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mom cheats on dad, what should i do?
i am from philippines. i saw my mom with some other guys aside from dad... i did not tell to anyone yet. and this fact keep fucking my brains, mom left us to work somewhere far, left me, my brothers and dad in our hometown. As i am to study in college i am sent to the city where mom works. just so i know she bring home boys at home, chat with them online, meet them. there are three boys as far as i know. i just can't dealt with it. it hurts so much...
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The best thing you could probably do right now is to straighten out the facts. What you know that's real and what you assume is real. Could it be possible that she's chatting with them for reasons completely different from what you think?
This is obviously bothering you, so it would be good if you spoke to your mom directly before things get worse and your judgment gets clouded by the preconceived thoughts you have.
Talk things out first. :)
I hope that helped.
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I'm sure what you see is causing you to be hurt.I'm just as sure that it is not your place to do something about it without getting all the facts. You say she is bringing boys home, you did not say she is having sex with them. There is nothing wrong with online chatting. Unless you have absolute proof your mother is having sex with these boys your options as to what you should do are limited.
The first thing and only thing you can do is to talk with your mother. Tell her you have seen these three boys going into her home. Ask her whats going on. Tell her that you are assuming the worst that she is cheating on you father with these boys.
IF she gives you a reasonable answer as to why these boys come to her home accept it and move on.If she is evasive or tells you it's none of your business then you have a choice to make.
Here again your choices are limited; you can do nothing and continue to hurt. You can tell your mother this has to stop or you will have to inform your father. This choice will hurt as well as know you are left with no option but to monitor your mothers actions and if required inform your father. Your last choice is going to hurt the most which is to simply state to your mother that you feel you have to inform your father.
I wish I had a solution that would correct this situation without causing more hurt. Having lived in the PI for sometime I am well aware of the Christian values families have and the hurt this is causing you. If someone from anyplace else had written this letter my answer would be different. I would probably tell them that this is the mothers business and what his father doesn't know won't hurt him.
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