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Okay so i like this guy and he came over tonight with 2 of my other friends. and they left early and it was just me and him alone. but he didnt even try to kiss me. How do you like you all of a sudden start making out. i mean what do you just out of no where start kissing i mean. what are some ways if your siting close to get him to kiss you.

so lets say your sitting on your couch or on your bed..

- play a little flirty game with him. be like "you want the remote? try and get it ." hopefully he will play along and try and get it..you can start to tickle him out of nowhere..hopefully he will do the same to you..
-so your sitting on the couch..slowly inch closer to him..rest your head on his shoulder and just cuddle with him. (i know it takes guts but i dont thnk he would reject that)
-turn the tv off..look at him..maybe run your hands through his hair..and go in for the kiss

*the person who said "it doesnt happen...only in movies" ..is wrong. ive had a bunch of things that are like ' movie perfect' things happen to me..so dont listen to that. alll it takes is someone who has the guts to just do it..go for it head on.
i know you can do this..go for it! :)

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When my boyfriend and I start to get intimate and he starts rubbing me, would it be so wrong if I took his hand and well, guided him to where he should be rubbing? Or would that offend him?

o gosh no! that would be excellent if you guided his hand. he wants to please you! he wants to learn what turns you on and everything..so yes by all means guide him! :)
-melissa-

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ok there are these guys at my skewl who are always calling me ditzy. they are constantly looking straight at my boobs. is it wrong for me to not like this?????? i am in 7th grade btw

its so not wrong for you to not like this! only a slut would like it if guys were constantly staring at her chest. i mean..your right for feeling uncomfortable, etc. and i think you should perhaps report it to a school administrator because nobody should have to feel violated or sexually harassed like that.

-melissa-

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Ok, i am 20 yrs old and i have a child and a boyfriend. He is a big mamas boy. His mom lives down the street about 3 min to drive there. His sister lives across the street. So i see his family at least once a day.(no joke) My family lives across town so i dont get to see them as much. I like his family but then theres time i really dont. His mother i fell always puts me down in a nice way, but maybe thats just me. Everybody kinda aggures with me and i start not to like them. Am a person who takes things to heart and they like to joke alot and make fun of people. Im just asking is it right for me to not like them so much since i see them all the time or am i just being selfish of the love that my boyfriend has for his family?

it can be argued either way. on one hand i see your frustration...but at the same time the family is really close and he seems to have one of those overprotective moms who will never be more than 5 miles away from her "baby" lol

i dont think its wrong that you dont like them..i mean their family is so different from yours. your mom isnt as protective..and its a whole new thing for you to always have family members around babying him.

however, i would try and put aside my feelings and try to make the most out of it

"life may not be the party you expected it to be, but the least you can do is dance to the music"
..thats what i would do "dance to the music"

concentrate on the things you like about them..make an extra effort to get to know them..get on their good side, etc..because reality is they arent going anywhere.

i hope this helps
-melissa-

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Okay I have to write an essay on patriotism that's 300-400 words long. I have writer's block BIG TIME!!! Does anyone have any ideas on how to start it??? Thanks! I'll rate 5!

patriotism...hmm..well you can start it off by saying how its a shame how many americans seem to be losing their patriotism..use examples such as
-people not standing for the pledge
-not removing hats during the national anthem
-negative comments people make about our country.
- if this is your opinion- ...how back in the day it seemed like more people wanted to fight..now
there are shortages..not the same want to fight for their country..perhaps talk about how freedom is took for granted..there arent as many patriots
(it depends on your opinion)

then talk about how despite these people with no patriotism..there is still a lot of it in our country..

-you can use 9/11 and how it kind of drew americans closer
-how we celebrate the 4th of july-- americas bday-- to this day (over 200 yrs later)

talk about if you think patriotism is imortant...what you do as a patriot

-meliss

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Hey Im 13 years old and in 7th grade. My boyfriend is a little older then me a freshman in highschool. He asked some other girl to the semi - formal(whos in his grade) this girl that he asked is very nice, but im not best friends with her im just friendly w/ her. I really love my boyfriend with all my heart and I dont know what to do. PLEASE HELP

why is he taking her and not you? is there a rule where he cant or something? if hes taking her because he cant take you..i would be ok with it..they would just be going as friends..

but if there isnt a rule against bringing a 7th grader, i would be raising questions...i would definately talk to him and see whats up

but if its just a date as friends because he couldnt go with you, i would be ok with it..of course there is some natural jealousy..but its only as friends so dont worry.

