hey so im in year 12 and in 2 months i'll be finished school. i have no idea what i want to do as a career when i leave.
but iv always been really good at writing poetry. iv been writing since i was 13 and now im 18 and i have 6 note books full of poems. everyone says im really talented and i want to pulish my poems in a book one day when i have the money.
what should i do? i thougt about being a journalist, but i really want to do something with my peoms because i am really pationate about it and love writing them. i dont think im that good with writing stories so i dont want to be an author or anything but im good at writing my opion and writing poems.
what should i do? take a writing corse? how can i get my poems noticed? i write them in a blog but thats about it. i dont know what to do...
ANY SUGGESTIONS? thanks xxx
Just like yourself I love reading and writing poetry. I've been writing since I was 7yrs old. And there many ways to get it out there. First all you can find a literary agent who specialize in getting poerty published. And if you want to find one you can google one. Get your poems copyright and find an agent. And if you want to go to college take up some creative writing classes. Ay more question feel free t ask best o luck to you.
Theres a place I know of in Washington DC that does all the major copyRights. What you can do is Google Copyrights and I'm sure some will come up. And you can take courses in English Creative Writing and maybe Journalism. If you have additional question please leave it in my inbox
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I know my boyfriend for two years but we brook up 3 times .
we were together all the time for 6 months but i couldn't take it because he never lets me out or talk to my friends and he made me quit studying and i wasn't mad Because i love him . after that he called me every now and then for 9 months but i didn't answer him for all that time. after i did he said that he misses me and he is sorry for every thing that he made me lose and i said OK in one condition that if we will end up married and he was OK with that. three weeks after that he got to what he was, never wants me to see any one or any one see me,just be with him and talk to him.
i left him for the second time and i changed my number. but i couldn't take it , i love him so much that i don't feel that my day is complete with out him and we used to be together all the time so it was hard. i sent him a massage from my new number after a month, saying sorry i left you that way ,and in a few days i asked him if your OK that we would be friends because i just want you to be with me and I'll take the last chance for that. he didn't answer if he wants to be friends he just said we'll take when we get together.i saw him every thing was fine and fun just one thing two weeks after that i found out I'm pregnant in 10 days and we are only together for 1 month , so i didn't want to tell him ,i was afraid he'll leave me. i sent him a massage with every thing in it ,and asking him not to be mad because I'm was very scared . he called and shouted and said it wasn't his , when all that started i looked at my phone and closed the line and looked my phone . i felt lost and i didn't have any one to tell,so i toke care of every thing.in two weeks i felt better i opened my phone , he called and send massage if i hated him i said i just wander why you didn't stand by me. and i sent him saying not to call me and just pretend that we never met if we were at the same place. in a few days he called . i sent him i want my things . he called then sent me if you want them call me . i didn't,this Friday i told him I'll pass by to take them he said OK. when i got their he hugged me and was so thin and asked me how am i so i got it all out ,that he wasn't their for me, he didn't believe me, and he don't care. and i can't be friends withe you ,either have you and spend all my life with you or leave you because i can't take the idea that you'll be with any one else and you will treat me like nothing ever happened , he said that you wanted to be friends and i never said their wont be a life for us together is just we were apart for a while and it would take the same time for us to fall in love again and he said he was sorry and he never meant to hurt me ,its only his mouth that messes every thing he gets mad easily and easy forget and I'm not like him. and with all what we have been through i still love him and i know he cares . Because he call's all the time . it just I'm worried and scared because i don't want to go through losing any thing again,. is he playing me or he is trough but mad and confused.
I think you should somehow find the strength to move on. My saying is never really back track, cause it's likely it want work out. Now that's from my own experience. Second of all you sound like you are some what needy. You let a guy have total control on you and when he says jump you leap. From reading your story I feel that you have a few sel issues concering yourself that you must deal with. Trust me I been where you were before and I had my own share. It's like you need someone to love you and care for you to feel important and you will deal with whatever a man puts out weather it's good or bad just so you want be alone. How could you allow yourself to constantly be with a man that will deny his own child, and isolate you from everybody else. My advice to you is you need to be alone right now. I think you're in love with the whole idea of love. You need to learn to be happy by yourself, and you need to deal with certain issues. I myself have been in your shoes. I've have ben verbally and physically abuse, I've been cheated on let constantly b so-called men who suppose to have really loved me. But you know what the last one I said oh no. Ad I realized that I really had to straighten myself out. And currently oday I'm single but you know what I'm happy, because I learned to put God and myself first. And I think you should follow down the same road. Because if you and he never work out you can easily attract someone like him or worst. If you every have time go to a libary or book store and find some books about self improvement and relationship books learn read improve you need it. I keep it real I don't tell you what you want to hear I tell you what you should hear. Good luck to you!
