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is this normal?
K so I'm 15/f frshman and HS and I've never had a bf, and only 1 guy that I know that's actualy ever liked me. All my friends have had/have bf's and I haven't, I've never kissed anyone either, and my bestfriend just told me that she had sex for the first time, and I just feel like I'm a total freak because I've never had a bf. Is that normal??
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Oh my goodness gracious, you are PERFECTLY FINE. Just because other people are making different (really crappy) choices does NOT mean you should, too.
Take your time and go at your own pace. Honestly? I think you're a better person for waiting than your friend who just lost her virginity.
Best of luck :)
-Laura (16-f)
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You're really normal. Actually, you remind me of myself when I was 15. I first had a boyfriend when I was 17, and I've still never kissed anyone. It doesn't make me weird because a lot of my friends are the same way. I mean, I think you'll realize later on down the road that it doesn't really matter how experienced you are, or whatever. Once you meet someone who is actually worth dating, it really will not matter whatsoever. High school isn't all about getting laid, despite what you may have been told... it's about meeting new people, trying new things, and pretending like you have a clue what you're going to do with your life.
As far as your friend who has had sex before, I understand what it's like to be close to someone who is way more experienced than you are. A girl that I used to be best friends with is known as the ultimate slut at my school. I think it's fine for you to still be friends with her, but don't let her influence you in that direction. It will never lead to anything good.
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Absolutely normal, my friend. More normal than you would ever think, actually. The thing I have always told my friends, which is totally true for everyone, you may only KNOW of a few guys that have you liked you, but there are many more that do like you -- you just haven't found out about it.
Not kissing someone yet is totally fine, and I actually think it's great. It's not something to rush my friend, believe me, and you're moving along great, if you ask me. Trust me, before long, you will be having guys flaunting over you, so many you won't be able to keep up, haha.
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Yeah why wouldn't you be normal?
Listen it's okay to NOT have a boyfriend, or get kissed.
Anyways you're still 15, you still have a life time like literally a life time, so you shouldn't really worry about it.
You'll find your guy sooner or later, you just need to stop looking =]=]
Good Luck =]
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omg i feel for ya.. im in the same position, except in 17 a guy and the only guy in a class of 9 other girls all with BF's. i havent had a gf for 4 years and iv only ever kissed one person (my last gf didnt last long :/ )
but dont worry! theres some one for everyone in this life, some people search and search untill they find the right guy/girl for others that person just comes along easily. i havent exactly put my self out there and asked some on out kus im allways way too busy doing somthing else like skating or snowboardin or playing me guitar or somthing. i could probably get some one if i tried and thats all you have to do to ^_^ just get to know a few different guys go places, join clubs what ever it takes go for it! :D
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It is completely normal! don't let anyone tell you otherwise (=. I know plenty of people who've never had a boyfriend. there perfectly fine,good people. You're only 15-and being so you don't have as much ability to go out and do things to meet people. it's probably good too- i mean,my first kiss was horrible! It's better to wait and find someone you'll be with for awhile then go through boyfriends. Don't worry about trying to catch up with your friends what so ever, go at your own pace.Its hard to see all this love and relationship going on around you,while your alone,i know the feeling!But when you find someone it'll be worth it.besides,most 15 year old boys are immature and only want sex. not all,but most. all in time, and don't loose confidence over this! you're indipendent, and you dont NEED a man to be happy, (hahah,such an over used quote,but true!) Do the things you want now,eventually someone will come around :]. Maybe boost your confidence with a new hairstyle or makeup,anything. if your happy with your self and confident,guys will take interest. trust me,you're no freak! hope i helped!
xkisakissx
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Of course it is. My boyfriend didn't get a girlfriend until he was nineteen. (ME :) ) Its different for everyone. Just because your friends have them doesn't mean you do as well. It may seem like your left out...believe me I know how you feel...when my friend got a boyfriend in high school I thought I was behind. Heck a lot of my friends in high school did...come to find out though after graduation they either all have kids or are pregnant and then I realize I'm glad I found my boyfriend now. The point is don't rush it...it will happen before you know it!
:)
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Everyone does things at different time. I have friend. Who just currently got into his first serious relationship. first time he kissed a female. first time he had sex. he is 28 years old. he was perfectly fine with it and now he couldnt be happier. I am not saying youll end up waiting until your 28 but just wait for the time is right and a good guy will come along. if you think about it your just spacing out the heart breaks because everyone has them through out life. it could be harder to deal with when you are younger anyways. i still take a heart break pretty hard depending how serious the relationship was.
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thats perfectly fine :) everybody does stuff at different times.
dont rush yourself!
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