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hard time fitting in
Okay, so I'm an outcast. It's hard to choose a friend because all my classmates are mean and bullies. They get mad at me even though I'm not doing anything wrong. I used to have this friend, but we're not friends anymore because we have different activities. What should I do to have friends? Or should I follow what my heart says (which is don't have friends 'cause you'll become left out again)?
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Sometimes doing to right thing can come at a very high cost, but you've chosen to stay away from your classmates because of the type of people they are, which tells me alot about who you are. You hold yourself up to a higher standard and have certain expectation of how people should be acting. There is nothing wrong with this, in fact , it's very honorable for you to do the right thing and for you to stand up and be your own person by not following the crowd. You see people as sensative human beings, not objects to toy with when you are bored or have nothing better to do. You may not see it now, but this will take you a long way when you are older. It only takes one person like yourself to save a life and there is no greater feeling than that.
You deserve to be around people like yourself, so my advice is to figure out what activities you like to do. It could be anything such as sports, debate clubs, or even teen help lines. There will always be people who have the same interests and this is a good way to start making the friendships that will last. Your not an outcast, you fit in just perfectly, it's just a matter of finding where you fit in. Once you find this out, you will be much happier. Have faith in yourself, for it's people like yourself who grow up to change the world and make it into a place worth living in.
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Well, don't give them what they want. And that probably is for you to give up and just spend your time alone. Don't give them that satisfaction. There is always going to be that one person whose always going to be there for you no matter what. Don't give up if you haven't found him/her yet. It took me some time to find mine too, but in the end, I did.
If your classmates are bullies and they get angry at you for nothing, then they are not only mean, they're also stupid. People like them don't have anything else to do than ruin other people's day.
Maybe you and your friend didn't know each other that well. Because if you did then the bond between the both of you would have been stronger and your friendship wouldn't have ended because you liked different things.
I don't want to tell you what to do so you'd have friends. It's not really my part to say. But I can say that you just be your self. Your awesome self. You shouldn't have to change you who are for other people so you would get accepted because in the end, when your fake version gets accepted and in the long run those faker friends turn their backs on you, you'll be left alone and you wouldn't even know who you are as a person anymore. Trust me, someone will love you and accept you for who you are.
No man is an island, right? :) We need friends. We need people by our side. Everything will work out for you but you're gonna have to be patient 'cause it might take some time for the pieces to fall together.
Hope I helped. xx
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