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i was messing around with my computer and by accident i deleted my limewire thing!! its not in recycle bin because i permenately deleted it!!.. is there any way i can get it back without redownloading it?? im not sure if i saved my songs soo will i have to download them all over again? do the songs get saved when you download them or do you have to do it yourself?? AHH IM SO ANGRY. (link)
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You will have to reload Limewire to get the application back, but the songs should be safe. If you want to find them, do a Search on My Computer for *.mp3. (I assume you're using Windows; if not, there would still be a way to search, but I don't know what it is).
Anything in the process of downloading is lost, and you'll have to restart them.
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I'll try to keep this short and a bit interesting, god knows how many like this you have read. Okay : I use to work at this food place but I dont anymore but i'm still really good friends with the boss/owner (he's like a dad to me) his daughter and all the people who work there. Lately, he's hired a new guy. And i've taken my time checking him out : he's hot. lol. problem : i cant really talk to him unless i say pick up for blah! and well hard to get to know a guy through that. english is not his 1st langauge but he speaks it very well. i smile and make eye contact with him when im there with friends and I find he's often already looking when i look to make eye contact. How do i get to know this guy better??? i dont kno if he likes me or is looking at my friend by me or. i dont know! all i know is im crushing and i wanna see if i have a chance!
not so short.
sorry!!! please help. :)
(im 16f and he's either 15m or 16m) (link)
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Four-word answer:
See.
Him.
After.
Work.
What you do from there depends on how aggressive you want to be. One thing that might work is to say this:
"Were you checking me out, before? Because, just so you know, I'd be totally cool with that..."
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this boy used to call me like everynight and IM me and stuff and then at school be MEAN and like really rude in front of his friends. Than this weekend , he called me to hangout with him and his friend.... I couldnt because I was going somewhere. Than that night at like 2 am he called me twice.
The next day, I went for a walk and he saw me and screamed my name out of the car window and called me like right after that , and then i went for another walk and i saw him and his friend and he like talked to me for like a split second and then kinda ignored me.
Then that night, I IMed him [i never really IM him] and I said "hey is it raining where you live"
He says " Did I say you could IM me?"
I said "ugh no?"
He says "then dont talk to me"
then he says
"haha jk, but yeah its raining"
and i felt like shit.
Whats going on??
[by the way he has a girlfriend and im 13] (link)
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This guy is a complete dork. Seriously, he's a total waste of space.
Next time he initiates contact with you of any kind, tell him to get lost. Then, don't contact him, don't start conversations with him, and if possible avoid eye contact.
It's as simple as that.
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15/f. sorry i dont know what to put this under. i have never really gotten drunk, only like a little bit or just a buzz a few times. also i have only made out once, and i was not really sure what i was doing. and im not really sure how to. i am thinking that maybe getting a little more tipsy will help me loosen up and not be so shy, and then i am hoping i will make out with someone while im drunk, atleast so i can ask them about it and like have an excuse to ask if i am a good kisser, even being a little bit drunk. sorry if this doesn't make sense, but i could really use your opinion on if this is an ok idea or if i should find another way to deal with it..thanks! (link)
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Others have provided some of the advice I was going to, but there is another thing to touch on.
Those underage-drinking laws aren't there just because adults want to keep the booze all to themselves. They are there because alcohol can be seriously detrimental to a young person's health.
At the age of fifteen, your brain is still developing new neuron pathways and such; this is why people learn better while they are young. Alcohol stunts this process, with permanent effects. Having a drink every now and then probably won't do any harm, but "getting drunk" will.
Furthermore, your other organs and systems are also still developing. Your liver may not yet be functioning at a high enough level to metabolize ethanol fast enough to avoid alcohol poisoning. Sure, you may never have such a serious problem, but is it worth it?
Anyway, enough of the physical harm that can be done.
Remember this: Alcohol is not "liquid courage." It seems to work that way only because it slows down the higher reasoning function of the brain, thus causing you to be more impulsive and reckless. It's far better to be impulsive and reckless on your own terms, because there may come a time when you need to get your wits back around you and you don't want them addled with chemicals.
It's true that some guys find drunk girls attractive. If you want to attract immature and self-centered guys, then getting tipsy will do it. If you want to attract decent guys, then stay sober.
