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Q: I've been hurt many times in relationships and I've lost trust in guys. I became one of those girls who led guys on and dropped them, made plans I didn't intend on keeping and said things I didn't mean. I did that even to guys I liked. Now I'm changing things but the weird thing is I'm realizing I'm really into this guy i screwed over manyyy times. He isn't the best guys, he smokes ALOT, skips class, and drinks but for some reason I keep falling for him. He was one of the guys I actually did like but I made plans and didn't follow through 5 different times so hes pretty much lost all trust in me. I don't really know what to do because I don't want to want him but I can't help it. Well he ended up being at this party I was at and we talked and I appologized and he was being really sweet and cute. He tried to hook up with me and I didn't because my friend was already mad at me cause she says I was dancing like a whore so that probably didn't help things, turning him down. Me and him are friends but part of me really wants more. Everyone says I can do better than him but theres something about him that I can't let go of. For some reason even though he isn't the best guy and he isn't very attractive i feel like I can trust him. I don't know if I should go for him and work my ass off to try and get him or I should just try and move on (which hasn't been working.)

Not saying anything to him you will regret later on. But if he isnt the best guy in the world if i were you i would try to find someone else. but hey its your heart and you do what it tells you to do. Good luck.

Q: Okay. I really like this guy I'm going out with. I've gone out with him twice Friday and today(being Sunday). I really want to kiss him and today we were at his house and he asked me if his dad was upstairs and he was. It was obvious that he wanted to kiss me. He had eye contact with me and everything and he looked like he was going to go for it and I looked away. I dont understand why. Its not like it would be my first kiss it would be my second but still. I'm so nervous but I dont understand why. I've known him since 5th grade. So why can't I do it?

Your probably just nervous. lol Dont turn your head next time just go ahead and kiss him!!

Q: well the title kinda says it all!i really didnt meen to do it!we had been talking on the phone for like 4 hours and i was really tired and kept slipping into sleep then waking up!well we were talking and i axcidently called him by my ex's name!i immediately started like cursing at myself because i was sooo mad that i had just did that!i kept saying sorry and the whole time he was queit!i asked if he was mad and if he forgave me and he said no he wasnt mad and yes he forgave me!im still like worrying about it because thats like the worst mistake you could make!im like stressing about it and i want to talk to him but i dont want to be annoying about it or make him mad!i just want to stop stressing over it! should i be and how to i get over something like that?!?

I had this happen to me but it was the other way around and my bf called me one of his ex's names. and it pissed me off soooo much. So i know how you guy feels in a way. if i were you id kind of kiss up to him a little bit and do something nice for him. And then after that dont bring it up again because if you keep bring it up its going to cause problems. Hope i helped!

Q: My boyfriend & i of about 5 months fight non stop every night for like the past month. We have been fighting about his exs & about stupid stuff. Such as hes trying to be friends with them even though i don't want him to talk to girls. I feel like hes going to go with them because there better.and lately he's been acting like he doesn't love me. Like he doesn't show it in the ways he used to. I just don't want this relationship to be over. I need advice how to get over this fighting. adn how i can trust him more.

Hmm ill start off by saying there are 6 billion or more people on this earth so you cant expect him not to talk to any girl at all. If you feel like they are better then that is going to show through your actions. If i were you id say fuck them girls, he is with you not them so obviously to him you are better so you should feel that way too. And has this guy ever done any wrong to you? if not then you should trust him completely and if you dont then it sounds like you have a trust issue. If you want to stop this fighting then you have to tell this guy that him trying to be friends with his ex's is bothering you. If he is a reasonable guy then he will understand. Usually when couples fight alot thats not good. If i were you, the next time yall start fighting just take a breather and be like "why are we fighting" and go from there. You and Him are the only two people that can stop the fighting. And about the not acting like he doesnt love you, my boyfriend sometimes acts that way to but guys dont show their love 24/7 like us girls and you just have to know that he loves you and live with that. guys are complicated sometimes and if you want something to change your not going to get it unless you ask, because how are they suppose to know how you feel and stuff unless you tell them?

