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hey guys! my name is cait♥ and i adore giving people advice. my obsession is 8th&ocean. i even have the theme song as my ringtone ; ] hehe. anyways im a cheerleader and i love every minute of it. well dont be afraid to ask me certain questions because im always here for you = ]. thanks for coming here and reading this. so you like my advice? add me!! = ]]. cait♥

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Do you think it's necessary to know your partners past sexual experience? Would you want to know? Would it bother you? I learned from personal exp. never to ask, yet I found out how much experience my girlfriend has had accidently and when I confronted her about it she didn't deny it. Something changed with me when she admitted it. I feel really insecure about it now. I hate finding out. What would you do??

hey, well i think that you should always know about your partners past. even if its bad or even good you should still know. i think that you should be get to ask each other questions that youve been wanting to know. it will help make your relationship stronger and it will also help you be able to confront each other in times of need. cait♥

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hello i have a situation that i'm really not sure about i don't know who really to ask so i figured out side help is the best advice so here gose i have a really close friend i met almost 8 years ago and i know i was still a teen when we met but i fell hopelessly in love with him and been this way ever since he lives about an hour away from me and this is one of the reason we never got together but for the first year i never met him (i met him though a good friend there related) but we use to talk on the phone for hour's on end and it was fun we were just friend's i never thought of him as anything else but when i met him i knew he was the one for me and agian i was young but something told me and still tells me that where ment for each other we kept close connection's for about 2 1/2 year's than he got a girlfriend and stopped talking to me all together and told me that he though of me like a sis he dosen't remember this but i women never forget's we stoped talking for almost a year and when they broke up he started talking to me again just not as much and for the past 6 year's this is how we've been we talk every so often and we alway's talk like we've never stop he know's my feeling for him i'm not shy about talling him and he tell's me he loves me still to the day but also say's he not in to long distance relationship's which is understandable i've tryed everything in my power to get him to open up to me because i want to movve by him to see what happens between us but my only problem is that we really don't talk much any more. his friends that i know tell me i'm wasting my time but i don't see that because in the past 8 year's he's alway's returned to me and he alway tells me he loves me and we act as a couple when were together but have never really been together not that it matter's i've tryed to stop talking to him i moved and changed my number it lasted almost a year than he kinda kidnaped one our our friend that i'm very close with and made them bring him to me . i've tryed to give him and altamatum by telling him that if he didn't want me than that was fine i'm happy to move on but i need him to tell me that or he has hold over me i told him that if i didn't hear from him by a certin date i would just know but again he called two day's before and made everything a lil better i want to be with him more than ever but i don't want to move away from all my friends and family for nothing and i'm fankly sick of the run around he's been dealing i'm know in my 20's and i've never really had a ral relationship because of him everytime i get close with some one he pop's p in my head and i can't get emotional with the person i'm with i hold back my heart cause he keeps me waiting i don't want to loose him but i all i have is what he tells me and what his freinds tell me. i know he cool with me movin by him he's offered to help me find a place and move but i'm very scared and i don't know what to do i want to put this all behind me and have a couple of time but just hearing his voice bring me back if you could help me it would be gravely apprecated i thank you for taking the time to read my messed love thank you bie

hey, you guys should meet up to talk and hang. keep doing this and see how it goes. who knows what will happen = ]. cait♥

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Hey people :D

I recently bought TWO tanning lotions, Natusan Holiday Skin, and Dove summer glow, now I was just wondering - how do you apply these? Can you use them on your face´? And if not, what do you do to make your face the same colour as your skin? Anything to think about?

Thaaank yoOu!

hey, well apply the tanning lotion about 5 minutes after you get out of the shower. make sure you are dry before applying. also your shower should be with hot water. applky teh tanning lotion evenly to avoid streaks. remember less is more in one area, so dont go too crazy with the lotion! there is special tanning lotion for your face. go buy that. DO NOT put the body tanning lotion on your face. also those products that you got may be good, but jergens natural glow is one of the best. it comes in 3 tones fof skin. light, medium, and dark. so buy the oen that matches your skin tone. also that one comes with a face one. so mayeb try that? cait♥

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First off i'll give 5's for anyone even considering to read my dream :]

KSO I had a dream about this guy I like.

The guy that i'm i like with came over to my house and helped me babysit my siblings. But i've never even talked to him before and even at my house we still didn't talk. But we kept on looking at each other and smiling and just staring at each others eyes. Then we went to the living room and sat next to each other and watched the tv. Then I started playing the piano and he was watching me and I told him "im not very good at this so don't be surprised when it's bad." and he said "That's ok with me." But before i could even start to play my brother interupts me. Then before i start to play again my sister interupts me. When this is happening he starts laughing and smiling and so do I. Then after them 2 leave before i start to play again, he says to me "Well I better get going now..." He gets up and walks over to me and then gives me a big hug and whispers in my ear "I love you.. Maybe we should hang out more often and see where this is going because i dont want to stay just best friends with you." But we're not even best friends. So I say back, with tears in my eyes, "I love you too and dido." Then he gets up and starts walking to the door and i say "don't say that we're not gonna be just friends we're going to be boyfriend and girlfriend." and he just smiles and says alright and walks on out.