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I am a 21 year old female. And I have a question that has been bugging me for a while. I have an ex boyfriend. That to this day I still have feelings for him. We were togeather for a year and, I really and truly loved him. And at the time I felt as if he was my soul mate. But he ended up leaving me after we got in an argument. And soon he started seeing other people. And he ended up getting back with his ex,and currently their staying togeather. And what's weird is, I still have feelings for him, I know we've been broken apart for a long time,. But I just can't stop thinking of him, Every day he's on my mind. And I just have this hope that one day we will reunite. My question is do you think it's posible that we are. I believe that we are soulmates and for some reason I just can't move on.
I've have fought your battles and I still am... But honey I must say please move on... It's been over a year... And he's back togeather with his ex now... And their living togeather... You don't know... They couldbe planing to have kids togeather... Or even getting married... Have you ever heard of the saying if you love something let it go... If it comes back it's yours but if it doesn't it never was... Well maybe he never was... And you need to move on with your life... I believe that you continue to think of him because you want to... Theres a great guy out there for you... Maybe it could be him maybe not... Only time will tell but untill then move on... Best of luck to you
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This might be long, but I'm in desperate need of advice. I'm 20, in college and relationships are/were never my strong point. I've been hurt, like everyone else, but I didn't bounce back normally. I'm emotionally closed off and I push away guys, and get claustrophobic when a relationship starts to get serious, so I sabotage everything and the guy ends up hating me. A few months ago, a guy I had class with started a conversation with me and it ended up with him admitting he had a crush on me, and I always thought he was cute. It went from there and we went on a few dates, and I let him know that I'm standoffish and I'm not like other girls who can let guys in. He didn't really like the fact that I barely called him and wouldn't act like I liked him and I told him that we should just go with the flow, and take things slow. He agreed and we got closer and closer, and he admitted to really liking me and told me whenever I was ready, he wanted a serious relationship. I started to feel for this guy (which is rare) and we had sex, and a relationship waa forming. Everything was fine for awhile, and then we got into an argument (I started it, I admit that) but it was fixable. I apologized and asked him if we could talk about it. He agreed but then never called or said anything again. I texted/called him and no response. It's like he disappeared off the earth. It's been a few weeks and nothing! He was absolutely crazy about me and truly seemed like a standup, good guy. What happened or what did I do wrong here? I can't get over this! It's always in the back of my mind, since I never got any closure and I don't want to text/call him anymore, ultimately making me look desperate. What should I do?
OMG! Reading your story seems like dejavu'... Like you the same thing basicly happened to me a short while ago... And the way he's treating you is unfair and I agree you do deserve closure, and it's selfish and cold for him to walk away with out closing you guys chapter. What I would want to know is... Have there been previous arguments before that you may have started... Has he been acting strange... Has there been a change in his behavior towards you at all... I'm trying to find the source cause there two sides to every story... But to really help you I'm going to share a lil of mine... A while ago my ex and I were togeather... That's the guy I just new I would marry but... We ended up arguring which I started I admitt... And like your guy he left with out giving me and ounce of closure... Boy was I angry and bitter... And it took me longer to get over because I didn't recieve any closure what so ever... But you know what I found out half of the reason was there was another women... And he was to much of a coward to face me... So he did it the easy way... I know you feel hurt and very confused... But my advice to you is don't call him or text him it will make you look desperate... Trust me I know I've been there and to this day I regret constantly calling and texting him... He could have been wanting to break up for a while... And the argument you started may have put the bullent in the gun... I've been hurt just like you in relationships and the pain really never goes away it just lessen everyday... He may never come back... Or he may come back... But in the mean time work on yourself... And try as best as you can to face and fight the hurt in your life besause if you don'tit will always be there... I'm sorry you haven't been treated fair but please and I say please... Don't let this xperience or any from your future affect your past. If you have any additional questions please feel free to ask me or someone else on this site...I wish the best of luck to you...