Q: i changed schools in the middle of this yr and its a super small school. i really like my friends but they are very judgemental and all have money. i have no problems with them and like them a lot but my bf is not that attractive generally and doesnt have much monay at all. i want to bring him to the dance in a month or so but im afraid my friends will judge him. im seriously not trying to be stuck up or anything but i dont want them saying something mean...i hope you understand and please im def. bringing him to Prom and this is only Sadie's but its the only other dance and i want him to so...idk thanx so much! :]

If these girls got a problem with the way your man looks then the hell with them! its not their man so why should they worry about it? Ignore what they say. Thats what i would do. They arent good friends if they judge you by appearence.

Q: my boyfriend of a yr and a half sexually assualted me. we broke up in november. a good guy friend of mine has liked me for awhile now, about 5 months? anyway.. he asked me out recently, and i said i didnt want anything serious right now. he understood bc he knows the situation. im startin to fall for him [again] and we basically act like we go out now except for the fact that we dont. im worried about being with him, because obviously along with relationships, comes the physical stuff. ive made out with him, but thats definitely as far as that goes. im worried about being with another guy because of what my ex did. obviously if i go out with my good friend, we wouldnt just jump into stuff because im not like that, it would take time. but the thought of that still scares me, i worry about what if we do end up lasting for awhile. i know he would want the physical aspect of a relationship, and honestly [most] people do. i know he would understand where im coming from, but i feel like eventually he would get tired of doing nothing, and we'd end up breaking up. help ??

Not all guys are the same. And this guy friend of yours seems pretty nice. Ive been sexually assualted too but not by a bf or anything it was by a compelete stranger and now im fine but i always caution which guys i go out with. but the guy friend well he seems like a good guy and if i were you id go out with him. If he understands and all then take the plunge. Hes not going to do the same thing the other guy did

Q: So i like this guy and hes really experienced and i have never kissed a guy and he likes me but thinks im experienced. I never lied and told people i did stuff, but everyone just assumed...what do i do? He asked me on a date, but were not together. AHH

14/f

If this guy is as experienced as you say he is this try not to worry that much. Just follow his lead if he goes in for a kiss. And put you hand behind his head, that will drive him crazy(in a good way) because thats a sensitive spot for guys. If everyone just assumes your experience then just let everyone think that. no biggie. My first kiss i actually kiss the guy he didnt kiss me because he was to scared. but kissing is easy, its not as hard as people make it out to be. and once you get the hang of the simple kiss on the lips then you start using tongue which is always fun lol but just play it cool and be yourself. You cant go wrong there.

Q: Okay, I'm short 4'11. My doctor said that my growth pattern went off track and that i won't get much taller. I want to be taller though cause I'm in sports like basketball and volleyball. So now my doctor wants me to get Steroid Growth Shots but i dont know if i shoud get them... any ever have them? please help, i need to make a decision soon. But then i'm also afraid of shots.. i don't know what to do.

you should learn everything there is to know about these shots and there side effects. so either ask your doctor about it or go online and search it on google or ask. Im afraid of shots to but if this shot is good for u then i would get it if i were you. But find out everything first before you make your decision. Good luck with all this.

Q: Well to start off , me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year. He always say he loves me more and cares about me more than i do for him. Buy seriously i dont think its truley the way he feels , i think im the one who loves him more like wth all my heart i think that . Id do anything for that boy , he also will to . But i mean i just wish he would show we he loves me more , i just dont want his feelings to go away and i hope there not . What should i do because everytime i tell him the way i feel he gets mad and says whatever i love you more end of story and he is just like mad and stuff. So what do i do ? i want him to appriciate me more ''/

so answer these please
- what do i do to get him to show more love?
- How do you know if a boy's feelings are fading for you ?

thanks

If he gets all mad and stuff like that go up behind him and put your arms around him and in a sweet yet kinda sexy way say "i love you baby, and if you love me more then prove it" Its kind a like a challenge and guys love challenges. i would totally do that if i were in your situation. But if all else fails you have to tell him how you feel and you cant let it bottle up inside you.

Q: alright. so i babysit this two year old. the second his mom left he started screaming and it took me like 20394823 minutes to get him to stop crying. it was terrible. the only thing that makes him stop crying is when he watches the movie 'cars' and i couldnt get the tv to work. hes only two and he cant really talk yet (late developer i guess?) but anyways what else could i do to make him stop crying? ive tried distracting him with toys and stuff.

thanks =)

I baby sit to so i know how you feel. i suggest asking his mom what he likes. Or make try to make him laugh. Make funny faces. Try everything till you find something that makes him stop crying. But if i were you id ask his mom because she should know. Good luck.

