so me and boyfriend kissed for the first time as a copple. we made out... but its been almost a week now and he hasnt kissed me.whhat do i do?
I wouldn't worry for now-he might want to take things slowly.
If it gets to two weeks,then yeh i'd worry. You need to sit down and have a talk to him about it, so that he'll think your serious.
Just kinda start by saying "So what did you feel about us kissing" and see where things lead.
It's to early to act yet though-give it another week as he may want to take his time to make the second kiss as great as the first. Good luck :)
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I'm 19 years old male, and I have never even dated anyone. I'm too scared to ask a girl out, or even talk to them. Any advice?
Firstly you need to adress why you're scared. Is it because you're not a confident person, so you're worried if they say know what the effects could be?
I'd just say go on chat lines first of all... just so you can build the confidence up to talk to girls. Girls are VERY emotional people-even the hard ones.
Trust me, any girl like it when a guy takes interest in her. You could then like practice in public talking to them. Say if you're in a shop, ask a girl member of staff where something is. Always look girls in the eye, and be yourself and confident. good luck :)
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This guy I DON'T like, is TOTALLY being a stalker. NO JOKE! He'll walk with me to and from my classroom, before and after school. He KNOWS I have a Boy friend but he STILL hangs with me and he NEEDS TO BUG OFF! How do I tell him to back off without hurting him!?!?! cause he's pressuring me to pick him or my boyfriend. Can't he take a hint?! I mean. Seriously. I'm staying with my Boyfriend. HOW DO I DO THIS!? Oh and he's a year behind me in school.
I'mma girl...and...I'm 13...
yeh, i think the best thing to do is to send him a text or email telling him to back off abit. This is because it will look more serious, and he'll know that he's annoyed you.
OR you could try and make yourself less available to him. Say if you always walk around on your own when he follows you, go round in a big group cos then he won't bother as he'll feel overpowered.
If you really love your boyfriend then you should fine telling him to back off really easy. Good Luck :)
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13/f
no idea if this the right catergory....
k so i sing and do musicals and solos and stuff like tat to get over stage fright (because i love singing!) i thought it was working i mean singing in front of people wasnt my absoulte worst nightmare any more.. audtions hadnt come up in awhile so i didnt sing infront of people as much.. then an audtion came up and i tried out and ALL my stage fright came flooding back! i blushed squeked forgot my words and even had to do 2 takes on my song! wat happened?? how can i get over this for good? cause i really love singing but fear holds me back..any tips advice people???
Hey, this is what i did to overcome my stage fright when i dance on stage;
Most people say imagine the audiance nude-this of course doesn't help if you can't even see them-so i wouldn't follow this advice.
Don't see it as a make or break kinda thing-see it as just a small job you've got to accomplish. Like when you do an exam. Just do what you gotta do, and move on.
Also, imagine your just singing in front of your mirror with your ipod on or infront of your family. Don't constantly stare at the audiance-the could distract you.
Finally, there are numerous breathing activities you can do to calm you down. Take deep breaths as this limits the oxygen going to your brain so your not as alert. Also, with two fingers lightly tap your pulse point on the inward part of your wrist. For some reason this really works!
Just remember this: People look at you on stage not because you look alien or they're shocked, it's because they think you're actually quite good. Otherwise they'd look down with embarrasment :)
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I am 15/f and like this guy...A LOT! Anyway, we joke , and poke fun like all the time. And in a way i think of him as my brother,but then again ilike him. So in a way a see him as a brother, but a boyfriend at the same time.Is it wierd to feel like that? Is there something wrong with that?
PS: There is absoloutly NO blood between us, no way are we related!
Thanks any advice is helpful.
I think it's fine to feel like this. If you see him as a brother, then you must trust him. And trust and friendship are essential for a relationship to work.
I guess the question you should ask yourself is: do you find him attractive?
