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how do I shut him up?
I'm a sophomore girl..
Okay, so there's this nerdy guy that sits in front of me. (the definition of NERD, I swear) and he's sooo nice. But he doesn't shut up! He just talks and talks and talks when nobody's listening he continues on talking about how he cracked the computer system at our school or something and nobody cares...and w/e..He has dandruff that flies off and is VERY visible on his head, he wears glasses (nothing against that, of course) and has a lot of acne. His voice is annoying and monotonous(sp?). And when he has no one else to talk to (usually) he just talks to ME! And he says annoying, uninteresting things about computers that I could care less about. How do I politely show him I'm uninterested? Sometimes he gets me in trouble with the teacher for talking!
he's really nice and I don't wanna be mean :(!
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i have a roblem just like this
and i know what u mean by nerdy because so is the person i have a problem with
what you should do is just tell him not to talk to you so you dont get in trouble, and when youu are allowed to talk you should make sure to talk to nearby friends and noy him. Thats what I do anyways. When he talks to you dont laugh or act like your having fun, just say ok and try to end the conversation. This is not an easy problem to solve because you dont want to be mean, but try to just make sure he knows you dont care to much about whatever he is saying.
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i have a problem likethis one but he doesnt talk bout computers
and hese not nerdy well in my world i think itst pretty mean to say that
anyways
just tell him
"im sorry but i dont wanna hear about it "
nicely
so hewont get sad
or mad
hope i helepdbye
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"I'm paying attention right now."
OR
"I'm working, not talking at the moment."
It feels a bit rude yes, but it's not. It's just honest and straightfowward. With some people just will not take hints. So don't drop hints, don't try and 'show him', TELL him to stop.
Set the bounderies clearly. You'll feel better.
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Try to talk to your teacher about the issue after class, I'm sure he/she will try to come up with a solution so you won't be distracted from your schoolwork.
As for the guy? Throw something in about yourself and see how he responds to it. If he keeps bringing the topic right back to himself, then I doubt you can have an interesting conversation, but if he's interested in what you have to say, you've gone and made a new friend. =)
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He sounds like very insecure person who needs to keep on talking to stop himself feeling, probably, 'insignificant'. He obviously feels very nervous in your company and talking helps him feel able to cover it up. I can understand how annoying that can be especially if he is getting you into trouble as well. If you can talk to him without losing your temper you need to explain to him that you have to concentrate on your lessons and will not be answering him back. However, do give him a little bit of your attention occasionally and suggest he finds other people to talk to also.
If he persists regardless, I think that you may just have to start blanking him (cruel I know), because your school work is extremely important too. Good luck.
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