One more thing. We don't live in a safe world. One of the hazards of alcoholic drinks is the possibility of someone slipping something into it. Don't set yourself up as a potential victim.
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everyone always says that you should be totally comfortable before you have sex, and that if youre nervous youre not ready.. but then people always say youre gonna be nervous your first time. so how can you tell? (link)
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The idea of "if you're nervous, you're not ready" is bunk. Of course you're going to be nervous!
However, if you're SCARED, then you're not ready. There is a difference.
Here are a few good ways to know if you're ready:
(1) Are you over 16? That's a legal issue, but it's also a practical one. If you're under 16, odds are you're not emotionally ready, even if you think you are. It's been my experience that most people who start too early end up regretting it.
(2) Can you talk frankly about sex with your partner? You will need to for two reasons: birth control, and to determine what his/her history is so you know you're reasonably safe from STDs. You'll be betting your life on this one, so make sure the trust is solid.
(3) Consider: why are you doing it? There are lots of bad reasons -
- "I just want to get it over with" (You're not pulling a tooth. This shouldn't be something you "get over with", it should be something to enjoy.)
- "Our relationship needs a boost." (Physical intimacy should be a celebration of a relationship that's already sparky, not something to do because you're bored.)
- "He'll leave me if I don't." (Let him leave, and find someone new who will respect you. This goes for both genders, BTW.)
- "Everyone else is doing it." (With the exception of using deodorant, this is a bad reason to do anything.)
So, to answer your question: How can you tell?
The answer is, you'll never be sure. Welcome to real life, where you can never be sure about anything. But you can be sure when you're NOT ready, so listen to that voice until it goes away. Then follow your heart while using your head (and a condom), and enjoy.
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I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he's a wonderful guy and to me he's the type of guys girls look for not him as a person but his qualities like he's kind, sweet, generous, will leave his friends just to be with me, and different things well i really do love him and he wants us to get married but my dad hates him but he will not tell me why and my boyfriend has no secrets from me or lies to me but my dads always brining up things like "i know he's a liar and a cheater but im not going to tell you what it is i know" what should i do to make my dad like him please help me i don't know what to do? (link)
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Your father is being unreasonable. He has no business making such accusations about people if he can't back them up.
It's time for your dad to put up or shut up. You need to talk seriously with him. Tell him that you and your boyfriend are discussing marriage, and that if he has reasons why you should reconsider, he owes it to you as your father to tell you what those reasons are. Otherwise, you will assume that he is simply being an angry father, and follow your own heart. If he knows something about your boyfriend that could eventually hurt you, and doesn't tell you about it, then he is partly responsible.
If he wants to have a good relationship with you as an adult, he needs to start treating you like one. In order to make this happen, it looks like you will need to assert yourself.
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I'm dating a guy but we're not bf/gf... just dating open ended so we're pretty much allowed to date other people too. The thing is that I don't want to go out with anyone else; just him. So far he hasn't been seeing any other girls, but if/when he does I know that I'm going to feel completely crushed. How do I get him to like me enough to consider only me in a relationship? Lately he's been kinda cold to me, too. I feel like I'm losing his interest, any ideas on how I can spark up our relationship up?
Sex is not an option (link)
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It sounds to me like you want to be exclusive with this guy, but there's every possibility that he does not. That's a recipe for heartbreak!
HOWEVER, it's possible he would be open to the idea of an exclusive relationship. Have you asked him? His answer may surprise you. In any event, I think that before you invest more in this relationship, you need to make sure that it has the possibility of going in the direction you want it to.
There's nothing wrong with his wanting to date other girls, as long as you're both clear on that. And, it would not be fair for you to get upset with him for doing that, if it's something you've agreed on. If you can't handle him dating other people, and he won't agree to be exclusive, then you're going to have to let him go, because you can't build a relationship when there's a fundamental gap like that in the way.
Unfortunately, I think that the most likely scenario here is that he wants to date other people, but he knows that would bother you, so he feels trapped - even though technically, he could be dating other girls if he wanted to. He may be unconsciously blaming you for being upset about it, and that could be where the coldness is stemming from.
