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The other day i was having sex with my bf and he came in me but i forgot to take my pill that night,should i be worried. (link)
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I have to agree with the earlier comment about buying the Plan B pill just to be safe. It is NOT an abortion pill. So you won't be committing a sin by taking it.
I have to say, though, that your chances of actually conceiving under this circumstance is low. But better to be safe than sorry.
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Dear Sir,
Iam male from India age around 30 years.Today am in a great problem , what it was is ,i have a friend in the earlier after along time it is converted in to love , when we are friends at that she is married , but unfortunately it was converted in to love , actually the problem starts know ,Iam getting matches to me , she was worried and told not to marry anybody , because she unable to digest the situation,she want's me iam in a confused manner.what i have to do .she is very nice person and she don't want to take divorce with her husband, she want to continue the relation like this .what i have to do know ??????????? (link)
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Dude, you are the only one who can live your life. 30 years on, you have to think about your own happiness. It is too bad that you guys were such good friends and didn't get hitched (missed opportunity). But you would be compounding the error by forsaking other opportunities.
If you can find someone who you would really be happy with then go for it. Pursuing a married woman or holding out for her just never ends well.
Look, it is a rule of life that you don't get everything you want. So you're just going to have to learn to cope with this situation and move on to bigger and better things.
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i cheated on my husband and at first when i told him he was very angry. we have been able to talk about it but i still feel like we need more help because it feels like we have just swept everything under the rug. What do i do or do i just leave it alone? (link)
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Well, you know what they say about marriage counseling: it is the final step before both sides start calling divorce lawyers.
Obviously, there was something you were getting out of the affair you weren't getting from your husband. You need to keep your eyes on the core matter in talking this out and leaving the religious cant/moral high horsing/other forms of emotional blackmail aside.
Because men are dominance oriented, losing you to another man hurts him pretty bad emotionally. He not only feels betrayed, but thinks part of his manhood has been undermined in the bargained. You have to first determine if you can go back again and if you can fully commit to resuming your relationship on the old basis or you need to get out.
Look, sometimes people just grow apart. Try to be rational about this, don't overthink it and really be honest with both him and yourself and then decide your course of action from there.
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what qualifications from school do i need to become an advice columnist? (link)
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Psychology or Sociology would perhaps be the most applicable. You could also look into qualifications to become a licensed therapist. Dr. Laura actually got her Phd in physiology before getting her first shot at radio. It would also help if you live overseas for a while and learn to speak a foreign language fluently because it expands your view of the assumptions people operate under and why they behave the way they do.
The problem though is that not only is the paper based media a dying dinosaur, but most advice columnists tend to just fall into that role through default. In all the time I have been alive, I can't remember ever seeing an ad for advice writers. And what Dear Abby and other columns used to do is now being farmed out to sites like this one. So networking with media site owners is pretty essential, but I wouldn't necessarily make being an advice columnist my goal. Think more about the therapist angle.
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So my so called best friend has been telling her boyfriend everything that I've been telling her, And I've told her a lot. We've been friends for about two years and they have been in a really bad relationship for over a year now.
Now i found out because her boyfriend yelled at me and messaged me all the things he could use against me. It didn't really matter to me because it just doesn't bother me. Only thing that does bug me is that I thought i could trust her and i clearly couldn't. She has lied about a lot of other things to, I can't even begin to tell you how much she has lied and how busted she is.
Right now I am not speaking to her, when she knows someone is mad at her she ignores them like THEY did something wrong. When I was there for her from the start. So it's just..I don't even know. (link)
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There is nothing worse than a liar when it comes to friendships. They create a lot of distrust, stress and drama.
Since she also has loose lips and betrayed your confidence you are going to have to press the eject button on her. People around you know she is a liar, too, and she makes you look bad when you are seen with her. So stop associating with her and learn from this experience.
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I am a thirteen year old girl, and he is a fourteen year old guy and we are both in the eighth grade (almost Freshmen)
So, my best friend and I got in a fight for the twentieth time this month it seems, but he claims it is always ME. that starts it. We are project partners for a 30 minute documentary that is due next week, and I have done ALL the work. he has gone off ice skating while I filmed, and so many other times has he blown me off. He also left me for the ENTIRE science project, which I did an A+ job on and he got credit. I calmly asked him to help in the project more, thinking that he would be cool about the situation but no. He literally YELLS at me in the hallway, and making me embarrassed in front of everyone in the hallway.