After that i felt verrry happy and in love, then extremely nervous and then i felt a strange tranquility wash over me.
I had a heart drawn on my hand and i just looked at it and smile and then my alarm went off and my dream ended.

What could all this mean? Please help!! 16female if that helps any..

hey, im pretty sure ti means that you may be together in the future! well in order to mkae that happen you obv. have to talk to him first. drop hints that you lke him and just talk to him like a person, not a hot guy haha. cait♥

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((14/f)) and the boy ((17/m))
k, so i met this kid at the beginning of the school year. and basically we've been in love ever since.
but we aint going out because of my mom
she hates him, and shes never even met him.. and she thinks that he just wants sex, cuz she assumes thats what every guy older then me wants. but ivee already told him that im not having sex, because i think im too young, and he understands completely. and i know he doesnt want sex, because its been 9 months and hes still here.
and we both really want to go out,
btu the problem:
my mom
and our school.
our school talks way too much crap

any suggestions on what i should do?

hey, well forget what the people at your school say. its you and the guys relationship, NOT the whole schools. as for your mom. i think she will be pretty upset if she finds out that your going out with him after she said no. you should have a talk with her WITH THE GUY TOO! both explain to your mom what the situation is and important facts. dont hold back on your feelings. cait♥

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ok its me again alright he told me he loved me and everything has been going beyond great with him but thatr was up until the last 2 days hes been acting really weird like at first when her told me he loved me i believed it 100% but now when he says it im kind of confusing and wondering if he means it or hes just saying it because i want to hear it i mean i know he loves me but hes acting like he doesnt care should i just get him alone n spend some time just me n him? im not ready to give up on him n i know hes not ready to give up on me so what do i do?

hey, my guy is like this too. im wondering if mine is bipolar. lol anyways. just give him another chance. if you prefer explain to him how you feel and dont hold back your feelings. i think its just a typical guy thing tho. cait♥

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(im a girl, 14) Right I am freaking out over this and i really need help..

There is a new lad at our school called Ashley and me and my friend (laura) both like him loads. He seems to like us both but as Laura is in more classes with him she is getting to know him loads better and hes already said that he thinks theyre going to be great friends. Laura has a boyfriend already and she says that she'll let me have Ashley but he still flirts with us BOTH in front of her boyfriend .
In their classes together Ive heard that they get really close and hes pinned her against the wall etc and they sit together. They also talk about people and she says that he said that i was pretty/fit but then she asked about her and he said 'erm..no' but I reckon that he only said that because she was there and didnt want to give her ideas..Hes also said that he wouldn't mind going out with either of us.

So the next day I totally freaked when i found out that he had been flirting with her in science, and i was pulling letter keys off the school computer and threatening to kill her so much that I really scared my friends. Its all going great for her ;-(

It so happens that day that she is staying down (she lives in a village)because we both go to this tramplolining club every wednesday and after school at the gates I was freaking out and pulling my bag apart and on the verge of screaming/ smacking her / crying n biting my nails off... and he was still flirting with her on the way to the local shop we all meet up at but he doesnt normally walk this way . Finally i decided to sort this out with her and i was nearly crying but she said that shed lay off him etc for me (bless her).

And what do you know he started flirting with me. I kept getting hugs and he was showing me how to do drumming etc and he was coming to watch us (probably Laura) at trampolining with her bf later on..

OK So now we're at trampolining and we both talk to him as much as each other but hes giving her piggybacks and he gave me a single shoulderlift to show of how strong he was. He probably knows I like him because of the many people who have been coming up to him and asking him if he likes me etc. After trampolining we went back to his where we were sat down watching TV with his cute puppies jumping allover us and I was sat on the couch next to him getting closer and he was talking to me and asking laura questions.

We went to the kitchen (all 4 of us [me laura Ashley and her bf, Lewis]and he was flirting with us both (tickling me and jumping up behind me etc, doing exactly the same to Laura and her bf was staring daggers)and we decided to go to a shop and buy a pizza. Me and Laura bought the pizza and he seemed to be tagging along with her more but then on the way back to his place he had his arm around me and I was loving every second and he kept putting his hand round my waist…J Back at his house we were in his kitchen again with the pizza on (her bf didn’t seem to mind him messing around with her anymore because we were all just great friends) and then I realized that now he had his arm round her (serious twinge of jealousy)….. But then he has his arm round both of us either side of him as we waited for the pizza to cook. I kept whispering to Laura that I REALLY LIKED HIM I have honestly never felt so badly for someone I was almost shaking when he entered the room. So after a while she takes him outside and all I hear is playful giggling and I am worrying but she comes back to tell me that though he’s happy with his girlfriend if he ever dumps her he will definitely say yes to me. And now I feel like a total prick for acting kinda shy around him and leaving it at that. Does it mean anything when he hugs you last?

