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I'm a mess...
I just moved into college on Friday 4 hours away from my home where I left my boyfriend behind. We both cried when he drove back home and I've never seen him show any sort of emotion besides happiness. I cried again that night...more like bawling, then again the next day when my parents came back for a freshman ceremony. Everyday I'm on the edge of tears and I hate it because I am not a cryer. I'll be good all day but as soon as my boyfriend tells me he loves me (text or on the phone) I get all choked up and I can feel my eyes swelling. The good news is that he's applying for a school half an hour away from me but it won't start for a few months. I really need help getting through the months until he gets here...I can't keep crying everyday. Even writing this I'm getting choked up. Its crazy! Plus my college has constant planned and required activities for 2 weeks at least and I'm not the type of person who can be forced into friendships. They want to keep us distracted so we don't think about home and so far its working but I feel like if I keep pushing off my emotions then I'm going to have an even bigger meltdown down the road..
Help please!
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It's quite natural to miss a person that, you've been close to so long. It's nothing wrong with what you're feeling. But you are going to have to learn to deal with the distance as best you can. Right now you should be focusing on your college work... A short time ago I lost the love o my life forever... and there will nerver be an reunion... So it's safe to say your siuation is a whole lot better than other...And in the future you may be seperated agan for a short or long peiord of time... So how will you react then... God forbid if you were to break up... your a mess now how will you react then? What you need is to... focus on yourself and continue to participate in those activities that he college you are attending provide for you... It's excellent that your Bf is going o be closer to you... I don't want to sound harsh but... In the mean time your justgoing to have to suck it up... The best of luck to you
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Just look on the brightside, your boyfriend will be close by you in a few months time and with all the activities your college has planned, that time will fly by.
The best thing to do until he moves to keep you busy is to remind yourself that things aren't that bad, it won't be forever and at least your relationship is strong enough to last and you two love each other. The best way to cope is to throw yourself into planned activities, make yourself as friendly and approachable as possible so you'll fast make friends to keep you occupied and whenever you find yourself getting upset and missing your boyfriend, send him a simple 'can't wait to see you :), what you up to today?' text. If you constantly send how much you miss each other it will remind you both of the fact you're far apart. While 'miss you and love you' texts are nice to send every so often to remind each other, on a day to day basis try to distract yourselves from the distance by having light hearted chats together and always remember to mention any private jokes you may share to put a smile on your faces and remind you of happy times. Don't focus too much on the fact that you're far apart and you really miss each other.
Hope you manage ok! if you keep yourself busy time really will fly by :)
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You just moved! Give yourself some time to adjust. It will get easier, I promise. Unfortunately, until it does, you just have to wait it out. You can do it. You'll still miss him, but it WILL get easier, I promise.
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