I simply asked him a question for him to help more, and he hasn't talked to me since calling me dramatic to other people. all of his friends are against me, which is practically the whole eighth grade. Should I apologize, or should I just be brave and stay like this for the last eight days of school? (link)
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Welcome to junior high. When I was in school, it was usually the hard working student who did all the work for the entire group. That is why these things are often a farce.
Teenage boys are often pretty lazy about stuff like this. So no surprise he pulled that because I did the same thing when I was your age.
As for you starting arguments, it is almost always the girl who initiates them and there are two reasons for this:
1. Women are freaks about security. One of the ways that manifests itself is a constant need for reassurance from her partner and a desire to touch base emotionally on occasion. Men are not raised to deal with this and so guys wonder why you're upsetting the apple cart when things were going so well. Plus men do not get socially rewarded for talking about their feelings. They bond with other guys through doing stuff and touchy feely issues are urgently avoided. When you start accusing him of not understanding you he feels understandably defensive and cornered, which is where the lashing out at you begins.
2. Women overthink everything. Whether it is about how they look, what other people said to them during the day or how their boyfriend is acting, they love nothing more than to turn everything into a growing snowball of drama.
The solution to all this is to relax and take a simpler approach with your boyfriend. Why? Because guys are real linear and simple in the way they view things. Mean are results or destination driven while women are process or journey oriented. So you need to figure out a halfway point in all that so that your discussions with your boyfriend don't turn into a battle of mutual recriminations.
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I get my license next week. But, in order to get it I need 2 pieces of mail sent to my home with my name and address on it verifying that's where I live. I need a website where I can put my address in and them send me something, preferably just a brochure or something. I'd have a friend write a letter, but I just want to get it done quick and easy and not have to go out and get envelopes and all that. Thanks in advance. (: (link)
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Do you have a passport? That should be good enough.
I've never heard of this requirement. When I got my license all I had to show was a birth certificate to prove my age. That was back in the 1970's, though. Maybe the laws have changed.
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I am a female. Lately when I masturbate, I can cum, but not as much as usual, and then I get all dry and it hurts when I try to finger myself. Usually when I masturbate, I cum right away but I don't know what is wrong.
thanks! (link)
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Don't worry about it. The intensity of orgasms varies. As for fingering yourself, you can always use lube like Astroglide to deal with the dryness.
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My cousin is 25 years old and he's really emotional and he cries alot for no reason. He just started crying his eyes out and he said he can't stop. What can I do to comfort him ? Should I hold him talk to him or what ? What can I say to him ? (link)
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He needs to see a therapist because he's suffering from depression.
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soo umm my boyfriend is kinda acting a little weird lately.
He's just been like really quiet. Normally we laugh a lot and joke around and kiss and have a great time. But lately, especially in school, he is so quiet and looks super tired. I've tried talking to him about it but he always says "i'm tired". I'm not saying I don't believe him.. I mean he literally looks like he will fall asleep in the middle of the hallway. But he's been like this for about 2 weeks now. How can he possibly be so extremely tired that long? His sleeping patterns are also very weird.. He will come home from school, take a nap, then do homework until 2am and then go to bed and get about 5 hours of sleep. Then on the weekends he sleeps for like 12 hours or even 13! Even then, if we hang out on weekends, he still claims he's tired.
I guess he could be tired because of the lack of sleep, but I dont know. It just sounds weird to me. I get about 7 hours of sleep per day and yeah i'm tired most of the day but i'm still happy and chipper around him.
Oh and also there was something weird that happened today. It was just after lunch and I was standing with him by his next class waiting for the teacher and he looked over my shoulder and said "Hey Lucy!" (Lucy is his friend and he told me that he jokes around with her a lot and makes fun of her) I normally don't have a problem with it.. Until today.. After he said "hey lucy" i kept standing with him and talked to him. then his teacher came and I kissed him goodbye and left for my class. He looked like he was about to walk into the classroom but when I looked over my shoulder as i was walking down the hall and saw him with a big smile and he was standing right next to lucy talking to her.
now i know it doesn't seem like a big deal to you, but it was just weird to me because i thought he was going into his classroom but it seemed like he was faking it and waited until I left, in order to talk to lucy. Am I crazy? or do you think something is going on with him?
