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is he for real?
17, female!
Well i had this really good guy friend and ive known him for years. anyway we became more than friends and dated for a while but we decided we might just be better as friends because we didnt want it to spoil our friendship. but then he suddenly stopped talking to me and wouldnt see me or anything so i just thought he'd got new friends and moved on so i didn't like it but i had to let it go.
i recently bumped into him and we got talking about old times. he told me that the reason he shut me off completely was because he realised that he'd fallen in love with me and with me moving and getting new friends it felt like i was leaving him behind so he had to try and forget about me. but he said he couldnt and that he still loved me and wanted to be close again like we were and start dating again.
i just want to know if you think i should take the risk? he really hurt me when he stopped talking to me and i dont want to be hurt like that agian. i love him to bits, i always will but i dont want to get my heart broken again! what should i do?
sorry its so long! thanks!
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If you really love him like you say you do and you think that he is serious then you should give him a chance just because you move should not stop a relationship if you are really in love with each other than you would work out ways to see each other.
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It sounds to me like this is a guy afraid of his own feelings. Since you're 17, I'm guessing that at the time you broke up, he was probably about 16 or so. You were (are) probably his first love, and the intensity of it scared him.
I would allow for the possibility that he's done a little growing up since then, and that he may now be mature enough to deal with those feelings. Give him another shot is my advice to you - but conditionally! Tell his something like this:
"When you left me before, it hurt. It broke my heart. I'm willing to give us another chance, and if it doesn't work out, we'll deal with that, but next time you feel like I'm leaving you behind, you need to TELL ME and not just give up."
You may find that you'll need to do a little extra work keeping the lines of communication open at first, but hopefully over time he'll be able to open up on his own. Good luck to you both!
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