You could always go out with him and if it feel weird remain mates? Good Luck :)
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19/m
I started talking to one of my old friends, who I used to have a huge crush on. He was so sweet and amazing, but nothing ever came out of it. And he has told me that he has absolutely no feelings for me, but I just can not get over him. I am still so attracted to him that it is not even funny. I want so bad to go out with him, I have for the longest time. But he has no interest. What should I do?
I would just say-let go and move on. But I realize that you want to do anything but.
If you want ANY chance of getting into a relationship with him, you have to make him miss you. So if you're constantly contacting him all the time, he wont miss you.
It's a well known saying "We want what we cannot have"
So by not contacting this man, he thinks your suddenly 'unavailable', and this makes him what to have you more. Follow?
The next thing to do is to go out with some mates and have a great time. Word will get back that you are doing well. He will take interest in you all over again.
Eventually, when he reopens the lines of communication, he'll ask to meet up somewhere. And thats where you can woo him with how amazing your life is-he'll want to be a part of it.
Guys often say the opposite of what they mean. The last person that said they did not fancy me, asked me out two months later!
Stick at it and you'll get results. Good luck :)
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Okay so my ex boyfriend and I broke up like... almost a year ago. But we had a VERY messy break up and it's taken us basically up until now to get things settled out... and I still wouldn't even say we have it settled out. We are... I guess, friends. Although I don't see him much out of school (by choice). I can honestly say that it's taken a hell of a long time and it was extremely painful, but I'm over him. And I didn't really feel totally 100% about saying that until like a month ago. He REALLY hurt me... I don't want to go into that whole story cause it is loooonnnngggg but take my word for it that he did a lot of shitty stuff to me... and it took a long time to be able to forgive him. A lot of it involved our physcial relationship. He was my first kiss, fingering, handjob, and blowjob. He pressured/guilted me into a lot of it and at one point physcially forced me to do things. But again... long story. We were both in really bad places and we both mad mistakes... gosh I really don't want to start on that cause that's not what this question is about.
ANYWAY. The problem is this. He can be incredibly mean to me. He will often call me a whore and a slut and make not funny jokes about stuff that happened between us and just be all around rude... Like commenting on my clothes. I don't dress inappropriately. I don't think so, and nor has anyone but him ever commented on it. But he always seems to point out when I'm wearing a skirt that is yeah pretty tight... or a shirt that shows a little bit of cleavage. And he doesn't point it out in a nice way. When if you want to be technical. He's a much bigger slut that I am!! He's slept with about four girls since we broke up, there are pictures of his dick on numerous phones, and he admitted to me that he skyped naked with girls. He also has sex with his current girlfriend on a regular basis, his friends have told me that that is the only reason they are together, that he's admittted that to them. Which I don't find hard to believe because he also admitted that he onlly liked me when we were hooking up. Yet he calls me a whore? And he "makes fun" of me being stupid. I'm not stupid, I have a 3.9 GPA which is higher than his and yeah he's a grade above but I'm in more honors/accelarated classes than him. He doesn't even make sense it's just like he's a jerk because he LIKES being mean to me. I honestly think he enjoys it. And I've told him that he's being a dick and everytime he says "I know... I'm sorry. I'll stop, I'm really trying. I don't know why I'm such a jerk to you." the thing is I WANT to know why. I want to know why we can't ever seem to get our relatinship in a good place... And it's not like his comments affect my self esteem, they really dont'. I know none of what he's saying is true... SO why is he saying it? I am fifteen, female. He is seventeen, male.
I'm 15 to and yeh i was mistreated-but omg what you've been through must be hard.
The first thing you probobly realize is that you deserve better and can do better by the sounds of things.
The thing is, people who act like this to their ex are very insecure people. I guess what you have to understand is that he doesn't even know why he's doing these mean things to you, because he is in a very insecure place. he doesn't know what he wants. It's important that you don't react to bad things he says-pretend he never said anything. This will make him sit down and think that he's hurt you. By reacting, it's like you want communication with him at any cost.
So the true answer is he's too insecure to deal with his emotions, so he blurts out anything. Once he's had time alone to 'find himself' i guess he'll see what a great gal he lost.