I suggest you approach him this way: tell him you've thought it over, and you want to date exclusively. If he doesn't want to, then you'll have to stop dating at all, because it just isn't what you're looking for. It would be decent of you to assure him that you would part as friends and that there would be no blame.
By the way, I think you're making the right move by not getting physical in order to jump-start the relationship. Sex is something you do to celebrate a relationship that's already sparky, not something to revive it when it's tired.
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Hey...i'm doing a connected text at school and my subject is books that have caused a lot of controversy. I've got one, The Da Vinci Code and I've already read it but now I need another one to connect it with.
Any book titles or authors would be really helpful!
thanks!! (link)
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I have an idea for you.
It's arguably the most controversial book in history, and it links very naturally with The DaVinci Code.
It's the BIBLE.
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I'm am sooooo incredibly self conscious. i am 13 in the 8th grade, and im only a 34A. im reallly self concious becuase i think no guys will like me becuase im only a 34A! any advice? (link)
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Breasts are just one feature (well, two, but you get what I mean). Don't obsess over it! For starters, you are 13 and therefore you've only barely started growing them; they could be D-cups by the time they're done, for all you know. Furthermore, guys are not so shallow that they judge a girl's value solely on her breast size, even in middle school (and those who do, trust me, you don't want their attention anyway).
Anyone who tells you that looks don't matter is lying; they do matter. But they aren't all that matters, and they aren't even the most important thing, and it is most certainly NOT all about your breasts. Frankly, I would worry less about that, and more about your poor perception of the guys around you. If you really think that's all they care about, you're either surrounded by the biggest losers on the face of the earth, or you have a lot to learn about people.
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Iam a 17 year old female and i babysit my cousin who's autistic but my mom dosn't want me to babysit him anymore becouse he throws fits and he dosn't relize he's own strength like one time he broke the hinges off the bathroom door but he was just scared becouse it was his first day at new school and it was huge and he dosn't like changes or big crowds how can i exsplain this to my mom becouse i really like babysitting him becouse it makes him happy and he loves me to pieces what should i do? please help me. (link)
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Go to your aunt and/or uncle, the parents of your autistic cousin. What do they think? They know him best, and would be able to say whether it is safe for you to be alone with him.
Your mom, I think, is looking out not just for you but for him. If he is prone to fits, he could also be a danger to himself, and I'm guessing that you probably do not have the physical strength or the knowledge to restrain him without hurting him or yourself. Just as an example, suppose the smoke alarm went off and it triggered one of his fits - could you keep him safe?
I'm guessing that his parents and your mom have already talked it over, and that's why she won't let you. Bear in mind that there may be some very good reasons why they won't let you watch him that they simply don't want to tell you.
Ask his parents how they feel, but don't push it. If they say no, then you will simply have to accept it.
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if someone stole your picture off of a website and made a fake myspace of it .. is there any way possible for them to get in trouble with the cops or something about identity theft or some type of law. or do you just let it go? (link)
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Honestly, you probably won't even be able to prove who they are, let alone get them in trouble. About the only thing you can do is alert the Myspace webmasters to the situation, and they might or might not do something about it. Your most effective response might be to simply send the offender a message asking him/her to please remove the picture. It probably won't do any good, but it's more likely to work than anything else.
Bear in mind that ANYTHING you put on the internet can be effectively "stolen" by someone else, and they will probably get away with it. It sucks, but it's the nature of the beast, unfortunately.
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Ive always been the kind of girl who says i dont care what guys look like, its all about the personality. But this guy i like now, hes perfect and truly amazing, he would do anyhting for me and we ahve liked eachother for about 5 years now. yeha i know, its a long time. Well hes, how do i say it in a nice way... large. and i feel horrible becuase i always think if he was hot and the same personality i would deffinetly date him. but, i dont know what to do... i know its no big deal about looks. But seriously if someone had roten teeth. was like 600 pounds and was just yucky, would u date them? (thats not the desciption of the guy i like, it was just an example) Yes its alll about personality, but looks have somewhat to do what their personality is.... i guess what im asking.. is what im thinking wrong?? and how do i over come his largness? (link)
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In Fantasyland, the way people look has nothing to do with how desireable they are; it's all based on character, personality, and intelligence.
