Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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14/f
what are some good halloween costume ideas?
not like ghost or anything kiddish like that.
something cute and funn
i have a lot of parties im going to so i want something good for those, like dance parties and such.
any ideas will help greatly.
thanks so muchho
-betty (link)
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Well since you're going to a party, you probably want to look cute, of course so here's some ideas:
- pirate
- fairy
- angel
- devil
- batwoman
- superwoman
- any superhero
- witch ( in a cute way with like, a cute shirt and top and some boots or heels maybe )
I hope I helped!
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14/f/tx
My best friend likes my boyfriend. They went out before I hooked up with him. We've been going out for two months now. The other day my best friend admitted she still likes him and is going to try to get him back. My boyfriend gets really jealous when I'm around other guys. My best friend knows that and also knows that I really can't not flirt when I'm with a cute quy, even if I'm not interested. Another one of my friends told me my best friend was going to use that against me to cause me and my bf to break up so she can go back out with him. What do I do? I love them to death but this isn't right. Please help!!! (link)
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First of all, go tell your boyfriend what she's trying to do so whenever she tells him that, he already knows she's lying and won't believe her!
Also I would either have a serious talk with your friend, or just stop being her friend completely. Friends do not go behind friends backs and try and steal their boyfriend from them! Best friends should be happy for eachother, and she should back off of him. So if you do decide to talk to her, let her know that and let her know she's majorly hurting your feelings and why would she choose a boy over you? You guys are best friends, and if they even WERE to date, not all relationships last forever and they'd most likely break up at some point in life, and whose shoulder would she then have to lean on? Nobody's, cause she HAD to have that guy and lose a best friend in the process. "Chicks before dicks," I always say. So try and talk it out with her and resolve the situation, but if she still insisits on trying to steal him from you, I'd back off of her for awhile and cut off communication for awhile until she realizes what'll happen if she does.
I hope I helped.
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well there is this boy in my FCS class i really like him what should I do (link)
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. ( sorry, my computer wasn't working properly, so i was fiddling around with the keys and i deleted half my advicenator answers, so if this answer got deleted like, completely or doesn't show up anymore and you want the answer back, just let me know. )
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ALright, well i was going out wiht this girl for a while and i really like her than we broke up during the summer, then she went out with 2 other guys after me that werent really as meaningful as when we were going out. So we started highschool and now homecomings coming up in exactly a week and and now shes doesnt want to go with teh kid that asked her because he acting wierd now and stalking her and says there going out when there not. Now i really want to ask this girl and ive liked her ever since we broke up and idk what to do, she doesnt want to go with him but i dont think she wants to hurt his feelings, what can i possibly do in 7 days to get her to start thinking about me again?? (link)
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Well in the next five or six days just keep talking to her, flirt a little possibly, and just make her laugh and show her how great of a guy you are. And then start talking to her about homecoming, and I'm sure she'll mention the problem with her date again and just ask her,"Hey, well we should go together then! I think it'd be alot of fun!" And just suggest it to her, if she takes it as a date and doesn't feel comfortable with that, then just suggest to her going as friends. If she does, then just have an amazing time, compliment her, make her laugh, you know the drill, and during the last slow dance you should let her know that you've still been having feelings for her ever since you two broke up, and see where it goes from there.
Or if she would feel bad about just breaking off from that guy and still decides to go with him, then just ask her if you can snag a few dances with her ( especially a slow dance ) and just still do whatever the rest of the night, and let her know of your feelings at the one slow dance you have with her.
I hope I helped.
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well their this boy and we went out for like 3 months and in that 3 months he told me he loved me and then i realized that he meant it and that i loved him too! well their was rumors going around about him cheating on me and i believed but in my mind i knew it wasnt true i just didnt want to look stupid if it was! so i decided to get him back by kissing someone n front of his friends so that they will tell him and he would get mad! well that happened and he really got mad and broke up with me i was hurt but at that time i still kinda believed the stories! so we didnt talk 4 a while but we hung out at the same place! i knew he still liked me and he said sorry 4 the rumors and i said sorry 4 listening to them well we started to go back out but he wasnt the same as the first time! we finally had sex the second time we went out but after that we didnt talk that much! i just realized i still loved him and i think he may still love but even thought we havent talked in a while but i miss how he use to be and i just wanna kno wat should i do? i tried moving on but i keep realizing i love him plz tell me wat i should do i need help really bad!!!!!!!! (link)
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If you really like him enough, message him and try starting up conversation again. Let him know you miss him, and just let him know of your feelings and that you still care for him, and see where it takes off from there and see how he feels about you.
