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Okay so on Tuesday I'm going to be in the studio audience for my favourite TV show. I'm very excited!!
I know what I'm going to wear and everything but two small but very major issues: How should I have my hair and make-up!
Well here's a picture of me without make-up (I think I might have been wearing the smallest amount of eyeliner though) if it helps:
http://a46.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/109/l_373e5d6a64ed499309afeba26b44378d.jpg
I'm not going very 'glamarous' I'm only wearing ripped jeans and a band shirt. I just want to look alright though not because you'll see me (The camera doesn't go on the audience very much and when it does you don't see the details of the people) but afterwards the guys come out and meet fans so I'll be taking some photos with them, plus me and my friends are doing some group photos so I want to look okay. (link)
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Red and Blue can look very harsh on film- so i'd stay away from things like red blush/blue eyeshadow and stuff. I wouldn't do anything really extreme... just normal black or brown eyeliner (for your skin color i'd say to use brown) and black volumizing mascara...
I think your hair would look really pretty curled... or you could just leave it plain/straight and down...
ur really pretty btw!
(i mean that in the straightest way possible)
i hope i helped
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is there any way i can make my teeth whiter, something that you can definetly see a difference, and straighter or somewhat straighter without braces? im so self-conscious about my smile and i never smile with my teeth cause i think its so ugly. thanks so much. (link)
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wellllll there's really no way around braces.
This is what my orthodontist says about invisalign- They're super uncomfortable and really hard to put in- so everyone just winds up not wearing them at all and wasting a billion dollars and the opportunity to get straight teeth.
Braces only start to make your mouth sore about 3 hours after you get them on. Tightening doesn't hurt and nothing else hurts after that first time- which the inital tightness feeling should only last about 3-7 days... It's so worth it once you get them off though.
All of the preppiest girls at my old school had braces. So it's not like it gives you a stereotype of being a dork or anything. (nowadays at least) It's actually odd to NOT have braces.
So I hope you see an orthodontist and get braces. :)
you'll be glad you did.
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I want to become a witch and i just want any one to tell me anything that they actually know about the process, consequences, and benefits of it. (link)
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if you haven't seen this website it explains it really well.
http://www.holysmoke.org/wicca/wicca_path.html
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I just moved to Moore, OK a couple of months ago. Everything seemd to be okay. Except, Ive been deppressed lately. Not just like once and it goes away or my bf broke up with me deppressed, I mean deppressed on and off. I hide my true feelings, like I'm trying to shoot down my tears with other things. But I can't because either way, i feel way to deppressed to think. With personal problems, school drama, self-esteem issues. I mean Ive gotta a lot of problems. My friend, Rachel, thinks that I should go get some help for it. Like it's major. But I think all that's gonna do is make things worse. So should I just coop up all my stuff and stay deppressed and hide it? Or should I just go to my school counseler. Help me.... before I do someting really stupid. (link)
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I really do understand (at least parcially) what you're going through, because I just started going to a boarding school in a city that's thousands of miles away from my hometown. So i have the same problem that you have, only I can't even come home to my family at the end of the day.
I'm depressed ALL THE TIME. I always feel sad/mad/upset no matter what. One thing that helps me is watching movies- ones that are a really good escape from whatever the hell i'm going through. I use distractions to keep me from committing suicide or cutting. I'm a dancer- sometimes my dance classes help me.
You could always talk to your school counselor. I've tried several therapists and counselors in and outside of school- but none of them helped me. They basically just get paid to listen to you rant.
But there's no harm in trying it.
I really hope you can find an interest that makes you want to get through the day.
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I just turned 17, I'm a girl. I get these crazy ideas sometimes. Now that I'm depressed, my crazy ideas have taken over. Today I stole my mothers credit card and ordered a plane ticket to another country. I leave tomorrow, without telling anyone. The question is: what do I do when I get there? I have a little money. Do I get a hotel room and then in the morning go look for a job to be able to keep paying for the room? Or do I find a church, see if they have the answer I'm looking for? Try to enroll in a highschool somehow? I've always wanted to live in America. This might sound stupid to you, ridiculous, I know. I've told one friend about it - so yes, I understand this doesnt sound normal to others. But it's something I'm going to do - so you might as well help me. I'll completely start over, new name, new life, new everything. Im not an idiot, I know I'll have to come back eventually, I understand a little money wont get me far, and that my parents will call the police and whatever. I get it. I get that my life will be completely ruined when I get back. But it's worth it. I have to do SOMETHING. I can't keep feeling this way. So..back to my question: what do i do when I get there? I'd like to have a list.. so far all I've got is:
1) Arrive at destination.
