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I'm psychic and a sociologist, and combined with the many different professions I've had, husbands, friends and family, and my share of bad neighbors too, gives me the knowledge and experience to cast new light on many old problems that we all face. Ask questions about anything you want and need answers to: Boyfriend or husband, school, sex, decorating, careers and career changes, family and friends, pets, diets and health and illnesses, finances, moving and relocating, divorce or marriage, and the nosey problem neighbor. -- Ask JR
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well i have a bump on my vagina that kinda hurts wat could it be
fyi: i never have sex b4
Have you used a mirror to look at it?
Is it a white bump?
It could possibly be an ingrown pubic hair, or cystatcious cyst which is an oil gland that's stopped up.
This is based on the fact that you stated you are a virgin.
See a doctor to determine what it is to be safe.
my boyfriend doesnt want to cum in my vagina so i dont get pregnant, but what can he do to finish?
No disrespect, but are you crazy?
No condom??????????????
No protection??????????
Penetration WITHOUT climax can get you pregnant!!!
Men secrete semen on excitement, which carries sperm. Even gential rubbing is risky.
Condoms protect from pregnancy and disease, especially HIV/AIDS infection....
....Use your brains!
The only other old-fashioned method (before we knew about HIV/AIDS was to "pull-out" before ejaculation.
This is not satisfying to either party.
USE CONDOMS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Problem solved.
Does anybody have one, or a few, or a whole list of favorite latin songs that could be easily found on iTunes? I'm looking for songs that would be fitting for a fiesta mood. Thank you. This is greatly appreciated. =]
http://www.tradebit.com/filesharing.php/3009/35
http://www.tradebit.com/filesharing.php/3009/13
http://music.download.com/2001-8534_32-0.html
in the Curse of Curves by Cute is what we aim for, the lyric says " ive got the gift of one liners" what are one liners? thxx
One liners are usually sarcastic remarks in one sentence.
Watch tv: "King of Queens" use one liners in their dialogue, "Seinfied" and especially Charlie Sheen on "One and a Half Men."
Those are one liners.
how do you tell the difference in someone who is "pedifile-ish" or just friendly with an attraction to you?
ive known this guy about 3 months. he tells me he thinks im hott and stuff, but also that im like one of his best friends [especially at work]. and hes given me one hug but otherwise never laid a finger on me. we get along really well. basically acting like bro and sis, i mean were tight. hes never done or said anything suggestive. but i have a hard time with trust ya know, so i just want opinions..
like what are some signs or something?
Pedifilia is a sexual attraction to children and younger kids (even teens)...
So, using the term pedifile means he is an adult (older man) and you are a teenager?
Pedifiles can be your best friend in order to gain your trust and friendship, then sexually attack you when the opportunity presents itself.
Do not allow him to hug you or touch you.
And personally, if you are asking yourself (and us here) the question-- then it's your own gut instinct that is warning you...
ALWAYS trust your first impression, your gut reaction and your instincts-- your sixth sense.
Well I'm 13 and I am a girl.what happened was my brother found my message to my boyfriend about us planning to kiss. Then He confronted him, and now I think my boyfriends hates me. What should I do?
Hey, the conversation was between your boyfriend and you and not your fault your brother found it and did his "protective" brotherly duty...
...tell your boyfriend about it-- the truth, that he found it and only is protecting you from it as ANY brother would have...
Ask your boyfriend what HE would have done IF his sister had that message...would HE confront her boyfriend in order to protect her? Of course he would.
is it true that you're supposed to drink half your body weight? some girl told me that a couple weeks ago
i weigh 145lbs..does that mean i have to drink 72floz? 64 is the recommended daily amount.
is that good?
No, 64.oz is normal, which is 8 glasses of 8oz. water.
But we normally don't drink that much "water"...
You can count certain drinks as "water" also, such as tea, (made of water) and Crystal Light powder that you mix with water at home, Koolaid, etc. (sodas do not count of course)...
soooo iv been suspended from school tommorow.. is there ANY way i can get out of it.. like my mom was planning on talking to my ass. pricipal...
