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the ex
I am bi sexual and my gf got mad last night because I was drunk and hugged an old guy friend. She got mad and was like how would u feel if I did that to you. But she goes to her exs all the time and I have went there before too because my gfs roomate used to live with her and there kids like the ex but my gf will come back and her ex has bough her cigs or something and is always wantin her to come over and drink usually my gf doesnt but its realy eatin me up and its causing a lot of tension between us what do I do? I dont wanna lose her
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Talk to her. Tell her to look at how jealous she got when you hugged a guy. Then tell her to think how she would feel if you were talkin to your ex all the time, and hangin out with them and everything.
I know this might be hard to bring up, but things are better said than kept from eachother. Communication is the biggest key in a relationship i promise.
And once you guys talk and get everything cleared then you know what makes her mad and she knows what makes you mad. This way hopefully it wont happen again.
Hope i helped =]
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It's really unfair for her to react that way.Especially since she's seeing her ex on a regular. Maybe she's insecure and, she accusing you of wrong doing because she's doing wrong. Have you thought about that? Why are you so afraid of loosing her? Is she the last women on earth? Do you have high self esteem? And why would you let someone treat you that way. I'm quite sure that, you have brought up the fact that you are uncomfty with her hanging around her ex. And she continues to see her anyway. It's eating you up inside so, I take it you're not really happy. Don't you want to? Do you feel that you deserve a peice of the happiness pie?
What you need to do is, put your feet down. And tell her, that you don't like the fact that she continues to see her ex. And you're not going to continue to stand for it. Either she will stop it if she really cares for you or, she will continue to disrecpect you and see her. If it's meant it will work if not it will never no matter what you do and how afraid you are to loose her. Love yourself, and if it don't work out please don't be afraid to be single. I'm single right now, and I'm damn happy. I've been where you were with my ex boyfriend, and no matter what I did, it didn't matter to him. Because he was cold and selfish. And a year later, I've never been happier. It will never fell right if you're with the wrong person!
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First of all, all you did was hug him? Not a big deal.
I can understand it bothers you that her ex always wants to hang out with her. But, it's possible he looks at him and her as being really good friends now. The problem here is all just jealousy.
Sit her down, and TALK! Communcation is the most important thing in a relationship.
Tell her how you feel about her ex. Make sure she knows it bothers you when he always wants to hang out with her. Make sure you explain everything you're feeling though, so she understands.
Then bring up what happend when you were drunk. And explain to her that you feel she always goes to her ex's all the time, and (if this is how you feel) the hugging wasn't a big deal and didn't mean anything. And just tell her you're sorry and you didn't mean to upset her.
I'm sure once you guy's talk, it'll all be fine :)
Good luck, hope I helped!
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