2) Get hotel-room.
3) Job (?) School (?)
What else? (link)
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well I can see why you want to live in America- it's a wonderful country. I know that you probably won't change your mind because of this- but the person under me is right. You have to be a legal citizen of the US (which I'm sure you aren't) to do ANYTHING here. Sure, you might find a sleazy hotel that will let you get a room (even though that's illegal, too because you have to be at least 18 to get a room anywhere and they ask for your drivers' liscence and everything)
Public high schools require some kind of parental consent before enrolling... Believe me, you won't get anywhere with this.
I read a story in a magazine about a girl who was your age who bought a plane ticket to another country without telling anyone- and when the plane landed in the other country the police had arrived and they were like "so and so you're under arrest". And so i assure you- the same thing WILL happen to you. You will even have to go to jail for running away. You will have wasted your mom's money and she'll be mad as hell at you and then you'll never have her trust again.
Please just think about what I've said before you do this.
also- in less than a year you get to be an adult and THEN you can move to the US and go to college here LEGALLY!
And you won't have the criminal record you would have gotten from doing this! please just hang on for one more year!!! do it for your sake!
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im gettin really depressed cauz its already been a month of skool and im still single every one i know has a bf or reciently got one and we all know that when you get a bf your friends dont count as much soooo they spend most of their time with their bfs. i only have one friend who's a girl left and she'll probably get this guy she likes to ask her out this week so im gonna be totally alone fast! i got soooo depressed at that thought that i just started bawlin and i was at skool too so that means i was really depressed cauz i try really hard not to show that kind of emotion around my classmates. i dont know how im gonna make it though the week without losin it cauz just this sat. my all time best friend got a boyfriend, and now im afraid she's gonna desert me like my other best friend did adn i havent talked to her for 6 months cuz she spends every wakin moment with him! is there any way i can get a boyfriend before i go into a complete depression episode? or can i find a way to hang out with chics that have a bf ,and not feel like a third wheel?
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I'm in the exact same situation you're in. The best advice I can give you is to not show that you're depressed- because that could be the reason that you don't have a bf. Most boys seem to be attracted to happy girls. Don't be fake or anything though.
It's only been a month! It's not like you're 32 and you've never had a bf. You probably have had bfs!
I'm always depressed all the time because I'm single too.
Focus on doing something you like to do- because that way you won't be worrying about getting a boyfriend adn then the boyfriend thing will take care of itself and you'll get one!
Don't be like "on the prowl" for guys all the time. Not saying you are, but you might be that way. how could i know?
good luck with this- and just don't worry. just remember- it's not about "getting" a guy, it's about him getting you.
just think that way and you can just let the boys come to you.
i hope i helped.
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ok so me and this guy hooked up for like a week mabye 2 right after me and this other guy ( who i really really really liked ) stop talking to each other. so obviously i was a little depressed and everything and a few days ago the new guy kept asking me like what do you want out of this and im like give me time and hes like ill wait as long as it takes blah blah blah he tells everyone he really likes me.well yesterday i found out hes calling me a slut and he found out that the last boy was an asshole to me so he was like mabye if i treat her like an ass hole shell like me more. so i comfronted him about it last night and hes like i dont want to deal with them drama and walkway (link)
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being called a slut is sexual harassment, which is illegal. He is an asshole! both of these guys are. You should never waste your time with scum like these kinds of boys.
Plus, hooking up (if you mean it in the sexual sense, which i think you do) is always going to make you feel worthless. So from now on I'd suggest only having intercourse with people you are truly IN LOVE with and have been with for a really long time-(1+ years i'd say) like someone you would want to marry. never do it only for the pleasure. you can masturbate instead. or just stop at 3rd.
on the other hand, your hooking up with him was a very slutty thing to do- so I can see why he would want call you a slut but that still doesn't make it okay for him to call you one.
i hope you overcome this and i hope i helped you.
