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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

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k well i like this kid & he told me he liked me & he was like wicked nice to me so then we started hanging outt & we went outt but then i broke up with him cause like he didnt talk to me alot & stuff and i didnt like him as much as i thought but after we broke up like we talked more like before we went out & i likedd him againn then we went to this dance & we were gonna dance but he couldnt find me so he ended up dancing with this other girl & hooking up with her then they went outt & they still are but they have been going out for about two months & i likeee him & he said he liked me aboutt a month ago but one of his close friends says he likes me & like idk what i should doo nowww,p.s i love your site its wickedd cuteee

He doesn't know what he wants. If he really liked you as much as him and his friend tell you, he would try to make an effort to make the relationship work. There's really nothing you can do. Talk to him and ask him what's going on and to stop leading you on with this. & thanks :]

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I knwo how to curl my hair but i'm not sure of the direction so tell me which step it is (there's 4) http://i143.photobucket.com/albums/r155/wind_miko/curlhair.jpg

I want my hair curled like how Asia does it form The Search For the Next PussyCat Doll? Thanks!

Those pictures are confusing but it shows that it curls inward. When I curl my hair, I wrap it around the curling iron that way it looks better. Swich the way you curl it to add volume and once it's curled, run your fingers through it so they're not all stuck together.

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ok tell me if this is sluty:short shorts a grey cami with a black zip up sweatshirt and hoop earrings please help (and advice on changes are welcome)

It doesn't seem slutty as long as your ass and your breasts aren't hanging out.. other then that, not slutty.

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what feels better. being fingered or having sex?

Fingering and sex are two completley different things. It all depends on what the person likes more and find more pleasure in.

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I don't understand, like I study for tests, the night before, [I can't study for thing in days advance] I like splitting it up into little groups, during the day, but anyways, I make flashcards. & I get them all right. I tottaly know them inside & out. Then when the test comes, the next day, I forget it like all. What do you think is the problem? Do you think I freak out or something..?

I don't know.. help.
because tests are a big part of your grade, & i'd really like to know what im doing wrong.

or how do you study?

I can relate. I always freeze up when it's time for a test but review the things on your test in other classes. If it's your first class, ask your teacher if the class can have at least 10 minutes to study. If not, just review for about a minute or so. I do that before my tests and it actually worked for me.

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i go to a new school, &theres this like party coming up, like a dance.. & my old friend, who yano i love to death, will be there.. but she tends to get a little crazy there, like annoying, like she makes an idiot out of herself. & i dont want my new friends to like think im like that too. but my old friend is super excited about seeing me. so idno, what should i do?

I think it's kind of sad how you're so worryed that your friend will embarass you infront of your new friends. She is who she is and she doesn't need to please anyone and neather do you. If she's really out of control, be real with her and tell her the truth before the dance. Your new "friends" shouldn't judge you because of how your old friend is acting.

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ok, theres this girl I really really really like, but I don't kno if she likes me that much though because she has told me im cute and funny and stuff, but I think that she likes this other guy. I dont rly kno y, but I have that feeling, u kno wat I mean. So I need some ways to make her like me more over this one guy, and ways to find out if she really likes him?

If you really like this girl, make an effort to get to know her better. Start talking to her more, ask to hang out,.. have a conversation. Once you're talking to her, ask her if she likes anyone. Don't try to win her over in any stupid ways but just make her be more interested in you because of your personality, not from something that you're not.

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I joined track this year, and there's a boy on the team that is super cute and really nice. I've talked to him a couple times, but barely at all. i doubt he even knows my name. but he seems so awesome... i really want to get to know him. However, i'm ABSOLUTELY NOT going to randomly start talking to him. (please, if you're going to tell me to anyways, don't.) It needs to be gradual, at least until we're on speaking terms. So... tips not involving walking directly up to him and talking? PLEASE?