Today at school I saw him and hugged him and I was so happy until I found out that he was going on the school trip that Laura was going to and he wants to share a room with her……..But in dance today he came running over to me to knock me down/ hug me and I was just like ‘Hi?’ and he me and laura kept talking to him as he’s the only boy in our class and can break dance. We had to choose groups and he chose to be in a group with me and Laura and not the popular, pretty people or his other friends he knows better. We were so chuffed. He was teaching us how to do a box jump and lifting us up by the waist (more me than her) and all the popular people were scowling at us with jealousy :-)At the end of the lesson they all had a go at him and asking him why he was hanging out withus losers but he stuck up for us and we were really surprised at his guts etc. After the lesson he jumped up behing me again and he walked me to my next lesson. Although he didnt walk the same way home again to see me..

I want to know who he likes best and whther to make a move or not...? Because I dont want him going off with Laura on this French trip if Im going out with him, I feel like tearing my hair out coz I wish he would make a move on just one of us and stop confusing me...

congrats if you finished reading this btw lol and thankyou for your answer lol luv rachel xxx

hey, well i think he doesnt know who/what he wants. to save either of you from a heartbreak i would just stay strictly friends with him. of course you can still flirt but just dont expect to be anything but friends with him. but if he does tell ONE of you that he likes you then thats a different story. you can be mroe then friends if that happens. cait♥

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I'm 18/f. My boyfriend's birthday is coming up in june (he's turning 21), and I had the idea to throw him a really cool party, but I have a bunch of options right now and I'm not sure which to go with. My first idea was to have the party at his house (surprise party), and involve his parents.
Thing about his parents is I don't think they really like me, and I'd like to win them over, so to speak. I think if I went and talked to them about it, they might like me more...well, this might actually go in another question...anyway, I could throw it at his house and involve his parents a little bit, but then it'd have to be a dry party.
I could also get some of my older friends to help me out and make it a wet party, but then it couldn't be at his house, and it might cost more.
Money's not much of a problem right now, but I don't wanna like, splurge, so I can't like rent a place or anything. Yannow? It'd have to be at a friend's house or something.
So I guess I'm asking if anyone has ideas and/or opinions.
Lemme know!
Decent spelling and grammar, please. They're important. If you TyPe LyK dIz, you're not getting a five. =D

hey, a surprize party is great! but there are pros and cons of having the party at the parents house. pros- they will respect you more and like you better because your catering to there son cons- the party might be stuffy&&boring. i think you should throw a party at one of your friends houses. but let the parents know like ask them a question purposely so they get the hint that your having a party for him. cait♥

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im not just here for the rating. Wehn you ask a question and you give the honest answer and you answer the question they asked. Why do they rate you a one.? Is there anything to do about them rating you a one when you deserved something like a four or a five?

hey, you could report them or delete your answer. the reason why most people do this is because they feel offended by your honesty. but dont hold back on asnwering just to mkae you get a good rating. take the rating you get and just delete your answer fi you feel that you got a rating that you dont deserve. if they leave a bad/nasty comment with a 1 then report them = ]. cait♥

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Ohhhhhhkay. So my boyfriend and I have been together for awhile - I'm 18/f, by the way - and in the beginning of our relationship, I thought his mom liked me.
I even heard her say she did once. But as we've been together longer, I've gotten to know her better and I don't really like her...I mean I do, but there are things she does and says that I really, really don't like. I think she's picked up on that, and she doesn't like me.
I don't know if that's WHY she doesn't like me, or if she's one of those "no one's good enough for my baby!" types of moms, but whatever the reason, I think she dislikes me. I've also been told she doesn't like any of his girlfriends.
His dad seemed to like me too, but I'm not sure about that, either, now.
I...guess I want to win them over, but I'm not sure how. I've never had the issue where a boyfriend's parents didn't like me. It's usually my parents that don't like my boyfriends, but they like him this time. Odd.
At first it didn't matter to me at all, because I wasn't really in this for something serious, but it kinda got serious, and now I care...which is kinda bad...help?
Good spelling and grammar please...!

hey, you need to sit down with your boyfriend and his parents and have a talk! tell his paretns exactly how you feel and dont hold back. if you do hold back then they wont know yoru tryue feeligns adn the problem may not get solved. cait♥

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Hey, How do you make icons for Iconator.com.

