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do he love me or pety me?
I know my boyfriend for two years but we brook up 3 times .
we were together all the time for 6 months but i couldn't take it because he never lets me out or talk to my friends and he made me quit studying and i wasn't mad Because i love him . after that he called me every now and then for 9 months but i didn't answer him for all that time. after i did he said that he misses me and he is sorry for every thing that he made me lose and i said OK in one condition that if we will end up married and he was OK with that. three weeks after that he got to what he was, never wants me to see any one or any one see me,just be with him and talk to him.
i left him for the second time and i changed my number. but i couldn't take it , i love him so much that i don't feel that my day is complete with out him and we used to be together all the time so it was hard. i sent him a massage from my new number after a month, saying sorry i left you that way ,and in a few days i asked him if your OK that we would be friends because i just want you to be with me and I'll take the last chance for that. he didn't answer if he wants to be friends he just said we'll take when we get together.i saw him every thing was fine and fun just one thing two weeks after that i found out I'm pregnant in 10 days and we are only together for 1 month , so i didn't want to tell him ,i was afraid he'll leave me. i sent him a massage with every thing in it ,and asking him not to be mad because I'm was very scared . he called and shouted and said it wasn't his , when all that started i looked at my phone and closed the line and looked my phone . i felt lost and i didn't have any one to tell,so i toke care of every thing.in two weeks i felt better i opened my phone , he called and send massage if i hated him i said i just wander why you didn't stand by me. and i sent him saying not to call me and just pretend that we never met if we were at the same place. in a few days he called . i sent him i want my things . he called then sent me if you want them call me . i didn't,this Friday i told him I'll pass by to take them he said OK. when i got their he hugged me and was so thin and asked me how am i so i got it all out ,that he wasn't their for me, he didn't believe me, and he don't care. and i can't be friends withe you ,either have you and spend all my life with you or leave you because i can't take the idea that you'll be with any one else and you will treat me like nothing ever happened , he said that you wanted to be friends and i never said their wont be a life for us together is just we were apart for a while and it would take the same time for us to fall in love again and he said he was sorry and he never meant to hurt me ,its only his mouth that messes every thing he gets mad easily and easy forget and I'm not like him. and with all what we have been through i still love him and i know he cares . Because he call's all the time . it just I'm worried and scared because i don't want to go through losing any thing again,. is he playing me or he is trough but mad and confused.
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I think you should somehow find the strength to move on. My saying is never really back track, cause it's likely it want work out. Now that's from my own experience. Second of all you sound like you are some what needy. You let a guy have total control on you and when he says jump you leap. From reading your story I feel that you have a few sel issues concering yourself that you must deal with. Trust me I been where you were before and I had my own share. It's like you need someone to love you and care for you to feel important and you will deal with whatever a man puts out weather it's good or bad just so you want be alone. How could you allow yourself to constantly be with a man that will deny his own child, and isolate you from everybody else. My advice to you is you need to be alone right now. I think you're in love with the whole idea of love. You need to learn to be happy by yourself, and you need to deal with certain issues. I myself have been in your shoes. I've have ben verbally and physically abuse, I've been cheated on let constantly b so-called men who suppose to have really loved me. But you know what the last one I said oh no. Ad I realized that I really had to straighten myself out. And currently oday I'm single but you know what I'm happy, because I learned to put God and myself first. And I think you should follow down the same road. Because if you and he never work out you can easily attract someone like him or worst. If you every have time go to a libary or book store and find some books about self improvement and relationship books learn read improve you need it. I keep it real I don't tell you what you want to hear I tell you what you should hear. Good luck to you!
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He doesn't pity you.
He wants to OWN you. Thank goodness you aren't married to this guy. Marriage to this man would be selling yourself in slavery.
You've been right before: You've trusted your instincts and not taken his calls, and destroyed all contact with him. Like the posessive creature he is, he was unable to let go of what he saw as his (ie, you).
He doesn't pity you. Pity requires concern, and his own concern is owning you, and controling you. He doesn't give a damn about how you might feel, or what your experiences might be. He only wants to prove he can have you, treat you like shit, and still have you.
His mouth doesn't mess things up. It's the whole of him that screws this up, because he is cruel, immature, controling jackass.
He's not just playing you, he's playing himself too. He's pretending like he's changed. He might even think he really has changed. But there is no reason at all to believe has. He's only doing what he has always done: He's playing nice until he has you in his trap agian, and he feels free to turn ugly on you. A man who can shout at you, control your activities and bully you, is the kind of man who will beat you someday.
Break free now, and stay that way. Please.
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