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How do I tell her to get a grip?
16/f
I have this really good friend.She and I go way back and have understood each other always.But since last year she changed completely.She always talks,never shuts up for a minute.Also what annoys me-I am not mean here but truth is she isn't pretty at all,her body is ok but her face is really ugly and she goes on and on and on about how boys swoon over her and how where ever she goes someone asks her to be with them and that everyone looks at her.All I've seen is that boys look at her with sort of disgust or that they don't look at her at all.Again,I'm not immodest or full of myself but I'm much prettier than her,and she's had so many boyfriends while I haven't had one for ages.But that could be because I won't be with just anyone who asks me out like she does.Her appearance doesn't bother me,I love her for who she is,she is so good and honest and everything but when she starts talking and talking about what I just said it makes me go mad and smack her in the face just so she can shut up.She really doesn't know when to stop.And when some cute guy looks at me instead of her she says omg did you see how he just looked at me when it's clear he was looking at me.She lives in an illusion.I don't want to hurt her,but how do I tell her to get a grip and gt her own life,not try to live mine?
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Well Sound like a Teenage Stage.. Maybe try talking to her and joke you read to much magaznes or what going on tv. i notice now and days that teens shows are kinda getting worst. maybe just try be there and be her freind and don't try shut her out. just ask her if she let you talk and let you know how you feel and ask her not to be mad and if she a true freind she would truly listen to you. hope i help. if i didn't sorry least i tr
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you have to talk to her. key word- talk. i cant tell you how many times ive tried talking to my friends but it always ends in fights. so when you talk to her, you have to be careful not to sound mean or bossy or offensive. just simply tell her whats bothering you. dont say any of that- i want to smack you so you can shut up- stuff. just say "hey i have a really bad migraine, can you not talk as much?" or something like- it really bothers me when you talk so much. again, try not to sound irritated. people have tendencies to have the "annoyed voice" when they try to tell someone whats bothering them. so just be calm and chillax. tell her its not personal, you just aren't in a good mood and don't feel like talking as much. she'll understand. you can tell her a white lie if that helps. say you had a stressful day and that you just need to relax and not talk.
as for the boy issue.. i know exactly where you're coming from. my best friend is like your friend. she isn't the prettiest and i think she knows that. she will do anything to flirt with a guy or get his number. what i do, is i just ignore it. yeah it can be annoying at times.. but you just gotta learn to deal with it. its not the end of the world. all she's doing is trying to build up her self confidence. after all... she is your friend. wouldn't you want her to be happy? if she's happy trying to get a guy, let her do what she wants. you can't control her actions. i tried this with another friend. she was BOY CRAZY. seriously. all she would do is brag about how many guys wanted to hang out with her. "i'm going to seans house tonight. i hung out with kyle last night. jake is sooo cute. omg austin texted me blah blah blah. i yelled at her for it because i was so annoyed and i told her that she needs to pick one guy and stick with him. after i told her that, she was really mean to me and our friendship ended. so learn from my mistake.. just deal with it. i mean, you can talk to her about it and say "please dont turn into a crazy slut who's obsessed with boys constantly" but dont expect her to not take it as an insult.
what i also think is that you 2 just need bonding time. without boys. have a huge sleepover and watch movies all night. bake a cake. listen to music and dance. have make overs. whatever. just have it be alone in between you 2 and just hang out. that way she wont be able to obsess about boys.
i hope i helped!
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