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im 19 years old
female
and i want to give the boy i have been crushing on, a lap dance;)
just to stir things up a bit! but i don't like know what to even do, where to start? i feel like i'll look dumb!
what are some things that guys like?
do you actually dance or is it just more touching?
Guys loved lap dances trust me. You want look dumb even if you don't know what you're doing... Just be confident in what you're doing... I'm sure you can try to watch a movie or something in it where a female gives a lap dance... or you can pratice yourself with a chair and just imagine that he's sitting in it... And when it's time turn on some nice soft but... seductive music dim the lights and wear something really sexy... yes you can touch him gently and teasily you can give him the dance backwards or front... but make sure it's slow and very seductive... I'm sure theres some singer or attractive that posess some sexiness study them... go on you tube and watch a Beyonce or Brittany spears video watch there movements and pratice it... men love suprizes, if you have a camera phone... put on something sexy and send him sexy photos of you instead of just the usually text message... go on a poetry website site and find some sexy poems... study them and remember them and read them to him... Go an erotica shop and by things like massage oils and other things thats in there... Keep it spicy keep him happy... The best of luck to you...
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Well I really like this guy a lot. I've already told him I did so its ok. But I wanna kno how he feels about me without actually having to ask him. So my question is how do I find out if he likes me?
That's good that you haven't asked him. I can only go by my own personal experience... I have poured out my feelings before and... I've asked the guy to do the samne... And he couldn't supply my mind with what I wanted to hear so I felt crush... But now I just pay close attention to actions... Believe nothing of what you hear and half of what you see so... My advice to you is to watch his actions... Watch how he treats you and responds to you... watch the tings he do or don't do for you... Holidays are coming so see if he does something special for you... he knows you like him so you shouldn't have to tell him again...And by watching his actions quiently you'll soon realize weather he likess you or not... He can be really shy for all you know... But if you don't have any positive signs soon... Don't push it just simply move on... They'll be others guys that will gladly take his bait... Best of luck to you
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Hello ,
My name's Betty and I have a problem.Most guys just jump right into action right. Well , I met this guy and we hung out for the first time. We went to the movies and he made some moves on me. Then he said to go back to his car so we did , and he put my hand on his lower area. Most likely , I'm taking a guess that's all he wanted and wasn't interested in me. My question is , is it worth waiting him to talk to me or leave it behind and not talk to him again?
Thank you.
It depends on what you want from him. If you want just a fling go for it... But if you're looking for a relationship... He's the wrong guy... Because he labeled what he wanted from you even before the dat begun... I've been on dates where I was taken to the movies and out to eat... And after the date was over, I was just given a quick kiss on the cheek... And dates like that ended and began an long term relationship... The guy had no right to assume that you wanted to jump his bones... And he had no intention of really getting to know you so, If you want something other than a fling you should move on... Best of luck to you
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My boyfriend went on holiday yesterday for 2 weeks, we both got credit so we can text each other. We only really text if we need to talk about something or if we're meeting up etc.
So what's some cute texts I can send him? Without just telling him what I'm doing and telling him I love him. Thanks
Men love a women with her own independence, they love positivity, and they love are beauty as females... So I will just text him some sort of sexy things like... Well I'm about to go to the mall and I'm... going to buy a sexy outfit... or teddy that he may like... Make it something spicy... Something that may grab his attention and keep him thinking of you... I don't know if you have picture mail... And if you do send him some pictures messages of you with your hair combed pretty, maybe a lil makeup and something sexy on... Trust me that will really work he'll love it... It's ways to make him think about you more than you think of him... And as females we all have it... The best of luck to you
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I just moved into college on Friday 4 hours away from my home where I left my boyfriend behind. We both cried when he drove back home and I've never seen him show any sort of emotion besides happiness. I cried again that night...more like bawling, then again the next day when my parents came back for a freshman ceremony. Everyday I'm on the edge of tears and I hate it because I am not a cryer. I'll be good all day but as soon as my boyfriend tells me he loves me (text or on the phone) I get all choked up and I can feel my eyes swelling. The good news is that he's applying for a school half an hour away from me but it won't start for a few months. I really need help getting through the months until he gets here...I can't keep crying everyday. Even writing this I'm getting choked up. Its crazy! Plus my college has constant planned and required activities for 2 weeks at least and I'm not the type of person who can be forced into friendships. They want to keep us distracted so we don't think about home and so far its working but I feel like if I keep pushing off my emotions then I'm going to have an even bigger meltdown down the road..