Not to seem rude or anything, but how else do expect to "talk" to him if you won't make the first move or walk up to him. Guys love confidence and girl's who are outgoing. I understand that it would feel akward if you randomly just went up to him and started talking but you have to start somewhere. If you guys are sitting down or such, start up a conversation that you're both interested in. Get to know him like that because there really is no other way to get to know someone without cominication. I don't know if my opinion is what you wanted to hear but I'm just being up front with you about it.

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I was talking to my friends like an hour or more earlier and they were at one friends' house hanging out. Since they were going to leave his house soon, they told me they were going to another friend (he lives like 2 minutes walk away from me)to watch a movie and that they'd call me when they get there so i can go over. They told me they'd call me in 10 minutes but they didnt, so i called them like 5 minutes ago and they were like "oh yeah, we're watching the movie right now". They didnt even invite me or remember that they were suppose to call me or anything. Needless to say, Im annoyed and slightly hurt. I don't know if i have a right to be. There's like five of them and not one of them bothered calling me or asking me if i was coming over. My friend was like "Yeah we're watching the movie.. why are you calling us?" I didnt feel like explaining that I thought i was invited... apparently i wasn't? I dont know. So now I'm quite upset.. my question is do I have a right to be? Or am I just overreacting?

You do have the right to be upset because they shouldn't of just left you out. Other than that, don't take it too personally. They might of forgot and I'm sure it wasn't their intention to just leave you out. You should defenetlly comfront your friends about it tomorrow and see what really was going on.

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okay well today at school i was crying because in 4th period a boy made a comment about my mom and was talking shit about her an he knows shes dead!well when the teacher was talking to us in front of the class i dont no why but i just started to cry and this one boy mike who i went out with like two years ago for only a week well since then i have only datted one guy for a while,while he has dated about two or three girls.Well i still have feelings for him.Well right now he is currently taken by a girl and im not well when i was crying in 4th period and the bell rang i just didnt get up and everyone left and mike said come on sarah its okay so i also have 5th period with him well when i was sitting in my desk i just had tears like running down my face and he was like lip talking to me(where they talk with there lips and not with there voice)and he said plz stop cryng and i said why and he said because i hate seeing you like that.well then he asked me if i like him(but he always asks girls that)i said yes and i said only a little bit he said you no you like me a lot and i said yea i do like you alot.~but hes never really nice to me when he has a girlfriend hes always mean but he was nice to me today!

so what do you think........
i need your opinion

That boy that made that comment about your mom is very immature and selfish. No one deserves to feel like crap. I don't really know what to tell you about Mike. He seems like he still cares for you as a person and doesn't want to see you hurt and upset. He wants to be there for you but if he's mean to you when he has a girlfriend, you really have to let him know how you feel about that. It's not right if he treats you that way and he needs to understand that it's wrong. Just talk to him more and hang out as friends and you never know what will happen.

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ok well about 5 months ago i was going out with some guy named jason whom i really liked so much but we broke up because he started acting wierd...anyways well while we were still dating we would have so much fun and have good talks and stuff and i would tell my friend isabel all about it. she always would instigate and tell me that he probably used the same cheezy lines with everygirl and then it turns out that she likes him now and they keep on kissing each other and shes always telling me about it like if i actually wanted 2 know!! it really bothers me and i feel that she is so dumb cuz shes all talkin lemme say shit about him and now shes practically going out with him too!!
today we were in p.e. and she kept on playinq around and she hit me with a soda bottle in my face so i got mad and i socked her so hard on her head and she qot like really serious and damn im telling you it felt good! hahaha
well the thing is that my other friend told me that she kissed him 10 times today and i know for a fact shes going to be all rubbing it in my face tomorrow even tho she knows that i really liked him! plz help me!wut do i do when she tells me??what can i do to react in a calm way&pretend that it dosent bother me?..do i even pretend or just straight out tell her 2 shut da fliick up&stop being such a hoe-cak3?!plz help me friiends are so important to me like more than a guy but is she really supposed to be considered a friend after what she did?[[and i would understand if she REALLY REALLY liked him but she plays around with everyone like that even her cousins!..yez she macked on her cousin too just so he wouldnt go out with me!!]] thx in advance=]

