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how do i?!
how do i make clear to friend who is on the other side of the planet that i fell in love with someone else and that i am no longer interested in him? he has changed the way he acts with me ever since i told him how i felt towards him..... i got over him and now i am engaged. but he doesn't know that yet... and i don't know what kind of opportunity i should look for to tell him...
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you really have to tell him, the longer you wait to tell him, the worse its going to turn out...just be honest, its better in the end
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"Other side of the planet?" He lives in another town?
Regardless, if you are engaged to someone else now, then don't beat around the bush waiting for the right time, because there is NEVER a right time to break up with someone, hear bad news, and be dumped for another.
Call him and tell him you want to talk to him. Don't tell him over the phone, he deserves face to face.
Then meet him, and tell him. Be nice and apologetic, but be truthful. If you are afraid he'll take it badly and go ballistic-- take a friend with you, but away from the private conversation-- yet in eye sight watching your back.
P.S. Since you explained to me the details privately, I'll respond for you.
I understand the method of commuication with him due to distance, so "talk" that way and tell him.
I can tell you already he has someone else in his life and has you emotionally hanging on just in case needed later. He's already over to you.
There's no reason for you to waste another minute worrying and fretting over him and telling him.
Move on, enjoy your new relationship that is REAL and your upcoming wedding. Your energy and heart is better with your fiance here and now.
Be happy and put the past behind you, it's gone and over and can't be changed. Today is the here and now so enjoy it moment by moment and dream and plan the future you and your fiance can build together. Dreams are what keep us vital and happy.
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hmmmm.... well, if he is on the other side of the planet then its easy to avoid him; but if you want to salvage some kind of friendship from this, then you might start of subtly mentioning the name of your partner; like when you tell this person in your emails or whatever what you have done that day, then start saying what you have done with your fiancee.
the real question in your mind at the moment, should be, what stopped you from telling them before?
i hope this helps.
When they ask who the person is, you might just have to be honest with them...
Charmings Ashlie xx
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