If he does feel the same, try and give it another shot and you both'll really need to work hard at it to make it work well. I can understand why it might not be the same as it used to be, whenever rumors or some sort of bad situation happens, it's usually awkward for couples to just continue right where they left of knowing what happened and what was said and everything. And he just might be afraid to be like that again, because he might be worried once that happens, rumors or something will start up again, and you two will just go right back to where you guys started again. So if you guys were to both work very hard at your relationship and just start fresh and show eachother just how much you really love eachother, you guys can work it out.
But if he doesn't feel the same, I would try your best to move on to another guy. I know you said you've already tried, but you can still keep him around and love him just as much as friend, though. It'd be better to have him in your life as a friend, then nothing at all, right? I remember when a guy I really really liked broke up with me, I was crushed for months and it was so incredibly hard to get over him, but over time I just focused on myself, my friends, and MY life, and then he started leaving my mind slowly each and everyday, until eventually I didn't like him anymore like that, and we just remained good friends. So maybe if he doesn't feel the same, and you two were to remain friends, it could possibly work out good in two ways. 1) He can either remain your friend and you still have that great guy in your life, or 2) He is your great guy & friend in your life, and later realizes again how much he loves you and wants to continue a relationship with you.
So just message him or walk up to him sometime and initiate in conversation and let him know you really miss him and miss talking to him and the way everything used to be, and just let him know of your feelings and like I said, where it takes off from there.
I hope I helped.
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so my friends gay, & her name is Chelsea. =) but she has a b/f. wtheck?! but she`s not bi. she`s a bia. make sense? not to me. uhhh; whattt does this mean? she keeps asking me if i`ll be her g/f like but she`s got that b/f. is this an undercover thing? she`s told me she`s only gay. not bi. gah. (link)
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Well, sometime's people who are homosexual don't feel comfortable with sharing their sexuality with everybody yet, so some people think that by having a boyfriend everyone's going to think "well obviously they're not gay" or whatever and they'll be accepted ( because as you know, not EVERYONE is comfortable with homosexual people which I think is stupid ).
So it probably is an undercover thing, if she's not bisexual at all.
As for the her asking you to be her girlfriend thing, just be honest with her ( I mean you guys are friends ; you're supposed to be honest with eachother, right? ) and just let her know you're sorry, but you're straight.
I hope I helped.
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I like this kid named Justin a lot and I confronted him about it and he told me..
that a relationship will be to difficult his senior year and he honestly likes me and that he wants to get to know me better and that we will become really good friends and then see what happens?
i really like him and i told him im fine with the friends thing and i understand where hes coming from. and i doo but i just wish me and him could be more. And i dont know what to do anymore, if weather or not i should try and move on and ugh i just dont know :[ help pleaseE? (link)
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Well, do that. Be his friend, and then just see wherever it takes you and see if it can possbily develop into something more in the near future.
BUT. If another guy comes along and he asks you out, don't pass him by just because you're "waiting" to see if this guy wants you, because ( I'm just being realistic ) he might not ever want to become more than that, and waiting all that time for nothing then would be pointless. So take chances with other guys too, have fun, and then who knows? Maybe if another guy does come along, you'll like him a thousand times more than you like this guy.
But for now, while there's no guys around, just hang out with him, be there for him, laugh with him, and just have a great time hanging out with him, and sooner or later he'll realize what he missed all that time and if he doesn't like you anymore than a friend, it's his loss and someone else's gain.
I hope I helped.
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Okay, there are little questions that I wish to ask. You ugys don't have to answer all of them but I really wish that there is at least one answer for a question. Anywhos
I'm a freshmn this year and I'm 14..
There's this guy in my strings class that I like and I think he likes me back too. The thing is that he's in 12th grade while I'm in 9th. He's really sweet and funny though. He lends me his jacket when I'm cold and offers me rides home. Do you think it would be a good idea to go out with him?
Then there's this guy in my biology and gym class. He likes me and is going to ask me to homoecoming (so says everyone) but the thing is he's not my type and I only like him as a friend. But he's really insecure and I'm like one of three female friends he has. I basically motivate him to do well at school and etc. Is there a nice way to turn him down if he does ask??
