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Looking for a girlfriend
I'm 19 years old male, and I have never even dated anyone. I'm too scared to ask a girl out, or even talk to them. Any advice?
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Hey :) I have a female friend in your situation,who actually got her first kiss yesterday :) My advice is just to mix with different crowds, grab a bunch of friends and just go to parties, gigs, whatever. Meet more girls, and when you find one who you really like, don't be too forward but don't be stuck up either. Just chat, be cool. Do what i did with my boyfriend, get your friends to mix with her friends, then you can meet up all together, with no awkwardness. Then eventually, if she's the right one, she'llcome around :)
Hope that isn't too shitty help :) xxx
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You sound like a male version of me 3 years ago. Any advice I can give is what I have learned from my mistakes. The first thing is to start talking to females, yes I know sounds like the most horrifying thing but believe me you will come out alive. The best thing to do is to be confident, talk to them as if you were talking to one of your guy friends. But remember, be respectful and sweet, you can't go wrong with that.
This is something I don't share with most people but I was horrified around my fiance when I first met him, I would get so nervous I would break out in hives and even have bloody noses! So believe me, I know how you feel. But after you get over the nervousness and you really get to know someone that feeling goes away, trust me.
If there is someone you like the best thing to do is just start a normal conversation, become friends with her first and see where it goes from there. If you take anything from this, just don't be afraid. Life is too short to let fear stand in your way, go for it!
Good luck!
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You can always do what I did to get my boyfriend. Find a girl that you really like and that you would like to start dating, and if your too nervous around women, like my boyfriend was, then have one of your friends talk to your crush, and find out if they like you and if they do tell your friend to tell them that you like her too, and then it shouldn't be too weird to talk to her knowing that she already likes you, then when you get to know her more, ask her out on a date. My friend did this for me for a guy that I liked at my job, and it turned out he liked me too, and we've been together for a year and two months, and we are very happy together. so good luck and i hoped this helped you!
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Firstly you need to adress why you're scared. Is it because you're not a confident person, so you're worried if they say know what the effects could be?
I'd just say go on chat lines first of all... just so you can build the confidence up to talk to girls. Girls are VERY emotional people-even the hard ones.
Trust me, any girl like it when a guy takes interest in her. You could then like practice in public talking to them. Say if you're in a shop, ask a girl member of staff where something is. Always look girls in the eye, and be yourself and confident. good luck :)
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Aww i find this so cute :)
I do understand where your coming from especially because your a male , and really now a days everyone wants to find 'their half' but to bo honest you shouldn't chase girls .. if you really attracted somneone they would also make a move to you.
Sometimes its better to have a chat with someone your really close with a best friend or mum or dad especially dad because they have been though more things in life.
I think you should be more confident with who you are , be more man about it and more secure of your words ... the more natural you are the more beautiful your personality would seem to someone :) GOOD LUCK !! XX
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Don't be scared. Take risks. Sure, you might get turned down, but at least you tried. Go after the girl you want, before someone else makes her happy.
It's cliche, but true: Be yourself. There's no one better. Just saying, if you start out pretending to be someone you're really not, then girls will not like you for who you really are. And the girls who DO like you for your "original" personality won't see it anymore.
You can strike up a conversation about anything. Lead the conversation, make her laugh & don't toy wiht her emotions.
Hope that helped. :)
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