Good luck-boys can be idots sometimes :)
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I moved into a new state, how do i make friends quick before the end of the year? (Im in 8 th grade and want freinds before high school)
It's always hard moving house/school so you're not alone.
Pretty often when you join a school, you'll know which 'group' you fit into straight away. I'm 15 and i'm pretty shy-and when my (now bestfriend) moved to my school she knew straight away where she belonged.
Firstly, I'd take a step back and think 'Which group do I honestly belong to' Sadly, you can't escape cliques in any high school.
If you're talking about how to make friends before high school, heres a great tip: You could organise and end of term party say at your house. Sure, some people you dislike might be there, but then again its great to make new friends.
Also, pay people compliments every now and then like say 'hey, i like your top' It's fine if you're new because people don't know you yet-so it's your chance to make a great first impression. Seriously, just by going up to a group of people and saying 'hey, can i like hand out with you' actually works!
Good luck :)
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I am 11 years old(girl) and am currently crushing on 2 boys in my classes. One is easer to talk to, but the other makes me more nervous to be around. Which one do you think I like More?
As weird as it sounds, I think the one that makes you feel nervous. Unless he makes you feel nervous because he's been nasty to you, then definatly him.
If you view a boy as being easy to talk to, then i'd say if you went out you'd treat him more as a friend. This is because the relationship wouldn't be challenging enough for you.
When you go out with a boy, they like abit of a challenge. So I think you like the one that makes you nervous more, because may seem abit of a mystery for you to solve. if you get me?
Good luck :)
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Voo doll Fergie,glamorous fergie,wind it up gwen stefani,sweet escape gwen stefani,4 in the morning gwen stefani,break it off rihanna,barbie girl aqua,lollipop aqua,get the party started p!nk,sk8ter boi avril lavigne.
Sweet escape by Gwen Stafani, erm get the party started by p!nk and break it off by Rihanna :)
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I am 11 and like a guy( same age) and recently asked him to a dance. Please note that this is a dance that you need a partner for, and I have been told by many people that he likes me back. He answered maybe, and I'm not sure if its a yes or no.
In my experience (i'm 15) maybe usually means yes but not right now. Or yes but let me think about it.
If he likes you back, then he could be saying maybe because he doesn't want you to know how much he really likes you.
Or he could be saying maybe because by saying that he knows you'll want him more.
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I love my crush and I know he likes me,but somehow he doesn't want to hang with me.Is there something wrong with my looks/attitude or is it just because Im a girl and we're both in the 5th grade ( both 11 years old)? Or is it were just kind of breaking off each other? I really have a big like for tthe boy but what can I do? SOS!! :(
He's probably just shy. If I were you i'd ignore him for a while, as he will find you more attractive
because as i keep posting 'We want what we can not have'
But i'd just take ur time and enjoy being 11 ^^
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i have liked this guy since the 6th grade i am in 8th grade now the year is almost over and we are going to the same high school we have gone out before but it was just a small thing maybe a day i remember how he used to call me and joke around all the time when we were to gether and over text but now we only talk when its a group conversation in class and its just small comments i thought he hated me my friend said he doesnt but we dont text anymore i want to go back out with him i like him a lot what do i do to get him back?
Firstly its good the year is almost over-because the holidays will make him miss you.
Actually i'd ignore him, because if you hand out with him all the time he won't want you back.
Take the well known saying: 'We want what we cannot have'
By ignoring him you will seem less available to him-and he will start to miss you and want you back.
Also make sure your always happy and don't give him text terrorism to win him back.
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I love my bf,but i got to mad in front of him.what can i do?SOS!! =(
well everyone gets mad at some point.
Although this kind of behaviour isn't attractive to guys, if its just once or twice then he'll forget about it :)
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Hi,
I have been having acne problems for about a year and a half now mainly in my forehead, t-zone, side of faces, my chin, nose and under my eyes as well as my neck so basically everywhere.
