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Q: Does anyone think that sex makes a relationship, or that it makes a relationship better? Why or why not?

I think if you two really, truly love eachother...sex makes the relationship even more wonderful. But if your just doing it because he wants to do it, or doing it for a reason except love..then it will break the relationship. Statistics show some relationships break 2-3 weeks after they had sex.

Q: There's this guy I know, who I haven't really been friends with since I've known him. I don't NOT like him, but he went through a phase of punching me whenever he saw me, mocking my voice, and telling me to shut up a short while ago. However, he has stopped that and is being very nice to me.
A friend of mine has said that he thinks im hot, and quite a few people I know seem to think that this guy likes me.
I recently gave him my number and since then he has called me every day, sometimes more than once. I met him once and he was very friendly, but kept being very close to me.
I have no problem with this, having liked him for a short while now, but it has left me confused about his feelings for me.
Any clues? Its driving me mad...
14/f

If hes calling you everyday and people are telling you he likes you, thats a clue! So if you like him, seem intrested in him so he keeps calling, and maybe if you guys click..he'll ask you out. good luck! keep me updated if you can !!

Q: Hi my brother and his m8 ALWAYS make fun of me. Like today for example, my bro said that I'm gonna be well solid when I'm a teenager and when I said why, he said that you don't see many 10 year olds like, hunky(big and with broad shoulders)kinda. He always makes fun of my weight, and it doesnt rlly help that his friend, Marcus, always makes fun of me and I really hate them both. They KNOW that I get upset easily and use that option 2 wind me up. I just wanna end this and run away!! I'm no good here and I know that they both hate me. PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME!!! I NEED 2 GET AWAY FROM THIS!!!!!I NEED ADVICE!!!!

Just make fun of them. Tell Marcus something embarassing your brother did a while back to get back at him. Just look for good comebacks to shut them both up! By the way your 10? You have to be 13+ on this site. So yeah, not trying to be mean but pretty soon you'll be banned if you are 10.

Q: I have a big problem with my hair - I love the length of it, it comes down to the middle of my back, but it is very very thick. Not only is it very thick but it has a tendency to become frizzy after washing. My hair is naturally wavy, but when I brush through it the frizz gets worse.
Can anybody help me keep it under control?

You can thin your hair out. Just go to the salon and ask them if they can thin it out. They use scissors but it doesnt change the length of it at all. Dont ask me how they do it but they do and at the end, your hair feels light and stuff. That should help taking care of it. My sister is 10 and she has really thick hair, and she thins it out so she can manage it. And put some Biosilk or Frizz-eaze in your hair after you take a shower! You can get it anywhere [Target, Sallys Beauty, etc.} Good luck !

Q: do you use pads or tampons for your period?

LOL. I use pads, mom wont let me wear tampons...just because she thinks it'll like de-virginize me haha

Q: thongs are like really in and i was wondering if anyone who has used one can give my pros and cons of wearing them since at this rate i'll never where one myself

Thongs arent "in" their just..thongs. Really whoever owns them just because their in are stupid anyway. Thongs are for jeans that wont show the lining of your underwear and for low rise jeans. But, the cons would be: If a person saw your thong while sitting down..you'd be considered a whore. Not even joking. And thats pretty much it...dont worry about it..if you dont own a thong, its not the end of your life =)

Q: ok well i have a boyfriend and i like him a lot we talk on line and sometimes on the phone (i always call him he never calls me) and at school we don't talk at all. i am his first girl friend he has ever had but i can't stand not talking to him. i want to talk to him at school but i'm shy and hes shy not good not good at all. i was just wondering what i should do? i rate high

Welljust go up to him, hes your boyfriend. how are you even going out if you dont talk to him in person? How about cracking a joke or reminding him of something funny you talked about on the phone or online..to ease the tension. Good luck !