.. oh and the reason iv been suspended is for talking in class/being disrespectful? but iv only had one dhall ever so i dont really have a bad record.
theres alot ridding on me missing school tommorow.. like i might have to go to summer school because of it..
has anyone ever gotton out of a suspention the day of it??
Your only chance is for your mother to go with you early as possible and talk with the principal, or assistant principal and ask if you can do a detention (dhall) and make up assignments, a possible probationary period (where if you get in trouble again it's automatic suspension for sure) and offer to do volunteer work in the school office after shool, filing and things...maybe pick up trash on the school grounds and things like that.
...But for mom to ASK what is an alternative punishment outside of suspension.
Parents have to pay for summer school-- so maybe that burden is too much on your family for just one descretion on your part. Surely, the principal can understand punishing you so harshly is punishing your entire family financially.
So my boyfriend always puts his arm around my waist.. and i dont know what to do with my hands/arms. I know something like this has already been answered.. but im sorry i would like to know so i dont feel like an idiot. Is there a certain way i should put my hands/arms??? thanks a million!!
There's only one thing you can do (if walking with his arm around your waist) is to put your arm around his.
Alright, well, I'm going dancing with a couple of people this weekend and I need to figure out what to wear. It's not going to be a like, club club place but it's basically like that.
Now I don't really dress like whatever you want to call normal, I guess. I wear whatever I want to wear, but if you want to call it something, I dress sort of punky/artsy along those lines. Just a mixture of that. I basically don't wear the attire that people normally do whenever they go out to clubs. I asked one of my friends if a purple tube top and some black skinny jeans would look good [ I think it would ] and they said I'd probably be the only person there wearing jeans, every other girl's going to be wearing skirts and whatnot.
Does anybody have any ideas on some cute outfits I could possibly try and throw together? I have a jean skirt and tank tops and such, but I'm not too big on sandals and not high heels. I'm more of a flats kind of girl.
You sound as though you have your own unique style and that makes you who you are.
Don't follow the crowd-- lead it.
Wear whatever you want and be yourself-- stand out for your individuality and not blend in (with moderation).....
so i really like this guy and i think he likes me back. we asked me to go to blue bayou with him(waterpark) sat.
i dont have a ride or anything.
all i have is his myspace no phone number anything.
should i message him on myspace?
if so , what should i say
thanks.
If you met him on MySpace and don't know him, then tell him to bring friends and you'll bring friends in order to be safe.
Besides, if he doesn't show up, you and your friends will have fun anyway.
But, preditors are on MySpace and you do not know if he is who he claims he is. He could be a 40 year old sex, child preditor.
does anyone know who won american idol?
thank you so much!
Jordon Sparks
http://www.americanidol.com/
On myspace: what is the code to place a color as the background of your display name?
MySpace just offered a new editing for your profile.
When you sign in, you'll see the announcement and forum for codes.
Color codes are included in the html font command: < font= "XXX" color= "XXX" > where the XXX's are the type font you want and color number code.
But-- I don't think MySpace offers the color change for the XXXX (Name) is in your Network part.
Anybody know any safe accredited high school student volunteer trips?
Thanks!
That would vary from location to location, city to city, state to state, school to school....
Check with your school's office or administration office and inquire, call your local volunteer facilities, call your local city offices and college.
But your school administration should have a list.
so last year i saw a girl wearing this really pretty short (above the knees) black dress and on the back of the dress were rhinestones made into a pretty design and then the fabric of the dress was a low back (the rest of teh back was covered in rhinestones (which were part of the dress) i really want to get a dress similar to taht but i dont no where to find it...im willing to spend up to $400 and im looking for semi formal meaning above knees-knees...if anyone knows any other cute dresses or if they know the brand of that particular dress please tell me...i will rate
ps. dont just say gojane.com deb, macys, etc...i checked i checked the malls... i need help (idc even ebay)
That is a pretty price to pay, so if you can't locate the dress, try buying a plain black one similiar to it-- the low back cut and length,etc.