Q: ok so i have been friends with this girl sence she moved her in fifth grade. and i have been frieneds with the other girl since like pre-kay and the sad thing is we got in a fight over the summer and in the middle of the school year we all made up were alll best friends well tahst what i thought but every time i wanna hang out with my best friend the one ive known since 5th grade well she says yeah and the day we are supposed to shes with my other best friend and they never tell me when were supposed to go see a movie they tell me im comeing with them but then they dont call me to tell me what time they are goign an dthen they call me in the movie and say oh we forgot about u sorry i forgive them and now shes like getting on my nerves adn its not fair how they ditch me every time and they are supposed to be my bfflas and they arent really??i have no clue what my question is but why are they still mad at m ei have not done wronge to them even in the fight it was them ganing up on me!some friends riight?

most people dont remain friends with their childhood friends i only have one friend that i have known since i was 5. ive lost lots of friends but i have gained tons. so if these to girls are being a pain in the ass to you then they arent really good friends. From what you are telling me they dont seem to even want to hang with you and are doing it on purpose but thats just me. If you want to get down to the bottom of all this sit down just yall girls and if they refuse to talk about the problem then forget them and find some better friends because you dont deserve to be treated that way.

Q: [13 year old FM.]

One time, my friend *Jackie and i went to a party together. When i got there, this boy had his arm around her.Aperantly, they were going out. I didn't know that. So when my dad picked me up, i asked her [when my dad wasnt there] when she and that boy started going out. She said a couple of days ago.
It turns out that my other friends knew it as well, before i did. When it happened to be exact. I dont know why she didn't tell me, do you think she doesnt want to be my friend anymore?

*i didn't use acually names.

Its not that she doesnt want to be your friends she just may trust the other friend with that information more than you. just try to hang out with her more and try to talk to her more about things. This happens all the time and has happened to me before but dont take it offensively or anything

Q: 15/f

this one teacher i have is incredibly mean to me. hes always picking on me, ever since he found out that i was considering dropping his class. so i stayed in it, because it was hard to get out of. anyways, he really pushed me over the edge today. and made me to the point, where i almsot cried. i never cry. espically in school. anyways, we were suppose to get out of classes by last monday. but, this is an elective. so, do you think i'll beable to get out of it? i just want to put a study hall in its place. i hate him. if i stay in it, i'm gonna skip it. i refuse to walk into his class,and keep getting insulted. do you think the guidance conselor will let me out?

The guidance conselor better let you out of that class! Girl you should not be getting disrespected like that. If they dont let you out of that class then that is just messed up. If they say no then get your mom to write a note. My bestfriend kinda had this same problem and her mom wrote a note and they let her change her class.

Q: So i've been talking to this girl for a while, and I kind of like her but im just getting to know her and her friends. We went finally got a chance to

hang out and we went to the movies last night and i had my arm around her most of the movie but didn't make a move cause it's hard to do in a

movie, plus hanging out with her the first time but...anyway i txted her that night and said what a great time i had and she said "me too :) you

should come over kelseys tomarrow" and i said yeah just lemme know what time and ill go :]. So the next day comes around but she doesnt get back to me, and i heard her friend did have people over

her house, now i'm wondering do you think shes interested? i mean some text conversations we have usually indicate that shes pretty interested lol but i don't get it, any girls have input on this? thanks alot!...im a male btw

I think she is totally interested! I mean come one she went to the movies with you and let you put your arm around her. That kinda like letting the world know that shes with you. So if you think she likes you then your probably right.

Q: ok. my mom found out my bf and i have been having sex. Now she's giving the cnstant guilt trip. I mean, I'm sorry if I hurt her, but the ONLY reason I kept it from her to begin with is because OF this. So what do I do, HOw do I clear that acward feeling?

You need to be straight up with your mom. Of course she is going to do the whole guilt trip thing, shes your mom for petes sake. Shes just disapointed and its sad to see that her daughter is growing up so fast. Think of it from her perspective. What would you do if you were her? But i suggest if you want all this awkwardness to stop then tell her how you feel and that the reason you didnt tell her was because you knew how she would react.

