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so for starters im 17. My boyfriend left about july 10th to basic training, i wrote him for about a month and a half and he never replied back, i missed him like crazy. He got back about 10 days ago he didnt call he didnt message me or anything. My friend said she had talked to him, and he seemed really happy. So i had her ask him what his problem was, and she said that he said that he never got any letters so he thought i moved on... so i finally talked to him and now he says that he doesnt want me to worry about him all the time, and always having to wonder when the next time we would talk... so he said we should just be friends..but i was like how can you be friends with someone who you were absolutely in love with. i dont know what to do, because i love him so much but i dont know if i should just move on or continue with him, i've tried moving on and it just seems like i always compare him to other guys and other guys just dont even come close...i just dont know anymore (link)
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I think it is best to try to move on, and I know it'll be hard for you, but it'll be very hard at this point to maintain a relationship. Just, keep in touch so that when it'll all over, you guys can get together again.
Best of luck. =)
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i have a group of imature friends that i have alot of fun with. but there's a problem, their all total pot heads and trouble makers and then i have a group of friends who are still wierd but not like them and they are a better infuence on me. should i get rid of the pot heads even though some of them arent so bad...they're still my friends, is that all that matters? (link)
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I wouldn't throw away the friendship, just don't let them influence you. Friends respect what friends want or don't want, so it should be good. =)
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hey. im normally a really outgoing girl, but whenever im around my crush i totally freak out, and i cant think of anything to say ! its so annoying. he will be standing next to me, and i will just stand there too. i dont want him to think im not interested, because i really am.
so what are some good topics to talk about, or what would you do?
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I have the same problem! So, I totally understand! But really, just try to be yourself, because if you present yourself how you normally are, it's soo much more likely he'll fall for you.
Have confidence, giggle and smile at him, and let one topic lead to another and another.
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i dont hav acne but i have like a bunch of zits on my forehead and some on my nose too. i use proactive and it always looks liek its clearing up but it never completely goes away. what can i do to get rid of it? (link)
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I found it really helps to alternate different face wahses. Keep maybe two or three handy. Also, use astringent after you wash your face. I recommend Clean & Clear astringent, it really saps out the oils.
I'd say you might want to get a moisturizer,too, because all the product can really dry out your skin. Hope I've helped! =)
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I got my period today (Wednesday) and I have a cross country meet @ Brown University on Saturday. The problem is we have a long drive to get up there (5 hours) and I get horrible cramps sometimes. Its an overnighter to top it all off and I dont feel comtrable having my period and sharing a bed. Ive had my period for about 4 years now so its not like its a super out of control flow or anything. I tried tampons and they just dont feel comtrable. I dont know what to do! This makes me not want to go so bad and it sucks. Does anyone have any advice on what I can do? I know that is such a dumb question but I am DESPERATE. Please Help! (link)
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Peppermint (and it really does work for me) helps relieve the pains of cramping. It has some calming effect on our hormones and although it won't take away the pain, it won't be as bad. So, just take a couple of mints and wear overnight pads.
Also, if you're uncomfortable about sharing a bed, you might want to take a little extra blanket to wrap yourself around in, just in case you leak, it won't get on the mattress.
Good luck!
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ok, sorry if this is kinda long. well, i dated this wonderful guy Alex for about 4 months and then he broke up w/ me.. he admitted he had cheated on me and that he didn't think it was right so he ended it. now, i'm dating one of my exes Brian and things are going pretty well but we've had quite a few fights. Alex wants to get back together and so do i.. but what do i about Brian? should i dump him to be with Alex again or stay with him? Please help me! Much appreciation! (link)
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I'd say stay with Brian, 'cause who knows, Alex can be prone to cheating, and can easily do it again.
And every relationship consists of some fighting, it's only normal. Just hold on to Brian and let Alex see what he let go of.
Good luck!
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hey guysss...I have a poetry assignment due thursday. 10 poems. In one day..yeah, I know :p. I'm not asking for any help - don't worry lol.
Mostly for the poetry writers out here -
How do you get inspired to write poetry? Like...do you just look at random things? Or..?
Please...any advice? :) thank you very much
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Actually, all my poems selected for contests were about a guy I had liked. That topic REALLY works out because your words are so emotional and can either reflect good times or sad times. Whether you feel loved, or transparent.
So, a lovely topic, would be the object of your affection. If you aren't interested in someone, try to pick out major events in your life, because the more you've felt for that topic, the more beautiful your words can be. =D
Hope I helped, good luck!