Then, take it to a seamstress that does alterations (call and ask first to locate one that will do this) and tell her (maybe draw the dress on paper to show) you want the rhinestones added on....
You can have it recreated...and it'll be customized just for you.
I am going to get side swept bangs but i need a way to see how they would look on me without using the computer.
That's kind of an impossible task if you can't scan your picture in and morph it into a hairstyle you want...
...but, go to a wig shop-- ask the sales lady for a wig in your hair color, your hair length, with side swept bangs and try it on and see.
That's your only alternative.
14/f 5'2 126 lbs, size 5
I want to get down to a size 3 in 4 weeks. I need help on dieting and excercize. So tell me what to do. Dont tell me to skip junk food and blah blah. Tell me exactly what I need to do. I need a plan that will let me have chocolate everyday. I eat dinner with my parents so fixing my dinner isnt possible. I am also a vegetarian. My problem area is my thighs so help please
Vegetarian?
That isn't a high calorie diet, so that's no problem. And contrary to popular belief, chocolate is not fattening-- the sugar content is. Eat chocolate with artifical sweetners or low calorie chocolate if possible. But chocolate isn't the issue.
The amount of food is. A mental and emotional attitude on eating is use a smaller plate than you normally eat meals on, and reduce the amount of food you normally eat a tad, and the plate will appear completely full.
This is recommended in all good dietary programs because the mental picture of what you see, is the amount, the coloring, the pleasant appeal of the food, as well as the smell and taste which is related together.
That's one trick.
The second trick is to stop sodas. Drink sugar-free, diet soda. Drink plenty of milk and plenty of water. This flushes your system.
Then, exercise burns calories as well as tone and helps burn off excess fat tissue in our bodies.
Once the excess fat is burned, it will burn and tear down muscle which will rebuild itself, strenthening into great tone and form.
Muscle builders, weight lifters, athletics in general, all exercise to break muscles down to rebuild stronger.
Drinking plenty of water is the best for washing your system and hydrating you properly to exercise and be active to reduce a size or two.
Any jogging, walking or normal sit ups, general exercising you've learned in gym and seen or done will do. But thighs is stretchs, walking, jogging, riding a bike, anything that strains the thighs.
Just be aware of high calorie, fattening food. And whether you like it or not, junk food is fattening. French fries, even mashed potates, fried veggies, etc.
If you want potatoes, eat baked potaoes without butter, using low-cal sour cream, plenty of chives and seasonings or stuff them with your favorite cooked veggies and even low-cal cheeses, and whatever you want. The potatoe isn't fattening, it's the butter and junk on it that is.
Eat plenty of raw veggies. Great for anyone. Dip into low-cal Ranch or favorite thing as long as it isn't loaded with fattening calories.
Use common sense.
okay so this boy i like his name is j and i am totally head over heals for him i love him so much and he acts like he likes me to he always flirts with me and always hugging me and he always wants to hang out with me.but you see hes a total player so i don't know if he likes me or is just being you know player-e but the problem is one min. he acts like he loves me and then the next he's talking about his ex./my best friend Emily so it hurts me cuz i get my hopes up like o my god he likes me and then hes like "dose Emily talk about me any more??" and his current girl friend hes going out with only because shes go 38C's and Emily has almost D's so i think he only likes her because she's got huge boobs but I'm not sher? and i don't know whether to forget about him and find a new guy to like or to sit tight and hope one day he gets over his big boob fetish cuz i only got 36B's so i know he don't like me for them. but it extremely complicated and I'm trying to do the best i can to enplane it but I'm so confused about it myself. so can some one pleas help me decide what to do.
thanks in advance and i am sooo sorry to have written a book but i need help and I'm so confused
You summed it all up yourself.
He's a player.
He likes big boobs, what boy doesn't? Although some boys prefer big butts, and some the whole package. Just as girls do.
He wants you, and he wants his ex, and he wants the other girl(s) he sees. He wants them all. That's the definition of a player.
The cause? Insecurities and non-comittal.