Q: Hey! I'm a girl and 16, and I really like this guy, David. I used to be 95% possitive that he liked me too, but I think somethings changed. I'm thinking that he MIGHT like this other girl, but she has a boyfriend already. Lately, he's been acting like he doesnt care about me, at all! Like, he doesnt talk to me, unless I talk to him. I left him a voice mail message twice (two days in a row) saying what the plans were for the night, and he didnt even BOTHER to call back and say he couldnt come, or give me the time of day. It's really starting to aggrivate me. I want to ask him what is up, and why he's pretty much ignoring me, but its hard! The last time we were alone. things were really nice, and now hes just being a JERK! In school, I go out of my way, and go to his locker and walk with him in the hallways, but hes NEVER at my locker. EVER! He doesnt show any intrest, at all. And I want to know what is up! What should I do?

I know its hard but you just need to ask him or you'll never know! Just go up to him and be like "Your a really cool person, and I like talking to you and hanging out and stuff but latley you've seemed kinda distant and I wanted to know whats up" If thats a little too nice, just tell him hes a jerk and ask him whats up with that. You'll get up the courage to do it somehow..dont you want to know? Because really, there will be no other way. Unless you ask a friend to tell him, but I think it would be better coming from you. sorry if I didnt help much !

Q: Hi, I like the group ICP and my girlfriend doesn't, she doesn't like it because it has killing in it, she hates it. Should I stop liking it or just keep listening to it, I just wanna make her happy, what should I do??

Just listen to it. If she really liked you she wouldent make you stop listening to it. How would she like it if you made her stop listening to her favorite band? She wouldent like it. Just tell her you like the band and will listen to it. And she should respect the fact that you listen to it and not try to make you stop just because she said so. If she gets mad, tell her to get over it. Seriously, its not music..maybe if YOU were killing people, that would be okay to be mad about.

Q: okay this question is for my friend who can't ask it so i am doing it for her. well her best friend just recently died at age 12. and she wants to go to her funeral and wants me to go with her but her mom won't let her go because its during school and she thinks she will get all emotional but she really wants to go so she can say bye and she wants me to go with her so she has a shoulder to cry on if she needs one. does anyone know how she can get her mom to change her mind and let her go to her best friends funeral? please help.

Wow, tell her to talk to her mom and say that this is her best friend, and that she needs to say goodbye one last time. Yes she'll be emotional, its her best friend! Besides its ONLY ONE day! This is her best friend, it would be horrible if her mom didnt let. Just beg and plead and maybe even you can conivince her! sorry about your friends loss ! I'll be praying for you and her!

Q: My question is, why does it seem like an overwhelming amount of the advisors on this web site are teenage girls? I'm serious about this. Is it because they have more time on their hands, have a stronger feeling of needing to give advice, need more advice.etc.etc? What do you think the reason is?

Because us 13-17 year olds have nothing better to do online, or we love to give advice/help out people our age. My reason is because I'm bored and I found myself addicted to this website! There are a few adults you can talk to though, if you want more mature advice, which is pretty cool.

Q: Im sorry to say that most of the time , when I sleep I dream about killing people or I die in my dreams, me and my grilfriend are really worried about this, does anyone have and advice for me?

My advice is not to worry. Dreams are dreams, they dont mean anything...at all. No matter what anyone tells you. This doesnt make you a murderer and does not mean your going to die[well everyone dies but you know]. Dont worry about it...I have dreams of killing people, and getting killed too...so yeah its normal but its not really going to happen!

Q: What should i do becuase i don't have a boyfriend and all my friends do?

Find some guys you like and hang out with them more and get to know all of them better..and if you like one more than the others..try to get to know them on a personal level. And maybe he'll ask you out..or you can ask them out. Good luck, your time will come to find a boyfriend...you have plenty of time to get boyfriends..dont worry..for now just flirt a lot and he will come when you least expect it!!

Q: ok i asked about the games for my party earlier..and if they were too babyish..most of you said no, so thats a good sign. My next question is how many games per hour should i have? i dont want to overwhelm everyone with games..should it be once every half hour? every hour? thanks you guys

One or two every hour. Depends on how long the game lasts. I'd say two 20 minute games per hour. Because you also need time to explain the rules! But try to make them excited for the games because I think they would be mad if they did like 4 hours of games! Try just 2 hours of games or something. Have fun at your party:) Oh and i also had another good idea I dont know if you want to do this but after the pool party, and after the game, eat at one of the restraunts hotels or a restraunt near by. Just a idea!

