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i dont no wot to do
i am 13 an latley i have been watchin alot of shows on the t.v about pregnancy it sounds strange i no but i would really like a baby now but i wouldnt if you no wot i mean i wouldnt wont one as i am 13 and still live with mom but i would because it would make me feel like i had something of my own to love i dont wont to tell my mom this because im scared she will just have ago at me and wont understand
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It's normal to think about having a baby at your age. It's a phase many girls go through. But a baby isn't like a doll you buy at the toystore. They need food, baths, clothes, shelter, and toys to interact with. You don't pull a string, for them to ask you for food.
Babies are very expensive -- thousands of dollars a year, and it gets worse with every year you go. Not to scare you, but you'll take up all your funds (even college funds) just to take care of the baby. You're likely just in middle school, no job, and no money. Is that really a life for the kid?
I really prefer getting a puppy or a kitten. Pick one up at the shelter because they really need some love and care, just like a baby. I am sure you can negotiate with your mom about getting a puppy. They can be pricey but very cheap compared to an actual baby.
How about consider for a kid when you're married, have a nice job (financially stable), and live in a nice house.
I know a baby seems like a solution, but it's only going to add to the problem. Please do this for yourself and your family, and not have a kid just yet.
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hey this is perfectly naural.. i think every girl goes through this at one stage.
why dont you consider getting a puppy?? your own puppy. you can train him and teach him to love you:) i think this is exactly what you need and what your looking for.
you'll have someone your own to love. Im pretty sure your parents will agree, instead of you having a baby. you can get different pet i just think a dog is the most affectionet and a dog can love you back unlike a cat or a rabbit.
[[if you already have a dog or a pet then then try to treat him as your own]]
hope i helped! xxx
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I really don't think you want a baby. I think you want a form of love, but a baby won't give it to you. I highly suggest you get a pet. While pets are still pretty expensive, they're A LOT cheaper than a baby.
You're 13. You have no job, you still live at home with Mom, & you're probably just starting 8th grade or so. Does that sound like you can take care of a baby?
On average, babies cost thousands of dollars a year. Depending on what you're willing to spend or what you need, usually anywhere $10-15,000; maybe more. And who do you think is going to pay for that? Certainly not Mom. Mom already has a child and doesn't need another one.
So get a pet, get your education & grow up. Babies cannot have babies because babies are not band-aids.
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the most important thing to focus on is the fact that you're 13, life may seem slow right now but your at the awkward teen age where not much happens for you, but in a few years time your school will pick up, workload and examload will increase, you and your friends will be able to do more of your own thing like go out shopping, cinema, you'll be able to get a part time job to fund your hobbies and social life, you'll then start gettin boyfriends, goin to uni, growing into an adult and all the things that go with it. That time of your life will be very busy and can be very hard, so it's important the only thing you will have to focus on is yourself, it really is tough growin up, and the extra pressure of a baby will make things ten times harder, there's no disputin you won't love your baby, but at times you may find yourself resenting and almost regrettin your decision to give birth. Just imagine when your friends want to go on a night to the cinema or clubbing, and you can't because you either can't afford a babysitter or can't find one and you mum may not want to babysit every weekend, your part time job won't be to fund your exciting social life as a teenager, it'll be to fund your growing baby, when you start gettin interested in boys, you may experience a lot of heartache as young teenage boys may not be willing to take on a child, especially when they are so young themselves, and what happens when the boy you really really like comes along, and he too isn't willing to take on that sort of commitment, take your time, sit down and make a list of how you would like to see your life in five/six years time, if you picture going out with mates, shoppin, and revisin for exams together, then a baby is not the right idea, try to then think of your life with a baby, sleepless nights before an exam, not having enough time to revise because you have the baby to care for, not being able to go out as freely with your friends as you would like, all of these things will be very important to you as you get older.
Why not focus your love and affection onto a pet, something you can cradle, like a rabbit or hamster, or evn a puppy, but make sure to get your mum's permission first!
As for your mum having a go at you, give her a chance, if you sit her down and tell her how you're feeling she may be very understanding and help you put your life in perspective, but remember, if she yells, it's because she loves you a lot and is panicking because she can see a baby is not the right idea for your life at the minute and is desperately trying to make you see that, that is the only reason she's yelling. Just give her a chance, mother's can surprise you sometimes.
Hope everything goes ok :)
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Get a dog.
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heyy..alright so you want to get pregnant?before doing that you need to understand that there is a high chance of you dying because your body will not be able to handle child labour and all that pain.imgaine you got pregnant at this age and you died in labour!your baby would have no mother and you wouldnt get to have the baby youve always wanted...most of us girls want children its our nature to want to be a mother, to want to have soemthing to love, have soemthing that is a piece of us. but eventhough, life is tough and your just not old enough to be a mother yet.wait a few more years.i know you may think i dont understand but i do.iv wanted a baby since i can remember its gotten so bad that everytime i see a child/baby near me everything around it become a blur, its just me and the baby.please dont try having any babies just yet..its not all fun and games babies are a big responsibility and not to mention they are very expensive,live your life first.your lucky because you have a choice to have fun and live your life but some people never got that choice a baby can really change your life and if your unable to care for the child then it can change your life for the worse
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