This is reality. People judge one another based in part on how they look. It's a primal instinct and it's not one that's easy to ignore. You shouldn't feel bad about recognizing that it's there.
That having been said, what can you do about it? The answer to that depends on whether HE considers it a problem. If he does, then you would be a good friend to help him lose some weight. Do active things together, dine out at salad bars instead of Deep Fried Everything, and provide encouragement.
It may also be that he DOESN'T consider it a problem (and, in all fairness, maybe it isn't - some people are just a little tubbier than the rest of us, and they get along fine). In that case, you have to decide whether you can deal with it. Furthermore, that's true about anyone. Not everyone is fat, but everyone has flaws, and no matter what guy you find there's going to be SOMETHING about him that you wish were different.
Physical attraction IS a big deal. We might as well stop pretending otherwise, because it's only human to prefer the company of attractive people. Acknowledging our basic instincts doesn't make us slaves to them.
I think the best thing to do in your situation is apply the Golden Rule, and "do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Consider what you would want if your roles were reversed. Think about not only things like how your feelings might be hurt if guys rejected you due to your appearance, but also whether you would want a guy to go out with you when deep down, he found you unattractive.
Here's a possible test: Suppose you let him go, and then next week saw him kissing a girl more attractive than you. Could you deal with it?
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I am very very new to the concept of "intimacy" and I need a little advice on what usually pleases men the most during intercourse... (link)
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That's a very general question, and be forewarned that you're going to get very general answers - or ones that are specific to the guy doing the answering, and not necessarily the guy you're having sex with. But there are, I think, certain pieces of univeral advice to follow.
(1) Get used to talking about sex frankly and openly, and not using euphamisms like "intimacy". The idea that men are turned on by nervous virgins is largely a misconception. Besides, you'll need to be able to talk about birth control, so you have to figure out how to talk about sex.
(2) Enjoy yourself! The biggest turn on for most men is a woman who likes to have sex. If your guy is turned on by a woman who DOESN'T like to have sex, then you're with the wrong guy!
(3) Don't fake orgasms. That's dishonest and furthermore it'll ensure that you never get to have any real ones. Men pay attention during sex, and if you seem to be enjoying something, that's what they'll do again and again. In other words, if you fake it once, you can count on having to do it all the time.
(4) After you've done it a few times and gotten comfortable, tell him you have a surprise for him and to come over to your place ready for action. Then, dress and make yourself up like a total slut. Do the whole nine yards - red lipstick, teased hair, fishnet stockings, open-nipple bra, everything. There's a reason why these kinds of looks are considered slutty - it's because they turn guys on! The idea that you're doing it just for him will make him feel like a god. (You'll probably want to make it clear that this is NOT going to be something you'll do often - unless you find that you really enjoy it too, in which case go ahead.)
(5) Make sure you tell him what YOU want. Help him make it truly enjoyable for you, and he'll enjoy it as well.
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ok so my teacher game me an F on a oral presentation, and when i asked why she said "it needed to be more heartwarming, cheesy, mushy..it need to make me cry for you to get an A" (she cries quite easily.. she cried during like 4 oral presentations so far! haha) anyways, im redoing the presentation and it's about "my favorite place" and i guess she wants me to say things like "this is where i learned to love" and thing equally cheesy (its going to be so embarrising doing this infront of my class!) but i need n A in this - so help! have you ever heard a heartwarming speech that moved you? and sentences or expression that are good to use?
thanks! (link)
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Was this a pass/fail assignment? It seems odd that your teacher would only give out an A or an F, and that the sole criteria would be how many tears you jerked. If that was, indeed, the ONLY reason you received an "F", then you need to report this teacher. Your grade for an oral presentation ought not be based upon a subjective emotional reaction - nor, as the poster below says, should it be based on effort and content. It should be based upon your technique, your familiarity with the material, the logical progression of your presentation, your ennunciation, and that sort of thing. I don't know what class you're taking, but it's probably not Make-Your-Teacher-Cry 101.
It is not up to her to dictate to you why a certain place should be your favorite place. It is not your job to stir her emotions. It is her place to teach you the fundamentals of public speaking and presentation, and your place to put those lessons into effect. Whether she cries or not should be irrelevant.