Q: Hi, im 14/ m and I just want to know what to do about me and my girlfriend, we have been going out for a year now and were across states. We always talk on the phone and we have gotten really close. But I am just wondering if when me and my girlfriend meet, Im worried that she will push me away. And Im afarid of that, does anyone halft to say anything about this...?

Why would she push you away> Since your so close and have been together for a year...I'm pretty sure pushing you away is the last thing she'd wanna do. She'd want you close to her because it would be your first time meeting her. Are you just insecure about what she'll think about you in person? I'm sure she'll think the same (or even like you more) because shes known you so well for a year, that she wouldent just throw it away like that. Dont worry about it !

Q: I have dreams all the time but I feel everything that happens in them. If I get stabbed I feel it and in one dream I got scratched by a cat on my side and I had claw marks on me when I woke up what is wrong with me? PS The marks were too thin to be human and I don't have animals.

Maybe when you "woke up" you didnt really wake up. it was also apart of your dream. if the marks are still on you now, then its just a conincedence. You could have got hurt before and forgot or didnt feel it but it made a mark. Dont worry too much about it !

Q: thanks so freakin much. im gonna try and talk to him this week if i can. THANK YOU TONS!

No problem. if you ever need to talk about it again, I'm here!

Q: im the girl that cuts and od's over that guy. thanks for readin my question. alright, see the thing is he already knows i cut, just not that i od. my friend told him at a party at my house and he kind of just ignored it around me, and actually after that he wanted to hang out more. but the thing is that i love him, i mean i no like im only 14 and theres like no chance hes 'the one'...but i cant help liking him. and im not butt ugly or anything but im not a girl guys are dieing to be with either. i just want to be friends with him again and i think the only way ill be able to do that is if i talk to him like alone and just get everything off my chest..i just dont know how to do it? if u can think of anything id appreciate it.
thanks for readin this!

Thats a pretty good idea. Do it in person or online, whichever makes you more comfortable. But first ask him if its okay to have a serious convo with him. And since hes your friend, I'm sure it will be okay. Just start off how you beginning liking him, and work your way to all the events that took place(ask him not to speak, just listen)..Theres nothing I can say to tell you how to do it, you just tell him and he sounds to me like a great person...and I think he might just be able to help you a little. Give you a hug. Say everything going to be okay. Stuff like that. I hope everything works out well when you talk to him! Sorry if I didnt help much !

Q: im so sick of not having a bf. im 13, 5'1" 128 lbs. blonde perfect teeth, no braces. anything a guy would want! the thing is i have NEVER had a bf. my frend has and she is really really unattractive. she has hideous crooked yellow teeth and puffy frizzy hair. i dont mean to be mean but i really hate the fact that an ugly grl has had 7 bfs and i had none. please please help!

Hey, look guys just go for those ugly girls because their easy to do stuff with. You are pretty and you'll find someone that will like you for you and everything. Your just so young and still have plenty of time to have lots of boyfriends and stuff. just wait it out and one day, when you least expect it..you'll have a boyfriend you deserve and love. So for now, flirt like crazy and have fun :) good luck!

Q: I live in Georgia and around where I live the gas prices have gone up so much in only a few week. The cheapest I have seen near me is $2.06 and thats if I go out of my way to get it. The gas station closest is like $2.10. I am in school and don't have a job, I am looking but it's hard to find a part time job. Does anyone know when the gas prices should start to go down or if they are going to go up...?
Thanks

They will be going up. Especially now that summer is coming. OPEC(the main oil company for the world) is having their next meeting in June, which is sort-of the start of summer. They might raise the prices depending on : their financial needs, how much barrel's cost, and how they can make profit. But they will, for sure, go up during the summer. Its when everyone's driving (vacation, going out with friends, stuff like that). Oil prices here are up to $2.26!