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I think im going to get the ab roller..wheel..thing for my stomach becuase im trying to work it out. Its the thing that is a wheel with little handles sticking out..hopefully you know what i mean. Question is, for how many minutes a day, and how many days, or weeks, or monthes whatever, will i need to use it in order to get a 6 pak. Or not even that, just some improvement from my one pack. Im not even fat, i just have wat looks like a big belly. So anyone who can answer me, thank you, ive never really worked out before. (link)
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well if you have fat on your stomach then you need to lose pounds before the muscle you have underneath will show. Run on the treadmill/outside, do biking/elliptical training. Try to aim for an hour workout 3-7 days a week. But at least 3x a week. Count every calorie you consume.
But still do your ablounge every day. I'd try to do 200 reps every day, since that's how many crunches you're supposed to do daily.
I hope I helped and good luck!
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Ok well I just started high school and I made some friends and then the newest one i made..she's just so happy and like a kid and everytime i think of her or see her, I just think "I was like that..or atleast I could have been like that now if I didnt' have a bad childhood....even if i was like her now, i wouldn't be as pretty as her.."
And now even though she's my friend, I'm starting to like secretly hate her REALLY bad. This always happens with many friends that I make.
What the hell is wrong with me? Why am i like this? i dont want to be like this but..something like this always happen (link)
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oh my god i have the EXACT same problem! I start to hate every friend I make. It's usually because i'm jealous they're super gorgeous/anorexic/breasty/etc.
You sound like you hate her because she's always happy (i have a ton of friends like that too and i hate them too!) and you're envious of that.
You could try to be like her- but she's probably just pretending to be happy. She's probably just as sad as you are on the inside. But who knows?
You don't have to be her friend anymore if you really don't want to- or you could just try and not be jealous of her beauty and her happiness. You're probably really pretty too but you just can't see it b/c you're 14 or 15.
Your friend probably thinks she's ugly too.
Just try to not be jealous that's really all you can do.
I hope i helped you.
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I'm always afraid people are watching me when I'm alone. And that people can see what I'm thinking.
I know it's irrational but knowing that doesn't make it go away.
Seeing a therapist would probably be a last resort. I have one, but I haven't seen him in a long time and I don't really want to. And I definitely don't want to be on any unnecessary medication. My psychiatrist is way too quick to want to medicate me.
But anyway. . .am I crazy? What can I do? (link)
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oh my god I have those exact same 2 problems. It's annoying as hell. Your problems could be caused by caffeine- because caffeine can make you paranoid. So if you drink it regulary i'd suggest that u stop. I tried to but I can't. But it's worth a try. I think that we're both just paranoid.
Still see your therapist.
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I'm generally a healthy person, average weight, happy, physically active. However, I'm always tired. I eat right and get about 6-8 hours of sleep each night, but it never fails. I'm always yawning and my mind zones out! (Yes, I do eat breakfast) I don't know what to do, my mom won't take me to the doctors because were in the process of switching healthcare plans. Any ideas what might be constantly making me sleepy? (link)
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It's probably a nutritional deficiency. If you are vegan or vegeterian (or even if you aren't) you need to be taking multivitamins every day plus a B complex (there aren't enough b vitmains in a multivitamin usually).
You also probably need to aim for 9 hours of sleep every night. I know it's hard with all the crap you have to deal with in ur teenage life, but really make it your first priority to get those 9 hours in.
If you drink caffeine regularly that is also something that contributes to the problem, because caffeine drains your energy. It might give you a temporary charge, but it seriously undermines your rest at night- causing an endless cycle of sleeplessness.
But if those ideas fail, you should still try to see a doctor.
i hope i helped.
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I don't even know if that's what I should call it. But I'm 22 years old and I'm afraid of needles. I think it's because when I was younger I was always sick (prematurity, emphysema etc.) and I was always getting blood work, shots.
