them back-it's not worth it. you know who you are, so who cares what they think?!
hahah sorry i kinda ranted on this,it's happened to me before,and this is how i got through it :].good luck;and don't worry-it wont last forever!
xkisakissx
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I'm dating a man I've known for several years and always been quitet fond of. We were friends first and are compatible on many levels, and we recently slept together. Afterwards he told me he thought of me more as a "friend with benefits." Meanwhile, I'm in love. To put it simply:
Women: compatibility + attraction = love
Men: compatibility + attraction = FWB
compatibility + attraction + X = love
I don't understand what's missing. What is "X"? (link)
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usually it takes longer for guys to mature than girls. most of the time,girls are more into emotions while guys are more into f.w.b. It can always be flipped though. To me, the "X" could be personal preference. You know how when you don't even know a guy,you could say "Wow, i couldn't imagine doing that with him!" or "I would sooo do him!" the second meaning,you just think they're hot-but wouldn't want to date the person. "X" can be different in everyone and the possibilities are endless. The equation for love is different for everyone :D! So, find a guy who is the answer to yours;obviously this guy isn't :p. hope i helped, good luck!
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Okay before I start this I'd just like to say that I know this is bad, but I'm looking for advice, not for people to criticize me and tell me what a horrible person I am.
So about a month ago, this guy that I was pretty friendly with told me he liked me. I'd already known this for several months, but I guess I was hoping he'd get over it so when he told me, I panicked and rejected him. After I rejected him, things got weird between us and we basically stopped talking. I hated that because I really liked talking to him since he was nice and understanding and he never judged me, and I missed it. So two days ago I decided enough was enough and I told him that. And then we started talking about when he told me he liked me, and I don't know why I did it but I convinced myself that I liked him, and I told him that. Now I realize that I JUST liked talking to him, not him. But he still likes me, and now he thinks I like him back. And I don't know what to do, because I've already hurt him and I'd really hate to have to do it again, especially since this time he got his hopes up. He's really sweet, and I guess it wouldn't be the worst thing in the world to go out with him, but I don't know. Should I tell him what I did (and break his heart), or should I just try to live with what I did and give us a chance?
By the way, 16/f. (link)
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This was my friend about a year ago. She decided to give it a try and they've been going out ever since :D! she didnt even realize she liked him until they started going out! I mean, if you try it and it doesn't work out,you could always say that you just like him as a friend and its not ment to be. But if your that much against not going out,and theres no doubt in your mind that you guys will only EVER be friends-then it'd be best to drop hints that you think of him as only this. things like "*insert name here*, i'm so glad i have a friend like you,you one of my best!" You have to try to get back into the buddy-buddy stage as i call it. You could also try to set him up with one of your friends;which will make him happy,you happy,and your other friend if its a success! All in all,if you dont want to give him a chance,its just hurting him even more if you say that you like him when you dont.If he only likes you, its okay,you won't break his heart. Sure he'll be upset, but its so much better than giving him false hope. Its a tough dicision to make; do you give him a chance? (you could be missing out on a great guy!) Or is he too much of a friend to even consider? Do what makes you happy, because if your not happy,then he most likely won't either!
good luck,hope i helped!
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do you believe in soul mates? why or why not? (link)
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i do! I've actually met a couple who've been together for 40 years,who've known eachother they're whole lives(still in love :D). I think there is energy in souls, and if you could find someone who's energy is compatable with yours,it could be destined for the two to be together.It's hard for me to explain this, but i think that in each person something is calling them somewhere. and your just drawn into a circumstance,where the two souls find eachother. Maybe that's why people get so stressed that they can't find love. Because if you think about it,why does one yearn for love so much? It feels like your missing something. But when you find your soulmate,you become bonded with another-and that sad feeling goes away. I'm iffy at thinking there could be more than one soulmate for someone-i think if you see them,you and your soulmate both feel the energy eachother needs. I'm being so confusing! Sorry, thats my take on it though(just my opinion,not from science or anyhing-though souls do have energy) hopefully we'll find our soulmates one day!
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I text back and forth with this girl that I like. What are some subtle things I can say to her when we text that lets her know I like her but not completely professing my feelings for her? Like "hey cutie" or others, I just want to be SUBTLE about it. I'm not afraid to tell her I like her (because she likes me). We live apart now but I move to her town in 3 months. And we're not together now/yet. So that's why I want to be subtle about it. (link)
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expressions can surpass actual words sometimes. i'm sure if you put a little smile or winky face in there every once in awhile it'll show that your happy/flirty whilst talking to her. if you guys know enough about eachother and have talked for awhile,you can joke around in a light and fun way,or if she were to joke around you could joke back and say something like "haha,that made me smile :) " most girls like the cute little things guys to for them-we also pay more attension to them. If she says "whats up" you could say "eehh,not much, just thinkin' of your smile :)." compliments are sweet to say! if she already likes you,these'll just be little boosters or reminders that you like her back;which every girl likes to hear from the person they like (=
good luck and hope i helped!
xkisakissx
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i smoked pot with my friend and one of her friends i didn't like it but we are gonna do it again. should i do it or not??? (link)
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i disagree when people say you could absolutely ruin your life because of it. i know someone who was on the Dean's list and got into a great college-and did it.I can bet that a lot of successful people do it. you're going to get mixed reveiws about doing it or not-because some people are against it and others aren't. If you don't like it-why do it again? listen to yourself,theres not much anyone else can really say. just listen to yourself (=
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