Help please!
It's quite natural to miss a person that, you've been close to so long. It's nothing wrong with what you're feeling. But you are going to have to learn to deal with the distance as best you can. Right now you should be focusing on your college work... A short time ago I lost the love o my life forever... and there will nerver be an reunion... So it's safe to say your siuation is a whole lot better than other...And in the future you may be seperated agan for a short or long peiord of time... So how will you react then... God forbid if you were to break up... your a mess now how will you react then? What you need is to... focus on yourself and continue to participate in those activities that he college you are attending provide for you... It's excellent that your Bf is going o be closer to you... I don't want to sound harsh but... In the mean time your justgoing to have to suck it up... The best of luck to you
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i really like two different friends but i don't know which to date. i am M Senior in High school
Friend 1. we were really close, talked about everything together. we started holding hands and talking on the phone daily but we thought we shouldn't date till the next school year (which now starts in like a week) b/c we were close friends and thought that it would be best to wait since she just got out of a relationship with someone who was a close friend to her but the relationship ended badly. after a little while she started dating another guy b/c she "wanted a fun relationship" nothing serious. a lot of miscommunications and confusion later our friendship was hurt but now we are talking on the phone again and things seem to be back on track
friend 2. our families' are kind of close, and we have fun whenever we are with each other, she seems to like me and i kind of like her.
i want to date one of them but i don't know which one is the right one. what should i do?
Wow! complicated huh? Well it seems tha you have way more in common with the first friend, I mean you describe her a paragrah long... And the other was just what, a sentence or two... you really went into indept details about te first one... And it seems as if you're more smitten with her... And the 2nd you said that you kinda like her well it's no kinda... It's either you do or you don't... ANd I think you like the first more... And just because your family is close to someone doesn't mean that, you have to nessarily date that person or, it would even work out... My opinion is, you should follow your heart... And choose the one that give you that certain feeling... you know that feeling... But I'm banking on the first... but beware it's not always so good to backtrack... I personally would want to start fresh...
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Okay~ There's a guy that likes me, a quiet, shy kid, much like me. I like him too. We both know that we like each other. Thing is, he's starting to fade, so to speak. I give him letters confessing to him, say hello and try to chat, and try to grow our relationship. However, he brushed it all off (I didn't even get a response from the letter!). I don't know if it's just shyness or what, but it makes me a bit annoyed that he would just ignore me. Now I'm starting to forget about him, saying "I'm over him", but school is coming back soon and he hasn't contacted me since it ended. I'm standing on a line between, "I still like him" and "He missed his chance". I don't know what I should tell him...
I don't know if you ever watched the movie ''He's just not that in to you'' And if you haven't you should check it out. My opinion on your matter is, maybe he's not that into you. For what reason who knows. And instead of wating for the guy, I think you should just move on. I'm sure you're a beautiful girl and, you can attract many more guys, so why waste time with someone who won't even respond to you. Best of Luck!
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hey, so im 17/f
i take the bus on weekdays, im not going to go into detail and say which days etc. lol. but anyways, so i take the bus and sometimes this bus-driver, lets say his name is thomas, drives that bus.. and he winks when he says hi, or has some cheeky smile on when he greets me! he's kinda older than me, like maybe in his 30s.. but would u consider that he's hitting on me?
but anyways, i dont know if im starting to grow feelings for him! which is kind of gross to me. because he is kinda old, and a lil plumper than the usual.. so i just kinda need some idea or some sort of path for someone to help me see and follow. or maybe im just being silly over something small, like maybe he is just being nice and not liking me in THAT way, you know?!
thanks in advance!