Third and final question. There's this guy who lives 30minutes away from him. I want him to come to my school homecoming with me. Not officialy as a couple or anything but the thing is that since he doesn't go to my school, I might end up buying the tickets for both of us but that would be weird? yes? Anywhos would it be weird if I make him pay for it? If not, how do I slyly suggest that he pays for it and such?? (link)
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Question 1:
No, I don't think it would be weird if you went out with him. Alot of girls tend to go out with older guys, there was actually a girl last year ( when I was in 9th ) that went out with a senior herself, so it's not really a big deal. I know the grade makes it sound like a huge age difference, but if you think about it, it's only like, 3 years which isn't that bad. And he sounds like a sweetheart to me, why pass that up? :)
Question 2:
If he does ask you, just let him know you're sorry, but you've sort of already planning to ask someone else these past couple of days, but if he wants, you guys can share a few dances together at homecoming and hang out and stuff for awhile! ( So in a way it could be like a date, except you're not there the whole entire time with him ). And I'm sure he'll be happy enough that you're going to dance with him a few dances and hang out with him and talk to him and stuff. But if he IS insecure, there is still the chance he might not, cause I'm sure rejection is in his mind, so you might not even have to worry.
Question 3:
I went to semi with someone last year, and they didn't go to my school and I paid for both of our tickets. Well, my mother did, haha. I don't think it would be way too weird, just explain to him your mother paid for those tickets but she needs the price of his ticket money back because she was supposed to be using that money for something else ( a little white lie ). But him being the gentleman he's supposed to be, he'll either pay for his own ticket or even offer to pay for both. My date wanted to pay for his own, but I told him it was no problem, I already did it, and he let me know he was going to pay me back for his ticket. If you want to suggest for him to pay for his own, just be like,"I'm sorry, I was going to pay for your ticket also, but I didn't rack in enough money in time to be able to afford yours. Do you have money to pay for your own? I'm so sorry." And just let him know you sound sincere and everything, and I'm sure he won't mind.
I hope I helped.
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Do you think if A guy had sex with you [and used you]
must have liked you at one point?
Or thought you were pretty at least??
this didnt happen to me, i was wondering because it happend to my friend. (link)
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He probably thought she was pretty, but I'm not too sure if he had feelings for her like that, because whenever guy's usually like a girl they don't care about her or her feelings, they just want to get laid. He could've possibly liked her at one point, but I highly doubt it cause whenever a guy does like a girl he does realize she has feelings and wouldn't be such a jerk towards her. I hope I helped.
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okay.im a freshmen. and my friend is a sophmore. we've known eachother for a few years. and he never really seemed too boyfriend materialish to me. i mean like.idk. he can be really nicee and stuff. but he always wants to do shit. and i know every guy kinda has that in them. but its like. all the time. and it seems like thats all he wants. and i never give in most of the time because it just seems weird to me. and sometimes he'll talk to me on AIM non stop. other times. he wont say a word and if i start a convo wtih him. its like. hey.whatsup.nmu?and thats it.
help. i really donno whats going on here.if he likes me or if its all being a set up.
please. tell me the truth.nothhingg stupid like "everything will turn out fine" (link)
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I would talk to him about it, first of all. Ask him if he likes you or not, because to you it just seems like he's using you to get what he wants from you, and other times he's always talking to you and whatnot. Since you didn't say boyfriend, and jsut friend, I'm assuming you guys are friends with benefits, which I would NOT want to do at all, even if he wants to. Friends with benefits always creates bad situations and drama and especially if one likes the other and the other doesn't feel the same. As you can tell, cause you're alreayd having a situation. Just let him know of your feelings though, adn ask him what's going on. You guys are friends ; you should be able to talk about stuff and understand. But I seriously would suggest not continuing a friends with benefits thing cause you're probably only making him want more and more, and that can possibly ruin the friendship even more. I hope I helped.
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im NOT having sex i just have a question.so dont get my wrong. okay if the guy is wearing a condom does the girl have to wear one too? if both the guy and girl wear it then will there will be a less chance she will get pregnant? or how about if just the girl wears a condom and not the guy? (link)
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Well I'm sure both the man and woman wearing a condom ensure a more likely chance not to get pregnant cause it'd have to break through both condoms, but sometimes condoms can break, and I don't know if on two other people, but whenever a guy thinks wearing two condoms'll be safer, the friction actually causes them to break and gives even a greater chance, so I don't know if both the females and males condoms would cause friction and break or what. But the most likely chance not to get pregnant is one at least wear a condom and for the girl to be on the pill. As for them both, I would try researching it on Google ( I would do it myself, but my mother shares this computer with me and would get a little suspicious if she saw a search for female condoms and whatnot, lol ) I hope I helped, though.