He roams from one to the next, two or three at a time, constantly scouting for a new one, or the next one, in order to play and be prepared for when one gets serious he can bail out and he's got another (two, three or four or more) or the side to run to.
That's the non-comittal guy. He'll never get married, or if he does for whatever reason, end in divorce because he is bored or has cheated.
Run for the hills. He's a lost cause.
He'd never be faithful to you and always lie to you and eventually dump you.
Kick him to the curb and be a better girl for it.
There's good guys all around you- open your eyes.
15/f - Me
16/f - My best friend, Emily
I have been best friends with Emily for two years now. At times, we've been eachothers only friends and have gone through a lot. She says she doesn't want to go on living anymore and she's depressed. Half of the time, I think she's attention seeking. She's such a drama queen sometimes, always starting things.
I want to slap her, and say 'look at your life, it's amazing. There's people with horrible lives fighting to live with everything they have. What's wrong with you?' Lately she's been sulking a lot and it drives me crazy, and then she acts overly happy with other people just to get my attention. I don't want to put up with this if she's not really depressed.
I also want to just invite her to hang out all of the time and show her why life is so great. Does she even deserve that though? Should she learn it for herself? I don't even know why she wants so much attention. Isn't that just giving her what she wants?
She's considering talking to counsellors (she did as a child) but doesn't think it will help. Her life is absolutely amazing compared to some peoples', she has nothing to whine about. God. I want to tell her that SO badly. This drives me crazy, every single day! I constantly worry, but sometimes I get to the point where I think if she's going to act like such a baby all of the time that I'm going to snap.
How do I treat this? Should I try just telling her why her life is so great (as if she needs to get over being such a drama queen) or could this be serious? Wow I just started to tear up, thinking about if I said that and she actually tried to kill herself..
Help me.. please.. thanks so much.
She sounds "bipolar" with the depression, lows and highs.
She isn't acting to get your attention. It's real.
Bipolar sufferers are manic depressive people, and chemicals in their brains are released different from normal, brain neutrons misfire, and it is a chemical imbalance causing lows and highs and the severe depression.
She wants her "highs" as anyone would, and when her brain doesn't give her the high, she becomes depressed and low. They are always a dramatic (drama queens or kings) because any drama created causes highs-- a rush. Otherwise, life is boring and low and depressing.
It's not an act. It's a real attempt to feel normal and seek the high her brain has given her before.
You seriously need to talk to your parents about this and see if they will help you talk to her parents as a best friend with parental support.
She needs to see a professional, get diagnosed and on proper bipolar medication to "even" her chemical imbalance out.
Bipolar people either get hooked on drugs and can become alcoholics trying to seek that high, and/or commit suicide eventually. Teens are most at risk for both.
how do i make clear to friend who is on the other side of the planet that i fell in love with someone else and that i am no longer interested in him? he has changed the way he acts with me ever since i told him how i felt towards him..... i got over him and now i am engaged. but he doesn't know that yet... and i don't know what kind of opportunity i should look for to tell him...
"Other side of the planet?" He lives in another town?
Regardless, if you are engaged to someone else now, then don't beat around the bush waiting for the right time, because there is NEVER a right time to break up with someone, hear bad news, and be dumped for another.
Call him and tell him you want to talk to him. Don't tell him over the phone, he deserves face to face.
Then meet him, and tell him. Be nice and apologetic, but be truthful. If you are afraid he'll take it badly and go ballistic-- take a friend with you, but away from the private conversation-- yet in eye sight watching your back.
P.S. Since you explained to me the details privately, I'll respond for you.
I understand the method of commuication with him due to distance, so "talk" that way and tell him.
I can tell you already he has someone else in his life and has you emotionally hanging on just in case needed later. He's already over to you.
There's no reason for you to waste another minute worrying and fretting over him and telling him.
Move on, enjoy your new relationship that is REAL and your upcoming wedding. Your energy and heart is better with your fiance here and now.
Be happy and put the past behind you, it's gone and over and can't be changed. Today is the here and now so enjoy it moment by moment and dream and plan the future you and your fiance can build together. Dreams are what keep us vital and happy.