-melissa-

ps. tell me how it works out

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Hi, I am going to try out for soft ball, any tips? What can I do to prepare? What should I wear? What should I take?

tips:
dont be afraid to get dirty..be aggressive..dive for the ball..dont be one of those girls who dont want any grass stains lol

play with a friend before tryouts ..play catch with dad or a friend who knows their stuff..this way they can give you pointers if they see your doing something wrong

bring cleets..ur glove..water

wear what the weather calls for..if its gonna be a hot day..wear shorts..if you want some extra protection for your knees when you slide, fall, etc..wear pants.

softball is awesome i love it..have lots of fun
-melissa0-

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ok so.. im 15/F, and the other night my boyfriend hinted (very openly) that we should have sex. and well im ok with it, but im a virgin and hes not. and well i dont know what to do, and i mean what if there are other people around (yeah most likely we'd be at a party with his friend, and his friends girlfriend who have sex like everywhere). and yeah well i dont exactly know what im asking, so im sorry for that but anything.. i mean anything would help.

ok think about this..this is your virginity. if your going to lose it..make it special. dont just lose it at some party in an upstairs bedroom..have a romantic setting ..get a nice hotel room maybe (if you know any 18 year olds who could buy the room for you then leave..)
i think you should wait until you really want to have sex. you should wait until your desiring to have sex..not just being 'ok' with it.
wait as long as you have to...a month..a year...10 years.it doesnt matter. dont do anything your not ready for.

and use protection if you decide to do it.

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ok im 13 and in a year im gonna start high school my best friends going to private school and im going to public and this guy i have liked for 2 years is moving 3 hours away I dont know what to do because theese people have been such a big part of my life for as long as i can remeber

it must be hard..i know how it feels to seperate from people who you have grown so close to. you have to keep positive and make new friends. life is going to throw you many curveballs,this is one of them. my close friends from middle school are no longer my best friends. we still talk ..but i made friends with a whole group of new people and we are extremely close. so you see, there are good things ahead..so keep in touch with these friends..but you will make new friends in high school.and they will also make new friends

-melissa-

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What are some good tips to really turn my boyfriend on while we're making out??

when your making out with your boyfriend..use your hands! :)
- run your hands through his hair
-wrap your arm around him
-gently massage his inner thigh
-take your hands and guide them to wherever you want them to
-spice it up by using "sexy foods" such as whipped cream..hot fudge..put it on your guys chest..maybe some on his lips..and have fun with that ;)
-stop for a moment and kiss his neck, nibble on his ear lighlty.

heres a website i found
http://www.links2love.com/teens_kissing.htm


good luck and have lottts of fun~ :)

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okay well im 13, and the guy i'm going to be talking about is 15..and I really like him..okay well I was textmessaging him and i jokingly said "hey sexy beast" and he answered.."sexy woman" ..then i was like mmhmmm SEX (I WAS JOKING! haha he knew that to)then he goes "oral" and i was like hahaha..then he put a =0 face, and now like everytime he talks to me online its about us doing stuff like blowjobs and crap, and i mean i liked it at frist and stuff, but now its getting weird..like hes saying "Im masturbating..and looking at your myspace picture..TALK DIRTY TO ME"..it sorta turned me on at frist, but im really freaking out now cause i haven't even kissed a guy yet..like he's really trying for us to get together and he wants to kiss me and stuff, but then i know hes gonna want to go further, and i dont want to be really a slut at my age and stuff.. i mean i havent kisssed but someones been in my shirt before like they felt me up..i guess im just afraid of whats going to happen with me and the guy..hes like so serious and im like nervous..(lol)

your feeling pressured..dont do anything your not comfortable doing. next time your online tell him you were joking before and one thing led to another with the whole oral thing and your just not ready. be honest and tell him you have never been kissed. its nothing to be ashamed of..i know 16 year olds who have never been kissed and its not a huge deal. it sounds like this guy wants to go a little toooo far..so, lay down the line and tell him your not ready for anything like that. *he probably has the idea that you want to give him oral or something*..so just clear it up with him so your not leading him on and this way everyone is on the same page. drop me a question in my inbox if this doesnt work...let me know wat happens

-melissa

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ok my guy friend was over a few weeks ago and we like open mouth kissed for about a minute and he did stick his tounge in my mouth and i stuck mine in his and he rubbed me "down there"(but i was wearing pants). people asked me if i made out with him and i just dont answer but hes telling people that he didnt make out with me it was just a kiss..... what was it?

sounds like a makeout session to me!

i mean there was tongue contact..the kiss lasted for a minute..as well as some hand contact...good stuff :)
lol
-meliss

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Ok im 13 and I have had sex twice....I know that I want to tell my mom....but i know that if I tell my mom she will tell my dad and I KNOW that he will flip out....But I had ses with a guy that i have been goin out with for 2 years already and we are still going out...so I dont think it is that big of deal...but how do I tell my parents without them like killing me??? Also do you think I am considered a slut or something because a couple people at my school do...
thanks

i honestly think that sex is sometthing apart of your personal life..and i wouldnt share that with my parents because of my beleif that they simply dont need to know...as well as what you said..how it will stirr up drama in the family pretty much. when i start to have sex (who knows when that will be..) i dont see myself sharing it with my parents. they dont share their past sex lives with us..so why share with them..it jsut seems weird to me i guess..but this is only my opinion.
i dont think your a slut..your in a very long relationship..its not like it was a one night stand. there will always be hypocrits out there..you cant stop that..dont listen to those people who call you a slut because your not.

