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Am I a stalker?
So I'm 15 and I tend to "fall in love" with guys very easily... and then I kinda stalk them around. I was wondering if thats normal? and if there's anything I can do to change that?
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COMPLETELY 100% NORMAL! haha
I used to do this too when I was your age, and honestly, you'll grow out of it. There's nothing wrong with it now as long as you're not being creepy about it. Facebook stalking and trying to run into him in the hallway are normal behaviors for a young teen with a crush. If you're disturbed by your behavior, however, instead of following your crush or going the same way as him, go the opposite way. You'll eventually train yourself not to stalk him.
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I agree with the previous. what you're doing is ok... up to a point.
I met this really nice girl back in high school, apparently she had the hots for me, bigtime. she'd do the appear-out-of-nowhere thing all the time, trying to get me to notice her. but, of course, me being a jackass without a clue, I never caught on. In the few times that I had actually spoken with her, I thought she was really neat, but was afraid to broach the dating subject because, again, I was a blind dumbass. Hindsight's 20/20, I advise you to do what neither me, nor her, had the fortitude to do- speak with the dude, bring up the subject of dating. Because its always better to have the answer, than to sit here nine years later wondering what might have been.
Now, as for my caveats- it becomes stalking when:
-you know where the person lives, and have stood outside their house watching it
-you find and horde pictures of the person
-you steal some of their personal posessions
-you know the person's schedule(math at 0830 in room 101, etc.) and how they get to their scheduled places(which halls, where their locker/car is)
-you call their phone for an illegitimate reason(heavy breathing sorta thing, not "you dropped something outside of 'blank' today and I want to return it to you"-thats ok)
-when they have a significant other, you slash the significant other's tires or do something equally malicious
if you don't do any of the above, you're in the "harmless nice girl who has a crush on a guy" category
good night, and good luck.
-Gunner
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It seems to me what you want is for them to notice you. You haven't indicated that you have any malevolent intent when you do this. The best thing to do is, instead of following them around find a way to make real contact with them. Bump into them, say you're sorry and then introduce yourself. If they express no interest then you need to take the hint and move on. But by making some kind of move you make it easier for insecure teenage guys to feel comfortable trying to make a move on you.
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