All that being said, I really can't believe that this was the sole criteria upon which she graded. Did she say nothing about your technique? Are you SURE that your poor grade was based only on the lack of emotion in your speech, or was that just something she said would be required to get an "A"? In other words, what does one need to do to get a "B"? Presumably, it has to do with specific techniques of proper public speaking: organization, presentation, poise, ennunciation, posture, and delivery. I suggest you concentrate on those things, not tugging heartstrings. I would also strongly suggest that you tell your teacher that you think it is wrong for her to base your grade on her emotional state, and if she disagrees, take it to a higher authority.
Maybe then she'll cry.
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I was looking at your column and you give very good advice. It doesn't say what you do for a living and I am very interested to know. It helps in knowing who I should ask what type of questions to. Thanks. (link)
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Thank you for the kind words! I like to think I'm giving some thoughtful advice to people.
I'm an IT guy, but I tend to stay away from the computer questions - it's too much like work, and most of them seem to have more to do with myspace tips and how to work an iPod, which isn't really my thing.
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hi. i liked this boy for a long time so one day i told him that i liked him. to my surprise, he liked me back. but one day my friend sent me a conversation saying tat i was just a temporary girlfriend..tat he'd dump me wen he got a real girl-friend. i feel devestated. i'm gonna dump him soon but i can't bear it. i love him sooo much. i really dunno what to do...how do i get over him? please don't say boyfriend becuase i'm not ready for another one right now. please someone help me out! i just need someone to talk to...someone to give me advice. thankx a lot. (link)
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I'd print out the conversation (I assume you're talking about a text conversation) and show it to him. See how he reacts. If he admits that it's his or if he denies it but you can tell he's lying, then tell him that you just became a lot more temporary than he probably expected, and show him your back. There's nothing like properly applied righteous anger to help you get over someone.
Then, just take life as it comes for a while. You don't need to go out with someone just to get over someone else.
There is also a chance that this conversation is a lie, in which case both of you need to find out who's trying to sabotage your relationship and why. If it is false, he should be as outraged as you are and insist on trying to find out who is spreading lies about him.
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And if you're a girl...well I don't know how you know or are going to justify your answers. Anywhos what are main things guys HATE or LOATHE about girls and What do you guys LOVE and absolutly ADORE about girls.
Also, I'm a kind of girl that makes little trouble at school (like piss a teacher off for fun), outspoken at times, metal head, rocker chic, getting my drift? I'm that kind of a girl. Are guys interested in girls like that? (link)
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I'm 35 years old now, but I'm going to answer this question from the viewpoint of how I was in high school (yes, it's a viewpoint 18 years out of date, but I think some things don't change with time).
I'm of the opinion that while opposites may attract, they don't generally ask each other out. If you are an outspoken, metal head, rocker chic kind of girl, you're going to get attention from outspoken, metal head, rocker chic kinds of guys. Now, that doesn't mean that there aren't other guys out there who attract you, they just might not be approaching you.
Why? Well, this is where we get into my personal point of view, because when I was in school, those were EXACTLY the kinds of girls that turned my head. I loved the look, I loved the attitude, and I loved the rebelliousness. The problem is that it wasn't who I was - I was introspective, cynical, guarded, and uncertain. I was afraid to ask out these girls whom I admired so much because I thought they wouldn't find someone like me attractive; I assumed that they were seeking someone more like themselves. I figured they were, as a group, out of my league.
So to answer your second question: Yes, there are many guys who are interested in girls like that, but you may not ever hear from most of them.
To answer your first, the main thing I admire in a girl is Honesty. Not just in speaking the truth, but in living as who she is, not as who she is expected to be or some persona that she hides behind.
I also like (cliche alert) a sense of humor. But not just ANY sense of humor; I like the kind of girl who I can be with and we both know that the entire world is one big, crazy joke, and we're the only ones who get it. That may seem a little weird, but it's the best way I can think of to describe it.
For what I don't like, go with the opposite of the above - insincere poseurs with no sense of fun.
Oh, and I'm also a sucker for emerald green eyes.
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17, female!