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i was dating this guy. we broke up because it wasnt working out, he was a total jerk and i just couldnt handle arguing with him anymore! 2 days after we broke up, he had another girlfriend! i mean its whatever, but gimme a break! that's not even enough time to have the balls to call a girl!! so i walked up to him one day and im like, "so, you know its been two days since we broke up.. how long have you and *shelley been talking for?" he said, " 2 days" i know thats not true. they must've been talking for longer than that. i mean it took him like 2 weeks to ask me out! i want to be mean to her and make her feel like an butthole because she knew we were dating. but i dont wanna deal with him coming up to me and yelling at me. even though i'd do it right back.. now, dont get the idea that i still like him, because i dont. i just really hate the girl he's with, AND he did me wrong.. what should i do?
sorry so long! (link)
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Act like he doesn't exist until or unless he apologizes and you both agree on being friends (if you want to, of course).
Don't acknowledge him, and let him go on with his business and just keep your head up high. =)
Good luck!
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I had this boyfriend for 4 years and he dumped me tons of times, then decided we should be friends. After a while, he questioned about getting back together and I said I wanted to. Then bam, he hit me with the news of saying theres another girl and that he can't choose. I told him theres no choice because I'm gone. Did I do the right thing? (link)
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Yes, most definately! If you can't be sure you can trust him, don't even bother, it's not worth a heartache.
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okay so for some reason this year, a majority of the people in my grade are becoming vegetarians. its really akward. 4 of my friends have become vegitarian recently, and ive heard about other people at my school doing it to. i dont have anything against vegetarians or vegans, its just that i dont see why everybodys doing it. it also seems like my friends are changing so much because of this. arrgg, what do i do and why do you think they are doing this? (link)
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It's funny because I recently found out my friend became a vegetarian a little while ago. She said that she stopped being as sick as she used to be, and her immune system's improved. That's my guess on why so many people are becoming vegetarian/vegans. =)
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my name is cederian i think i may sick because im the only guy i know that has mood swings and my girlfriend mariah just tell me that its normal but i need a second opinion to give you insight as to whats been happining to well i was happy lik two hourrs ago and i just started to cry and i remember thinking am i dying whats wrong with me i felt like i wanted to die ive never been this depressed i kept telling myself what do you have to live for then i realized i was only 16/m why was i thinking like that then mariah tried to help me feel better but it did'nt help i thought i would just go lie down and i would feel better some how then it happened i sat up and looked in my mirror and said to myself you dont deserve to live and my big brother always makes me feel like crap ill just be sitting down in the sun room and hell just come up to me and call me a fag and how in the hell can i be a fag if i have a girl friend and my dad does'nt approve of anything i do nothing i do makes him happy he just sits there and judges me he'll just say you're an idiot but i makes straight a.s in school i play football i play soccer and baseball he's never been to anyone of my games butyou know the worst thing he ever said to me was that it was a mistake for me to be born and he wished my mom would had an abortion and that he hated me then the next day he acted as though nothing had happened but my mom,grandma and mariah are the only people who love me but are they enough reason for me to stay alive i like eight months tried to kill myself because the dispair had gotten to a point where i just could'nt take it anymore i need help what wrong with me !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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There's nothing wrong with you...it's human nature, especially after such things were said to you. You're a smart, active guy and those people who fail to see it aren't much worth any worry.
Keep holding on to the people who make you happy, and pay no mind to those who make you sad and feel insignificant. They're wrong to think so and to act on it, and they're only hurting your confidence.
Don't listen to 'em. =)
Oh, and by the way, I think every older brother does that, so try to ignore him.
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There was a guy that went to my school that was my age and seemed to have a good, normal life... I mean, he had friends, girlfriends, good grades, played sports... and I just found out like twenty minutes ago that tonight he killed himself. I had only talked to him once ever. I just don't know how to feel right now. I don't know how to help my friends deal with this... I don't know much because there hasn't been anything on the news yet because it happened just a few hours ago. I guess I am just looking for words of advice, or experience... thank you, everybody. (link)
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Just always be there for your friends, that's all you can do.
A lot of times people mask how they really feel, they're afraid to draw attention to themselves, and they just want to appear perfectly fine, even if something's been eating at them. There was no way to detect it, it seems.
I'm sorry.
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I'm a sophomore girl..
Okay, so there's this nerdy guy that sits in front of me. (the definition of NERD, I swear) and he's sooo nice. But he doesn't shut up! He just talks and talks and talks when nobody's listening he continues on talking about how he cracked the computer system at our school or something and nobody cares...and w/e..He has dandruff that flies off and is VERY visible on his head, he wears glasses (nothing against that, of course) and has a lot of acne. His voice is annoying and monotonous(sp?). And when he has no one else to talk to (usually) he just talks to ME! And he says annoying, uninteresting things about computers that I could care less about. How do I politely show him I'm uninterested? Sometimes he gets me in trouble with the teacher for talking!
he's really nice and I don't wanna be mean :(! (link)
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Try to talk to your teacher about the issue after class, I'm sure he/she will try to come up with a solution so you won't be distracted from your schoolwork.