Oh and I don't think he's completely weird. Like he will still talk to me and kiss me the same way. After school we still hang out the same and joke around the same. But it just seems like he doesn't have much energy. I dont know what to do! I've tried talking to him about it but he just says he's tired. What do i do? (link)
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A teenager doing homework until 2 a.m.? You gotta be kidding! I have been a night person since junior high myself and the only reason I would be tired the next day was because I stayed up too late reading or watching tv (this was back in the 1970's, way before the internet and video games).
Teenagers should be getting, studies say, ten hours of sleep a night due to the growing process. During summer, I used to sleep a lot, sometimes as much as 14 hours in a day.
I suspect that he is up chatting on internet chat rooms or Facebook with other girls or gaming his ass off. Or he's partying when you aren't around. Then he tries to make up for it on the weekends.
As for the thing with Lucy, his making fun of her is a form of flirting. So yeah, that looks like a problem. I had a friend in my old neighborhood who used the lighthearted teasing gambit to get with chicks and it was pretty successful.
So make of all this what you will.
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I am 15/f and have beed dating this guy, we'll call him Noah, for a little over a year and a half now. He is the best boyfriend I have ever had, he is sweet, generous, funny and caring. He can be a bit rebellious sometimes. He drinks a bit, and ditches class but this hasnt effect me at all. He is 18 years old. I just recently introduced him to my family. Actually I just recently told them I was dating someone. After they told me I had to break up with him. They didnt like him, and none of my friends like him either. They all say he only wants me for my body, and he'll dump me when I give him my virginity. But he has only brought it up once, on our anniversery. I dont know what to do. Do i break up with him? I really like him and I dont wanna hurt him. Do you think that my parents are right? (link)
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Ah, every girl loves a bad boy. And your parents and your friends expressing disapproval of him probably makes him seem more dangerous to you and thus more alluring.
None of us have a clear picture of the guy aside from your description and the negative reaction of those around you about him. Without knowing what vibe your parents and friends are picking up about him, it is hard to give accurate advice.
But if you play with fire, at some point you will get burned. At some point, he is going to start pressing the sex issue as well because there are other women who love bad boys, too, and are more willing to jump in the sack with them. So you have to determine how you would feel if he pulled a pump and dump on you and how you would cope with it.
If that all seems a little more than you can handle then maybe you should break up with him and go out with more conventional guys. It's up to you. Just remember that you are the only one who can live your life and you need to always be in control of it, which means you don't do anything that would sabotage it or make it harder just to please someone else.
Also keep in mind that because your brain is still developing and will for at least another ten years, your preferences, thoughts and sensibility are going to evolve a lot during that time. So it's not really a good idea for teenagers to limit themselves to dating one person when they are your age. There is no hurry for you to settle down, so be flexible about all this.
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So I'm 15 and I tend to "fall in love" with guys very easily... and then I kinda stalk them around. I was wondering if thats normal? and if there's anything I can do to change that? (link)
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It seems to me what you want is for them to notice you. You haven't indicated that you have any malevolent intent when you do this. The best thing to do is, instead of following them around find a way to make real contact with them. Bump into them, say you're sorry and then introduce yourself. If they express no interest then you need to take the hint and move on. But by making some kind of move you make it easier for insecure teenage guys to feel comfortable trying to make a move on you.
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I used to have good luck with the ladies and now I don't since I gained about 45 lbs. I think I have gotten funnier since then though but it doesnt seem to make a difference. I am a 22yr old male 6'1 225 lbs and heavily tattooed. Am I too fat or is it in my head? (link)
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You're not THAT overweight. You could easily lose 30 pounds in three months. If you combine a low fat, 1500 calories a day diet with weight lifting and swimming it will sculpt your body in a way women like. Swimming works out every muscle in the body. If you can swim a mile or two a day you'll get bigger biceps and a firmer chest and abs. Women love that.
I would hold off getting any more tats, though.
Btw, speaking as the voice of experience here, you gotta get into the habit of working out everyday because when you get into your 30's your metabolism is going to slow down a lot unless you keep it revved up. You're still in your 20's and at a reasonable weight. So make a lifestyle change now or you will pay for it later.
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so im 13 and theres a boy thats really really cute at my school and we talk sometimes. but every time we do talk he flirts. so one day my friend asked him if he liked me and he said he didnt so how can i tell if hes telling the truth or lieing (link)
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Having him waterboarded should do the trick. *lol
Guys that age are notoriously insecure. He is just getting started finding out what women are about. Just try to be available to him as much as you can, tell him you like hanging out with him, touch him a lot on the arms and start hugging him when you guys have to go your separate ways.