First off, she isn't a real friend. When she kept telling you negative things about Jason while you guys were still going out, she liked him back then too and she probablly wanted you both to break up. Now that she got what she wanted all along, she's taking her chances with him. She loves making you mad and making you jelous and she can see that it's really bugging you. That's exactly the reason that she keeps on bringing it up just to see how you would react. If she rubs it in your face again, don't call her a stupid hoe-cak3 or anything like that. Be more mature about it because you're better than that. You don't have to pretend that it doesn't bother you, but if SHOULDN'T bother you anyways. I know that you really liked the kid but things between you guys are over and you need to accept that and finally move on. Of course you're still going to get jelous and such and it's completley normal, but don't let it get to you. When she tells you that they kissed again just say something like aw, how cute, giggle, and walk away =] When she keeps talking about him, don't let her see that you're bothered and if she won't shut up, then you tell her to shut the fu@k up. Go out and meet new guys. Flirt, have fun. You don't have to be stuck on ONE guy and an immature "friend".


& it's very gross that she kissed her cousins.

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my best friend has a bf and they are madly in love which i dont mind but if im on the phone with her and he calls on the other line shell say she needs to go and talk to him and this bothers me and ive talked to her about this but she says she just really likes him and wants to talk to him so should i just hang out with my other friends some more because they dont ditch me because i cant put everything into this relationship if i know she only talks to me when hes not there

Talk to her again. What will she do if they break up and you're not there for her because of all the times she ditched you for him? If your best friend can't make time for you then she's not being a real friend. Of course you should hang out with your other friends. You shouldn't wait for her to make time to talk to you.

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ok im 16/m

and im addicted to myself i love to masterbate
but im at a point in my life that i want someone to help or watch me but i dont know what to do
and i also got pics of me

but what should i do to get people to watch me/help me?

There's always cameras and the internet.. not saying you should but hey, if you're desprate go for it.

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post them here por favor.

To prevent binging, keep yourself busy. If you eat because you're bored, do something else instead. If you're stressed out, don't turn to food. Having a snack once in a while is fine but make sure you pay attention to how much you're eating and exactly what goes in your mouth.

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I have several best friends in my life, all of which are beautiful, caring, nice girls. But lately, they've been driving me INSANE. You see, they all have boyfriends, but their boyfriends are complete jerks to them! They convince them to lie to their parents, they take advantage of them when their drunk, they ditch them for their guy friends, they treat them like a piece of dirt, etc. And each one of my friends hates it when their boyfriends do those things, but they still think their boyfriend is the greatest thing in the world. I wish I could make them realize that they deserve sooo much better. I'm tired of them settling for an asshole of a boyfriend just because they NEED a guy to feel good about themselves. It's just not right and I just can't believe they would act so stupidly. How do I deal?

Your friends are so caught up pleasing their boyfriends, that they don't really care for anything else. I know that you tryed talking to them about this, but if they won't listen to you let them deal with this on their own. You're being a good friend for looking out for them but you have to let them learn from their own mistakes. When they get hurt by those guys, they're going to realize that you were right and that friends always know best.

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alright well see im 13/f and my ex boyfriend has a g.f right now and it really hurts me , i miss him so much. When we were going out we had the most amazing times ever, and before we were going out i liked him for a year and than we finally went out, and now we broke up and the day after we did he had a g.f, well the girl he is with now is like my worst enemy i dislike her. && from what i hear she likes another boy and a million people brought it up to me, so i told him and when he called me to talk about it he was flirting with me and said he misses the good times we had and that he doesnt know if he likes her because shes prude and stuff. but now hes mad at me because he thinks i lied about her liking another boy. im so confused and i dont know what to do, i love this boy so much he was my first true love and idk what to do any way you can help ? thanks

You're trying to do the right thing here, but he's not appriciating it and he doesn't want to belive that it's true. Back off for a little bit and just don't mention it to him. If you're not positive about her liking other guys, don't tell him because you don't know if it's true or not and you could just stir things up. Talk to him as friends and just try to hang out with him. He'll eventually realize that you're just looking out for him and not trying to hurt him.

