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Last Update: August 25, 2009
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i am 13 an latley i have been watchin alot of shows on the t.v about pregnancy it sounds strange i no but i would really like a baby now but i wouldnt if you no wot i mean i wouldnt wont one as i am 13 and still live with mom but i would because it would make me feel like i had something of my own to love i dont wont to tell my mom this because im scared she will just have ago at me and wont understand (link)
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the most important thing to focus on is the fact that you're 13, life may seem slow right now but your at the awkward teen age where not much happens for you, but in a few years time your school will pick up, workload and examload will increase, you and your friends will be able to do more of your own thing like go out shopping, cinema, you'll be able to get a part time job to fund your hobbies and social life, you'll then start gettin boyfriends, goin to uni, growing into an adult and all the things that go with it. That time of your life will be very busy and can be very hard, so it's important the only thing you will have to focus on is yourself, it really is tough growin up, and the extra pressure of a baby will make things ten times harder, there's no disputin you won't love your baby, but at times you may find yourself resenting and almost regrettin your decision to give birth. Just imagine when your friends want to go on a night to the cinema or clubbing, and you can't because you either can't afford a babysitter or can't find one and you mum may not want to babysit every weekend, your part time job won't be to fund your exciting social life as a teenager, it'll be to fund your growing baby, when you start gettin interested in boys, you may experience a lot of heartache as young teenage boys may not be willing to take on a child, especially when they are so young themselves, and what happens when the boy you really really like comes along, and he too isn't willing to take on that sort of commitment, take your time, sit down and make a list of how you would like to see your life in five/six years time, if you picture going out with mates, shoppin, and revisin for exams together, then a baby is not the right idea, try to then think of your life with a baby, sleepless nights before an exam, not having enough time to revise because you have the baby to care for, not being able to go out as freely with your friends as you would like, all of these things will be very important to you as you get older.
Why not focus your love and affection onto a pet, something you can cradle, like a rabbit or hamster, or evn a puppy, but make sure to get your mum's permission first!
As for your mum having a go at you, give her a chance, if you sit her down and tell her how you're feeling she may be very understanding and help you put your life in perspective, but remember, if she yells, it's because she loves you a lot and is panicking because she can see a baby is not the right idea for your life at the minute and is desperately trying to make you see that, that is the only reason she's yelling. Just give her a chance, mother's can surprise you sometimes.
Hope everything goes ok :)
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I just moved into college on Friday 4 hours away from my home where I left my boyfriend behind. We both cried when he drove back home and I've never seen him show any sort of emotion besides happiness. I cried again that night...more like bawling, then again the next day when my parents came back for a freshman ceremony. Everyday I'm on the edge of tears and I hate it because I am not a cryer. I'll be good all day but as soon as my boyfriend tells me he loves me (text or on the phone) I get all choked up and I can feel my eyes swelling. The good news is that he's applying for a school half an hour away from me but it won't start for a few months. I really need help getting through the months until he gets here...I can't keep crying everyday. Even writing this I'm getting choked up. Its crazy! Plus my college has constant planned and required activities for 2 weeks at least and I'm not the type of person who can be forced into friendships. They want to keep us distracted so we don't think about home and so far its working but I feel like if I keep pushing off my emotions then I'm going to have an even bigger meltdown down the road..
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Just look on the brightside, your boyfriend will be close by you in a few months time and with all the activities your college has planned, that time will fly by.
The best thing to do until he moves to keep you busy is to remind yourself that things aren't that bad, it won't be forever and at least your relationship is strong enough to last and you two love each other. The best way to cope is to throw yourself into planned activities, make yourself as friendly and approachable as possible so you'll fast make friends to keep you occupied and whenever you find yourself getting upset and missing your boyfriend, send him a simple 'can't wait to see you :), what you up to today?' text. If you constantly send how much you miss each other it will remind you both of the fact you're far apart. While 'miss you and love you' texts are nice to send every so often to remind each other, on a day to day basis try to distract yourselves from the distance by having light hearted chats together and always remember to mention any private jokes you may share to put a smile on your faces and remind you of happy times. Don't focus too much on the fact that you're far apart and you really miss each other.
Hope you manage ok! if you keep yourself busy time really will fly by :)
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I am trying to break myself of a rather harmful addiction that I let get to the point where it was the only thing I enjoyed in life. My whole life began to revolve around it and it has some serious side effects associated with it. I've just decided that I've had enough of this stupid lifestyle and want to move on to a REAL life.
So, I'm trying to find something else I can enjoy with the same passion so I can stay clean, but I'm not having much luck so far. I don't know other HEALTHY options that I can become associated with. What should I do? Anyone have experience with this sort of thing? (link)
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First of all, Congratulations.
You have already taken the hardest step in the process of becoming clean, wanting to change and getting a new focus. Once you have experienced addiction, the only way to defeat it is to replace it with another HEALTHIER addiction, as you have an addictive personality, you are more likely to replace your previous addiction with another, this is why emphasise on 'healthy' is crutial.
Excercise is the best way to replace your previous adiction, the happy endorphins released during excercise will give you the same high your previous addiction did and seeing how it improves your physical features will give you another boost and you will start to love your self once again, however, you will need the willpower to not go overboard with excercising and turn that into something unhealthy, don't worry, you've already proved you have the strength and willpower by kicking your previous addiction so you can do it.
A hobby is another good way to focus your attention, for example cooking, dancing or any form of sport. Joining a local team or course will help focuse your attentions, get you out the house, build your skills and confidence, and is also a great opportunity to gain some qualifications and make some like-minded friends that will take you away from your destructive friendship group you may have through the addiction you all share.
Good luck, I hope you beat this. :)
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