But I have a dentist appointment because I think I might have some bone loss going on and most likely teeth are going to be pulled. What can I do to calm myself down about having to get a shot? (link)
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You have to assure yourself that you'll be okay- and you won't die or anything. Take deep breaths to relax yourself. Believe me, deep breathing works like a charm.
And when they're about to give you the shot it helps to squeeze the handles of the chair really hard. That's what i do when i'm getting something done to my braces and it's hurting.
I hope i helped.
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I need hekp to try and get a boyfrined or at least to get a boy to like me. I always see questions that girls ask about tips on flirting or getting a boyfriend; I also try to use the advice, but it just never works! I'm generally very confident and talkative, but guys still don't like me. Does the fact that I talk a lot make me come off too strong? I just want to know, are there does anyone have any tips on how to be better with guys, aside from the general "be confident?" I'm in highschool, by the way. (link)
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If you're a freshman or sophomore- the majority of the people in those grades are single. Most people don't get date until they are upperclassmen. It might not seem that way but it's true! Girls will make up "boyfriends" to brag about when really they're just guy friends who they talk to. It's so stupid. (so don't assume that if a girl talks about her "bf" that it's a real boyfriend. he's probably made up.)
But yeah talking too much could make you seem annoying (aka someone that wouldn't be an ideal date) so just make sure that you say what you want to say in as few words as possible (practice this when no one else is around) and really LISTEN to what the other person is saying and respond to what they've said- not as if you're just waiting for the other person to stop talking.
Make sure you aren't pretentious or bragging about anything. And go out of your way to be nice to people- like compliment them and stuff.
Oh- and if you dress slutty don't do that. It really isn't nice looking at clevage. It's awkward for the other person. And it probably is for you too.
Just take a good look at your inner character and make sure that it's all good.
I hope I helped- you'll have a bf soon enough. Just be happy and ppl will be attracted to you.
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For the past year or so, I have only listened to music I've been singing.
My best friend just decided that I was desperate and someone she no longer wanted in her life, selfish as it was.
I'm looking for the perfect song that basically sums up the latter part of this.
I'm sorry; I know these questions are annoying, but I've exhausted myself trying to think of something.
Thanks. (link)
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The first song that came to mind when I read this was "Perfect" by simple plan.
Also another one that pretty much sums that up is "Time to Say Goodbye" by Sarah Brightman.
"take me or leave me" from Rent
"sick of me" by green day
i hope you like one of these, depending on your taste in music. :)
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I've been friends with my best friend for basically as long as i can remember. I dont know if its just me, but lately it seems like shes always trying to make me jealous and out do me. Like tonight, I went to the movies with one of my other friends, and put up an away message on aim saying " movies with myfriendsname cell it=]" and then left. And when i got home, her away message was "movies with cutie. then home with cutie" (which is one of her other really good friends) And she just does little things like that. And it REALLY gets on my nerves. How can i like get over this and not let it bother me? We dont have the same friends(we're different ages, different friends) so its not like we can all just do stuff together so she doesnt try to make me jealous. I dont know what to do. (link)
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ohmygod... i have a friend just like that. and i hate her because she's like that. You could just stop putting the effort into the friendship, and maybe she'll feel bad and start being nice to you.
just don't talk to her for a while unless she talks to you and is being nice.
she probably is just jealous of you or something.
i hope i helped.
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well i have this friend. lets call him bob. well me and bob met 2 years ago this day. and last year bob was really sweet and sent me a real cute message saying happy aniversary and other things. me and bob were really close friends but lately it feels like we're drifting apart i've told him several times before and all he says is "dont worry baby im not going anywhere" but his actions say otherwise. and im tired of being the one who is putting more effort in this friendship than him. i sincerely don't want to lose his friendship because it feels like he's the only one who understands me. is he getting tired of me? or whats going on here, i don't know what to do. and it seems like it controls my emotions, because i feel really sad and stuff and i really dont wanna feel like that. (link)
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yeah i agree with the person below me, but the opposite could be true as well.
maybe he really just thinks of you as a friend, and anything could be causing this time. He could be really busy with something in his life, he could be really upset about something and it's controlling his emotions and making him avoid people, it really could be anything. So maybe just give it some time, and don't try as hard to put in the effort, just maybe give it a rest for a while and see if he ends up putting effort back in, but if he doesn't... then you'll know that this friendship was meant to end.
i hope i helped.