Well i had this really good guy friend and ive known him for years. anyway we became more than friends and dated for a while but we decided we might just be better as friends because we didnt want it to spoil our friendship. but then he suddenly stopped talking to me and wouldnt see me or anything so i just thought he'd got new friends and moved on so i didn't like it but i had to let it go.
i recently bumped into him and we got talking about old times. he told me that the reason he shut me off completely was because he realised that he'd fallen in love with me and with me moving and getting new friends it felt like i was leaving him behind so he had to try and forget about me. but he said he couldnt and that he still loved me and wanted to be close again like we were and start dating again.
i just want to know if you think i should take the risk? he really hurt me when he stopped talking to me and i dont want to be hurt like that agian. i love him to bits, i always will but i dont want to get my heart broken again! what should i do?
sorry its so long! thanks! (link)
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It sounds to me like this is a guy afraid of his own feelings. Since you're 17, I'm guessing that at the time you broke up, he was probably about 16 or so. You were (are) probably his first love, and the intensity of it scared him.
I would allow for the possibility that he's done a little growing up since then, and that he may now be mature enough to deal with those feelings. Give him another shot is my advice to you - but conditionally! Tell his something like this:
"When you left me before, it hurt. It broke my heart. I'm willing to give us another chance, and if it doesn't work out, we'll deal with that, but next time you feel like I'm leaving you behind, you need to TELL ME and not just give up."
You may find that you'll need to do a little extra work keeping the lines of communication open at first, but hopefully over time he'll be able to open up on his own. Good luck to you both!
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I like this guy called Johnny and we are both Christians who believe that it is up to God to decide who will be together. But I don't want to tell him how I feel about him because I’m afraid of rejection. I am a 14 year old girl and he is 16. I have heard he has had a past with a girl but it’s not anyone’s place to say. I even asked him if he had ever been in love and he said " Maybe, but I don't want to talk about it though". Johnny’s friend said “He is confused at the moment so don't say anything about your feelings towards him”. It kills me inside because I can't tell him. I really like him but inside I know he isn't the "one". Yet I can't resist but think about him. He is the nicest guy I have ever met. I haven’t met anyone like him so I don't know what he is thinking or how to get close to him. But I want to. I need your advice to know what to do about my situation. (link)
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There are a few things to consider abuot your situation.
First of all, you are 14. That's a little young to start dating, and definitely too young to settle on the One Love of Your Life. Johnny may also consider 14 to be too young, so don't take rejection personally if it happens.
There is a way to know what he is thinking, and that is to approach him and ask. There is no reason to be afraid to tell him your feelings if he is indeed such a nice and decent person. Think about it: do you think that he would deliberately hurt you? Love involves risk, and so does "like". If you don't take the chance, you will never reap the reward. And so what if he's not "the one"? No one ever said that dating was reserved exclusively for soulmates, and besides, the most loving couples I've even known are the ones who came to that realization over time, not the ones who fell in love at first sight.
Johnny's friend probably means well, but he doesn't really know how Johnny will react; only Johnny knows that. Go ahead and tell Johnny that you'd like to go out sometime, because you think he's a great guy and you'd like to get to know him better.
Oh, one more thing - you might want to fisrt confirm with your parents that it's all right for you to go on dates, or you might end up in the embarassing position of having to turn him down!
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Okay how do I report the person/webmaster that is behind this certain celebs myspace account for running it illigally without the celebs permission? You really can't see the profile since it's on private and may others are ticked they are being denied as well because he will only add female fans(andj judges peoples pictures and just adds sexy women) and not males and hois myspace could be run illegally without his permission. What should be done? Should the publicist.agent be notified? thanks. I know some celebs are fake, but with this celeb/it's possibly the webmaster doing all this, I feel that there should be at least something that could be done. If anyone knows also what happens to the webmaster(which we think it's his doing with the decrimination not adding all fans, etc and not the actors fault) and the profile that would be great. I hope no one will end up iin goign to court though over this. thanks. :D (link)
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About the only thing you can do is contact the celebrity in question, probably through a publicist or an agent, and alert them to the problem. Depending on exactly how popular this celebrity is, your letter may end up being lost in the shuffle, but there's not much you can do about that.
This celebrity may have someone who occasionally looks through the internet for just this sort of thing. Honestly, if I were you, I wouldn't worry about it.
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