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i just downloaded limewire. i downloaded a song, but i got a little alert that said something like: there is no license for this file. dowload anyways? limewire is not responsible for... what does that mean? is it legal ? (link)
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Limewire isn't legal, but whenever I first heard of them, I heard they have a pretty good security thing so it's really hard for the government or whoever to detect your doing it. That's what happened to Kazaa, and that's why people were getting fined for downloading music because they were getting caught, and it's not paid for. A thousand people use Limewire, and I don't think anybody's been caught or anything.
I hope I helped.
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i want to start babysitting for money bc i need money haha but my parents said i need to take a class to learn how to do cpr and all that before i babysit. is this true? (link)
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No, you're not REQUIRED to take a class or anything, but it's a really good idea, because what if the child accidentally swallows something, and you don't know what to do? It's just a good thing to know incase a situation comes up while you're watching the kid.
Also, you'll probably get more babysitting jobs, because parents'll feel comfortable knowing their kids in safe hands with someone whose learned this and knows what they're doing, unlike most girls who babysit and have never taken a class or anything.
I hope I helped.
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k so me and my friends want to be the fanta girls for halloween. thing is, my mom doesnt even want me to get a costume, she thinks I should go through the costume box from yearrs ago. all the suff I wore when i was in like 4th grade. they're all too small and ugly and stuff, like witches and all that corny crap. ok soo basically because of that the costume has to be cheap. but the only one i saw was $200 each! uuh no way lol so does anyone know where i could get a cheaper one?
thankss (link)
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Well what you can always do is just go to a nice department store and find shorts and a belt in that color and a top too! You could probably find a halter and tube top, but I'm not sure about the other two and you can find shoes probably, no problem! And if you can't find a specific clothing item in one color, you can always dye it that color.
Also, another thing is you can try and ask your mothers or you guys do it yourselves, find the fabric colors and sew up your outfits!
Here's a couple pictures of what some other girls did:
http://www.mardigraschicago.com/DSC00410.jpg
http://www-scf.usc.edu/~danielsl/Halloween%202005%20(My%20roommates%20and%20I%20dressed%20up%20as%20the%20Fanta%20Girls!).jpg
http://www.fresh99.com/images/sexycostumes/fantanas.jpg
I hope I helped.
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tommorow i have plans to go this scary haunted house with one of my friends. all of my best friends are going to a haunted cornmaze tommorow and they asked me if i could come and i said i already had plans! but they are my best friends and it would be soooo much fun if i went to the cornmaze with them. im not really exited about going to the haunted house and im really dissapointed because i cant invite the girl to the cornmaze instead because she already went. but i cant miss out a night with my best friends because they will come back with a new batch of inside jokes and i want to be a part of it. i want to make up an excuse and tell my friend why i cant go to the haunted house but she'll find out i went to the cornmaze and will be pissed at me. i dont want to lose my friendship with her but i dont want to waste a night thinking about how much fun i would be having with my best friends at the cornmaze. should i go to the haunted house with my friend? or should i listen to what my heart wants to do (which is the cornmaze with my bestfriends)?? if i go to the cornmaze i need to make up a lie so i can cancel plans with my friend. what do i say to her??? i was thinking of telling her that my mom thinks its a waste since all you do is walk through the haunted house and your done in 8-10 minutes, but what if my friend doesnt buy it??!! or what if she wants to just go somewhere else instead... but i also dont want to betray her like that but i want to be with my bestfriends. i dont know what to do.. any ideas?? (link)
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Well, here's what I suggest you do.
You can go to the haunted house earlier, and then go to the cornmaze later. Go to the haunted house at let's see 5 o' clock, for example. Since it's not that long of a walk through it, you go in, get out and then explain to your friend you've also been invited to a cornmaze thing also and that you promised them you'd join them, but if she'd like to come along, that'd be great!
I seriously just wouldn't cancel on her, that's rude and lying gets you no where, and she'll most likely find out, and her feelings'll get hurt. Plus, you made plans with her first, you can't just bag her on them.
I hope I helped.
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16/F
So.. I havent ever had a boyfriend.
Ever, never been kissed.
I just really want a boyfriend.
I know everyone says, eventually I will find someone, and that I'm young.
Because there are a TON of people that have boyfriends and girlfriends at my age.
I've just been thinking, what is wrong with me?
I look decent, I care about people, I'm creative and artsy. Why cant I find someone?
Is it because my standards are too high?
I dont want to make them too low.
Has anyone ever felt like this?
And - I am quite happy.
