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I truly like a guy but do not know what I should do.
I like this guy called Johnny and we are both Christians who believe that it is up to God to decide who will be together. But I don't want to tell him how I feel about him because I’m afraid of rejection. I am a 14 year old girl and he is 16. I have heard he has had a past with a girl but it’s not anyone’s place to say. I even asked him if he had ever been in love and he said " Maybe, but I don't want to talk about it though". Johnny’s friend said “He is confused at the moment so don't say anything about your feelings towards him”. It kills me inside because I can't tell him. I really like him but inside I know he isn't the "one". Yet I can't resist but think about him. He is the nicest guy I have ever met. I haven’t met anyone like him so I don't know what he is thinking or how to get close to him. But I want to. I need your advice to know what to do about my situation.
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If you like him like you say you do then give a shot the worst he could do is say no yes it would hurt a little bit then you would stop thinking about him and if he says yes dont jump into things so fast take it slow let him get to know you really well and also dont jump into trying to haave sex so fast because that is how most relationships ends and if he asks you and you feel that you are not ready you tell him that and he doesnt except it then you dont want to be with him.
Brittani
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There are a few things to consider abuot your situation.
First of all, you are 14. That's a little young to start dating, and definitely too young to settle on the One Love of Your Life. Johnny may also consider 14 to be too young, so don't take rejection personally if it happens.
There is a way to know what he is thinking, and that is to approach him and ask. There is no reason to be afraid to tell him your feelings if he is indeed such a nice and decent person. Think about it: do you think that he would deliberately hurt you? Love involves risk, and so does "like". If you don't take the chance, you will never reap the reward. And so what if he's not "the one"? No one ever said that dating was reserved exclusively for soulmates, and besides, the most loving couples I've even known are the ones who came to that realization over time, not the ones who fell in love at first sight.
Johnny's friend probably means well, but he doesn't really know how Johnny will react; only Johnny knows that. Go ahead and tell Johnny that you'd like to go out sometime, because you think he's a great guy and you'd like to get to know him better.
Oh, one more thing - you might want to fisrt confirm with your parents that it's all right for you to go on dates, or you might end up in the embarassing position of having to turn him down!
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