As for the guy? Throw something in about yourself and see how he responds to it. If he keeps bringing the topic right back to himself, then I doubt you can have an interesting conversation, but if he's interested in what you have to say, you've gone and made a new friend. =)
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I am 14/f and I am having a birthday party
Here is what I have planned so far:
--->3 girls including me, 4 boys
--->on a Saturday
-Meet at my house at 6:30
-And eat...ANY IDEAS?
-Then go to market street (like a New York type place) and play in the fountains and go get ice cream and stuff
-Come back to my house, hang out, go outside on the golf course, ravee, snack, cake and presents
-Haunted house
-I NEED SOMETHING COOL HERE
-Watch movies and hang out
-Go wrapping around 1ish or 2ish a.m.
-Boys go home, girls stay the night =P
It will be too cold to swim
I only want those people =P
And my boyfriend is one of them and we are all really close friends so like spin the bottle or 7 minutes in heaven would be awkward =P
But if you have ANY ideas to spice it up a little, you would be a life saver :D
Thank you soo much!
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It'd be a fun idea to randomly throw something like a marshmallow at one of your friends. I'm sure it'll start up a big marshmallow war, and it'd be very memorable. =)
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My friend is really clingy! Im at college and have just started a new course. This girl who was on my other course last year is on this one too and she wont leave me alone. I want to make other friends on the course because i dont just want one friend at college.
What can i say to her, so that i can make other friends without hurting her feelings?
Please help
Thanks
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Try to encourage your friend to make new and more friends with you. That way you can both meet new people, and do it together! Then that'll make you one big bunch! =D
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I have been hanging out and getting to know this girl, we had a date and she told me she wasnt emotionally stable. A couple days later she is dating this kid and that they are bf and gf, i talk to her and she gives me a big thing about never seeing me the end of my senior year, i make that ok and can completely understand it. we talk every day, we get talking about us and she says >If you really love me you will wait for me (link)
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By telling you to wait for her, most definately shows how she's not worth your time. She's asking too much a thing, and it doesn't even seem like she's going to make any effort to make it work.
Stop taking this out on yourself, sternly tell her that you cannot wait for her, I don't think she'll be half as hurt as you are right now.
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how do you ask a girl out with out sounding cheesy..like other thatn will you go out with me....cause now that im older it seems like childish (link)
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I KNOW this sounds cheesy, but really, it's cute:
In the middle of a conversation, when you both temporarily run out of things to say, ask her what her one wish would be, and when she asks you, casually say somthing along the lines of, "I guess if you went out with me."
Then flash a big smile!
Best of luck!
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Well im not so sure where to put this but I hope I have it in the right place. This may sound really retarded, but it really bugs me. I have a problume with laughing, I always laugh at everything even if its not funny and i cant help it I just do. Sometimes when I am talking I cannot even finish my sentence because I start laughing all the time. It really imbarresses me esspecially when i am talking to the guy I really like, I am scared that my laughing might scare him away. This may seem really weired but how can I stop laughing so much? I hate looking like a retared all the time. (link)
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I can launch into laughing fits, myself, and most of the time, it's not even funny. Well, at least not to others. Teehee!
Anyway, I usually bite my lip, and don't worry about a guy being chased away. They usually go for the funny thing, so he should be delighted that you're so amused by him.
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two shows/movies I can't stand:
Hannah Montana and High School Musical (1 and 2)
Not only, in my opinion, are they really cheesy and overrated..but unoriginal and stupid.
Am I wrong to think this? Yet, I still get blamed in school for not liking it.. (link)
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You're not wrong to dislike what you dislike, and if people bash you at school for not liking it, shrug it off. Everyone's entitled as to what they enjoy and what they find is a waste of time.
I hate both Hannah Montana and High School Musical, so I get what you mean, and people should learn to respect what others like and dislike.
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A few weeks back I met this guy and we became fairly decent friends. We've spent some time together and I honestly believe I've fallen head-over-heels for him. He's pretty darn wonderful but (there's always a catch, right?) he's pretty much taken. He's in love with another woman and I don't see that changing anytime soon. He often talks about her to me and I really think there's not much hope he'd break it off with her and look for someone else.
My question, really, is should I continue to be friends with this man? Should I distance myself and stop going out to lunch with him as often? We've had great times and I'd hate to lose such a friendship but I'm fearful that my other emotional feelings will end up getting the way. I find myself almost jealous over the other lady but realize I am only a friend and nothing more. (link)
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Don't break the friendship because you feel like you can't be more to him. It's possible that you'll come across someone who you'll be smitten with, and you don't need to sacrifice your friendship in order to get it.
Also, you might not see it changing anytime soon, but it still might change. He might then realize how you've always been at his side, and see you how you want him to see you. More than a friend.
Best of luck. =)
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