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Depressed Suicidal Friend
15/f - Me
16/f - My best friend, Emily
I have been best friends with Emily for two years now. At times, we've been eachothers only friends and have gone through a lot. She says she doesn't want to go on living anymore and she's depressed. Half of the time, I think she's attention seeking. She's such a drama queen sometimes, always starting things.
I want to slap her, and say 'look at your life, it's amazing. There's people with horrible lives fighting to live with everything they have. What's wrong with you?' Lately she's been sulking a lot and it drives me crazy, and then she acts overly happy with other people just to get my attention. I don't want to put up with this if she's not really depressed.
I also want to just invite her to hang out all of the time and show her why life is so great. Does she even deserve that though? Should she learn it for herself? I don't even know why she wants so much attention. Isn't that just giving her what she wants?
She's considering talking to counsellors (she did as a child) but doesn't think it will help. Her life is absolutely amazing compared to some peoples', she has nothing to whine about. God. I want to tell her that SO badly. This drives me crazy, every single day! I constantly worry, but sometimes I get to the point where I think if she's going to act like such a baby all of the time that I'm going to snap.
How do I treat this? Should I try just telling her why her life is so great (as if she needs to get over being such a drama queen) or could this be serious? Wow I just started to tear up, thinking about if I said that and she actually tried to kill herself..
Help me.. please.. thanks so much.
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well, i think you just need to talk to her about it, and tell her what you said here, about her life being amazing compared to others. from what you've described about her, it seems to me that she's just craving attention. but, on the other hand, she COULD possibly be bipolar. i know a girl who is bipolar, but she acts a lot worse than your friend. which is why i think she just craves attention. but, being bipolar is not something to joke about, and neither is suicide. if she's attempting to kill herself then there is obviously something wrong with her. she needs to see a doctor right away for treatment. tell a trusted adult immmmediately before she does something stupid.
good luck, hope i helpedd ♥
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She sounds "bipolar" with the depression, lows and highs.
She isn't acting to get your attention. It's real.
Bipolar sufferers are manic depressive people, and chemicals in their brains are released different from normal, brain neutrons misfire, and it is a chemical imbalance causing lows and highs and the severe depression.
She wants her "highs" as anyone would, and when her brain doesn't give her the high, she becomes depressed and low. They are always a dramatic (drama queens or kings) because any drama created causes highs-- a rush. Otherwise, life is boring and low and depressing.
It's not an act. It's a real attempt to feel normal and seek the high her brain has given her before.
You seriously need to talk to your parents about this and see if they will help you talk to her parents as a best friend with parental support.
She needs to see a professional, get diagnosed and on proper bipolar medication to "even" her chemical imbalance out.
Bipolar people either get hooked on drugs and can become alcoholics trying to seek that high, and/or commit suicide eventually. Teens are most at risk for both.
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Sometimes a stern talking to does help; maybe tell her to snap out of it; to look around her and realise she has friends, and friends are everything!
But maybe she wouldnt react to that so nicely, especially if she is just being an attention seeker.
Its up to you to know if she is being genuine or not; and if she isnt, then what sort of friend is she?
does she worry about you? is she nice to you?
charming ashlie
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