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okay i know that im pretty. but it only really shows when i get back from school (like for some weird reason i look best after school then when i did in it) and in the summer. i have wavy blonde hair and blue eyes and im skinny. i have a rash thing tho on my arm that i so need to get rid of. (any ideas?) i work out so im not fat or anything but like i never had a boyfriend and im like 13. i know people havent had bfs who are older then me but still... and like i desperatly need a bf becausee people at school think im a lez. which.. im so not. im really shy at school so maybe thats why i cant get a bf? out side of school im really loud and stuff && guys lovee me from other towns and ask me out all the time (i turn them down) but in school. no. i am so quite. and im popular like with people in other schools but.. not mine. so. yeah. i wanna be popular at mine =[

adviceee!

&& you know what is they gayesttt? like girls at my school can be like ugly. but get a bf. im the what the freakkk. and like.i really picky tho. so thats probably a reason. ha

I think that way sometimes too. If I get home I would like my hair way better then I did at school or something like that but it's totally normal. I think it's just your opinion and the way you think. If you have a rash and don't know how to treat it, go to the doctor. They could give you a cream or something so you can get rid of it. Being shy could be the reason that you don't have a boyfriend. Start talking to people more and guys especially. Be flirty and fun and just get to know some guys. Start of as friends and so on. Just be yourself and I'm sure guys will like you. If you want to be popular at your school, don't try so hard. People can see right through that. All you need to do is start talking to more people. Don't be afraid that they'll think bad of you or something but just be outgoing and people will like you for your personality. Those "ugly" girls obviously have something that people like about them. Not all guys are shallow and only care about looks. They probablly have a really nice personality and that's the reason that they have boyfriends.

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i don't understand the sign in to advicenators. does everyone have to create a screen name to be able to ask for advice. because I only came here for advice not to give advice but i have this column. so i was wondering if it's like that for everyone. and
my uncle's wife is so annoying. I mean it really got on my nerves that he wants to see what everything in my room looks life. why should she care why does she have to see things. they didn't even really need to use the computer on my room but then they did one time. what an excuse. it's stupid. i don't even like how she smelled when she came in my house.

You have to have a column if you're going to ask questions for everyone to answer. Other than that, you don't. If you're going to ask a specific question to a columnist, you do not have to register.


Your uncles wife is probablly just curious on how everything is. I don't think that she's trying to piss you off or anything but it shouldn't matter if she uses your computer or not. I think that you're just over reacting a little bit because it's really not a big deal and I'm not saying that to be rude or anything. & just out of curiousity, why does the way she smell have to do with anything.

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You know how most popular people have been popular since they were little?

And most popular people hit puberty at the right time, not too early, not too late.

And most popular people have perfect sized chests.

Why is that? I mean, I know that the good bodies are part of what makes them popular, but if they were "chosen" before puberty was an issue, then why does it work out that way?

Not all people have been popular since they were little. There really isn't a "right" time to hit puberty though & most popular people don't have big chests. Being pouplar isn't all about looks but that is a big part of it. Most kids are popular because everyone likes their personalities and to be around them. Some kids think their popular because of the way they look but people might not really like how they act. People aren't necceseraly "chosen" to be popular but not everyone cares about the bodies and such. They could like their personality and such.

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do you ever think that popular people like.. look up things on how to stay popular and how to be it?
and likeeeee. do you think that they like spend a long time on the way they look? justt wonderring. thanksss.

I don't think that popular people look things up on how to be popular or how to act. Some people are just popular because of their personalities and they might not really care about how they look. Others might spend a lot of time getting ready and caring about their apperance. It's just about confidence.

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