If that doesn't work, have one of your friends tell him that you like him. Then it will be up to him to try to close the deal.
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I love my husband to death but we have not been getting along i know that i can be picky sometimes but what woman is not. So my husband made a promise to me that he would not smoke anymore so when he asked yesterday i immediatly said no and of course he got mad. So today he tells me he has been thinking alot and since we have gotten together i have tried to change everything about him and pretty much hes the one that tries to make me happy but i dont do it in return! so my question is what should i do about this?????? I told him from the beginning what i was looking for and now hes mad!I really just feel like this relationship is sinking and sinking fast.
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What is happening here is that he is feeling emasculated by your demands. He feels like he is either being neutered by his wife or you are trying to be his mom and he doesn't like being viewed as a child.
Listen, men are dominance oriented. When they feel like they are on the losing end of something there is going to be some pushback.
Moreover, he, like most men, don't know how to really talk with women. Therefore, the times he is forced to talk with you is feeling more and more like a night of the long knives where he is constantly backpedaling and playing defense. At some point, when somebody is cornered, the only way to get out is to lash out, which is also a way for him to try to reclaim his need for dominance.
So my advice to you is to back off. Get him electronic cigarettes. They are minimally smelly and are really nothing more than nicotine delivery systems, except without all the crap that comes along with cigarettes, like benzene, carbon monoxide, tar and etc. Over time, he can cut his nicotine dosages down until he quits completely. He can also go to encounter groups to talk about his need to smoke. And I must say the stress he feels interacting with you is probably causing him to want to smoke again.
Also, just relax, okay? Don't overthink yourself into an emotional pretzel like too many women do. Keep things simple and linear and your husband will be a hell of lot more comfortable with you as a result.
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what does an orgasm look like
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I don't know what it looks like, but it tastes like chicken!
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Im a teenage boy, and i always wanted to know why girls dont seem as horny as we do. Maybe it is just me, but i go to highschool filled with hot girls everywhere and it drives me nuts. But the girls dont seem that way towards guys. They seem like they dont even think about boys or sex at all, but why is it that us guys always are more horny? (link)
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First, society tells girls that to be outwardly sexual on the same basis as men is slutty. This is a totally counterproductive attitude and mostly thanks to religion, which has screwed up the sex and social lives of men and women for millenia.
But the other reason is that women are low in testosterone, which controls aggression and the sex drive, while guys are much higher in it. There are also evolutionary protocols for women's behavior, chief of which is having healthy children and a support system under which to nurture them. So that makes women more selective. This was very well covered on the History Channel program, "Wired for Sex."
The dichotomy here is that women are sex objects to men and men are economic objects to women. Make bank and you will make it with more women.
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Ok people... im Female, 13 and im telling you all now that im not crazy... Could i Be a vampire?? I like the taste of blood, have a dark ring around my iris, can see in the dark well, extremely good sense of hearing, can feel peoples energey (can tell if someone is near even when i cant see and can pick up on their emotions or how they're feeling... Its like hummidity sometimes too), Love the dark, have animal like insticts especialy when i go into fight or flight mode, and have fangs..... What do you guys think????? (no im not a cannibal) (link)
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All women are emotional vampires, sucking the life out of all and sundry with their neverending tales of psychological distress. They especially prey on nice guys too scared to ask them out and so who instead sit there and act like they are interested in her prattling in hopes she will suddenly make the move for him.
Okay, the above was snark.
Bats are actually blind and get around by a form of radar. So unless you are bereft of vision and navigate through the day by bouncing your squeaks off of surrounding objects your chances of being a vampire are pretty much nil.
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How come whenever me and my boyfriend are messing around, i cum so much. It's gross and i dont know why it happens but its embarrasing. (link)
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Sex isn't dirty (and neither is your body), so no need to feel gross about anything arising from it. Live in the moment, enjoy the sensations and leave any extraneous thoughts for later.
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is there a place in the world where everybody wants to have sex and is willing to do it anytime? and btw, this is a serious question. I live here in Ottawa, Canada, and the girls are somewhat interested in sex on a normal manner, but is there a country where sex is really important and where people are down all the time to do it? (link)
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Sex is important everywhere for a whole raft of reasons, but there is no country where people just walk up to random strangers and say, "hey, wanna fuck?" I'm afraid the frequency of sex is quite the individual predilection.
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