Sometimes we can mistake someones innocent kindness with flirtation... But sometimes its not so innocent... Deep down inside you should no weather he's actually flirting with you or he's just a really friendly guy. Now ask yourself these questions... Is he that way to everyone that ride that bus... especially females. And if so I think it is quite unnatural. If he's in his thirties, than I'm sure he knows that you're young. A crush on him, I think not... He's to old for you, ad if he's being overfriendly with you, than it's inappropiate... I'm not sure weather you're riding a city bus or school, but if it's a school bus than I think it's highly inappropiate... Don't think of him in any other way than an old guy driving a bus... you're young dear... focus on guys your own age... and if he make a futher advancement other than a wink or a smile... run as fast as you can or notify an adult... his boss or tell your parents
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16/F
I'm tired of being the nice girl that everyone steps on; I want to change. But how do you just stop caring what everyone else thinks?
I go out of my way trying to please everyone and if someone doesn't like me it's all I think about, and i'll do just about anything to try to get into their good graces. I just hate when people don't like me.
How do you just not care what people think? How do you get over the petty girls in high school who hate you for non-existent reasons and just live your life and be who you are, regardless of who hates you for it?
I'vebeen where you are. And sometimes I still have to work on it. I use to always care what other people think of me and, I started to let that dictate mylife. I was real people pleaser, and sometimes I was unhappy because, I let people drain my all away from me. But frankly, you have to come to a point when, you have to really love yourself. And you have to think Gee I am who I am, and if someone don't like me, well you know where they can go. You are you'r own self, and by continuing to please others, you're loosing peices of yourself. How to get over themean girls who don't like you? Simply ignore them high school is short, and soon they'll be out of your life forever. You need to work on yourself and stop caring what evryone else think. From your words it seems as if you don't have the higest selfesteem. And that's something you should be trying to work on now. Because if not, it can affect you in the future, in jobs, relationships, with your children, an friends. Everyone can't be the most prettiest or even the most popular,but the important thing is to love and please yourself. Best of luck to you!
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I am bi sexual and my gf got mad last night because I was drunk and hugged an old guy friend. She got mad and was like how would u feel if I did that to you. But she goes to her exs all the time and I have went there before too because my gfs roomate used to live with her and there kids like the ex but my gf will come back and her ex has bough her cigs or something and is always wantin her to come over and drink usually my gf doesnt but its realy eatin me up and its causing a lot of tension between us what do I do? I dont wanna lose her
It's really unfair for her to react that way.Especially since she's seeing her ex on a regular. Maybe she's insecure and, she accusing you of wrong doing because she's doing wrong. Have you thought about that? Why are you so afraid of loosing her? Is she the last women on earth? Do you have high self esteem? And why would you let someone treat you that way. I'm quite sure that, you have brought up the fact that you are uncomfty with her hanging around her ex. And she continues to see her anyway. It's eating you up inside so, I take it you're not really happy. Don't you want to? Do you feel that you deserve a peice of the happiness pie?
What you need to do is, put your feet down. And tell her, that you don't like the fact that she continues to see her ex. And you're not going to continue to stand for it. Either she will stop it if she really cares for you or, she will continue to disrecpect you and see her. If it's meant it will work if not it will never no matter what you do and how afraid you are to loose her. Love yourself, and if it don't work out please don't be afraid to be single. I'm single right now, and I'm damn happy. I've been where you were with my ex boyfriend, and no matter what I did, it didn't matter to him. Because he was cold and selfish. And a year later, I've never been happier. It will never fell right if you're with the wrong person!
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I really want to tell my boyfriend how much he means to me but I'm really nervous about it. I suck at expressing my feelings and I don't want it to come off as something forced, you know? I just want to let him know that he means a lot to me and that I, well, love him.
I mean, I know he might not feel as strongly about me as I do about him but that's okay with me right now. We haven't been going out too long so I don't expect him to say, "I feel the same way about you!" I just feel like I should tell him what I think about our relationship and how I feel about him...
Is it a bad idea since I'm not good at talking about my feelings or is it something that is ok?
Since you've only been dating a short while. I would hold off telling a guy everyhting. I mean don't get me wrong, I would tell some things. But I would hold off getting so underneath the surface. Guys don't always express their selfs so quickly so, if you pour your heart out and you don't get the same from him you might be a little disappointed. It's ways of showing your feelings more than verbally expressing them.
