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am i being rude.
Ok, i am 20 yrs old and i have a child and a boyfriend. He is a big mamas boy. His mom lives down the street about 3 min to drive there. His sister lives across the street. So i see his family at least once a day.(no joke) My family lives across town so i dont get to see them as much. I like his family but then theres time i really dont. His mother i fell always puts me down in a nice way, but maybe thats just me. Everybody kinda aggures with me and i start not to like them. Am a person who takes things to heart and they like to joke alot and make fun of people. Im just asking is it right for me to not like them so much since i see them all the time or am i just being selfish of the love that my boyfriend has for his family?
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Rude is what you are being to yourself for not (tactfully ) expressing how you feel to those who would upset you. If a grown woman is making you feel less than what you know you are, she maybe doesnt know you as well as you think she should. So, let her know who you are, let her know that what she says hurts you. Another thing go directly to the source, dont let her hear it from her son or her daughter first. Remember your good upbringing and use some tact and always respect those that have been here longer than you and then simply, express yourself.
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i think you and your family not his need some alone time by yourselves. your probably just really sick and tired of seeing his family and you miss seeing yours. so you guys should go and visit your family for a weekend or something!! hope i helped!!! buh bye!!
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Think "That's So Raymond." It's perfectly normal sweetie. My only advice is to save up to buy a house away from them a bit more.
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I think it is time to have a talk with your boyfriend about this. It sounds to me like his family is constantly intruding yours, and he needs to step up to his mom, and say, "mother, I enjoy your presence, but my girlfriend and I would like more privacy." You're both adults now, and that is the point of moving on with your own life, its suppose to be an exciting eventful thing when your parents come by, not a daily thing. Explain to your boyfriend that you do love his parents, but you feel like they don't like you too much because of their comments towards you, and that you'd like to start having more days alone together. Your boyfriend needs to stop being a "mamas boy" and start telling her when shes crossing the line. Seeing them all of the time has to be anouying at times, so of course its ok to feel that way, and just remember that just because your boyfriend ends up telling her that she needs to start giving you both time alone, it doesn't mean that you're making him love his family less, and that you're being selfish, this is 100% normal, and he will learn to get over the fact that hes not living with mommy anymore.
-TheTeenGirl
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it can be argued either way. on one hand i see your frustration...but at the same time the family is really close and he seems to have one of those overprotective moms who will never be more than 5 miles away from her "baby" lol
i dont think its wrong that you dont like them..i mean their family is so different from yours. your mom isnt as protective..and its a whole new thing for you to always have family members around babying him.
however, i would try and put aside my feelings and try to make the most out of it
"life may not be the party you expected it to be, but the least you can do is dance to the music"
..thats what i would do "dance to the music"
concentrate on the things you like about them..make an extra effort to get to know them..get on their good side, etc..because reality is they arent going anywhere.
i hope this helps
-melissa-
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