-melissa-

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i am 13/f and i want sex is that wrong

its normal..thats when it all begins..13ish. i mean sometimes im like 'wow i really want sex' lol..but im still a virgin (16f) and i guess i just resist "urges"lol. keep in mind there are other sexual things you can do besides sex that might fill your pleasures ;
inbox me if you havee more questions

-melissa-

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ok, my friend andy invited me to sleepover on friday night. hes having a sleepover and i really wanna go. the only thing is... im a girl... and andy is a guy so my parents will probably say no. my friend tia is going too... but i dont think that will help convince them much. im thinking about saying im sleeping over tias and then going with her to andys... but im scared my parents would find out... what should i do? please help me...

i think you should flat out ask. i was in a situation over the summer ...we had a co-ed campout..and i lied to my parents and said i was sleeping at a friends house..well what do ya know..one of the parents called my mom about this "co-ed sleepover" and i got in (some) trouble.
funny thing is, my dad told me all i had to do is ask and he would have said ok.
so try it. ask. tell them your friend will be there and his parents will be sure to seperate guys from girls when its "bed time."

honestly..i could see myself just saying im going to a friends house but really sleeping over..but after what happened last summer, i would probably ask.

are your parents the type who will call you at your friends house? if your confident they wont, you could chance it..but just be sure tias parents wont call your parents about this

(thats how i got caught...a friends parent called my family about it)

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okay, well just recently i entered highschool. i love it every way. but the only problem is that my friends, my old ones from middle school. they bareally talk to me. we all used to hangout every single weekend. and now they are all interested about being popular and hanging out with the right croud. and it gets me really upset because they all hangout together and im home alone and they dont even ask me to hangout when they know im sitting home all alone. my best friend still even hangs out with them and i ask her to hangout and shes like i cant im sorry and this is an every weekend thing.

friends come and go ..especially when making the middle school to high school transition. if they were true friends, they wouldnt neglect you liek this..my suggestion is to make new friends. if my friends couldnt make time for me..neglected me..and that kind of stuff..i would get the impression my friendship wasnt important to me, therefore i would move on to friends who do find my friendship important. luckily, i have awesome friends who i love very much..and i know you will find your group of friends as well. :)

-melissa-

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how can i "get over" a guuy when hes allways around!

excellent question. its very difficult..especially if the guy is a good friend of yours. if the guy moves away..or if you dont see him as much, it does seem easier to get over them

so hes always around and you want to get over him. the best advice i have for you is to
1) -give it time. its hard getting over someone..you have to give it time
2) - get involved with other guys..inother words...go out with friends and meet guys,socialize more,party it up..and maybe you will meet a great guy who will get your mind off this guy

there is no magic potion you can drink..lol..you pretty much have to give it time..and meet new guys..go out..that kind of stuff.

i hope this helped you out? :)

-melissa-

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yo i have a friend (whos a girl) and im a dude (of course) and shes like my best friend, she helps me when i feel like every1 hates me. i really truly do love her. but i very well doubt she likes me can u help me express my feelings without losing my best friend or at least not sorta freakin her out?
signed,
loves but not loved

well..i was thinking about this for a minute..and from my own experiences ive found that the best way to go about this without making things weird..is to have a friend of both yours and hers to talk the girl. Have this friend approach the girl you like and casually ask "do you see (your name) as more than a friend? because i think you would be cute together and it seems to me he likes you."

this way..if she doesnt like you like that..she will tell the friend..and you and her can go on like normal

if you told her you like her and she said no...things could be weird..but then again they might not be weird.. ive been in this situation and the person didnt like me back..things arent weird..we are the same old great friends (but then again we are 16...so i dont know if that would make a difference)

anyway, my advice is to get a friend to investigate for you.
-melissa-

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I just started a new job today in the clothing department of a superstore.

The store hasnt opened yet so we were cleaning the diplay tables for the first couple hours which was fine, but then my boss had us folding clothes onto the tables. She told me TWICE that I wasn't folding them neatly enough even though I was trying my best. I was working with two other girls and she was being harder on me than the other two and I'm not sure why. I was so stressed out about it that when I got home I wanted to throw up and I went staight to bed.

My next shift is tomorrow and I really want to impress her.

Does anyone have any advice?

you could do a few things:

-go to work a half hour early and talk to your boss..let her know you reallly want to get this right and ask if she can please work with you

-talk to your coworkers who have it down well..maybe arrange to go to their house and even practice

-melissa-

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well there is this guy and i kinda lead him on..but i did kinda like him at first but now i have a boyfriend and he told me he loved me and i really dont know what to doo...and i really hurt his feelings and i feel really bad...what should i do??

look at it this way : if you dont lay down the line, its like you will be playing 'mind games' with him..and thats not good at all. ive seen it done to my friends..its been done to me..its not something fun. so you have to tell this boy you dont like him ..you have a bf now and how you dont see him that way. thats what i would do.

-melissa-

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