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ok i went out w/ my boyfriend for almost a year. then i broke up w/ him & he went out w/ this girl like not that long after.. and shes like a total whore & she was a total bitch to me & completely destroyed the friendship me & this guy had (bc she was mad that it took so long for her to get him to ask her out) so he broke up w/ her & now were friends again.. but now hes like asking me to hook up w/ him? what does all this mean.. i think its kinda weird (link)
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If you mean hooking up in the sexual sense, not dating- then i'd say to stay away from him.
He could be dangerous. You never know. It's just a really unsafe thing to hook up with someone who you don't know really well.
But if you really really want to hook up with him, make SURE you stop at third and if he tries to go any farther then just scream "NO" and leave. you don't want an std and you don't want to ruin your life by being pregnant. Also, chances are- if you do hook up, he'll spread it around. and do you want people to think you're a slut? it will ruin your reputation and your life.
i hope i helped.
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ok well my bf and i have been going out for 10 or 11 months. we dont hold hands (only have once), we barely ever kiss and when we do its a peck on the lips, and we do hug alot, he doesnt really tell me how much he loves me, and im kinda tired waiting for him to make a move, beacuse im afraid to! i dont know what to do! i love him, but im afraid of making any move, kissing him, holding hands, ect.
what should i do??? im a bit upset b/c he acts like a kid most of the time (b/c of his younger siblings) and he made fun of alot b/c hes chubby (b/c he had a type of cancer, and the chemo made him gain weight)
what should i do??? how can i get enough courage to make a move??? (link)
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You probably won't want to hear this, but it's the truth and i'm going to try to make it sound as nice as possible.
You're 14, and you can't expect to have a real boyfriend at that age. What you've said that you're doing with him is really not dating, and therefore this guy is just someone who you like, and he apparently likes you back. But that's not dating. That's interest. There's nothing wrong with that, though.
Also another reality check is that boys are typically 2 years younger maturity-wise compared to girls (a 14-year-old boy would have the maturity of a 12-year-old girl) and i'd say about 98% of 14-yr-old boys are not interested/ready for kissing or "making a move" on some girl. Girls are ready for this at a much younger age, but boys are just not.
My bottom line is: if you aren't seeing somebody one-on-one outside of school/work for dates then that's not a relationship. or "going out".
And if you do "make a move" on him, he'll be really scared and he'll probably never talk to you again. (not because of YOU, but because he's a 14-year-old boy and he's just not ready)
My advice to you is- forget about this boy, and talk to some boys who are maybe 1-2 years older than you are. Maybe one of them will ask you out. That way you can actually have a boyfriend who will kiss you and do the things that you want to do, because he's 16 and not 14.
i hope i helped.
please don't take this as trying to be mean, it's just a fact of life!
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So I have a bad blister on the back of my foot.It's like bleeding.It's from my volleyball shoes.I won't be wearing them anymore so that's not a problem.I don't know how to make it heal faster though.Do I just don't wear regular shoes for awhile or put some kind of medicene like neosporin.Any suggestions would help.Thankss! (link)
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there's a product called 2nd skin that you can get at a pharmacy or drugstore...
it's like a gel-covered bandage that is designed for blisters.
that's what i use.
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I am a beginner in dancing- the closest to a dancing class I have been involved in is learning the fox trot and line dances. My question is... if I wanted to start dancing for physical activity and fun, what would be a good form of dance for me? I want to build strength and endurance, and I love dancing to more modern music and I have a very musical background, so I do have a good sense of rhythm. Modern, hip hop, jazz, tap, ballet? Anything?
(PS, being able to use it on the dance floor is a plus.) (link)
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well i would say that if you are serious about dancing and you want to be a really good dancer- start with ballet. but take it at a real ballet studio (try to find the state ballet of your state) not just some little dance studio. It's because the real ballet schools teach proper technique and that's so important.
But if you're only interested in using it on the dance floor i'd say take hip hop. It's a good workout and it's fun.
hope i helped.
ill answer any other dance questions you might have.
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