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crazy about me to ignoring me
This might be long, but I'm in desperate need of advice. I'm 20, in college and relationships are/were never my strong point. I've been hurt, like everyone else, but I didn't bounce back normally. I'm emotionally closed off and I push away guys, and get claustrophobic when a relationship starts to get serious, so I sabotage everything and the guy ends up hating me. A few months ago, a guy I had class with started a conversation with me and it ended up with him admitting he had a crush on me, and I always thought he was cute. It went from there and we went on a few dates, and I let him know that I'm standoffish and I'm not like other girls who can let guys in. He didn't really like the fact that I barely called him and wouldn't act like I liked him and I told him that we should just go with the flow, and take things slow. He agreed and we got closer and closer, and he admitted to really liking me and told me whenever I was ready, he wanted a serious relationship. I started to feel for this guy (which is rare) and we had sex, and a relationship waa forming. Everything was fine for awhile, and then we got into an argument (I started it, I admit that) but it was fixable. I apologized and asked him if we could talk about it. He agreed but then never called or said anything again. I texted/called him and no response. It's like he disappeared off the earth. It's been a few weeks and nothing! He was absolutely crazy about me and truly seemed like a standup, good guy. What happened or what did I do wrong here? I can't get over this! It's always in the back of my mind, since I never got any closure and I don't want to text/call him anymore, ultimately making me look desperate. What should I do?
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OMG! Reading your story seems like dejavu'... Like you the same thing basicly happened to me a short while ago... And the way he's treating you is unfair and I agree you do deserve closure, and it's selfish and cold for him to walk away with out closing you guys chapter. What I would want to know is... Have there been previous arguments before that you may have started... Has he been acting strange... Has there been a change in his behavior towards you at all... I'm trying to find the source cause there two sides to every story... But to really help you I'm going to share a lil of mine... A while ago my ex and I were togeather... That's the guy I just new I would marry but... We ended up arguring which I started I admitt... And like your guy he left with out giving me and ounce of closure... Boy was I angry and bitter... And it took me longer to get over because I didn't recieve any closure what so ever... But you know what I found out half of the reason was there was another women... And he was to much of a coward to face me... So he did it the easy way... I know you feel hurt and very confused... But my advice to you is don't call him or text him it will make you look desperate... Trust me I know I've been there and to this day I regret constantly calling and texting him... He could have been wanting to break up for a while... And the argument you started may have put the bullent in the gun... I've been hurt just like you in relationships and the pain really never goes away it just lessen everyday... He may never come back... Or he may come back... But in the mean time work on yourself... And try as best as you can to face and fight the hurt in your life besause if you don'tit will always be there... I'm sorry you haven't been treated fair but please and I say please... Don't let this xperience or any from your future affect your past. If you have any additional questions please feel free to ask me or someone else on this site...I wish the best of luck to you...
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