I rate 5's

hey, the paintshop program helps you with that. cait♥

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I am from Ontario, Canada
I used a Herbal essence red hair dye, and I want to go back to a lighter shade of red I usually tint my hair, but the last dye was so strong, a hardresser told me she would have to do a bleach/shampoo coctail to strip the dark red, before I could use my usual colour. My natural colour is medium brown with a slight auburn tint. What I would like to know is how can I do this at home to avoid the high salon price?

hey, well i think the best way to go would be the salons. why i say this is because you want to avoid all possible mishaps that will happen by doing it yourself. save for it. cait♥

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I'm having my wedding dress made in a few weeks, and I need to quickly lose some weight! It was suggested to me to do a high protien diet. What are some good high protein foods i can eat to help me drop the pounds?

hey, here is a link for you = ].

http://www.intense-workout.com/protein_diet.html

cait♥

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OK heres the deal.
I tore my acl playing soccer. so now i'm on crutches and i cant really put any pressure on my knee. But my question is how can i work out? Cuz i have a lot of down time, and i went from playing tennis and soccer to now nothing. so i dont know what to do. any ideas that doesnt have much to do with my knee?

hey, everything sorta involes knees. you could ligt-weights. but i think thats about it. sorry for not helping a whole lot. cait♥

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There is this guy at my work that I'm about 95 percent sure likes me. The think is that he is really shy. He's also one of the supervisors at the store (not mine). I'm a basic worker. He is only 21 but very mature for his age and I am 28.
Well about a month ago I got invited out for drinks with some coworkers and he was there. Although he didn't talk to me I caught him smling and staring at me when I danced on the speakers. But at work the next couple of weeks he didn't talk to me so I thought he didn't like me.
A couple of days ago I asked someone in his department about him. She said he was single and very shy and embarrassed easily. I think she caught on that I was interested and told him.
Well yesterday was I ever shocked when He came up to me and shyly asked if he could use my pricing gun. This is the first time he's EVER started a conversation with me. I suspect that he was just using this as an excuse to talk to me- after all he's a supervisor a huge department a has a million things to do- he could have sent one of his workers to do this. I also caught him staring at me later.
So my question is do you think he's interested in more or am I just imagining this? Also how should I act around him at work now without getting all embarresed? Note- I am also shy.

hey, i think he likes you! since your both shy you both have to make the moves. he did by asking you for a pricing gun. so its your turn now. just keep alternatin gsorta like a game. drop the hints that your interested tho. also dont be like oh im in love with him and stuff. get to know him first! cait♥

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I'm 20yrs old and my boyfriend is 21 our relationship is good the only problem is his mother. She calls him everyday whenever we go out she comes and finds us When i visit him at his house she comes over and tells me she will have me physically removed. How do I get him to stand up to her and be a man? She hates me but i think she would hate any girl. He's in college and his parents pay for it so they say that whatever he does is their business even our relationship. He's cowed by his parents. We left for 2 days to get away from them and his mom called private investiagtors to find us. I love him a lot and i want to stay with him i just don't know what to do and why they hate me.

hey, jeeze shes harsh. have a tlak wiht the both of them if its possible. if not then have a talk wiht your guy and tell him that you cant stand this. also that you love him, but you dont know if you can go through with this. cait♥

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what are some ways that I can get better at eating healthy.
13 female. I'm not fat also.

hey, well for lunch at school instead of buying the unhealty lunch bring the following- diet soda or flavored water, one fruit like an apple or soemthing, and maybe a salad. for dinner have something light like maybe a grilled cheese sandwich and maybe cheat a little and have a snack of your choice(nothing too drastic tho). for breakfast have some waffles or toast or both. cait♥

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sit on the ground with your legs bending at your knees. place your hands on the florr with your arms bednigna t your elbows. make your fingers facing outward. pick up your butt and go up and down

well do you mean like you sit on your butt and bend your knees and then like moved your but and stomach up and down?

hey, no sorta keep your stoamch down too. but make it go a little up. cait♥

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ok. im 12. somewhat skinny, and 100 lbs. i havent eatn in about 6 days,but i drink water a lot. i want to eat, but then i feel bad and ill just make myself throw up. i geuss im afraid to eat or gain weight. i keep passing out and only a few ppl know why. help anyone?

hey, first off your 12 get off the site! starving yourself isnt the answer. the average 12-13 year old is 100-120 pounds. so your perfect. just eat heathy. if you fel better skip one meal and just eat 2 instead of 3 a day. starving yourself is very dangerous so dont continue too. cait♥

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i was playing uhh fish tycoon sadly, and there was a fish names a flash fish, and it has like two heads. i dont really get it, because i yahoo imaged searched flashfish, and like nothing came up. where could i see pictues

hey, a flash fish is a fake fish just used for fish tycoon. cait♥

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