I dont need a guy to make me happy,
its never healthy to need,
but to want is another thing.
So whats up?
[thoughtful answers please,
not stubborn arrogant cocky ones.] (link)
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I am exactly like you.
Never had a boyfriend, never been kissed and I'm turning 16 in July.
This is actually normal for alot of girls out there, some aren't even kissed until they're 18 or so, so don't feel like something's wrong with you.
Sometimes the right good guys don't come along for awhile, and believe me, it'll be worth the wait.
Alot of guys out there are jerks and immature anyway whenever they're teenagers so whenever you do meet someone, hopefully they'll be acting more their age anyways and you'll have a great time with thtem and whatnot.
And plus, there's so many girls out there are sorry to say, slutty or something and of course, guys are going to be more attracted to them.
( I'm not saying ALL girls are, just some )
And so it might not be you,
it's just the guy.
You and his personality might not mesh well together, or maybe the guy's intimidated by YOU,
and think YOU wouldn't ever want to date him at all.
I just think of it this way ; whenever a guy DOES come along and I really like him and he becomes my boyfriend, our first kiss'll be really great and I'll remember it and it'll be nice.
I hope I helped.
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Alright, i was wondering if it's normal for someone to go to homecoming alone? do alot of people do that? also what is the right attire for attending a homecoming dance? I'm a freshmen so this is my first one and I don't know a thing.. thanks alot (link)
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My friend is sort of like you, in a sense. She doesn't really want to go alone and she'll really only go if she has a date. And I keep explaining to her ( just like I am to you ) that it is perfectly normal going to homecoming alone! I mean, I'm doing it this year! I mean, you can have just as much fun hanging around with your friends, then some date! And plus, it's a great dance to go too, and a great memory to remember for the rest of this year.
Girls - wear a pretty nice dress, but not one of those ones you'd wear to prom where they cost alot of money and whatnot.
Guys - buttondown shirt and a nice pair of black pants and some nice shoes, usually. some even wear ties and maybe a jacket too.
I hope I helped.
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My best friend is dating this boy who has been with 23 girls. They've been together for about 6 months. She didn't believe in having premarital sex before she met him. She gave it up to him a few weeks ago. He broke up with her a week later. He started talking to another girl. He begged my friend to keep having sex with him, although they weren't together anymore. She said no. He asked her back out a couple days ago. They started doing it again yesterday. Does it not sound like he's using her? He's this very munipulative type person. It's driving me crazy. Should I tell her how I feel? (link)
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He is definetely using her.
You need to sit down with her and and tell her that he is, and she needs to stop doing this to herself. He's only wanting to get back with her because he wants to get some, and that's all. Let her know you're not trying to hurt her, but you can't stand watching HIM hurt her more. And let her know she deserves a guy when sex doesn't matter, or at least he'll wait as long as it takes because he loves her and respects the decisions and choices she makes in life.
She MIGHT get defensive, but that's only because she likes him and she probably realizes your right, and doesn't want to admit it. If she does, just keep letting her know that he IS using her, she just doesn't know it and I mean, he's been with 23 girls for petes sakes, and if that doesn't hint off as a player, then I don't know WHAT does.
I hope I helped.
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15/f.
So there's this boy and it seems that he likes me a lot. People are saying we'd be cute together and that I should give him a chance..He talks to me a bit and has the prettiest blue eyes on earth (link)
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I think you should go for boy 2. I mean if you like him, and he seems to obviously like you, and he sounds like a real nice sweet guy whose going to make you really happy, why would you ever want to pass that up?! :)
Just because people say you and guy 1 look good together, doesn't mean you'd GO well together. You might not be a really happy couple, especially with the fact you don't like him, and you like someone else. That's just a bunch of other people's opinion on who you should date ; you should go with your own.
I hope I helped.
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Hey i am 14/f 5'7" blonde, skinny live in oregon ... i have no idea what to do for halloween. i dont want to spend alot of money, i just want to look cute. any ideas?? (link)
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Well, if you go to this site:
http://www.costumes4less.com/halloween-costumes-search.asp
And go near the bottom, there'll be an area as to the prince range you want it to be around so it can help you find more costumes, and here's the list page of all the costumes for teens:
http://www.costumes4less.com/advanceresult.asp?cattext=Teen&B1.x=0&B1.y=0&B1=Find+my+product&srchtext=allw&pricemin=&pricemax=
I'm not sure what's all on that site, but being an angel or a fairy is always a cute costume or being a pirate. Or you could always be a superhero like superwoman or catwoman. I hope I helped.
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