It was light acne at first but I got a fringe and it got really bad so I began clipping back my hair. And I got prescribed medicine--- Zineryt --- from the doctors, I had that for 5-6 weeks and it helped quite a bit on my forehead although not on my chin at all but some spots are still visible on my forehead. I have very sensitive skin and My current cleanser is Clearisil. So I am wondering If anyone knows how to get rid Of acne or anything good products that work. I was also wondering if Pantothen or Proactive work?
I have acne too, so i know where you're coming from. The thing is ur skin gets used to the same cleanser so it becomes less effective. I'd use simple because its very gentle. Also, go to the doctors and ask about a cream called Duac once daily gel, plus some tablets called tetralysil. They work wonders together trust me. So yeh go back to the doctors and discuss these products :)
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I don't like some of my girlfriend's male co-workers. Two guys in particular always use foul language and tell dirty jokes in mixed company. They are class-less and disrespectful. I prefer to NOT attend any functions, but she loves me and wants me by her side. However, she asks me to 'laugh it off,' which I cannot do all the time. Any suggestions?
You need to sit down and talk to her. tell her how you feel.
I particulaly dislike people with no morals etc, so i'd say you could also have a word with them at some point-drop an email or something. if the jokes are sexual, you could even contact the boss, seeing as it may be harrasment. Hope this helps :)
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im 19/f
i met this guy and he is great. we hit it off quickly. we got alot in common and we like eachother. but i put myself in a bad situation. while we were talking he started going out with his ex who cheated on him 3 times before and lives 2 hrs away. but he comes over and we hang out and go places and we have even had sex. my feelings for him are soo deep and i cry knowing he isnt mine. but he says he is in a bad spot and to give it time. i dont know how much longer i can take this. please help! and ive even met his daughter and he kissed me in front of her which was a surprise. what does this all mean?
thank anyone who answers this
Sounds very hard for you :/ which why i want to help :)
it is a well known saying. "we want what we can not have" So whilst you're 'ex' was with you, of course he wanted his ex back, as he couldn't have her. Follow?
So now you can't have him because he's with his ex again, you want him more. See?
You should concerntrate on other things. Go out with mates and chill. this will allow you to clear ur head-and him to clear his. If he does want you back again, don't rush into it. take small steps. Don't tell him off for going back to his ex, be understanding.
Don't let him be controlling either. if you don't hear from him now in the next four months or so, i'd say put him behind you. it'll be hard-but if the time comes just ask on here for advice on it. hope i helped and good luck :)
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I'm in my 50's and have not meet a man. Would like to have a relationship. Most men at this appear to look much older than me. I work in a public place, see lots of people and I feel I'm friendly. What am I doing wrong, not to meet someone to date?
You're doing nothing wrong. The most important thing to do is be yourself. Also, learn relationship body language. Things such as playing with jewlerry, or a necklace really appeal to men.
Alternativley you could try a dating site. There all people exactly in your position, so it's not such a big thing. Here are some good ones:
www.ukmaturedating.com
www.50plus-club.co.uk
www.fiftyplusdates.co.uk
www.fiftysingles.co.uk
Don't give in,you'll find someone very soon if youkeep at it! Good luck :)
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okayy so my boyfriend of 4 months is in the hospital and i'm wondering if i should go see him. he wouldn't talk to me earlier or answer my questions about how he was feeling. i haven't seen him in a month so i'm afraid that he doesn't want to see me. should i go see him anyway and let him know i care?
I'd ask his parents somehow, or ask your own. He will know you care-you're asking after him. Give him plenty of notice you're coming aswell. hope this helps :)
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I have a few songs on my mind; Fergie voo doo doll,glamorous Fergie,Wind it up Gwen Stefani,break it off Rihanna,barbie girl Aqua,Sk8ter boi Avril lavigne,and lollipop Aqua,and get the party started by p!nk. Which do you think I should sing,and which ones are school appropriate and irrapropriate? My talent show tryouts are a week from now!!!!
Tbh i'd do either wind it up or get the party started. Just because every knows them so they'll sing along, but also because they allow you to show off extreme vocal ability. hope this helps :)
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