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E-mail: mayj_143@yahoo.com.ph
Gender: Female
Location: Cebu City, Philippines
Member Since: November 14, 2010
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i'm fully aware that my life could be a lot worse than it is at this point. just a lot of pressure and stress and depression is starting to crash down on me and i'm getting weaker and weaker trying to pretend nothing is wrong. my boyfriend and i broke up and i haven't spoken to him since, and vice versa. since then, i've fallen HARD for this guy at my school. its not just a crush, i'm completely and totally in love with him. but he's got a gf and i know he doesn't like me back. i'm also graduating in a few weeks and i'm failing chemistry. all of this is depressing me like nothing i've experienced since my first break up, and on top of all of that, i can't talk to my friends. sure, they all claim they are there for me. but they really aren't. anytime i'm trying to get advice they either don't listen or start talking about their issues instead. so i've stopped trying.
i started thinking about ending my life a few weeks ago. it was just a passing thought. now its on my mind all the time. i haven't acted on impulse yet because i wanna give things a chance to get better, but they haven't. and i've gotten to the point where i almost don't care anymore. i'm even starting to talk like i'm going to do it. i say things without thinking and then realize that i actually believe i'll be dead soon. things like "i might be gone by then" or "i'm leaving soon". no one has seemed to notice, and really, who would? i don't exactly know what i'm asking for here. but things seem pretty impossible right now, idc how pathetic that sounds. i'm alone and afraid and sad and angry and i can't tell anyone. (link)
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Please don't kill yourself. Or even think to end your life.
I know what you need, someone who'll listen. And I can be that person for you. You don't know anything about me. I'm a complete stranger. But I want to help you in any way I can.
I don't know you or what you've been through, but I care enough to tell you that solving your problems by hurting or killing yourself will not help.
Please don't kill yourself.
If you want to, you can email me at mayj_143@yahoo.com.ph & we can talk or anything. You can tell me all your problems and I can simply listen and be there for you. No judgement or anything like that. :)
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I'm 19 years old male, and I have never even dated anyone. I'm too scared to ask a girl out, or even talk to them. Any advice? (link)
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Don't be scared. Take risks. Sure, you might get turned down, but at least you tried. Go after the girl you want, before someone else makes her happy.
It's cliche, but true: Be yourself. There's no one better. Just saying, if you start out pretending to be someone you're really not, then girls will not like you for who you really are. And the girls who DO like you for your "original" personality won't see it anymore.
You can strike up a conversation about anything. Lead the conversation, make her laugh & don't toy wiht her emotions.
Hope that helped. :)
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Is it wrong to genuinely hate my mother?
I was adopted from birth and feel as if I've always felt neglected by my mother ever since I was little. From what I can remember, there's always been something kind of quarrel or discrepancy, and it's frustrating, because I used to try really hard to, as much as I hate her, acquire some approbative pride in me from her...
She's a bigot, self-righteous, narrow-minded, intensely judgmental, and has always more or less acted officiously toward everyone else besides my dad that yells at her, and once he yells at her, she'll start throwing things and slamming doors, cupboards, etc.
I know I'm not a five year old anymore, but it really bothers me, and whenever I visit home (I begged my parents to allow me to attend a boarding school), I just want to get away. She screams, and has fits. I go to therapy, and although I know I'd never act out so rashly, I find myself always at ends with this feeling of conflicting emotions. When she screams at me, I want to bash her face in, but act with a calm and understanding demeanor, which just makes her look like the child, and so, she just get's even more worked up...
I'm not sure what else I have to ask, but if anyone has any advice as to how I should deal with this, I'd greatly appreciate it. I don't want to grow up to become one of those resentful women who despise their mothers. My mother's an educated woman, but for some reason she just--she acts like a bitch.
Thanks
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Hi there. I'll try to do what I can to help you with this problem. First off, you are not alone. I feel like I genuinely hate my mother too. We never get along, and when we do, it doesn't last for a day.
Ever heard of the line, "Kill them with kindness" ?
That's what I do to my mother when I'm infront of her. Though there are times that I feel like killing her on the spot, I just ball all those emotions in and give a straight face. I just think that people like my mother(or your mother, if she fits the description of bitch) can't be changed anymore. You can't teach an old dog new tricks, and that's something I've definitely learned from this entire hell experience. I've accepted that she'll never be supportive, or as loving as I'd want her to be, and that I'll have to live that.
I don't know if you feel the same way, but do you always feel like you have to be the one who acts like the adult? Or be the person who has to understand her pessimistic ways? It can be tiring and really crappy, you know. I think it gets better though.
But we all grow up, you and me. And we'll leave them behind soon. So I think we should just bear with our mothers for now. When we become adults, we'll make our own choices & we can prove to them that we weren't as bad as they thought. In time, they'll realize that they hurt us and that they were wrong.
Hey, my mother gets violent sometimes too, and it gets scary. Sooo maybe when that happens, if you want(not forcing anything) you can email me and we can talk about it. :) I'll listen to anything, as in anything. Hahaha. Pointless rants, strings of cuss words, go ahead. And it doesn't have to be all about bad stuff, you know. I have some jokes up my sleeve to make you laugh when you're feeling down. :)
Hope I made some sense. Even a little.
My email is mayj_143@yahoo.com.ph
xx MayJ
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Okay, so I'm an outcast. It's hard to choose a friend because all my classmates are mean and bullies. They get mad at me even though I'm not doing anything wrong. I used to have this friend, but we're not friends anymore because we have different activities. What should I do to have friends? Or should I follow what my heart says (which is don't have friends 'cause you'll become left out again)? (link)
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Well, don't give them what they want. And that probably is for you to give up and just spend your time alone. Don't give them that satisfaction. There is always going to be that one person whose always going to be there for you no matter what. Don't give up if you haven't found him/her yet. It took me some time to find mine too, but in the end, I did.