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My friend told me that she is gay and I do not want to be friends with her anymore. It's not that I don't like her as a person but I cannot grasp the fact that she has become a lesbian. Just months ago she was dating men and now she is claiming homosexuality. I don't like it and the entire thing makes me uncomfortable. I'm trying to avoid her now more than ever since she has confessed her sexuality to me and I feel that I need to just tell her to her face why I no longer have interest in our friendship. How should I tell her? What should I say? I don't want to come off as cruel by saying, "You're a homosexual and that makes me too uncomfortable to continue a friendship with you," but at the same time I think it sounds most appropriate because it is the truth.
I know it isn't fair of me to not tell her why I have been avoiding contact with her. I know I should tell her but I'm not sure how I should go about this. I was thinking a neutral setting would be most appropriate but I don't want to embarrass her if she gets upset in some form.
Does anyone have experience with this or any ideas of how I should handle this matter? Thank you.
I can relate to you on this question. One of my best friends came out about a year ago that she's bisexual now. And at first I was really uncomfty around her. I never had anything agaist gays but I never was really close to someone who was. I felt that she would start looking at me inappropiately, and she would start bringing women around me, and doing stuff with them. So I advoided her, for as long as I could. But you know what I started to miss her as well. As friends we both went threw alot of things. and I started to think was my friendship with her really worth losing. So I had a talk with her, and I told her how I felt. She was relieved that I wanted to still be her friend. And she promise that she wouldn't say or do anyting inappropiate when I was around. But 1month later she realized it was just a phase. And she really wanted men. and currently she's engaged to a MAN. Weather she remained gay or not, I would have stayed her friend. A good friendship is not worth giving up no matter what. And as friends you experience changes. You may not know what changes you may make make in life. So would you want your friends to abandon you????
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19, female.
my best guy friend always tells me that i never tell him anything. and that he feels like he doesn't even know me anymore. but i mean what am i suppose to do, randomly just say everything about me and everything that i'm thinking and everything i've been through?
i wish i could tell him....
that i've been hurt so many times in the past.
that my heart wants to trust him, but my mind tells me not to.
that i'm rarely happy, and that i just fake it.
that i have an anxiety disorder and am taking medication.
that i can't find a boy, nobodys ever good enough for me.
that i'm insecure.
that i'm jealous when he gets close to another girl.
that i put everyone before myself, which has ruined me.
that i've been used by my friends, and when they screw me over and run back to me i'm always there with open arms..
that i can't trust anyone, yet i'm so vulnerable to everything.
that everytime i'm with him, i can't stop smiling.
that i love him, that i'm in love with our friendship.
that i'm drifting away from my family.
theres just so many things i can tell him. how do i though? honestly...
Wow! It seems you have a lot going on inside. And to be honest wit you, I can relate to you on some things. I've also been misused and treatly unfairly in relationships and friends as well. I've been vulnerble, and I've surely let others take advantage of me. And to this day I'm still dealing and coping with certain issues. But you know what help me threw alot was, the support of true friends and a great family. Maybe your friend can help you if you only open up to him. And if he is a true friend he wouldn't think any less of you, if you tell him whats going on. And maybe by opening up to him, it could help you in a way. It's always good to vent. And I think you have someone to vent to so do it. Get him face to face and tell him what's going on with you. And you might be suprize at the successful therapy it is to confide in a close friend. Best of luck.
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i'm 18 years old and i'm a virgin. i've been seeing this guy for a while and we have done everything except sex. i have done everything except sex with other guys before too, but now i want to actually go further. the only thing is that i'm sure sure if he knows im a virgin or not and i think that is something he should know. i just don't know how to bring up that topic without it being awkward. do you have any ideas of how to bring it up to him? i don't want to just blurt it out ya know? thanks!
Wow! Virgin at 18, these days that's very good. I'm sure if you tell him you're a virgin, he should be really pleased. I think that would also add to his sexual attraction towards you. I would tell him just before we are intimate. I'll sit him down and say, well this is my frst time and I'm a virgin. So please be patient and gentle with me. And I'm quite sure you'll get a positive result from him. But remember, make sure he use a condom, you wouldn't want to get pregnant or catch an std your first time. Good luck.
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I need a good place to sit down and talk with my friend. Were in 9th grade so we can't go drive somewhere but what are some general places you can talk to someone with no distraction?
I would go to a park. I'm sure theres one some where in your neighborhood. I would choose a bench off on it's on and there I would chit chat.
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