Q: Well me and my boyfriend have almost been dating for a year , the summer of 07 [ summer that just past ] i cheated on him and we worked things out and we were fine . Well i thought after all this time he would have forgave me completly. But come to find out he says he just cant , i know i hurt him real bad and stuff but i mean its almost been a year and he still hasnt forgive me . It hurts because he doesnt trust me at all , but in his heart he knows id never do it again . I need help so i cant get our WH0LE relationship good .
Any help ? iv said all i could say to him ''/

thanks .

Its going to take a LONG time to rebuild his trust. I had the one i love and have been with for a while cheat on me. And it doesnt feel good. I know how your guy feels. But cheating is the worst possible thing you can do. Though i know my guy wont ever do it again its still hard to trust him. But if i were you id try to just keep working on being the best girlfriend you can be. The fact that he stayed with you just shows that he wants to be with you so dont take that for granted! Do what you think is right and keep reasuring him that u love him(if you do) Guys need reasurence on this kind of stuff. But like i said its going to take a while for that trust level to get back up so dont expect it to go back up in the blink of an eye. Just keeping working on yalls relationship and you should be fine.

Q: hi 14/gurl/USA
Ok, I don't know why, but during classes at school my left boob itches. Like crazy. And it always is the left one. Praticaully, I don't know if it's from my period or what, but why does this happen? And of course I can't itch my boob in front of the whole class, and I can't always get a bathroom pass. What should I do?

Its not from your period. Its probably the type of material that your bra is made of. I suggest u invest in some victorias secret bras. they are the best!! I know lots of girls that have had this problem and i think its just the type of material that your bra is made of.

Q: I'm about 5' 8" and only in the eighth grade! I know being tall should be a good thing and all that crap, but i just need something to raise my self esteem. Being the tallest in the grade (even above the guys) is never comforting. is there anything you can say to cheer me up? :(

You probably arent going to grow anymore. Girls grow faster than guys. I use to be among the tallest girls in my grade and now im among the shortest. But girl you would be really good for the basketball team. Everyone would love you. you could do jumo ball and be able to get re bounds. And in volleyball you could spike the ball like crazy. You would be a good asset to your schools teams. but dont worry you have probably already reached your height and you arent going to grow anymore.

Q: Hi i was wondering if like watching porn/masturbauting could be considered cheating on a girl?
I was just wondering because i wouldnt wanna do it if its not right.

It all depends on the girl. But tecnically its not but i know i would get pissed off if i walked in and saw my guy watching porn and masturbating. So i suggest you dont do it. i know some girls that would break up with their guy for doing that. Its kinda like an insult like "why do you have to watch porn, what about me"

Q: Hey. :]

I'm currently 16 and in the eleventh grade, and Adam is in the same grade as I am, but he's a year older. Both of us are single, as we have been for awhile. I have never liked anyone as much as I like him.

He's perfect. He has a 4.2 GPA, he's gorgeous (and the envy of lots of other girls), he is in the top choir at our school, and he plays varsity baseball. He's the perfect height for me, and our senses of humor mesh so well. We definitely make each other laugh and have a lot of fun together.

On and off, I've liked him since the sixth grade. However, there was like a 3-year block when I didn't even think about him.

He has been sending me mixed signals. For example, when I asked him if he was busy at sunset (I was doing a photo shoot and I wanted him to swing by so I could take some pictures of him.), his response was, "Sadly, yes. :(( What are you doing?" We're talking more and more each day, and I compliment him a lot. He initiates conversation pretty much as much as I do.

His friends aren't my biggest fans, but I am friends with a lot of them. We share some of the same friends.

I don't want to put our friendship on the line by telling him how I feel, but I do kind of want to test the waters.

I just can't differentiate between friend feelings and girlfriend feelings.

Thank you. :]

(Oh, and please type correctly.)

I say ask him if he does. he might like you but im not sure since i dont really know him. So your going to have to decide on your own and decide weather to ask him or not. If you dont ask and he does actually like you, you will probably regret not asking. So i say go for it.

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Hey im Charlene! Im 15. In highschool. I mainly just answer relationship questions/friendship questions. but i dable in other topics too. Im a pretty easy person to talk to, ive made tons of mistakes, but ive learned from them. So if u got a question ill probably be able to answer it.