If your classmates are bullies and they get angry at you for nothing, then they are not only mean, they're also stupid. People like them don't have anything else to do than ruin other people's day.
Maybe you and your friend didn't know each other that well. Because if you did then the bond between the both of you would have been stronger and your friendship wouldn't have ended because you liked different things.
I don't want to tell you what to do so you'd have friends. It's not really my part to say. But I can say that you just be your self. Your awesome self. You shouldn't have to change you who are for other people so you would get accepted because in the end, when your fake version gets accepted and in the long run those faker friends turn their backs on you, you'll be left alone and you wouldn't even know who you are as a person anymore. Trust me, someone will love you and accept you for who you are.
No man is an island, right? :) We need friends. We need people by our side. Everything will work out for you but you're gonna have to be patient 'cause it might take some time for the pieces to fall together.
Hope I helped. xx
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I have been texting this guy since homecoming. He's nice and kind of funny but I'm definitely not interested. The other day he asked me who I want to go out with. I said I didn't know and I wasn't really into dating as of right now but if someone did ask me out i wouldn't mind. He said he was going on a date w/ this girl I knew. Then he invited me to go paintballing (which I've never done) with him and all his friends. He then gave my number to three guys who were going. I told him I couldn't go because (a: I didn't want to in the 1st place and b: I actually couldn't and didnt want to lead him on.) He then acted really sad about it. I havent texted him because I don't want to lead him on or make him mad. I'm really confused. Help? (link)
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Well, whatever you plan to do, just remember to break it to him gently. Just tell him that you're not looking for a relationship right now, but you really appreciate the attention he's giving to you and that you value him a lot, as a FRIEND. Normally, he'd be upset, but that's just the initial reaction of someone who's rejected. But tell him that by telling him you're not interested, that means that you care for him enough that you don't want him to get the wrong idea. You want the friendship to stay, but nothing more.
Hope that helped. :)
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I met a guy (Chris) through my guy friend.. (a guy friend I hadn't seen since about 2 years ago) we bumped into each other in a club. I've known Chris for over a month now.
Any way Chris flirted a little, asked for my fb and number and I gave it to him. He kissed me that night. We went on a date a week later and he seemed really nice.
Problem with him is, I have heard he still likes his ex. We have been in a bar with our friends and his ex has turned up, and they always end up talking... and the other night she turned up, started talking to him and him and his friends LEFT the bar with her and her friends! and left me and my friend in the other bar on our own, he didn't even say bye!
He flirts a lot but I think he's just using me to get over his ex. What do you think?
His guy friend also told me that Chris walked his ex home, and he thinks that he might still love her (they have been split up for 2 months) and I know they see each other at least once a week, they go to the same gym.
Oh, and I heard him say to her "come back to mine" even though he didn't know I was behind him. Thing is, he broke up with her so does he still really like her?
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He might not be totally over his ex yet. But it doesn't mean he doesn't have feelings for you. You should talk to him and ask him about where you guys stand as a couple. You could go around and investigate if you don't wanna talk to him personally just yet. But since your still unsure at the moment, it would be best if you take things slow. You don't want to get hurt in the end. :/
Hope that made some sense.
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i accidently called my gf fat what do i do ? (link)
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Why'd you say that? Hahaha. Seriously, just apologize and explain extensively why you said what you said. Be reasonable and be sensitive to her feelings. :)
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hey, ok so i have like two problems. well i like this guy a lot and he's a FLIRT and he said a few days ago he liked my friend. But he asked me to kiss him numerous times? It just didn't really make sense to me. I don't know what to do. My second problem is I used to be like best friends with this girl and we're not anymore but we are friends still. it just sucks because she's the one i always went to my problems for. And we like NEVER hang out anymore. It sucks a lot. Any advice for me? ahaha(: (link)
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Oh, I've been there. I almost liked a guy who's a complete flirt. Different crushes every single day. Hahaha. Well, yeah, I understand why it doesn't make sense to you. I don't understand what message he's trying to get across to you either. Maybe for now, you should evaluate your feelings for him first. Why do you like him? Ask yourself questions like that. If you take that chance and let yourself fall for this guy, even if you know he could play you, then it's your decision. Think hard. :)
Oh. I'm sorry to hear about the falling out with your friend. Do you have any idea why that happened?
Don't feel too bad about it though. People change. Friends grow apart. It happens. Sometimes, time fixes it. But there are times when you can't do anything about it anymore. But from what I understand, you care about her alot. If you wanna bring back the old times, then you should do just that. Maybe you got busy with school or something like that.
Hope that helped. :)
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i am from philippines. i saw my mom with some other guys aside from dad... i did not tell to anyone yet. and this fact keep fucking my brains, mom left us to work somewhere far, left me, my brothers and dad in our hometown. As i am to study in college i am sent to the city where mom works. just so i know she bring home boys at home, chat with them online, meet them. there are three boys as far as i know. i just can't dealt with it. it hurts so much... (link)
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Don't jump to any conclusions just yet, okay? :)
The best thing you could probably do right now is to straighten out the facts. What you know that's real and what you assume is real. Could it be possible that she's chatting with them for reasons completely different from what you think?
This is obviously bothering you, so it would be good if you spoke to your mom directly before things get worse and your judgment gets clouded by the preconceived thoughts you have.
Talk things out first. :)
I hope that helped.
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